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05-02-2002, 10:11 AM
How often do you tell the one you love that you actually love them??
If you dont get told how does that make you feel??
05-02-2002, 10:56 AM
Every day. Or more. :)
I'm afraid that using the term will make it meaningless over time, but being told is so nice.
Why A Duck
05-02-2002, 11:08 AM
Several times a day. Every physical parting or phone conversation ends with that being said. I cherish what I have and want her to know it.
05-02-2002, 11:09 AM
I make a point to tell the wife and kid everyday! I only say i love my garage once a week, so that's pretty special! :D
05-02-2002, 11:14 AM
She hears it from me every day. So do my kids.
05-02-2002, 11:23 AM
At least once a day. Most of the time we'll end our phone conversations with an "I love you," but not always.
05-02-2002, 11:39 AM
I have never counted, but MANY MANY times a day. Probably over 20. It has been like that forever, both given and received.
I love sitting there watching TV and hearing, "I love you" out of the blue :rolleyes: Maybe I'm just a sap!
05-02-2002, 12:08 PM
I tell my husband and son at least once a day.
The best sound is when my son is watching TV and just out of the blue he'll say, "I love you mom". Pulls at the heartstrings, I tell ya.
05-02-2002, 12:33 PM
At least twice a day, minimum. Once at night before going to sleep, once in the morning upon waking up. Usually two or three times more during the course of the day.
05-02-2002, 12:33 PM
Every single day. Multiple times a day. And if I didn't get told back, I'd feel pretty empty.
05-02-2002, 12:35 PM
Several times a day... maybe 12 or so.
I also make a point to tell the people that I don't like that I hate them every day.
05-02-2002, 12:46 PM
Wow, am I in the minority?
We don't say it much.
Tell me it's not just me and my cold, black heart.
05-02-2002, 01:02 PM
To family members and close friends, I say it every now and again. I have to say that doing so more than that makes me a bit uncomfortable, but I'm getting better and saying it more often. Must be some kind of maturity thing. :)
As for romantic situations, I'm not sure. I have said it to my SOs, but not on a regular basis. I dunno. I guess I'm just more action-oriented. I might help him solve a problem, massage his back when he's stressed out, or, just because it's Thursday, surprise him with some kinky lovin'. :p
Hearing "I love you," said to me is always nice, especially since with my SOs, it tended to come out of the blue, while were walking down the street or talking about music or something. I like it when it happens, but I don't require it.
My girlfriends get upset over not hearing it, or not hearing it often enough, which mystifies me, and makes me wonder what my problem is. I don't think I've even noticed how often SOs have said it to me -- at least, I don't remember. It just never occurred to me. I guess I just figured that if my guy is willing spending time with me, doing things for me and with me, things are fine, right?
05-02-2002, 09:42 PM
I don't have an SO, but every time I talk with my mom, dad, brother or sister, I make a point to say it at least once per conversation (I talk to them once a week or every couple weeks.)
I tell my students I love them all the time. It's always very flip though. "I love you, sweetie, but you're about to fail my class" or "You know I love you, but I can't talk to you right now. You're pissing me off."
I never say it to my friends. Guess I should.
05-02-2002, 10:43 PM
I tell her many many times a day.
Not sure how it would feel if she wouldn't say it back sense I've only had one girl in my 18 years and she reciprocates the I love you. I can tell you though that telling her that for the first time was one of the scarier moments of my life.
05-03-2002, 06:22 AM
I tell him several times a day. The "I love you!"s aren't all the same. Sometimes they're little happy bursts of joy, sometimes they're comforting reassurances, sometimes they're deep soulful pronouncements.
05-03-2002, 07:21 AM
My husband and kids: many, many times every day.
The few other people I love: almost never.
05-03-2002, 08:06 AM
Several times a day... but ask me again in 10 years. We haven't even had our second anniversary (hey, I'm a realist).
By the way, does it irk anyone else in movies when one person says 'I love you' and the other responds 'I know'? That would make me SOOO mad.
05-03-2002, 08:12 AM
That only works if the people are Han Solo and Princess Leia. Other than that, it sucks. Sux, even.
05-03-2002, 08:19 AM
Many times a day, in several different languages (English, Hindi, German). Multiply that ~10 times for when we're snugglin'.
Many, many, many times throughout the day to my SO and my kids. Every phone conversation with my SO ends with it. If I said "I love you" and he didn't say it back I'd feel pretty rotten!
My kids are very lovey dovey and they come up to me all the time and give me a hug and say "I love you" for no reason at all. And it's so cute when my son says it because he's only 2 1/2 and it sounds like "I yuv you." :)
05-03-2002, 10:53 AM
Everytime I talk to my friends I tell them I love them. Almost everytime I talk to my family members I tell them I love them. I tell my SO about 6 times a day. Sometime when he tells me I say, "I know. I love you too." I look forward to someday when my kids do the cute things you all mentioned. awwww.
05-03-2002, 11:10 AM
To hubby at least 5 times a day on a bad day. 2-3 times that many when I'm feeling extra lovey, or when I stop to think just how much he really means to me :)
I speak with my folks about once a month, so we say it then. But growing up we hardly ever said it. I can honestly remember months and months going by - maybe even a year - without hearing them say that to me. Now that I'm 10,000 miles away... I think they realise just what a good kid they had.
I love hearing it, especially in Romani.... puuurrrr It makes me wonder what I've done wrong, or what's up with hubby if I don't hear it as much as usual.
05-03-2002, 01:40 PM
I say "I love you" to Airman as often as possible. In fact, if I e-mail him and don't say it, the message looks naked.
Robin, who is killing time at the Biloxi library for the next hour and twenty-one minutes till it's time to go see Dave!
05-03-2002, 02:01 PM
To my son, so often he gets sick of hearing it.
