Baby did a bad bad thing...or how I am a completely selfish asshat!

[80sHairMetalMaven]

I did a horrible thing.
I am so damned selfish and an asshat to boot.:(
I breached my best friend's trust by hacking into her LJ and attempting to steal a code from her.
See,I am the only one out my incredibly SMALL group of friends who doesn't have an LJ and I felt left out. I wanted to be 'cool' like they are.
And I can't believe I guessed her password. Out of all the words she could have used, she used one that was so obvious it might as well have been lit up like a neon sign.
Needless to say,she's changed it now that I"ve told her what I did.She was extremely pissed at me,as well she should be. I told her if she didn't want to ever talk to me again,I'd not blame her for it. I am an incredibly selfish asshat.:(

IDBB
Oh and feel free to flame me. I know I deserve it.:smack:

[Enderw24]

So why didn't you just ask her for a code?

[sugaree]

If she had codes, why didn't you just ask her?

[Giraffe]

And why would we flame you for spying on your friend?

[BoBettie]

Good God. That's a nice thing to do. There are almost always threads around HERE with tons on codes- why would you breach her trust like that?

For the ....DRAMA!!!??

Based on past threads and this, I think you need to get a frickin' grip and grow up already, IDBB. Really. Get help if you need it, but this is just sad.

[80sHairMetalMaven]

I did ask her but she didn't have one at the time.According to what she's told me she gave a code to another mutual friend and was going to 'borrow' one(since nonpaying users only get ONE code apparently)from another person on LJ to give to me. Only that other person who she was supposed to get the code from is withholding.
I just checked my email too and she said
You're right you did a stupid thing....for the time being..FUCK OFF.

Giraffe--I am expecting heavy flames over this because I betrayed my friendship with Rene over something so lame as an LJ.

:(

IDBB

[80sHairMetalMaven]

Thank you,Zette.:(
I am an idiot. A complete idiot.And I don't deserve shit,especially nice friends like Rene who've been there with me through some really tough crapola.
*flogs herself with a cat-o-nine-tails*

IDBB

[Giraffe]

Huh. I mean, I agree that what you did was wrong and inexplicably stupid, but it doesn't make me want to call you names or anything. It just makes me shake my head.

[Ferrous]

What Zette said. Effing pathetic.

[Homebrew]

Isn't spying on each other what the government wants us to do now? I mean, she could be a terrorist!

[BoBettie]

Well, you can flog yourself all you want, but I think your time would be better spent asking yourself why you excercised such poor judgement. I hear you saying "I'm an idiot" and "I don't deserve shit, especially nice friends" and in other threads you talk about how other people treat you poorly, etc.

Do you WANT to be treated that way? Are you actually throwing these kinds of relationships away because you "don't deserve" them? Really, this is food for thought.

[80sHairMetalMaven]

Zette--when you grow up being treated like crap, you learn that you ARE crap and that you don't deserve anything because you are crap.
I was lucky to meet Rene and have her for a friend but I messed up, as I always do and fucked up another friendship for something stupid.

*sighs*

IDBB

[Duck Duck Goose]

You are an incredibly selfish asshat.
And an incredibly stupid one, too--you TOLD her? Geez.
And an incredibly lazy one, too--if you Google "lj codes", you can find sites where people are GIVING AWAY codes.
And an incredibly cheap one, too--coughing up five bucks would have gotten you in without having had to violate your friend's trust.http://www.livejournal.com/paidaccounts/

There, feel better now? :D

[Bad News Baboon]

hello,

My name is I_Dig_Bad_Boys.

I love drama.

Drama. Drama. Drama.

I live in a really nice house, did I tell you that already?

I am true blue Texan, yet... I live in the "armpit" part of the state.

Yeehaw!

I like to make fun of poseurs and my in-laws, cause it's fun!
I like to post rants!

I'm a punk! wee!
I'm a rebel! wee!
look at my disney site! Wee!

ME ME ME

Don't you see?
I love attention!

Ain't no such thing as negative attention!

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I know I dig on you a lot IDBB (no pun intended), but I am saying this in ernest.

please.
stop.

really.

Stop with the attention whoring.

[Left Hand of Dorkness]

Beating yourself up over it is wasting time.

Wait a week, then send her flowers (or a box of chocolate, or something). Include a note that says something like, "I'm really sorry. I know you're pissed at me, and you've got every right to be. If you'll let me, I'd like to try to make it up to you. Let me know if you want that. Until then, my best wishes, IDBB." Or something like that.

