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jay-c
04-04-2002, 09:41 AM
I've been seeing a 25 year old guy for 3 months now. We get along great with one exception - our sex drives are completely out of sync. I would like to have sex at least twice a day, more if possible, but he doesn't seem to have an interest in having sex more than once a day, if that.

I don't think that I am a nympho or that it's unreasonable to want sex twice a day. I understand that there are times that one of us may be tired or not so interested in sex, but this is a new relationship - we should be going at it like rabbits!

I don't have any male or female friends who can provide much input to my dilemma, so I thought I'd open it up for discussion here. Am I completely off base here? How often does a "normal" 25 year old guy want sex?

LiquidLobotomy
04-04-2002, 09:48 AM
I'd say once a day will keep the doctor away... but what the hell do I know? Anytime you can get it is fine. I'm 23 and I want it all the frick'n time.


I just don't get it all the time. I wish my wife were into the once a day routine....

Geobabe
04-04-2002, 09:50 AM
"Normal" depends completely on the individual. While MOST 25-year-old guys would be thrilled to have a partner who wants it twice a day, it's not at all unusual for someone to not want it so often. If your sex drives being out of sync is a problem for you, you need to talk to him about it and see if you can work out a compromise.

Kiki
04-04-2002, 10:00 AM
I'm not a 25 year old guy... but I've slept with a few. :)

Is he a good lover? If so, do you tell him that he's a good lover? He may be feeling a little insecure in that department and needs a little reassurance that you like having sex with him and can't get enough of him. Boost his ego and you'll boost his sex drive.

Who_me?
04-04-2002, 10:09 AM
I guess "all the time" would best describe me when I was 25.

But I know others who weren't as passionate about passion as I was.

If the lack of sex is causing problems in your relationship, you'd better talk to him about it. If he says that that's just the way he is... then you've got to decide which is more important to you, him or the sex.

UncleBill
04-04-2002, 11:03 AM
Personally speaking, I am a 35 year old man who wants it more than once a day, and when I was 25, it was CERTAINLY no less, and likely more. But donít blame yourself or him, there are different levels of desired frequency with different people. WHEN you talk to him about this, donít treat it as a big problem. That may make things worse psychologically, which is a REAL bucket of cold water. Perhaps starting things on your own may get his motor running when he doesnít think he wants to.

Hello Again
04-04-2002, 11:17 AM
FYI, I'm a 26 year old female, and really, twice or three times a week is plenty for me. So you see, there are ranges of sexual desire and they're all normal. Yours and his. Don't make HIM feel the freak anymore than you want to feel that way. I'm sure you can reach some happy compromise.

Mr. Cynical
04-04-2002, 11:21 AM
What you should do is let him do you anal. Then, either he would want more, or you would want less. It might all balance out.

Good luck, and don't forget the lubricant.

pezpunk
04-04-2002, 11:52 AM
Originally posted by Mr. Cynical
What you should do is let him do you anal. Then, either he would want more, or you would want less. It might all balance out.

Good luck, and don't forget the lubricant.

LOL! Great theory MrC!

lieu
04-04-2002, 11:56 AM
Oooh, now I feel like a spelurker.

How often did I want sex at 25?

How often did the wind blow?

lieu
04-04-2002, 11:58 AM
You know, Mr. Cynical, it takes a lot to shock me but that was pretty damn funny. Nice job.

slortar
04-04-2002, 12:09 PM
Hmmm...dunno. What time is it now? :)

jay-c
04-04-2002, 12:26 PM
Felt like I should check back in with more info. Yes, Kiki, he is a GREAT lover, and I tell him that all the time. If he weren't so wonderful in bed, I wouldn't be wanting it constantly.

And UncleBill, I do initiate sex, at least as often as he does. It just seems that once is enough, and no matter how I try to "rev his engine" or entice him into a second go-'round, he just isn't into it. It's not that I am unattractive or unresponsive - I know that he loves having sex with me, I am just puzzled by his lack of interest in a second act.