Me:"Hey, guess what?"
Him:"You love me."
Me:"Yep. Oh, and by the way..."
Him:"You love me."
Me:"Yes. And one more thing..."
Him:"You love me, you love me, you love me!:"
Me:"And I love you"
05-03-2002, 02:16 PM
To my kids: I love you.
Me: Explain things they've done that day that make me love them, even if it's just that they are my children.
I don't always get it back in words but always in deeds.
05-03-2002, 02:59 PM
I tell my honey that I love him billions of times throughout the day. I do feel silly sometimes because I feel like I've said it waaaaay too much. But I take comfort in knowing at least he knows how I feel.
I'm grateful that he says I love you back too.
I have said "i know" back, but as a joking reply.
He wasn't too happy when I did say " I know", so now I don't say that.
If he doesn't say I love you back, I say it louder until he does.
I love you Matthew
05-03-2002, 03:56 PM
Isay it to my husband once or twice a day.
He has never, ever, ever, said that he loves me. My general impression is that he feels the phrase is so overused that it has become meaningless, and I can certainly see how he could think that. His mother throws it around very casually: she told me she loved me the first time we met. But he treats me wonderfully, respects me fully, and we always enjoy being together, so the lack of a particular catchphrase dosen't bother me at all.
05-03-2002, 04:28 PM
scout122 - I think we are in the minority - but we don't say it every day, either. I think it is overused and I would rather not hear it out of routine - like when hanging up the phone. I only want to hear it, and only say it, when I can say it with all the emotion it deserves. I cringe when I hear men say a forced "I love you" over the phone to say goodbye because their buddies - or anyone in the office, etc - could hear them. If you can't say it like you mean it, don't.
I have been known to say "thank you" in response, instead of "I love you" back....
How can we have so many words for excrement and only one word for love? We need different words for love between friends, love between parents and their children, love between two soul mates... love for a particular type of food.
05-03-2002, 04:29 PM
I say it as often as I can, usually several times a day.
Sometimes words are all we have and I want her to know how much she means to me.
I love you, Brynda
05-03-2002, 04:32 PM
Many, many times. And if I didn't hear it said back, I'd feel broken.
05-03-2002, 08:48 PM
A couple times a day.
Already in Use
05-04-2002, 12:21 AM
Originally posted by chrisk72
How can we have so many words for excrement and only one word for love? We need different words for love between friends, love between parents and their children, love between two soul mates... love for a particular type of food. Do the Greek "eros" and "agape" count? (And no, I'm not going to figure out how to use the Greek characters for that.)
But anyway, I tell him I love you whenever I see him in the mirror.
05-04-2002, 12:26 AM
Alas, I'm in the minority. Verbally, about once a week (more with the kids). Nonverbally, many, many times a day.
05-04-2002, 05:26 AM
I tell my boyfriend many times a day. My parents, less often - perhaps once or twice a month. :( I sometimes say it to my sister, but in a non-serious way (even though I do love her) - more of an "awww, I wubs you silly poo!" sort of way.
05-04-2002, 10:40 PM
If my wife told me "zillions" of times a day she loved me, I'd divorce her.
05-04-2002, 10:58 PM
05-05-2002, 12:20 AM
Text it to my bf all the time.
05-05-2002, 02:48 PM
My wife and I never leave home for work without saying it to each other, and we never go to bed at night without it being one of the last things on our lips. Without fail. There's never any consistency as to who says it first--sometimes her, sometimes me--but it never gets old or tired or boring; it always releases a surge of energy through me because I never expect it when she says it (and I suspect vice versa) so it always comes as a warm & welcome "surprise." That also goes for other compliments (sweet, gorgeous, foxy, etc.); if anything, we probably tone it down a little in front of others because it'd probably make them sick (with jealousy, that is :) ).
05-05-2002, 05:17 PM
My wife keeps telling me she loves the dog and gets upset if I don't say I love her too. :rolleyes:
05-05-2002, 07:50 PM
05-05-2002, 08:17 PM
Sometimes twice or three times a day.
05-08-2002, 05:59 AM
I never hear it and i cannot bring myself to say it. Isn't that dreadful?
05-08-2002, 06:02 AM
Every time I talk to her.
05-08-2002, 12:58 PM
I tell Spidyreb I love him every opportunity I get and he does the same. Emails and IMs do look wrong without saying it and conversations seem a little empty without it. Many times I'll pop out with I love you and it means more than just those three words. He'll do something cute or say something very sweet or it may be just the way he looks at me.....saying I love you just summarizes many loving feelings. I love you, Spidyreb!!!
Well, I always tell my parents I love them at least a few times everytime I have the chance. I don't usually tell my little brother but sometimes I do. I don't usually tell my closer friends that I love them but I might say stuff like love ya to them.
05-08-2002, 01:11 PM
My fiancee and I are firmly in the "many many many many" times a day column. Perhaps due to having spent a lot of time apart. I think we might set records.
We once had a firend ask, "Did you guys have a fight or something? What's with all the I love you's?"
:) What can I say? I love her..
05-08-2002, 02:05 PM
My SO and I aren't very verbal about stuff like this, and it doesn't bother me. He says it when he feels like it will matter, and I throw it at him every once in a while.
I think, (since this is IMHO), that the less you use it, the more meaningful it becomes. It's not the words, but the sentiment attached to it that make it important.
05-08-2002, 02:32 PM
I don't think it necessarily follows that it is meaningless if you say it a lot. Every time I tell Mrs. Arken I love her I mean it.
05-08-2002, 07:46 PM
I don't have to tell my PS2 that I love it. It already knows.
05-08-2002, 11:02 PM
I don't have to tell my PS2 that I love it. It already knows.
Oh Koffing, Koffing, Koffing! It's just using you for the discs!
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