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Dante_Hicks
04-18-2003, 02:42 PM
I'm 30 and bald. I started losing my hair at 20, and now I pretty much wear what's left of my crop very short or shaved. Am I a freak? What do you women seriously think when you see a bald guy?

I used to wear hats in college to hide my little "secret," but now I'm actually quite proud of my glistening melon and would never consider wearing a rug or visiting Mr. Sperling. Maybe the whole bald/shaved head thing for us white guys will become the new trend? Just my little pipe dream.

Well, what do you think?

Contrary
04-18-2003, 02:46 PM
Bald men don't bother me, never have. What does bother me and what I find extremely unattractive are the various creative ways balding men drape what's left of their hair. C'mon -- it's about gone, just cut the stuff already.

Big_Norse
04-18-2003, 02:57 PM
Ditto what Contrary said. Baldness, especially if what is left is kept short or shaved off isn't unattractive. I think it is actually getting a little trendy.

Pathetic attempts to hide baldness are a huge turnoff. And I really don't get the bald on top with a long pony tail thing.

Ethilrist
04-18-2003, 03:02 PM
Originally posted by Big_Norse
... I really don't get the bald on top with a long pony tail thing.
Oh, that's easy. It's called "denial."

Khadaji
04-18-2003, 03:05 PM
Originally posted by Contrary
Bald men don't bother me, never have. What does bother me and what I find extremely unattractive are the various creative ways balding men drape what's left of their hair. C'mon -- it's about gone, just cut the stuff already. LOL. I was in a business meeting last week with a man who had a comb-over and I thought to myself "Who does he think he is fooling? We all can tell he's bald..." But to each their own. If I go bald, I'm just gonna let it go. I've been going grey since I was in my early 20s and I don't dye either.

Kalhoun
04-18-2003, 03:05 PM
I dated a bald guy. Not my favorite thing, but not a complete turn-off. My husband has enough hair for himself and three or four other guys. I like the Unibomber look, myself.

XJETGIRLX
04-18-2003, 03:09 PM
I love bald guys -- as long as they decide to go with the sensible close-cropped 'do. There's nothing nicer than running your fingers over a nice short spiky trim. Kinda tickly too ::grin::

Shiny melons are quite attractive too. I think it plays up the attributes of the face better. I tend to notice bald guys' eyes and smiles more for some reason.

chula
04-18-2003, 03:11 PM
The shaved head look can look great if you've got the head for it. Unfortunately, some people's heads don't look that great without hair on them.

I definitely would not consider dating a guy with a rug on his head. Trying to cover it up is sad. People who are comfortable in their own skins are attractive.

jazzmine
04-18-2003, 03:15 PM
If you don't care that you're bald, I certainly don't. It's never an issue for me.

So, I'd do you.

errr, date you I mean. :)

Khadaji
04-18-2003, 03:16 PM
Originally posted by chula
The shaved head look can look great if you've got the head for it. Unfortunately, some people's heads don't look that great without hair on them.

I am one of those people that look bad bald. I shaved my head 3 years ago and it was not good. I have this big old melon head and it, for some reason, looks BIGGER without hair.

Oreo
04-18-2003, 03:26 PM
I'll echo the above sentiments. I personally don't know any women (although I'm sure there are a few out there) who would not date a guy simply because he was bald. But I know lots of women who wouldn't date a guy who wore a rug or had one of those dreadful comb-overs.

Desperately trying to cover it up or hide the baldness is very unattractive. Being confident with what you have is sexy.

Payton's Servant
04-18-2003, 03:26 PM
Originally posted by jazzmine
If you don't care that you're bald, I certainly don't. It's never an issue for me.