And actually, Mr Cynical, anal is already part of our bedroom activities. I'm rather open-minded when it comes to those sort of things.

Edward The Head
04-04-2002, 12:28 PM
Originally posted by Hello Again
FYI, I'm a 26 year old female, and really, twice or three times a week is plenty for me. So you see, there are ranges of sexual desire and they're all normal. Yours and his.

So Hello Again how you doing? :D

I'd have to say that as a 28 year old guy, I don't want it more than 2-3 times a week. The last girl I was with wanted it all the time and it got to be old rather quick. There could be other things too like he's tired after work/school, things like that. I'd say talk to him, not that everyone else hasn't already said that. Twice a day though, boy it's been a long time since I wanted that.

BlackKnight
04-04-2002, 01:19 PM
Twice a day?

Are you serious that there are people out there who actually want and do it that often?

:eek:

I'm not a 25 year old guy (I'm a 21 year old guy) and I'd be more than happy with once a week.

Zebra
04-04-2002, 01:31 PM
Well do you own a french maid outfit?


Why the hell not?!?!?

shelbo
04-04-2002, 02:05 PM
Ask Mrs. Coolidge.

;)

Coil
04-05-2002, 02:56 AM
When I was 25 I wanted to do it all the time. Now Iīm 28 and still want it all the time. *shrug*

secretkeeper78
04-05-2002, 03:23 AM
damn I need to meet unckebill LOL *kiddingg* but, when I am in love, I like to make love all the time.

thecolonist
04-05-2002, 06:14 AM
Holy shit, jay-c, you're not my girlfriend are you? Honey, I'm just tired when I get back from work, that's all. You know I'm more of a morning man.

BooBoo316
04-05-2002, 06:54 AM
Answering as a 32 year old guy, I can tell you I want it much less than when I was 25. Five or six times a day will do nicely now, thank you. ;)

caveman
04-05-2002, 08:17 AM
Married 24-year-old checking in. I'd say I usually want it twice a day, somtimes just once, and, when the opportunity presents itself, all day long...

pulykamell
04-05-2002, 08:41 AM
26-yr-old checkin in. Twice a day? Wow! In the beginning of a relationship, maybe once a day to once every two days. I don't think I could keep up with a twice-a-day regiment of sex. Once things lose their novelty factor, then a comfortable pace for me would be twice a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. As you can tell, there is a lot of variation on this topic. Judging by my male peers, I'd wager that most men in this age group would be happy to get sex daily, but there are definitely exceptions (like me and a couple others) who were happier on a couple times a week scale.

Caffeine.addict
04-05-2002, 04:53 PM
Hell, when I was 25, it was at least twice a day, in the morning and in the evening, and occasionally in the afternoons.

Now that I'm married once a day is all I desire.
:)

Papamurf
04-05-2002, 05:08 PM
23 here. My exgirlfriend and I used to have sex at least onece a day, and I'd say 8 times out of 10 was twice a day. If I was lucky 3 times a day. The problem now is that since we've broken up (about a month ago) I've gotten nothing. It can be very frusterating going from 2 to 0 in one day flat.

As far as enticing your man, may I suggest installing a mechanical bull in your bedroom. Nothing gets me going like seeing a woman wearing nothing but leather chaps and a smile.

RickQ
04-05-2002, 05:31 PM
25 year old checking in here.

I want it as much as possible.

My goal is to win the lottery and just stay in bed all day.

Luckily my fiance wants me and wants to have sex with me as much as I want to with her. It is good that we met each other because otherwise we might end up injurying or killing two other people (rogered to death, what a way to go :D).

On a more serious note, jay-c, if you are saying that your boyfriend does not want to have sex with you straight after you have made love, it might be that he needs a little recovery time afterwards.

Rick

Urban Ranger
04-06-2002, 01:34 AM
It depends.

