Miss Moneypenny says......

[Anti Pro]

"Flattery will get you no where, but don't stop trying."

1.What is the nicest compliment that you've ever received, and 2.what is the kindest thing you've ever wanted to tell someone else??

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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient

[crackwise]

The first thing that comes to mind was in college. I was in a mountaining climbing class. There was a beautiful woman who I, when I first was introduced to her, told me straight out "You are so beautiful." I blushed. She was an earthy girl so I'm thinking she wasn't talking just about my looks. That and the fact I'm only average in the looks category.


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~handcrafted signatures since 1975~

[Sue Duhnym]

The nicest compliment I have ever gotten was from my husband, and he didn't say a word.

We were not yet married, but living together. One morning he was getting ready to go to work and I was pretending (hoping) to be asleep. I was buried in covers with one arm hanging out.

He knelt down and kissed the inside of my wrist.

(cue the "awwwwwe")

It was awesome!

The nicest thing I've ever wanted to tell someone? Hard to answer as people are moved by different things, but I'll give it a go. Whenever I tell Mr Duhnym that I'm proud of him, he grins like a kid in a candy store.

::feeling the love::

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A woman needs four animals in her life: A mink in the closet, a Jaguar in the garage, a tiger in the bedroom, and an ass to pay for it all.
---Zsa Zsa Gabor

[Anti Pro]

Well Sue, I hardly need to say 'awwww' then do I?? :D

The nicest thing I ever heard was from my oldest son, DJ. He had just had his eyes operated on (he was 12 years old), and I wanted to be the first person he saw when he opened his eyes.

I was, tiny drops of blood coursed their way down his face. I protested to him, to keep his eyes closed, and he said,
'No, I don't mind, I need to see your face, Mom' (THAT still makes me want to cry!)

The kindest thing, or maybe 'realest' thing I ever told someone, was my best friend, way back, about twelve years ago. I really thought I was dying, and I told my husband before being rushed to the hospital, to please call 'Leta, I need to see her, one more time'. She did come, and of course, I, obviously, didn't die either!!
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Judy

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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient

[Pooch]

My memory does not serve me well, Anti-Pro. Anyhow, recently my wife said I was a good dad. I was gushing. But, she also says I'm not fat--an obvious lie.

[Lexicon]

Well, WallyM7 told me I use words like a surgeon uses a scalpel. That was really cool of him and coming from him that says a lot.

I wanted to tell this kid that he was more of a man than his dad, but didn't want to cause problems.

Ask and I'll tell the whole story, but it's actually kinda boring so I'll leave it out til then.

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"Winners never quit and quitters never win, but those who never win and never quit are idiots."

[purrplebear]

1. see sig line. <still makes me cry>

2. Your love runs through my life, like a deep babbling brook, running happily over the rocks, playing in the sunshine, laughing noisily to itself in pure joy. <I am so blessed>
2.a. You were always there for me, showing in a zillion little ways how much you care for me, you are my treasure, my heart.

Who did I say these too? Do I really need to spell it out?

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You sing in my consciousness like a counterpoint to my life.
L.L.

[Otto]

1. "Nice ass."

2. "Nice ass."



Sorry, just had to cut through the treacle. Getting a bit thick in here.

[Enright3]

First a little background information.
A very close friend of mine discovered he had cancer about a year ago. It’s moving very quickly and over the last year his quality of life has totally deteriorated. On his most recent admission into the ICU, his doctors said it was time to call family and friends. Last Friday his wife called me and asked me to come to DC. As I was packing to go, I was sitting on my bed and just broke down sobbing about how it’s not supposed to happen to this person, etc. To steal a quote from As Good as it Gets, Mike is the kind of person that made me want to be a better person. Anyway, unbeknownst to me, my 17 y/o son witnessed the whole thing.

The best compliment I ever received? It was my teenage son telling my wife he felt so helpless seeing me cry. He said he’d never seen me cry his whole life and felt so helpless because I was usually the one everyone leaned on in tough times, and that I was his role model. When my wife told me, it put a lump in my throat. The teenage kid that I yell and scream and fuss at to do his homework, clean his room, etc. actually looks up to me.