So, I'd do you.

errr, date you I mean. :)

So, when should I come over?:p I can bring pie.(':D')

I've been shaving my head for about 7 years now. When I decided to let it grow back I found out a few things:

1) Your hair grows back at different speeds in different areas of your head, go figure.:rolleyes:

2) My hair was growing back at a much faster rate on the sides and in back then it was on top, in fact it wasn't really growing back on top at all.:eek: So, I started shaving it again.

stolichnaya
04-18-2003, 03:34 PM
I've thought a few times that it would be nice to go bald so I could forget about the hair thing for good. My head looks OK shaved but I have massive eyebrows so it looks a little like I'm being devoured slowly by pair of voracious caterpillars.

Most of the bald/ing guys I know just buzzed the rest and were done with it. I find it to be a strong personality statement, and can look very cool with a nice suit.

Davebear
04-18-2003, 03:39 PM
Originally posted by Contrary
Bald men don't bother me, never have. What does bother me and what I find extremely unattractive are the various creative ways balding men drape what's left of their hair. C'mon -- it's about gone, just cut the stuff already. We don't want to bother you; just get you hot and bothered. ;)

Yes, I said we. Da Bear is bald (Pathetic, isn't it? A bald bear. Truly sad.) . I started thinning while I was still in high school. Now, it's the classic horseshoe pattern. I haven't, yet, tried shaving it all off. Heck, I hate shaving my face; why would I want to quadruple the surface area I shave? I have a female friend who keeps saying I should, but I'm too lazy. But, I do keep it very short. Somewhere between stubble and, oh, maybe half or three-quarters of an inch, depending on my mood and schedule.

And, I think we baldies ought to have the legal right to just walk up and dopeslap anyone wearing a "comb-over". It makes us all look bad. IMO, that's even worse than the "bald mullet". *shudder*

Originally posted by Jazzmine
So, I'd do you. Yes, please! ;)

Gravity
04-18-2003, 03:40 PM
I think "hey, there's a guy over there."

Really, I'm so unobservant about people's physicalities that it takes a while for me to even notice what you look like. I have to know someone for months before I can accurately describe them. I tend to think of people in terms of their personalities.

I do like the look better of balding men with their hair kept short or shaved off, rather than trying to hide it, either with a hat or their own hair or some sort of other device.

Maastricht
04-18-2003, 03:45 PM
Another female voice (35) to the chorus here. Shaved or stubbly heads are slightly less attractive then a full head of hair, but only slightly. Shaved is definately more attractive then a balding/thin hair hairdo. And some guys look great in the ultra-short!!
Comb-overs are a turn-off.

A guy with a shaven head needs to put a little more effort in his dress style, though. Do a little bit extra to look elegant, rough, casual, well dressed, or whatever style suits you. Try a goatee or just add something a little stylish.

A dull or sloppy outfit looks worse with a bald/shaved head. Sort of says: I have given up and I do not want to spend any care on my looks.

sperfur
04-18-2003, 04:03 PM
I will be the dissenting voice in the crowd. If a hairpiece gives you confidence and makes you feel better about your appearance, wear one! Who cares? Its your head. (I sometimes spend a lot of time/money messing with my hair/fingernails, etc - why shouldn't you be allowed to do the same thing? Because you're a guy?)

I have a gay male friend who was quite bald when I met him. Very self conscience about it. Shortly thereafter, he bought a hairpiece. Our mutual friends still tease him about it and I don't understand why. It has really given him confidence about his appearance. If it makes him feel good, why do we care?

I think bald men are sexy. I think men with hair are sexy. To me, it doesn't have much to do with the state of your head, its the state of your personal happiness that attracts me.

Cyn
04-18-2003, 04:13 PM
Crop what's there ASAP, but then I'm all for short hair for men. Davebear, don't be a lazy bear! And slap a comb-over for me.
Cyn, a female person

Contrary
04-18-2003, 04:37 PM
I prefer short hair also. And definitely very short if the hair is disappearing on top.

As far as a hairpiece goes, hey if that's what you want to wear on your head, then go for it. God knows enough women wear padded bras because they feel less than sexy with what they've got.

