dating outside of your town?

[cherry]

How inclined are you to date outside of your town? If someone asked you out on a date and you knew they lived far away would you agree?

[roadrunner70]

Being that I'm married, I find it's better that all my dating should occur in another town. ;)

Before I was married though, I had several long distance relationships. They were tedious to say the least, and expensive.

[susan]

In my single youth, I was willing to go up to 2 hours by car for a date.

[Slainte]

If it was Monstre asking, I'd go. ;)

[drachillix]

Originally posted by superbee
Being that I'm married, I find it's better that all my dating should occur in another town. ;)

Oh yeah...what is that called...scheduling problems?? :D

Before I was married though, I had several long distance relationships. They were tedious to say the least, and expensive.

Me an my wife Cyn lived about an hour apart and met via internet. Since I barely lived from check to check as is it was very difficult spending another $100/month in gas, plus another $40-50 a month in phone bills. We were just far enough apart to be inconvenient to squeeze in a visit, especially since I worked 2 jobs.

[Mockingbird]

I don't see a problem with it for a worth while person.

[japatlgt]

Yes, tedius to say the least. I hooked back up with an old flame years ago. When they resurfaced they were living two hours away so I was pretty much staying with them on the weekends. Both of our jobs kept us in our respective locales. It worked out okay until we started having crises and then it became "tedius to say the least." Actually the two hour gap wound up being the deal buster.but damn it was fun while it lasted!

[Skerri]

I do the 7 hour commute. I think it's worth it, although I am steadily working my way towards moving in with him.

I think if you're in a decent sized town (I live in Charleston, SC, pop. 99,100) you're going to eventually make your way through the dating pool. Or at least meet a majority of the people that live close enough to you that have similar interests. I know I've exhausted the list of guys that I want to date here.

[Angel of the Lord]

I'm doing the long-distance thing right now. My SO (finace, actually, but since I don't know if I'm spelling the term right, I'm loathe to use it) lives 2 1/2-3 hours away from my school, and about 40-45 minutes away from my house. We're marginally in the same group of friends, though, so that's not so bad.

However, my last--and only other--serious relationship was about two hours by plane, and about 6-8 hours by car from school/home. There's a definite improvement. The distance thing pretty much killed my last relationship; not knowing if you're ever going to see someone again can really slam the brakes of any relationship, romantic or not. Also, he was younger; so much younger, in fact, that he could not travel out to see me. I was forced to go to see him, which grew...well, tedious and expensive, to say the least. Now, on the other hand, there's more of a balance, and the possibility of living together this summer; in other words, there's a defined future.

Now...looking at your profile, it doesn't seem like you're in high school, or close to that age, so things have a better chance of working out. Also...by "outside of your town", you could mean across the river or across the country. One's obviously going to be more feasible than the other. It really depends on you, though--and if you love this person, by God, don't let a little thing like distance stop you before you've even got a chance to start!

[Keith Berry]

Depends on how much I like someone, and what kind of relationship it is. About a year ago, I was dating someone who lived far north of Baltimore, which is about a 35 mile drive from where I live, and had no problems at all initially.

After a couple of months, the two of us started losing steam, and
I came to really resent doing 70 mile roundtrips 3 or 4 times a week. Nothing personal against the girl, who was really great, but there wasn't enough interest to keep going through the effort.

On the other hand, back in 97 I had a girlfriend who went to school in Philadelphia, and the 220-mile roundtrip I took every weekend to see her was a very small price to pay for the benefits of being with her.

[I can't believe that's butter!]

It's hard to not avoid dating in a small town, since we've so many around here, and relatively close. However, I don't drive, so if the situation arose, it would be interesting.

[I can't believe that's butter!]

Er, I meant outside town.

[Genseric]

I guess you could say I would, considering my girlfriend, who I met on this board, lives 1060 miles away. Yep, 17 hour drive.

It's worth it, though. I've driven it once, and I'd drive it tomorrow if I were able. Actually I'm flying out there for a visit in mid-January, it's only about four or five hours total time for a flight.

I also wouldn't describe our visits as "dating" in the traditional sense, I mean we do stuff, but we tend to spend several days together and squeeze as much into what time we have as we can.

[Urban Ranger]

This town being somewhat big with seven million people, it seems rather unnecessary to go outside. :)

[Typo Negative]

I date a woman who is a mear 6 hours away. By plane, that is.

[twickster]

Can you really call it "dating" if the person is 6 hours away? To me a date is dinner and a movie (or cooking at home and watching a video, which is still, I guess, dinner and a movie).

The guy I'm currently dating is about 45 minutes away, which is about as far away as I'm currently willing to go. We talk on the phone most evenings and get together on weekends.

[Maeglin]

Well, I live in NYC. I'm currently dating a woman "out of town." I live in Manhattan, she lives in Queens.

:)

[cherry]

I used to date someone that was six hour plane ride as well and would do it again but aside from that I just wanted an idea of how many people actually do it in the first place.