BTW, to those of you who believe in a higher power… Think a kind thought (prayer?)for my friend Mike. A year ago he was 6’2” and healthy, now he barely weighs 100 lbs., and is catatonic from morphine.


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[SwimmingRiddles]

I'll send good thoughts to Mike.

I didn't go to college after high school. I knew I wouldn't take it seriously, and my parents couldn't help me with tuition, so I would be taking out loans to pay for it. So I started working full time. After a year of that, I moved into an apartment with a roommate. A year later, I started taking classes while working full time. I went to a high school in a very wealthy town, and a lot of my friends are loaded. I've always been very jealous of them, the fact that they can just jet to Europe for a year on Daddy's bill. One such friend sent me an e-mail telling me that she is in awe of me, of my strength, of my knowing myself well enough to know that I wouldn't take college seriously as a 17 year old, and that she couldn't imagine having the strenght of character it takes to be completely financially independant from your parents at 18. It made me cry. I was feeling so alone, and so stupid for thinking I could take care of myself, and her e-mail came completely out of the blue.

As for what I want someone to say:
"The highest compliment one can be paid by another human being is to be told: because of what you are, you are essential to my happiness." - Nathan Branden

[Max Torque]

1. Once, in college, a Wesleyan dormmate arranged to have some friends of his come and talk to me. He did this because I proclaimed to him that I was an atheist. Well, they came over, and we talked, and it wasn't an ugly shouting match. I made my case to them that the universe, as I saw it, was explicable in itself and God, though not impossible, was highly unlikely to exist.

When I left, some friends of mine stayed behind to talk to the Wesleyans a bit more. They still didn't really understand why I didn't believe in God, apparently. They asked my friend, Kevin, why I felt like I did. At that point, Kevin gave me the highest compliment I've ever received: "Because he thinks."

2. I wish I could thank Jim Henson for helping me grow up right. There hasn't been a more positive role model for children in our time than Jim and his creations.

[Anti Pro]

Hey Otto, :p You can learn more about someone finding out how they use language than a bajillion 'What are you wearing?' questions will do, other than finding out that they are well dressed!

Pooch, the good dad will last forever in your son's heart, and you have a wife who recognizes it, which is a great deal more important than your size!

Lex, I'd like to hear the story, but you could still tell your friend, that he is quite a man, and leave out the dad comparison, which would focus on the negative rather than the positive, it is still a tremendous gift to give him.

purplebear, :D no need to spell, lucky you!!

Enright3, I don't think there is anything more powerful than showing ourselves vulnerable to our kids, it helps them see beyond us as 'just' parents. I'll be praying for Mike.

SR, that IS a rare thing to recognize your limitations at such a young age! AND, it is a rare thing to have it recognized by your rich friend too. Are you still friends?

Max, that's a wonderful story, showing more about Jim Hensen, than just his amazing talent with puppets. What a incredible spirit.
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Judy

[Falcon]

Nicest thing I've ever heard:

1. Being at a retreat my sophmore year in college and having my friend Pete (who I had just met 2 days before) look at me and say, "When I heard you sing at mass tonight, it was like the voice of an angel."

2. Having a very good friend and someone I admire a lot say two simple words. "You rock."

What I'd like to tell someone: I'd love to be able to tell my godfather and my Aunt Mary how much they meant to me. My dad's family ignores my family at best....and they were the only ones who took a real interest in me. I hope they knew how much I loved them.

[Kat]

1.What is the nicest compliment that you've ever received?
A friend of mine once told me I was the least neurotic person she knew.

2.what is the kindest thing you've ever wanted to tell someone else??
I have no idea. I just included this so you'd know I wasn't ignoring the second part of the question.

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Your Official Cat Goddess since 10/20/99.

Hey, I like that hat, man. They sell men's clothes where you got that?

[ThisYearsGirl]

I'm really, really shy and was pretty dorky and unpopular in high school (and I went to an arts school, too!), but senior year I was voted "Friendliest" in the senior superlatives, and that still means so much to me

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"I was born in this town, I was raised in this town, and I'll probably die in this town. Hell, I've already been hit by a car on this street, twice!"--if you recognize where this quote is from or who said it, please tell me.