My point is still if you are bald(ing) and you are not going to get a good hairpiece, then cut it really short or better yet, shave it off.

Davebear -- what about an electric razor for your head?

DeVena
04-18-2003, 04:52 PM
no problem with bald - BIG problem with comb over

Honeydew
04-18-2003, 05:09 PM
Bald good - hiding it bad.

Had a conversation about this with bf today (he thought I was being mean about his less than hirsuite bits).... I said I don't mind it just as long as:

1) you NEVER get a combover
2) you NEVER get a wig
3) you NEVER use any kind of dark hair "replacement" spray rubbish

He's going bald - thats a fact of life .... and I have absolutely no problem with it whatsoever..... but I would should he turn into some creepy freaky combover type guy *shudders*

Dave... shave it man, get one of those clipper thingies... you'd be done in 2 seconds!!

SouthernSky
04-18-2003, 05:11 PM
Any man who is self-assured is sexy. Any guy sporting a comb-over doesn't come off as self-assured. I dated a short, bald guy for a long time (I'm 5'7", he was 5'4") and always thought it was fun to walk into places with him. Women wanted to touch him. He wasn't particularly good-looking, but he had...SOMETHING! Some have it, some don't.

My neighbor always looked like a generic middle-aged, balding husband-type until a couple of weeks ago. He shaved his head and grew a goatee. Oh, man, now I can't look at him without breaking into a sweat!

It's what's IN the head, not ON it.

Cosmopolitan
04-19-2003, 01:11 PM
Depending on the man, bald can be beautiful - shaved heads, close-croppd hair, whatever. And like SouthernSky, I'm a huge fan of the shaved head/goatee look. Yum!

Horatio Hellpop
04-19-2003, 01:41 PM
Which would you rather be:
Column A Column B
Robert Duvall Joey Lawrence
Patrick Stewart Kato Kaelin
Sean Connery Michael J. Fox
Yul Brynner John Davidson
Chi McBride Milli Vanillli
Isaac Hayes Ziggy Marley

jazzmine
04-19-2003, 02:45 PM
Originally posted by Payton's Servant
So, when should I come over?:p I can bring pie.(':D')flipping through calendar Tonight looks good. I mean, I am scheduled to wash my hair and make fudge, but I think I can... um... squeeze you in.

Originally posted by Davebear
Yes, please! ;)Well, you have that girlfriend thing going on... but if that doesn't work out... After all, I did visit your spit or swallow thread. ;)

Originally posted by SouthernSky
He shaved his head and grew a goatee. Oh, man, now I can't look at him without breaking into a sweat!I know exactly what you mean. Makes me melt every time.

Davebear
04-19-2003, 03:45 PM
Originally posted by jazzmine
Well, you have that girlfriend thing going on... but if that doesn't work out... After all, I did visit your spit or swallow thread. ;) Damn! Now, I'm gonna have to wade through all...umm...14 pages, is it?...to see how you answered! Regarding the GF, it's only a matter of time, not that I'm taking your offer seriously. *sigh*

And, Hey! What's with all the "Davebear do this..." comments? You're making me self-conscious. Besides, you don't know that my friend is right. And, she's kind of a wacko, in a nice way, and not my type, at all. So, I'm not too inclined to take her advice on this topic. Although, I'm pretty sure that Contrary is my type, based on a fairly long exchange we had in the Pub. So....maybe...Oh, and I already do use clippers, not a shaver, on my noggin. Saves time that would really be wasted on going to a stylist/barber/whatever.

I dunno about the goatee, though. Last time I grew one, it was silver grey. Made me look and feel old(er). I'm fairly youthful looking, without it. And, it doesn't match my moustache, which is still dark blonde. So, all you ladies getting hot an bothered about shaved heads and goatees, what's your take on that? I guess I could dye it, but that's even more phony than a hairpiece, IMO.