[Washte]

Well, cherry, hubby and I began interestingly. I was living in N California and he in Nottingham, England... 10,000 odd air-miles apart.

We managed to maintain the interest via email and phonecalls - my phone company loved me! Then, when I graduated from university, I moved to the UK.

Darn tootin' was it all worth it. I am a very lucky lass! :)

[cherry]

Oh thats neat. So you dated and courted via the phone and email. Or did you feel like you needed the face time and thats when things took off between you two?

[JayElle]

My guy lives in another state, about a two hour plane ride away.

It's working quite nicely. It will be a year soon, and we usually see each other every 3 weeks. We both make a commitment to talk on the phone every day, as well as email each other.

[Pammipoo]

Technically speaking, I live in East Boston, which is pretty small. One stop up on the T, and I'm dating out-of-town. I'd have no objections at all to a 45 minute or so trip, and anything longer could be considered, depending on the right guy. Road trips are always cool.

[Whiskey]

Ok, I'm new here, but I'll chime in. I began dating someone in a different state (let alone city), and I moved to his city to be with him. No regrets, yet, although it's awfully cold here. :)

[Mockingbird]

I think I've been dating outside my gene pool and section of the food chain.

I need to have better standards.

:(

[Washte]

Originally posted by cherry
Oh thats neat. So you dated and courted via the phone and email. Or did you feel like you needed the face time and thats when things took off between you two? Essentially. Short story is: met whilst I was on holiday (vacation) over here. Popped to Nottingham Castle for one day. He asked me to the pub... TADA!! Instant attraction :D

Longer story: holiday had to end and I had to return to university and work. Thank the gods for email because there was one point where my phone bill was nearly $1400 for a month of calls :eek: Graduated on Friday 19 May 2000, Friday 26 May I was on a plane and had moved over to the UK.

aaaaawwwww!! Ain't love grand?

[Monstre]

Originally posted by Slainte
If it was Monstre asking, I'd go. ;)

:eek:

::: gasp :::
::: just reading this after a few days away from the boards :::


:)

[Slainte]

Originally posted by Monstre
:eek:

::: gasp :::
::: just reading this after a few days away from the boards :::


:)

See what happens when you go away? That'll teach you... ;)

[TV time]

To agree with Joe K. In small towns it is almost required to leave town to find someone you are not related to. And even on the off chance you are not related to them, probably someone in town has a photo of you being bathed together at age two in the same tub and this is not a good basis for a date.

So almost everybody in my small town goes out of town to find a significant other.

TV

[clayton_e]

My girlfriend lives about 40 miles from me, thankfully I see her through most of my day, though.

[iampunha]

Used to live 450-ish miles from my fiancee. Definitely worth it.

Definitely glad I'm living with her now:)

[Trancey]

I really enjoy this thread. I currently met a guy in the bottom left corner of Minnesota (Heron Lake or something) and he wants to go out with me. I live in Winnipeg, Canada, and it's a good 8-9 hour drive. He said driving that distance is nothing to him, and I love to drive and do road trips so I'd be willing to go there all the time. I'm still debating it though, but reading this gives me some hope that it could actually work. No harm in trying right?
I'm a poor bum though, so I couldnt exactly fly there all the time, and my car isnt the best thing to take on long road trips.
Who knows...I figure we can always meet half way and just get a room for a night or two and "hang out".

[Trancey]

OH! The one thing that made me mad was he said his phone plan doesn't allow him to call Canada, so I said I won't go out with you until you can fix that little problem. No way in hell am I paying for all the calls.

[Washte]

I don't blame you Trancey. Make sure it's a two-way street.

[bernse]

When Mrs. Bernse and I dated, I lived in Vancouver, BC and she in Calgary, Alberta. About once a month for 3 years one of us flew to the others city.

A pain in the ass, but we pulled it off. I got transferred back to Alberta and she graduted from Universtity. She got a job in the city I lived in and we're living happily ever after.

[porcupine]

Originally posted by cherry
How inclined are you to date outside of your town? If someone asked you out on a date and you knew they lived far away would you agree?
Yes. The SO drove 4 1/2 hours for our first date. We'd known each other for a while, though.

[Knighted Vorpal Sword]

Mrs. KVS lived in Brooklyn, NY when we met, and she lived there until we were married and she moved down to Baltimore. It was a 3 1/2 hour drive (one way). I was working nights at the time, so I would work Thursday night, go home, shower, change, get on the road, and drive up to NY with no sleep. On Sunday evenings, I would leave NY and drive directly to work, not sleeping until Monday morning.

BTW, it's not uncommon (in the observant Jewish world) for those who live within 5 or so hours of NY to go in just for a date. I had a roommate here in Baltimore that would go up to NY on the Friday of a (federal) holiday weekend and have a date on Saturday night, two on Sunday, and another on Monday - each one with a different girl.

[DaToad]

My GF lives about 35 miles away. It's not too bad of a drive, about 25-30 mins., except during rush hour. She usually stays with me on Friday and Saturday nights and I stay with her on Tuesday or Wednesday. The phone calls are not LD, so no extra cost there.