Term for a male "mistress"?

My friend stumped me with this one:

When a married man has a woman on the side, she's referred to as his mistress. What is (if there is at all) the gender specific term for a man having an affair with a married woman?

We tossed out everything from "lucky" to "F*ck on the side" to "gigolo" but weren't satisfied with them.

So...any suggestions?

"Kept Man"
"Personal trainer"
"Boy Toy"

How 'bout boy toy?

Women of nobility referred to the male counterpart to a mistress as a "favorite".

I vote with Nickrz; I think the term is simply "lovers."

-Melin

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I think the official term is "paramour" but I don't like it as much as mistress because it's easy to misinterpret. I mean it's not as well known that it refers to a married person's lover.

Lucky bastard?

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Consort.

My aunt Mila has one. He's twenty-seven years younger than she is, and right now they're living in Prague. He's a Greek shaygets named Stavros. We all call him Aunt Mila's consort, except my mother's mother, who just calls him "the shaygets."

Aunt Mila has money, because her first husband cleared a bundle importing and exporting. He figured out back in the 70's (or thereabouts) that Sony would be big, bought stock, and the rest is history.


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According to Webster's, "consort" means an associate or spouse (though that's not how I always understood the word); but "paramour" is defined as "an illicit lover", which sounds pretty close to what I think you mean.

I knew, I knew, that reading tawdry historical romances would come in handy some day!

From Merriam-Webster
Main Entry: ci·cis·beo
Pronunciation: "chE-ch&z-'bA-(")O
Function: noun
Inflected Form(s): plural ci·cis·bei /-'bA-"E/
Etymology: Italian
Date: 1718
: LOVER, GALLANT

Note: in all the romances I read, this word is used for a woman's paramour, when "mistress" would be used for a man's paramour.

HOW do you pronounce it? I couldn't make heads or tails of that. Great word though, I'm thinking of getting one myself and that will come in very helpful. ;)

How 'bout "Personal Stud"? :D or

Recreational Gentleman
Personal Escort




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Yeah, boy toy certainly works as a slang/vernacular term (as do pool boy and gardener, nyuck, nyuck) but, it seems to me that mistress is pretty much a formal term and that there should be some corresponding term for a male lover out-of-wedlock.

Well now, wait a moment. A "mistress" as I understand the term is a woman supported by a married man in return for love, understanding, and (ahem) sexual gratification outside of his marriage.

But your question alludes to a man who is simply "having an affair with" a married woman. These are two quite different scenarios. The first of my examples applies only to the male equivalent of "mistress." The other two cross the spectrum.

Nickrz:

a "mistress" as I understand the term is a woman supported by a man in return for...

Well, o.k. then the formal male counterpart to a mistress (by the above definition) would be a gigolo which the crummy Merriam Webster Dictionary here at work defines as "a man supported by a woman for the purposes of blah, blah, blah".

So, this muddies up the water a bit. What then are the formal terms for lovers outside of marriage (other than adulterer and adulteress) who are not supported by his or her paramour?

"Lover(s)"

El Mariachi Loco is a translator, and if he sees this, he might help.

In Mexico, we call a male "mistress": Sancho, and Gonzalez.

The term "boy toy" refers to a woman who has many male LOVERS. When Madonna was young and wore all the rosaries and crosses, she had a belt that said "boy toy", referring to herself. I think when speaking of a man, the term would be "toy boy".

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Hm. I guess "mister" just won't do.
How about "side boy"?
"My husband's out, so I'm inviting my side boy over."

Your Quadell

Having been in this unfortunate situation in the past (ie, seeing a man who happened to be married) I can tell you we referred to each other as "lover." I would occasionally joke about being his mistress, which he took great exception to.

It's pronounced chee-chuz-BAY-oh. Where the u is actually a schwa.