My question is, is it sex that you want, or have you mistakenly substituted sex for intimacy?

Bad Hat
04-06-2002, 01:47 AM
25 year old guy checkin' in.

I had a very (somewhat embarrasingly) prolific undergraduate sex drive, as did my current SO. when we got together we were probably once a dayers, but its been about a year now and we're a lot less frequent than that... (2-3 times a week on a good week). I have to say that i'm really okay with that. we are both kinda.. i don't want to say "OVER" sex, but its not all that much of a driving force in my day to day life, nor hers. its fun, but I honest don't know if I could smack it up twice a day with any regularity...

of course that two new variables that probably make our situation a little different from the average 25 year olds, long term SO, and kind of a been-there-done-that attitude towards oversexedness...

I don't know a lot of folks my ages who are nearly as horny or as sexually active as they were at 18 or 20, maybe i have a skewed sample group or something...

CJ

jay-c
04-08-2002, 04:12 PM
Checking in again....

Thank you all for your input.

RickQ - It's not a matter of his recovery time. I'm talking shagging in the morning, then me wanting it again in the evening - usually a 10 to 12 hour time gap.

Urban Ranger - It's not a substitution of sex for intimacy, either. Our relationship, on a whole, is very intimate, with or without the sex. There's lots of lovesick staring into each other's eyes, handholding, small thoughtful gestures, etc. I think he's just too damn sexy for his own good. I can't have him walk by me without me wanting to pounce on him. I just wish his libido were as high as mine.

On the upside, I did try to talk to him about it, and I have seen some improvement. It's just difficult to talk to a man about these things - they get offended easily and are very sensitive.

msneal2012
01-19-2012, 10:25 PM
im actually having a similar problem with my boyfriend. i have all kinds of issues and this just makes it even worse, which isnt attractive to men OR women. so im screwing myself here, literally.:confused:

wheresmymind
01-19-2012, 10:28 PM
Do zombies have sex?

Duckster
01-19-2012, 10:29 PM
Oooh, now I feel like a spelurker.

How often did I want sex at 25?

How often did the wind blow?

So how much windburn did you endure?

devilsknew
01-19-2012, 10:34 PM
Not much difference between then and now, this Guy wants sex everyday as a 25 year old and 40 sumpin'. Well, maybe every other day... but multiple times.

Sampiro
01-19-2012, 10:36 PM
In my experience it depends on which credit cards he takes.

Argent Towers
01-19-2012, 10:44 PM
im actually having a similar problem with my boyfriend. i have all kinds of issues and this just makes it even worse, which isnt attractive to men OR women. so im screwing myself here, literally.:confused:

I honestly want to understand the mindset of someone who resurrects a thread older than Dick Clark's balls just to post three short, wretchedly-written sentences. If this is enough of an issue for you that you'd search the internet for it and then SIGN UP FOR A FORUM just to POST about it, can't you do better than that?

I swear to God - really - and I actually believe in God, unlike 99% of the people on this forum - I want to understand the motivation and the frame of mind behind doing something like this.

Don't you put any effort into anything?

Antinor01
01-19-2012, 10:46 PM
I'm almost 40 (Good grief, typing that is painful!) and want it all the time. My partner is 6 years younger and is happy with about twice a week and always has been that way.

There really is no normal.

grude
01-19-2012, 10:49 PM
I honestly want to understand the mindset of someone who resurrects a thread older than Dick Clark's balls just to post three short, wretchedly-written sentences. If this is enough of an issue for you that you'd search the internet for it and then SIGN UP FOR A FORUM just to POST about it, can't you do better than that?

I swear to God - really - and I actually believe in God, unlike 99% of the people on this forum - I want to understand the motivation and the frame of mind behind doing something like this.

Don't you put any effort into anything?

They either did not notice the post dates, don't know that zombie threads are bad form round these parts, maybe rather than post War And Peace they want to test the waters to see if anyone is still interested.