Do what you can to make it right; if you can't make it right, chalk it up to a learning experience, and move on. And next time, keep your friend's trust in mind.

Daniel

[80sHairMetalMaven]

DDG--you TOLD her? Geez.
I felt really horrible about doing it which is why I told her.You're right.I should have googled it and tried to come up with a code that way but at the time that didn't occur to me and I am just too damned cheap to buy an account.
Baboon--I am saying this in ernest.
What's Ernest got to do with this?:confused:

Daniel--seeing as that she lives in Omaha,I won't be sending her anything but I did send her an email back and hope that she forgives me in time.
I wouldn't be suprised if our mutual friends shunned me as well for being so stupid and betraying her that way.

IDBB(who is NOT an attention whore...just somebody who did a bad,bad thing)

[BoBettie]

Zette--when you grow up being treated like crap, you learn that you ARE crap and that you don't deserve anything because you are crap.

Yes, yes you do. And then you know what happens? You grow up and learn how to act like an adult. You aren't a child, IDBB. If you have self esteem issues so serious that you sabotage your own relationships and beat yourself up constantly about your self-worth, you need some serious help. Get it, and stop with the drama already. Enough is enough.

If you are rolling your eyes at that, the I'll say this "Cry me a fucking river". Guess what? Lots of people grow up treated like crap, abused, and neglected. And guess what else? You get over it or get help. Hurting other people because YOU hurt is not an acceptable way to behave. If you know that in your head then live it already and stop pointing the finger at everyone else. I've rarely encountered someone as unwilling to take responsibility for her own actions as you. (Everyone treated me bad, etc)

Enough.

[Bad News Baboon]

So terribly sorry for the typo. I am sure I confused you by not spelling earnest correctly.

Mea Culpa.

On invitation, I checked out your blog.

If only a quarter of the stuff in there is true, you need to seek help.

My most favorite was Ghetto Laundry Service, in which you describe people "so-black-they're-blue" and "black mamas" and such.

nice.

[porcupine]

Your pathetic. Pathetic for doing this to someone you call a friend. Pathetic for being such a fucking drama queen that you actually feel it necessary to start a thread about it. I really hope someone gives you a code so you can start putting this kind of shit somewhere else.

Please, some kind doper out there give her a fucking LJ code.

[GingerOfTheNorth]

Good Lord. You stole an account code from your friend - who will now not trust you ever again. Then, you came in here to fucking post about it? THEN, you tell us "when you grow up being treated like crap, you learn that you ARE crap and that you don't deserve anything because you are crap" and we're supposed to feel sorry for you?

I have never seen anyone in more dire need of a live journal. Jesus.

[80sHairMetalMaven]

Check out the OP,Ginger. I didn't STEAL a code from her. I merely ATTEMPTED to steal a code from her and was unsuccessful.

Babboon---you're right. If I could afford therapy,I'm sure I'd be in therapy right now.:(

IDBB

[Jadis]

Originally posted by I_Dig_Bad_Boys
when you grow up being treated like crap, you learn that you ARE crap and that you don't deserve anything because you are crap.
I was lucky to meet Rene and have her for a friend but I messed up, as I always do and fucked up another friendship for something stupid.


Honey, you need to get something straight. Having a bad childhood can be a [reason for how you feel, but it is not an excuse for how you act.

Grow the fuck up. Get help. Quit with the constant drama.

[monstro]

IDBB, have you ever considered taking a break from a social life for awhile, just so you can develop yourself a little bit. Take up a hobby, like music or sculpting or something. Go for long walks. Read. Write an autobiography.

Do something constructive. It'll be the same thing as therapy, without all the drama.

[Hamadryad]

