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QueenAl
07-17-2002, 06:17 AM
Sometimes you just need to whine, before these things build up into true resentment. It doesn't mean I think any of these things are important, but they are pissing me off.

My 'friend' who turns anything I do or say into something negative. Or, if I do actually say anything negative (like I'm really worried about my money situation), I must be overstating things, and it really is not that bad (it is). It's got to the point where I have to pretend every single thing is absolutely perfect and wonderful, or I get a lecture.

Goddamn scheduling conflicts. This Friday I was organising a theatre night, then someone else in our group announced a party on the same night. I had to reschedule the theatre night. I was looking forward to the party, but now can't go to that either, as it turns out I have to be at a family party the same night. My daughter's school is also on strike today, so I couldn't make my kickboxing and kai chi classes. I realise that none of these people have scheduled things specifically to inconvenience me, which is why this is a whine, not a justifiable complaint.

The way everyone says that my having a child won't make any difference to most of the women out there, but can I get a girlfriend? Noooo. And there's nothing else obviously 'wrong' with me, in terms of looks or intelligence or social skills. Most women just don't want a girlfriend with a kid. Why not be honest about it?

Money, the lack of it. I've been trying to get a 'proper job,' and just can't find one that fits around childcare (not in this area, anyway). I have a big overdraft and I can't find any way to reduce it, and it's not for want of trying. I regularly have to choose between food and electricity, and I really don't need to lose any more weight. I also cycle immense distances to save train fares - today it will be fifty miles to Central London and back. Then of course I get hungry, and can't afford any more food. But it's the only way to get out and not go mad(der).

Myself. Yes, I want to whine about myself. I am far too lazy and absent-minded. And I whine too much. ;)

TroubleAgain
07-17-2002, 11:19 AM
Gosh, QueenAl, I'm sorry things seem so rough right now. I hope they look up soon. I know how you feel about the money thing, though!

The Devil's Grandmother
07-17-2002, 11:41 AM
Can you just not hang around with that friend for a while? Trying to be happy all the time is very draining. It's worse than having to look busy.
I hope things get better for you and your daughter.

ouisey
07-17-2002, 07:13 PM
Keep on slogging, QueenAl. I've been there and done that. I'll be your sd gf, if you like. Then maybe Hastur won't call me a "breeder".

ouisey
07-17-2002, 07:17 PM
What I meant to say, is that things can get reallly really tough sometimes, but for some reason, if you keep on working at it, it gets better.

I often feel like the things that happen to me are out of my control, but somehow, if I grit my teeth and bear it, it'll turn good again.

Cat Whisperer
07-17-2002, 09:29 PM
I posted this in another thread just a little while ago, and it fits in with what ouisey is saying; nothing stays good forever, and nothing stays bad, either. It's just life.