Speaking of which, I did once go to a stylist who wanted to fit me for one. This was back before I started buzzing it, and it wasn't as thin on top. I let him do it, because he really wanted to, and he hadn't cut my hair, yet, so I didn't want to piss him off. I guess it would have looked okay, once it was trimmed. But, it felt horrible. It made my skin crawl. So, while I don't object to other people wearing them, I'll pass.

Chanteuse
04-19-2003, 05:52 PM
Sexy is on the inside and shows on the outside--hair or no hair. So no, it doesn't bother me if a guy is bald. My hubby has lost a fair bit on top and has a "proceeding forehead" as well. None of this bothers him ("it's just more face to wash" is how he puts it.) and it surely doesn't bother me as long as he doesn't do the comb over or grow his beard out shaggy to (over)compensate.

The reason I don't like a rug is that it almost always looks PHONY. I don't object to it because of any double standard, as has been alluded to. I mean, it may be true that a woman wears a padded bras to improve her confidence. But just imagine if she was stuffing her bra with tissues and it was all lumpy and maybe there were even a few hanging out of the collar of her shirt! Or how about, instead of a neat manicure, a woman simply painted her ragged nails, slopping the polish onto her cuticles and not letting them dry, so junk gets stuck on the wet nails. This is how a toupee comes across to me. Shaggy and artificial and obvious. On occasion, I have seen some that I didn't even know were toupees till someone told me. This is the rare exception, though.

BiblioCat
04-19-2003, 05:52 PM
Originally posted by SouthernSky
My neighbor always looked like a generic middle-aged, balding husband-type until a couple of weeks ago. He shaved his head and grew a goatee. Oh, man, now I can't look at him without breaking into a sweat!
Oh, yeah. The shaved/bald head or very short hair with a goatee is definitely a good look. :swoon:

The comb-over is a baaaad look. You're not fooling anyone. It's really bad when you have to part your hair right above your ear and comb it over like my FIL. I think he uses about a quart of Brylcreem to keep his comb-over in place.

Davebear
04-19-2003, 08:49 PM
Originally posted by BiblioCat
The comb-over is a baaaad look. You're not fooling anyone. It's really bad when you have to part your hair right above your ear and comb it over like my FIL. I think he uses about a quart of Brylcreem to keep his comb-over in place. Smack him for me, would ya'? That's too far to drive. :p

In the name of fairness, though, I have to say that the comb-over guys are fooling someone; themselves. Having been through the denial phase, though without having resorted to that extreme, I actually understand it. It's because, when they look in the mirror, they, literally, see themselves differently than the rest of us do.

When we look in a mirror, we generally look straight on; no angles. We don't generally tip our heads down, to see how the top of our heads look. And, if you're looking straight ahead, you're looking through what little hair you have on top. Other people are looking at it. So, it actually looks thicker/better to the owner than to anyone else. It took me a while to realize exactly how thin I'd gotten, up top, for this reason. At the angle I was seeing it from, it looked thicker. It's kind of like looking at a forest, from a distance. The trees look really dense, and close together. It's only when you see it close up that you realize there's all that space in between.

It still doesn't totally excuse it, though.

WotNot
04-19-2003, 09:10 PM
The irritating thing, from a balding male point-of-view, is that hair loss really cuts down your options. Basically, if you don’t want to look a fool, you have to cut it short. No longer can you look at the latest fashions and think: “hmm … would that suit me?” It’s buzz-cut or shaved – for the rest of your life. Live with it.

And you know, some people just don’t suit that style. A guy I was at school with, who had masses of curly blond hair when he was 18, was very receding by the time he was 21. Trouble was, he had a real “lightbulb head” – shaved or cropped just wouldn’t suit him. Nature can be cruel sometimes.