Originally posted by I_Dig_Bad_Boys
Check out the OP,Ginger. I didn't STEAL a code from her. I merely ATTEMPTED to steal a code from her and was unsuccessful.Idiot.Babboon---you're right. If I could afford therapy,I'm sure I'd be in therapy right now.:(Moron. I can't afford therapy and I'm in fucking therapy.Originally posted by Bad News Babboon
My most favorite was Ghetto Laundry Service, in which you describe people "so-black-they're-blue" and "black mamas" and such.Fucking bigot.Originally posted by I_Dig_Bad_Boys
when you grow up being treated like crap, you learn that you ARE crap and that you don't deserve anything because you are crap.Fucktard. Me too. Grow up.I wouldn't be suprised if our mutual friends shunned me as well for being so stupid and betraying her that way."Surprised," as long as you're being a shit about spelling. And good.IDBB(who is NOT an attention whore...just somebody who did a bad,bad thing)a) Fucking liar. b) No shit.I am an idiot. A complete idiot.And I don't deserve shita) Yep. b) Yep. c) I disagree...I think you deserve all kinds of shit.I am expecting heavy flames over this because I betrayed my friendship with Rene over something so lame as an LJ.It's not worth it coming up with decent flames for you. "Fucking asshole moron loser" is plenty. "Waste of skin." "Waste of oxygen." "Idiot." "Fucktard." "Ortho-Novum Poster Child." "Waste of a good orgasm." "Misdirected dry-hump."

The IQ of the entire Internet will go up when you finally find a new bunch of people to irritate with your irritating whining and mewling. Sit by the hot-plate in your trialer, drink your Pabst, watch your old Clash tapes and leave the actual functioning human beings in peace.

[Guinastasia]

Guys, I think she wants us to flame her. Or else she wants to ask us to flame her, so we'll say, "Oh, wait, she's sorry, so let's give her huggles and lollypops"

Or something.

I dunno.

Blah blah blah.....how old are you?

And I thought I was pathetic.

[Jack Batty]

Anybody ever see Killing Zoe (http://us.imdb.com/Title?0110265)?
You know that scene when the gang is in the seedy underground nightclub and they're all drunk and doing heroin. Zed is sitting there, all fucked up trying to smoke a cigarette. And this skank sits across from him and starts talking to him in French, and he can't understand a word she says ... but they subtitle it, and she goes on about ... "I could stay with you, I could sleep on the floor -- like a dog -- you could do anything you want -- treat me like a dog -- I am a dog ..." before his psychotic friend Eric drags her away from him.

Remember that scene?


It seems oddly familiar right about now.

[Eats_Crayons]

*sigh* :rolleyes:

[Giraffe]

Killing Zoe was a good movie.

IDBB, you really need to stop dragging your dirty laundry into public for everyone to look at while you beg to be chastised. It's really unhealthy, and it's really annoying. There was no need to post this thread. It serves no purpose other than for you to wallow in your own disfunction.

Trying to get a bunch of strangers to flame you to compensate for guilt over doing something stupid is really pathetic. The past doesn't control you -- you are doing these things because you decide to do them. Own your mistakes, and start living your life with some self-respect. Stop making excuses.

[monstro]

<therapist>It's called passive-aggressive behavior when you beat yourself up pre-emptively. It not only annoys those in your company, but it doesn't stop your bad behavior.</therapist>

[hardygrrl]

*waits for the mention of the progeria/the lack of employment/mother-in-law*


I'd suggest going to the library, but I think there's a height restriction on the books you can read and comprehend.

[Primaflora]

Yeah, the progeria.

I'm real fascinated with the mild case of progeria. I'd like to see some cites that there are degrees of progeria because I'm damned if I can find any.

' The general characteristics are dwarfism, baldness, a pinched nose, small face and jaw relative to head size, delayed tooth formation, aged-looking skin, stiffness of joints, hip dislocations, generalized atherosclerosis, and cardiovascular problems. '

from the progeriaresearch.com site

[lezlers]

Yeah, I just cruised the live journal and damn, IDBB you are one negative nellie. You probably won't respond to this since you refuse to face your shortcomings (as shown through all your other threads) or take responsibility for your actions (outside of the "i'm such a horrible person") but I just gotta ask...

Is CorvetteGuy as negative as you? Because if he is, then whoah-dam, i don't wanna be within a 50 mile radius of your combined energies. (good thing I live in Cali). I really hope he's a positive person, because you sure as hell need the balance. You're a Pagan right? I only ask because you mentioned something of the sort in one of your other threads (i can't remember if you said wiccan, pagan, witch, ect.). If so, then have you asked the Goddess to take some of the negativity away? I was going through a really tough time a couple of months ago ( I didn't even want to be around myself, I was so negative) I asked her to take it away and I felt 1,000% better. Still do. Email me if you'd like.

[The Mermaid]

IDBB Allow me to second what most everyone has said, esp Hama, she was the most succint. You need to work on developing some better problem solving skills, better self control and better self esteem.

