View Full Version : Anal Sex [A Poll]
03-13-2003, 11:53 PM
A friend and I are having a disagreement on how common anal sex is. He believes that it isn't very prevalent outside porn and I think it's fairly common.. I don't have any sites to cite online so I thought I'd poll you guys and get you to help me prove him wrong.
So, do you have anal sex? If so, how often? Do you do it 'cause it's enjoyable to you or 'cause your partner wants it?
03-14-2003, 12:40 AM
No. No anal sex or anal play at all, other than external touching.
03-14-2003, 12:48 AM
I've had anal sex, and can take it or leave it. It's not painful or anything, I just prefer oral or good old vaginal sex. I think I did it mostly for my SO at the time, because it really turned him on.
03-14-2003, 12:52 AM
I've had (well, given) anal sex. As Alexxandra said, I can take it or leave it. I wouldn't be adverse to doing it, but if I met someone who said she never ever in a million years wanted to do it, I'd not care a whit.
03-14-2003, 02:04 AM
Yes. About twice a month. Because I enjoy it.
03-14-2003, 02:05 AM
Correction : Because we enjoy it. Don't want to mislead ;)
Troy McClure SF
03-14-2003, 02:45 AM
Tried it out of curiosity on both our parts, she didn't like it, I could take it or leave it.
03-14-2003, 03:00 AM
Just not into it, either doing, having done, or watching it in porn. I just have a hang-up about poo.
I did have a gf a while back, though, who liked to perform anallingus on me, and I have to say it felt fantastic. I tried reciprocating, but I really preferred plain old cunillingus.
03-14-2003, 04:49 AM
There is no way that I'm going let Mr. Party Tool get all poopy!
Even if I put his little plastic jacket on ... eeewwwwwwwwwwww!
03-14-2003, 05:04 AM
I've tried it once. It's nothing special to me. I prefer vaginal sex, although if Pricegal wants to try it, I'll do it. It doesn't freak me out or anything.
I regularly perform anilingus and have nothing against it (actually I quite enjoy it), although I try not to think about exactly what I'm doing.
I do not want to be the receptive part in anal sex or have anilingus performed on me.
03-14-2003, 05:10 AM
Never tried it, not interested in trying it, not even interested in watching it in movies, and the same goes for the spouse. I can appreciate that other couples might enjoy it, but for me it's just to icky to even contemplate.
03-14-2003, 05:23 AM
i've hear of "tearing" stories and people having to go to the hospital.. i don't know that's true or not.. but it's enough to keep me from giving it a try :)
03-14-2003, 06:34 AM
I remember thumbing through a college sex ed text book years ago that had data from a fairly comprehensive survey of American sexual practices (it wasn't Kinsey or M&J) and it was probably written in the late 80's.
Anyway, I was somewhat surprised that it reported around 20% of women have had anal sex and I think it was around 10% who regularly (??? frequency) have anal sex. I'm sure someone could find something to support or refute this, but I think actually looking it up would be a pain in the ass.
03-14-2003, 06:37 AM
the odd finger now and agian, yep, anything bigger is a bit too umm, daunting.
Edward The Head
03-14-2003, 08:15 AM
Geez I guess I'm one of the few around here who has had plenty of practice then. It was normal for my ex-wife and I for around 7 years, and by normal I mean 95%+ of the time. It's really not that dirty, I can only remember one time it was really bad.
I think that if you wanted to try it you have to go about it slow and start with a finger or two, then move up to a few fingers. You might be suprised at how much it can stretch. I've never heard or seen any serious tearing, nor have the other women who wanted to try it had any real complaints except it hurts a bit, which is mostly because they are not used to it.
One last thing, there is a book called The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, don't know the author but it was quite good, I found it at a Boarders. I'm not going to look up the author at work though so you can do that on your own!
03-14-2003, 08:20 AM
Well, my partner and I do it often, at least two or three times a week, but then we're a gay couple.
Have tried it with previous partners but found I was more definitely wary of it that they were. Never felt comfortable with it at all.
No real desire to, well, pursue that avenue again.
On the other hand, so to speak, an inserted finger at the time of ejaculation can be an unexpected extra and create a more intense orgasm.
03-14-2003, 11:17 AM
Don't use a poll for anal sex unless it's really well lubricated.
03-14-2003, 11:23 AM
I like it, and off the top of my head I can't think of any part I haven't played in it. I don't know about common, though, it tends to be more of a special occasion thing for me, but that decision is dictated more by my partners than by my desires.