Hell its happened to me, you search google about an issue and oh a thread I'll ask this poster a question.......hmm two days no answer ah topic created 2005 :smack:

lavenderviolet
01-19-2012, 11:01 PM
Eh, most people dont bother noticing the date and time on a post. I didn't notice this post was old until I saw that pezpunk had posted because I know that guy hasn't been around here for ages.

I am kind of curious about how the relationship went for the OP and the guy. It'd be pretty crazy if they were actually still together. :)

Foggy
01-19-2012, 11:04 PM
I'm almost 40 (Good grief, typing that is painful!) and want it all the time. My partner is 6 years younger and is happy with about twice a week and always has been that way.

There really is no normal.

The last time I had sex I was 39 and that was before this thread existed.

Argent Towers
01-19-2012, 11:13 PM
Eh, most people dont bother noticing the date and time on a post.

Even assuming this, shouldn't most people be expected to at least glance at the thread, and, after doing so, get a general sense of the level of discourse here and try to make their very first post on the forum with a basic modicum of sentence structure and writing technique - as well as some idea to put forth - or at the very least, a "hi, I'm new here, but I noticed this thread on Google and wanted to comment. Here's my situation:"?

Is it so much to ask that people conduct themselves like they have a fucking soul?

Loach
01-19-2012, 11:34 PM
Well now the 25 year old is 35. I wonder if jay-c is still a nympho?

Ostrya
01-19-2012, 11:35 PM
~gives Agent Foxtrot a beer~

GreenElf
01-20-2012, 12:12 AM
im actually having a similar problem with my boyfriend. i have all kinds of issues and this just makes it even worse, which isnt attractive to men OR women. so im screwing myself here, literally.:confused:

Greetings! Welcome to Straight Dope forums.

TriPolar
01-20-2012, 12:22 AM
nm

alfabex
01-20-2012, 12:45 AM
Twice a day?

Are you serious that there are people out there who actually want and do it that often?

:eek:

I'm not a 25 year old guy (I'm a 21 year old guy) and I'd be more than happy with once a week.

Don't worry about it. I'm a 25 year old guy and I think I'm happy with once a month. But keep in mind, it's different when you have an SO and therefore, someone who's "right there". When you have to actually go out and get it, it might seem more worthwhile to just take matters into your own hands.

Rachellelogram
01-20-2012, 01:59 AM
gah fuckin' zombies

Rigamarole
01-20-2012, 02:28 AM
I honestly want to understand the mindset of someone who resurrects a thread older than Dick Clark's balls just to post three short, wretchedly-written sentences. If this is enough of an issue for you that you'd search the internet for it and then SIGN UP FOR A FORUM just to POST about it, can't you do better than that?

I swear to God - really - and I actually believe in God, unlike 99% of the people on this forum - I want to understand the motivation and the frame of mind behind doing something like this.

Don't you put any effort into anything?

Pwned.

Rigamarole
01-20-2012, 02:30 AM
gah fuckin' zombies

There's actually porn for that (rule 34, 'natch). Although I think with the necrosis and the stench and all I would like to fuck zombies considerably less than twice a day.

Ellen Cherry
01-20-2012, 05:28 AM
I honestly want to understand the mindset of someone who resurrects a thread older than Dick Clark's balls just to post three short, wretchedly-written sentences. If this is enough of an issue for you that you'd search the internet for it and then SIGN UP FOR A FORUM just to POST about it, can't you do better than that?

I swear to God - really - and I actually believe in God, unlike 99% of the people on this forum - I want to understand the motivation and the frame of mind behind doing something like this.

Don't you put any effort into anything?

Argent Towers, would you leave the lectures to the moderators, please? We're so good at it.

Sampiro
01-21-2012, 11:22 AM
This is the umpteenth thread I've posted in not realizing it was a zombie. I wonder if there's any way we could color code them.