As far as hair-pieces go, the only time I think they can work is for guys who have a full, thick head of hair – except for the crown. Sometimes that happens, and unfortunately the guy it’s happening to is often the last to know. It’s not the easiest part to see, after all, and unless you’ve got a really good friend, you could end up walking around for quite some time without realising that you look like a joke from behind. Fortunately, I have a wife who never misses an opportunity to comment on the progress of my “tonsure”.

SouthernSky
04-19-2003, 09:52 PM
Ok, maybe an Elmer Fudd head shape might not be that attractive, just from a visual standpoint. I still say, though, that sexiness comes from within - how comfortable a man is in his own skin. We have all known the drop-dead gorgeous guy/gal who, for some reason, didn't flip our switches.

I appreciate what DaveBear said, about men looking in the mirror. Women scrutinize every angle when we look into a mirror, every hair, freckle, eyelash, and pore. Women are detail-oriented.

There is a saying, "Men look into a mirror and see what they were. Women look into a mirror and see what they will become".

lorene
04-19-2003, 10:02 PM
I love bald men. Love love LOVE bald men.

My SO is the first full-head-of-hair guy I've been with since college. The other day, he started complaining that he thinks he is losing his hair, and I was secretly pleased.

I dated a balding guy who kept part of his hair kind of long and spiky, I guess to offset the balding. never did much for me. I saw him again recently and he decided to just go ahead and shave his head.

I'm pretty sure I blushed when I saw him.

Another Primate
04-19-2003, 10:04 PM
Originally posted by stolichnaya
...My head looks OK shaved but I have massive eyebrows so it looks a little like I'm being devoured slowly by pair of voracious caterpillars.

Thank you, Stoli, for that laugh. I will remember it for a long time.

Oh, and, as for myself: I'll take a funny bald guy over a non-funny hairy guy ANY DAY.

-Another Primate

Davebear
04-19-2003, 10:37 PM
Originally posted by lorene
I love bald men. Love love LOVE bald men.
Really? So...how YOU...

My SO is ....
Oh! Never mind. *sigh*

Chimera
04-19-2003, 11:32 PM
My wife tells me my bald head is sexy.

But as I remind her (I'm 5'11", she's 5'2"), she's looking up at me, so she doesn't see my baldness. That hair is my beard...

lorene
04-19-2003, 11:53 PM
Ohhh, were you gonna say what I long to hear: "How YOU doin'?"

<sigh>. One wonders what I am doing on the SDMB at 11:56 on a Saturday night, posting queries about songs that describe one's sex life (my new thread), doesn't one? (I think I exhausted the use of that particular pronoun...)

Hey, just following up on my "How do you handle loneliness" thread---oh, and hijacking someone else's.

Contrary
04-20-2003, 09:55 AM
Originally posted by Davebear
Although, I'm pretty sure that Contrary is my type, based on a fairly long exchange we had in the Pub.

<grin>

<blush>

I nix the goatee if it really doesn't match your 'stache. Carpets and drapes should match for both sexes, dontcha think?

Davebear
04-20-2003, 02:43 PM
Originally posted by lorene
Ohhh, were you gonna say what I long to hear: "How YOU doin'?"

<sigh>. One wonders what I am doing on the SDMB at 11:56 on a Saturday night, posting queries about songs that describe one's sex life (my new thread), doesn't one? (I think I exhausted the use of that particular pronoun...) Yes, one does wonder. Particularly after the comment about an SO. Not around, I take it?

So...how YOU doin'? ;)

Well, I hate to disappoint.

Hey, just following up on my "How do you handle loneliness" thread---oh, and hijacking someone else's. Oh, that was you!. I've really gotta start paying more attention to whose threads I'm playing in. Well, I can now say I've posted to at least two of yours. :) Not particularly impressive posts, though. (My "loneliness" post was one word. Poorly, as I recall.)

Originally posted by Contrary
I nix the goatee if it really doesn't match your 'stache. Carpets and drapes should match for both sexes, dontcha think? I do. That's one reason I am currently goatless. No goatee felcher, I!