03-14-2003, 11:41 AM
Bi male here, I have both given anal sex, which I found to be extremly presurable due to the tightness, and engaged in a great deal of anal play. I haven't recieved simply because I haven't met the right boy.
03-14-2003, 11:53 AM
Giving and receiving, it's all good.
03-14-2003, 12:24 PM
I'm ok with it. My wife doesn't want to do it so I don't pressure or push it other than the ocasional finger. I find it to be very pleasurable and stimulating.
As far as porn goes, I just do not like to watch anal sex in porn. It's like the girl girl scenes, i forward right on through.
03-14-2003, 12:27 PM
Love it love it love it. But we don't it often, it's sort of a special treat for him and me both.
Edward The Head
03-14-2003, 12:34 PM
Originally posted by Bindrah
As far as porn goes, I just do not like to watch anal sex in porn. [quote]
I guess I can see this.
[quote]It's like the girl girl scenes, i forward right on through.
but :dubious: you don't watch the girl girl scenes? I don't think I've ever heard of any guy that didn't like that. Then again I don't watch much porn, I cann't even remember the last time I did.
03-14-2003, 12:45 PM
Done it before with past gf's and enjoyed it. I think Wifecat and I are saving it for a rainy day...Meaning, we plan on being together for the next 40+years, so I'm sure we'll go through an anal stage, but just not right now. Although the occasional finger during orgasm is quite nice. I think one reason for not doing it is because I'm larger; not necessarily LARGE, but enough to make her go "You want to stick that where?!?"
I've always thought that it was the one universal type of sex that one should try because then you both know exactly what the opposite sex is feeling. Nipples, clits and penises all have their subtle differences, but I'm pretty sure the anal nerve endings are the same for all of us. It's the one type of sex that we can all relate to.
03-14-2003, 01:31 PM
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
by Tristan Taormino, Fish (Illustrator)
45 of 76 people found the following review helpful:
Not well-received, April 30, 2001 Reviewer: Henry Raddick (see more about me) from London UK - Be careful and think long and hard before you give this book to your wife or girlfriend as a gift. As I learnt to my cost, if she looks at it in horror you won't be able to tell her that you are a little drunk and just slipped.
03-14-2003, 03:31 PM
Originally posted by Caught@Work
There is no way that I'm going let Mr. Party Tool get all poopy!
Even if I put his little plastic jacket on ... eeewwwwwwwwwwww!
If the would be recipient poops regularly, it's probably okay. But if you're still nervous that there's a big ol' turd lurking around, stick a finger in there to check. If there is, go to the drug store and get an enema kit for a nice ass douche. Once the pipes have been cleaned, there's no need to worry about the shitty dick and you can enjoy.
03-14-2003, 03:42 PM
Ms UnwrittenNocturne and I love it, both of us :)
enemas can be helpful of course
03-14-2003, 03:48 PM
I agree with Margin Walker . Anal sex is not all about getting poop everywhere.
I have anal sex about twice a month. I'm usually the one who initiates it. I'm a female too! Every single time there has never been an issue of poop. I just make sure that my bowels are empty. And yes..I've checked my boyfriends pieces to see if they are tainted.
And the tearing thing? I'm guessing that's being too forceful. If it hurts then you are doing something wrong. Its not supposed to hurt.
Remember..Lots of lube and go slowly..
03-14-2003, 05:01 PM
Tried it once. I could take it or leave it. Mr. Cameron has no interest in it whatever. As far as I'm concerned it's one of those "no accounting for taste" things, since I know some people really enjoy it. More power to 'em, I say. It just doesn't set my heart on fire.
03-14-2003, 05:23 PM
I've had anal sex a few times -- it's nice, but not that big a deal. Using a finger or two during oral, on the other hand is very popular...
03-14-2003, 05:32 PM
Nope, nope and nope. And it's not about poop, either, I just don't like the sensation. I think it goes back to being a kid and having to get the puppet treatment a couple times when I was suffering what appeared to be (but wasn't) appendicitis. I just don't want anything - and that includes fingers or tongues - going up there again.
03-14-2003, 05:35 PM
When I was first getting to know my boyfriend/husband-to-be/guy-who-lives-with-me jeremy evil, I mentioned during a phone conversation that I was a top. Much later, he told me that when he heard me say that, he heard the Hallelujah Chorus. :D
He's a major bottom. He loves it. I love topping him, and I'm damned good at it. We do it all the time. We have an industrial-sized lube pump. :)
...or was that TMI?
Bippy the Beardless
03-14-2003, 06:29 PM
I wish I didn't keep reading the OP title as
"Anal sex [A Pole]"
Haven't done more than finger work, but would see no problem as long as it was sanitary (enimas etc). I'm kind of fond of my dick and putting it anywhere that is dirty doesn't appeal.