[Anti Pro]

Falcon, While I believe it's important to tell people how much they mean to you now , if they are gone, your thoughts of them means a part of them still lives.

SR, it sure sounds like you have a treasure of a friend, but then so does she.

Hey, Kat, :D you probably are VERY un neurotic (NOT that I would be able to tell!) but it's not too late to tell someone nice today!

Your saying you just wrote in the second part of the question, so that I wouldn't think you were ignoring it made me laugh for the first time today, thanks!!

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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient

[Anti Pro]

ThisYearsGirl, hey, first my first time posting when someone else did too!!

That is a neat remembrance to have of your school years, now, you ought to drop remembering yourself as 'dorky', you most likely weren't! :)

[Anti Pro]

You see what happens when I get too excited? I can barely talk, and my fingers will stutter, a tough habit to break! :D

Change the first sentence above to be, 'this is my first time posting at the same time as someone else'......only ONE first, NOT two!!

[SwimmingRiddles]

Anti Pro: Yep, we're still friends. But she is (most predictably) in Europe at the moment. Just turned 21, depressed to be 21 in a country where it doesn't matter. I told her we'd have an old-school slumber party when she came home to celebrate, Dirty Dancing, make-overs, the whole nine. But most importantly, I found a friend who tells you when they are impressed by something you've done, something I've tried to do more when I realised how much it helped me hearing it.

[TwistofFate]

the one that meant the most to me was

"I'd love to have your ability to sit back and laugh at all us sane people"

never understood it fully, but hey, at least she meant it!!


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Id rather be no one than someone with no one

[Anti Pro]

John, http://www.beginbids.com/ubb/smilies/icon25.gif

Well, I'm glad that it was special to you!!
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Judy

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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient

[Anti Pro]

Hey John!
http://www.beginbids.com/ubb/smilies/icon25.gif

Wow!! That was special !!!
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Judy

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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient

[Persephone]

The nicest thing anyone's ever said to me is "I love you, Mommy."

When my daughter first started talking, and she finally had enough of a grip on the English language to say that to me, I just melted.

The nicest things I've wanted to say? Well, there's been some things that I've wanted to say to some people here on this board, but haven't, because it would get too darn mooshy. :)

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This is my new sig. Thank Wally. It was his idea.
"I made my husband join a bridge club. He jumps next Tuesday."

[Rysdad]

I have people say, "How did you get so smart?" I've never known how to answer that.

(Lest that appear conceited, I have to say that many of the posters on this board have given me plenty of "reality checks.")

The nicest thing I think I ever said was when I told a past girlfriend that she wasn't only my lover and companion, but that she was by best friend, and that I was proud of that.

[Rysdad]

Poor phrasing on my part. That should've started, "I've had people say..."

[Anti Pro]

Oh come on Cristi, mooshy isn't bad, as long as it isn't allowed to freeze!! :D

I think some of the best things I've ever heard, or been the most touched by, have come from my two kids.

What a wonderful thing to have said to your girlfriend, Rysdad!
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Judy

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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient

[Irishman]

What a great thread. A fine way to get reflecting on the positives.

1. Nicest compliment received: (isn't it sad that I can't remember any?) How about when I asked Amy to be my prom date and she said yes. (No, not anyone here.) Especially since I was horribly embarrassed and barely managed to ask her after much prodding from my sister. And there was no hesitation on her part, no hemming and hawing, no "I'll think about it."

2. Kindest thing ever wanted to tell someone: To my sister, that she is the dearest person, closest friend, best buddy, person who has been the most supportive and caring in my entire life. Yes, I told her.

[Anti Pro]

It is sad that you can remember anything kind said to you, Irishman. I can't help but wonder why, you're bright, and humorous. A number of your posts have shown sharp insight. Maybe you just need to think harder.

It isn't such a surprise that Amy agreed to go to the dance without any hesitation. She knew a good thing when she saw him! :D

It is great that you think of your sister in such glowing terms, I hope that it never changes for you both.
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Judy

[purrplebear]

Originally posted by Anti Pro:
It is sad that you can remember anything kind said to you, Irishman. I can't help but wonder why, you're bright, and humorous. A number of your posts have shown sharp insight. Maybe you just need to think harder.