I want to believe that you feel bad about your reprehensible, foolish and ill thought out behavior. Still, you served no purpose telling the person what you did. She never had to know and you would have the knowledge that you were capable of such a dishonest act. Telling your friend that you betrayed was a cry for help.

If your problem was that you merely needed an LJ code, I can't imagine how this was the only solution you came up with. Just a few weeks ago someone posted a request for codes and literally dozens were posted. Hell I still have 4 or 5 there that weren't claimed. You could have checked the LiveJournal site for info. You could have asked your friend to post in your behalf on LJ asking for a code. You could have bought one.

Perhaps you should just step away from the keyboard for a while and just watch and learn. Hmmmm?

[Jurhael]

A bad childhood explains actions, but it doesn't justify them. I thought I'd add that.

Hamadryad:

"Moron. I can't afford therapy and I'm in fucking therapy."

How did you manage that? Because I'm thinking some sort of free clinic.

[Lux Fiat]

Originally posted by GingerOfTheNorth

I have never seen anyone in more dire need of a live journal. Jesus. Because I am an awful person, who deserves only bad never good (but who, like everyone else, gets a little of both), I cackled when I read this.

I will now pointedly avoid addressing the OP, because that will only encourage her.

[Drastic]

An apropos old one:

Masochist: Hit me!
Sadist: No.

[Caffeine.addict]

IDDB, before I start I wish you to know that I'm not yelling at you or trying to flame you, I'm genuinely curious.

Why did you hack into your friend's account? You knew it was wrong but you still did it. Why did you then tell her? Why did you post this here knowing full well that you would provoke a lot of outrage? What did you hope to accomplish?

I think you need to realize that you are in control of your own life and that no one is making you do these things.

[alice_in_wonderland]

DNFTAW

[Enderw24]

Do Not Feed The Alice in Wonderland?

:)

[JonScribe]

OK. Technodork here: Just what's an LJ? and what's special about the "code" she was attempting to steal?

[NightRabbit]

LJ = LiveJournal, an online diary-journal sort of thing.

In order to join, you have to either pay a paltry sum per month or get a code from an existing member.

[JonScribe]

Oh, in that case: IDBB, you crum.

[Hamadryad]

Originally posted by Jurhael
How did you manage that? Because I'm thinking some sort of free clinic. Not free, but on a sliding scale, so I'm paying WAAAAAY less than I would normally have to. Not free, but they probably have systems in place for that as well. I'm going through a local charity.

(I cannot stress enough...if you're having problems and are financially strapped and/or have no insurance (I am "and") call United Way and ask them to put you in touch with charitable organizations who can help. That's what they're there for.)

Hijack over.

[MissBungle]

I don't even know what a LJ is.

errrr... think how uncool i am!!!!!!

[Jack Batty]

So uncool you're not even willing to look three posts up the page?

Night Rabbit
LJ = LiveJournal, an online diary-journal sort of thing.

Here's (http://www.livejournal.com) the actual site.

I have beaucoup codes.

[stolatt]

I like what monstro said about taking the time for a hobby or doing something constructive. Maybe some volunteer work at a soup kitchen or helping out at an elementary school. I think you'll be happy when you prove yourself wrong about not being a person of worth.

Giving up the drama might go a long way. I had a girlfriend who thrived on conflict. Her stories usually revolved around terrible men choices (cheaters, inmates - yikes!), law enforcement, and always fighting with someone in her life. She had a rotten childhood too. Maybe it's all the conflict early on that made her think that life should always be that way.

We got older and I found friendship with her exhausting, so we parted company. She did marry a great guy, very nice and laid back and I hope that brought her some peace. I'm just thinking that at some point, your friends might find you exhausting too. It might be something to think about.

[Jack Batty]

Originally posted by Jack Batty

I have beaucoup codes.
By the way, no need to hack me ... I'll give 'em up cheap.

[Brynda]

Maybe in need of a LJ, definitely in need of therapy.

Another source for free or low cost therapy if you live near a university is the psychology department's clinic. They have them as training sites for graduate students learning to be clinical psychologists, so your therapist will be a graduate student, but will be supervised by a faculty member. Sometimes they require that sessions be video or audio taped, but honestly, that's not as bad as it sounds. Most people get used to it very quickly and just ignore the camera or tape recorder. And hey, an attention seeker might like it.

In the meantime, check out some sites on personality disorders. Basically, they are disorders in which people repetitively do things to screw up their lives. Drama queens are classic.