03-14-2003, 07:07 PM
Yes, we both enjoy it.Originally posted by Edward The Head
but :dubious: you don't watch the girl girl scenes? I don't think I've ever heard of any guy that didn't like that.I'm another straight guy who is bored by so-called "lesbian action." Zero appeal for me, maybe because it's so painfully obvious how little it has to do with actual lesbianism. I don't even get that much out of the "guy and two girls" scenario. Fast forward!
03-14-2003, 10:51 PM
The reason I didn't answer is 'cause I'm a big virgin loser. I do want to try it at one point though. If there's a hole that it'll fit in and she'll let me try, I plan on doing just that. :)
Oh, and lesbian scenes don't do much for me either. It's too fake looking and I'm apathetic to watching oral sex anyway. I prefer plain ol' penetration.
03-15-2003, 01:27 AM
Uh, just an update, based on yesterday evening. My official position on anal sex is now "Uh huh, 's niiiice."
Hey, Esprix gets to post about his nipples...
03-15-2003, 08:25 AM
Hubby and I enjoy it sometimes. The secret, as mentioned previously, is to use lots of lube and go slow. He lets me set the pace. Once I've "accommodated", things can get much faster and harder, with no pain for me. Hubby also enjoys a finger inserted just prior to climax.
03-15-2003, 08:31 AM
In through the out door?...NO WAY!..if my GF wanted to try it...um I dunno if i would?...dont think so.
03-15-2003, 10:39 AM
I. LOVE. IT.
And... I love my man.
So, it's the best of both worlds.
Have received anal sex and engaged in other types of anal play. I don't know that its fairly common, however, as I still think of it as somewhat taboo.
I'm in a relationship, and anal sex fits in the "for something special category," not as regularly as Edward The Head. I think it would occur more regularly if (a) there wasn't a roommate to think about and (b) the initiator were a tad more gentle and paid more attention starting off.
03-15-2003, 02:15 PM
Dont do it, and I've got no interest in it whatever. I'd probably still not go for it if I were in a relationship where my SO did, which is weird for me. It's just about the only sexual activity I'll give a flat-out 'get your cock away from me' on. See, I was dating an idiot once, and he, well, 'slipped,' shall we say...yeah...and that hurt way too much to ever try it intentionally.
03-15-2003, 02:24 PM
I love it. (And yes, I'm female.) No idea what the thrill is, but it drives me wild.
I think this is my first TMI post!
03-15-2003, 11:29 PM
Hell no. Sewage. Fecal matter. Yecch.
I'd as soon kiss a vomiting person.
03-16-2003, 12:17 AM
I've done it a few times... with the right person it can be great. As has been said above - lotsa lube and take it slow. In my experience it is the #1 question asked by males who IM you out of the blue to talk about sex. I think it's done alot more than people think.
03-16-2003, 12:29 AM
Yes, I enjoyed it. After about six years of marriage the other way got a bit boring. It was a fun change and he was very gentle...as gentle as I needed him to be.
:thinks about calling ex:
ACK! Don't think that...don't think that!
03-16-2003, 12:43 AM
My wife and I haven't tried anal sex. We've talked about it at times, and there's no real interest on either of our parts, though there's no inhibition either. If she wanted anal, I'd have no problem doing her, but she doesn't. If I wanted anal, she'd give it up for me, but ... I really don't particularly want anal.
Put me down as another straight guy who finds lesbian porn kinda dull. I have trouble relating to it and don't really get why some guys like it so much. But I try to be tolerant about such things. I've seen one or two good lesbian sex scenes but most of the time they're just dull.
03-16-2003, 12:49 AM
Tried it.........liked it lots.......indulge frequently.
mmmmmmm bum fun :)
03-16-2003, 01:42 AM
Me, I think sex should smell good.
I have zero interest in putting my bits up anyone's bum. A woman got her finger up mine once, and while I wouldn't say I found it terribly unpleasant, I found that afterwards I was really too preoccupied with keeping track of where that finger was to really focus on anything else.
I am well aware that folks can render themselves clean enough to drink soup out of if they are so inclined, but... not for me. Give me a vagina and a well-toned Kegel muscle every time.
If I ever find myself in love (or a reasonable facsimile) with someone who doesn't have a vagina in close proximity to their anus, I will no doubt relax my position on this one, but until then, I'll accept no substitute.
(This post made possible by six ounces of blended whiskey.)
Earl Snake-Hips Tucker
03-16-2003, 08:23 AM
Well, it's the only kind a lot of us married people get.