It isn't such a surprise that Amy agreed to go to the dance without any hesitation. She knew a good thing when she saw him! :D

It is great that you think of your sister in such glowing terms, I hope that it never changes for you both.
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Judy

Irishman: what she said. Think harder, I'm sure there are many.



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You sing in my consciousness like a counterpoint to my life.
L.L.

[Anti Pro]

mega:
<<<<<given: when i was about ten my mom and i were doing a 'how well do you know your children' thing, in readers digest. one of the questions was 'what, of the gifts you've given your child, is their favourite?' my answer was life.>>>>>
Oh, you made my old mom heart SO proud! I bet your mom was thrilled!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{purplebear}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
You are such a quick encourager, that the people in your life are just blessed by knowing you!
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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient

[mega the roo]

oh, she cried all right.

:)

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if wishes were fishes, we could walk on the ocean.

[purrplebear]

Originally posted by Anti Pro:
{{{{{{{{{{{{{purplebear}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
You are such a quick encourager, that the people in your life are just blessed by knowing you!
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<shuffling her toes in the dirt, looking down> thankee kindly, m'am. :o



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You sing in my consciousness like a counterpoint to my life.
L.L.

[mega the roo]

received: when my brother found out his room-mate/best friend will be moving to vancouver, and that he needed to find somebody else, he called here. of all the friends he has, he thought about me. his little sister. and i swear, i thought he only liked me when he needed someone to talk to.

given: when i was about ten my mom and i were doing a 'how well do you know your children' thing, in readers digest. one of the questions was 'what, of the gifts you've given your child, is their favourite?' my answer was life.



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if wishes were fishes, we could walk on the ocean.

[Anti Pro]

purplebear & mega,
http://www.beginbids.com/ubb/smilies/icon25.gif

[OgreFade]

I can't think of any either..... it makes me sad.

Given... maybe i'm just a shallow person, I've never had the guts to tell anyone..

[Anti Pro]

But, that's the point, Ogre, you have time, today to change that!

I bet there are opportunities all around you, that you're missing to say something kind to someone. We all do.

The only sure cure for being shallow, if you indeed are, is to get your eyes off of yourself, and start thinking of others.

You could do better, because I believe you are better. :D
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Judy

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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient

[purrplebear]

Originally posted by OgreFade:
I can't think of any either..... it makes me sad.

Given... maybe i'm just a shallow person, I've never had the guts to tell anyone..

Ogre, you have made me laugh out loud a few times in the short time you've been on the board. I agree with Judy, and know you can do it. Take heart. Smile!



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You sing in my consciousness like a counterpoint to my life.
L.L.

[mega the roo]

i've been thinking a lot about this, and came up with another of each, so...

received: (i've talked about this before, but...) i was working the drive-thru at burger king when a family of four came to the window. i simply went through the process of doing what i was supposed to do when the man totally made my day. he picked up a dozen roses and explained to me that they'd spent the day, as a family, looking for twelve people who they believed deserved them and were yet to find anyone they felt fit to receive. then the man reached through the window with the roses in his hand, and asked me to promise that i'd not give any away, because i had earned them.

given: two years ago for my mom's birthday, instead of buying her a card, i decided to make one. on the cover was a picture of me and an arrow pointing to my mouth, and beside the arrow it said, 'recognize this smile?' and on the inside was a picture of my mom, with the same arrow, and it said, 'looks a lot like this one, doesn't it? thanks mom, for everything.' she carried that card around with her for days.

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"Organs gross me out. That's organs, not orgasms."
-the wallster

[Anti Pro]

It is late, and I wasn't going to come back into SDMB, but I checked my e mails, hoping for one from my son telling me he had come back home safely from an overnight weekend.

I did have an e mail, but it was from here, so with a somber heart I came in, and you two, mega and purplebear have posted and put a smile on my face !!

That's a wonderful story about your mom, mega and the family that gave you the roses,..MY kind of people, on the look out for good!! {{{{{{{{{{lil mega}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

And purplebear, what can I say, you're a real encourager! Bless your sweet heart! :D
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Judy

[OgreFade]

I dunno, maybe I just ignore the things people say to me, that are supposed to encourage me.

Most of the time I think its because the things they say, couldn't be true.

I'm tall, thats a good thing. I can reach the top shelf most of the time :)

Just a little depressed I guess, I go to a college with 6000+ females here. None of them like me :( It happens to be my fault I gather. Perhaps that is where it stems from.

This summer sometime, I finally got that date.. hopefully a good one. Its the girl I've had a crush on for a while, she goes to school on the east coast so i gotta wait for summer break.

Maybe she'll see something in me, I figure she might, but I don't think I could make her happy.

Hahah!! I've ranted, oopsy. I should have maybe saved that for my web page.. oh well...

My heart bleeds.. hopefully enough to keep the blood moving in my body :)

Have a good day..

Today I sent mail to my parents to thank them for being good to me.


OgreFade

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Eagles may sore in the sky,
but weasels never get sucked into jet engines.

[Irishman]

Anti Pro said:
It is sad that you can remember anything kind said to you, Irishman. I can't help but wonder why, you're bright, and humorous. A number of your posts have shown sharp insight. Maybe you just need to think harder.

I didn't mean to imply I've never had anything good said, just that I cannot seem to recall them. On the other hand I seem really good at recalling some of the negative things. I really need a mental inversion.

Okay, not vying for the best thing ever said, but something that made my day. The other day in a thread on the board about a new poster looking for advice, Kat listed my name out of the blue.

HEY! Who should I know here??? (http://boards.straightdope.com/ubb/Forum4/HTML/006642.html)

[purrplebear]

Judy, Thank you, you set a great example. :o

mega, I love those stories! Thank you for sharing them.

OgreFade, that's what I believed for most of my life. 'Tain't so. You are special. You are worthy. And, you only need that one right girl, the others just don't know what they're missing. That's great that you are telling yor parents thanks!

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You sing in my consciousness like a counterpoint to my life.
L.L.

That's my name, not a description. I am neither purple nor a bear. Okay, so I'm purple.<a true Wally original!>

[purrplebear]

*sigh* I tried, I really did. Darn pesky typos keep sneaking in. it should say 'your parents'

Irishman, hello again. Keep thinking, I'm sure there are more of them for you to remember.

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You sing in my consciousness like a counterpoint to my life.
L.L.

That's my name, not a description. I am neither purple nor a bear. Okay, so I'm purple.<a true Wally original!>

[Anti Pro]

OgreFade:
<<<<<Most of the time I think its because the things they say, couldn't be true.>>>

Hon, why would people lie telling you something kind? Most people are too busy in their own lives to risk lying to someone to encourage them. Don't shut your heart down so early in life, okay?

<<<<<I'm tall, thats a good thing. I can reach the top shelf most of the time >>>>>>>

This isn't a 'small' thing (teeny pun, here!) Last night at Wal Mart, I had to ask a young man if he would reach something on the top shelf, he smiled and did so. I then told him, I could reach the low stuff for him, he laughed and said he would keep me in mind. Tallness can be a very helpful thing!!

<<<<<<<Just a little depressed I guess, I go to a college with 6000+ females here. None of them like me It happens to be my fault I gather. Perhaps that is where it stems from.>>>>

Maybe it is the mom in me that gets so touched my young people, you remind me of my son. He's been rejected by a few people at the Christian university that he goes to, and it's been a very tough semester because of it.

These times can be really lonely, and people band together to fight that off, but sometimes they will turn against those they feel uncomfortable around, whatever their reasons might be. It is also a time for you (and DJ, my son) to decide whether what others do should determine so much of how you feel and look at yourselves.

Do you realize how much power you give those other people, how worthy would someone have to be, to be given that??

Where you are in your life, you'll never be again, and you can make it better, by just deciding to. Cultivate the positive things that you see, and make them your focus, not what others say or do. That is their focus don't let it be yours too

Irishman: says a lot about how cool Kat is!!
:cool:

purplebear, who is neither purple nor a bear (I just love that sig!!) you are an ultimate smiley face, girl!!
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Judy




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"Um, according to who? Nothing more than a high brow troll, though occasionally the bi polar personality swung in a constructive direction on innocuous topics." Omniscient