(Oh, wait. I misread. I thought it said annual sex.)
Ignore that SN to the left. This post is by Anonymous.
I never had any interest in A*** sex and thought it "yucky". Most women will tighten up like a clam if you miss the primary target. But one girlfriend had done it before and gladly accepted my drunken misapplication. I thought at the time "that feels a little different". She thought that I wanted to do it. I now don't think there is anything wrong with it, but I would not choose to use the wrong orifice out of choice. If you are not hetero, YMMV!
BTW, you're supposed to use lube?
P.S. To the previous post, annual sex would be a major improvement. :(
03-16-2003, 11:38 AM
First off, i just want to apologize for this being my first post. Despite having read the boards for a year or so without chiming in, I would not have spoken up now if not for FaerieBeth (my lady wife) registering me and forcing me to sit at this keyboard.
So, without further ado, here's a buttload of TMI. :)
My lovely wife is the only woman that I have tried this with (and i'm the only one for her as well), and while it's not exactly vanilla for us, it's not much of a big deal any more. To be sure, we had a few 'false starts' (to put it lightly) but i think we've worked out most of the issues and it has been enjoyable for both of us.
It's just something that we do every once in a while to break up the monotony, or when the lady is feeling naughty.
well, there you have it.
and yes, she's stuck stuff up my butt, too. so there.
03-16-2003, 04:54 PM
DeathLlama "is not a big fan of the poop" or anything that regularly expels such. I've offered the fingering thing in the past--and just now too--but he's "not willing to give myself an enema to make sure it's all clean back there before you try." (He's right behind me as I type, thus the direct quotes.)
Me, I don't want anything that big up my butt. YOWCH. But a finger? Sure, worth a try. A tongue? For now, I say: Ew. But we've only been married two years. Maybe when we get to year six, we, too, will get experimental.
03-16-2003, 07:52 PM
Yummmmm bum fun..... not a prob here.... bf and I both love it :D
03-16-2003, 08:27 PM
I've never found the anal sex I've had to be wild fireworks, but I fantasize about it a great deal, especially with Potter. I'm hoping that as he and I get sexually familiar with one another, it will be as good as I imagine :)
Closest I came was my last prostate exam.
03-17-2003, 12:20 AM
As a gay man, I'm supposed to come in here and say "Yay for anal sex! Do it all the time! Fabulous!"
But I don't really care for it. Giving or receiving. It's just kinda... icky.
I've never gotten any pleasure out of receiving, and giving is kind of weird for me, because my equipment is kinda large. So it takes tons of preparation, which is boring and kinda gross. And then, I don't really get off on it much; I think part of it is the condom thing, which I (of course) always use, but part of it is that it's just not something that I really fantasize about. The odd part of this is that because it doesn't really turn me on much, I can go for quite some time.
Oral sex is where it's at. Done properly, it's art.
03-17-2003, 11:51 AM
I certainly don't have a problem with it. Every couple of months I gladly offer it up, lol.
If you take a warm bath first, it does help relax the muscles so it doesn't hurt quite as much going in.
The thing I love the most about it is the exact instant where the pain turns to pleasure. It is the most incredible feeling.
03-17-2003, 01:30 PM
Love it, do it. Had a few GF that preferred it.
I also am not particulary turned on by lesbian scenes in movies. Sure, I like the "hot naked girl bit", but I also know (from experience), that they are into each other, and not doing that for me.
Well, I, personally, am very turned on by it. Unfortunatly, my GF seems pretty much against the whole idea. She had anal sex once with an ex-boyfriend. She was so drunk at the time she basically doesn't remember it. I have asked many times, and only once has she said I could try. Of course, being young and naive (and both a little tipsy) we didn't use lube, and, well, it pretty much went no where. Without going into details that no one wants to hear, we'll just say that the penis really doidn't even penetrate.
Now, we have a bottle of lube that we ues during regular sex (hand jobs, and just to make it a little more comforatble for her sometimes.) I keep bringing it up, mentioning that we could do it the right way this time, and that it won't hurt like she thinks it will. But, alas, no anal for me.
Actually, just last night she said (more jokingly than serious, I think) that I could put something in her butt if she could put something in mine. Well, the funny thing is, I actually do enjoy a bit of anal stimulation. The thing is, I'm afraid that if I actually tell her this, she will be very put off by it. It still has that stigma of "staight men don't do it" attached with it, even though it shouldn't. I proably will tell her someday, but I still doubt it will get me anal sex, just cause, as I said, it swas more of a joke form her point of view, thinking that there would be no way I'd go for that kind of thing.
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