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Johnny L.A.
06-11-2006, 11:22 AM
As a straight male, I'm not going to be swallowing semen; so maybe this is a double-standard. But why do so many women not want to swallow? My ex-fiancée thought it was unhygenic. Others simply said no. Receiving fellatio, but knowing it won't be to completion is a bit of a turn-off. The alternatives are to use a condom, or to make a bit of a mess.

Slightly related: Do you mind if the guy makes suggestions about how to fellate better?

Misnomer
06-11-2006, 11:53 AM
Gotta love the occasional themes around here!

I've always been a swallower, so I have no insight into why a woman might refuse. I've heard that semen is very high in calories, so maybe stop dating supermodels? :D Quite frankly, a claim that swallowing is "unhygienic" sounds kind of hypocritical and/or ignorant to me (unless she also made you wear a condom during blowjobs). How could something from inside the body be any more or less hygienic than a penis? I don' geddit.

I don't mind suggestions about my technique, in fact I usually solicit them. Different guys like different things, and I definitely want to make sure I'm doing what works for the dick that's in my mouth. Plus, the sooner he gets off the better it is for my jaw. ;)

Menocchio
06-11-2006, 12:08 PM
I'm a straight guy, but I can totally understand why someone wouldn't want a viscous wad of hot semen shot into their throats.

Because it's a bodily fluid, and they don't liek the taste or texture.

I'm sure, at least some of the time, there's some sexual politics at play here. Refusing to swallow is asserting some control and boundaries over the relationship.

ZipperJJ
06-11-2006, 12:16 PM
I don't like the taste of it. It's hot and VERY salty. For me, it burns my throat (maybe because I'm a smoker, or have my tonsils still?) I'm not a fan of salty foods or hot drinks so...

If you're wondering what it tastes like...I've always thought it tasted like that salty soup you get at Chinese restaurants. Miso?

I love getting instruction on how to perform better. When I'm doing it, my main goal is to get the guy off. It's a control thing. I also can't do it for very long stretches because I have TMJ (bad jaw) so I mix in a lot of hand action too, and every guy wants something different. So it's best to tell me.

I don't know why I am so readily sharing all of this on a message board. heh.

Cyn
06-11-2006, 12:19 PM
I swallow, and I find instruction in how to better please my partner helpful. Sometime I want things slower/faster/harder/moretotheleft, and I appreciate my input being taken under consideration.
I don't consider semen unhygenic anymore than I feel my own secretions are unhygenic.

Telperien
06-11-2006, 12:20 PM
It doesn't bother me a bit to swallow. I kind of like it. The times I've swallowed, though, it didn't have that much of a taste, though, due to the diet or body chemistry of the guys involved, I guess.

Other people have told me that they don't like the taste or that they just plain find the idea gross.

Johnny L.A.
06-11-2006, 12:22 PM
OT
Talk nerdy to me
I have that on my bumper. With a Mac apple next to it.

stuyguy
06-11-2006, 12:26 PM
Gotta mention that when I read this thread just now the big headline (headline?)in the banner ad at the bottom read, "MAKE YOUR DONATION NOW."

(It was for hurricane relief, but still...)

Telperien
06-11-2006, 12:26 PM
I forgot the second bit of the OP. As far as that goes, I welcome it. I've not performed fellatio that often, due to lack of opportunity (on people I'd actually want to blow--plenty of creeps seem to want it from me, though) and I still don't really feel like I know what I'm doing. It's a great help if the receiver lets me know what he wants, as long as he's polite. I'd do the same if I were the receiver.

Dunderman
06-11-2006, 12:32 PM
I'm a straight guy, but I can totally understand why someone wouldn't want a viscous wad of hot semen shot into their throats.Same here. What I don't understand, however, is why it seems to matter to so many men.

Misnomer
06-11-2006, 12:47 PM
I'm a straight guy, but I can totally understand why someone wouldn't want a viscous wad of hot semen shot into their throats.You make it sound much more disgusting than it actually is -- not to mention that the entire act of swallowing only takes 1-2 seconds. :) Your statement actually reminds me a little of some of the women in the "Ladies, do you like reciving oral sex? (TMI) (http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=375159)" thread who don't or haven't liked it because they think their vaginas are "gross."

I don't like the taste of it. I've heard that from other women, but forgot about it. :smack:

It's definitely not a treat for the taste buds, but I've never found it so bad that I wouldn't swallow. Though it is true that what a guy eats/drinks can affect the taste.

Susie Derkins
06-11-2006, 12:52 PM
My first boyfriend's semen had a horrible taste. I don't know if it was because of all the beer he drank or what, but I rarely swallowed for him because I always feared I might gag. Very acidic, kind of....skunky? After him, any other guy tasted like ice cream topping, especially my last boyfriend. Healthy eater, lots of fruits. Sweet.

I kind of understand why it's a big deal for some guys, because I love receiving just as much as giving and if a man got me right up to the edge, took his mouth off of me, and diddled me with his finger to finish me off I would feel a little let down. ;)

Dunderman
06-11-2006, 12:56 PM
I kind of understand why it's a big deal for some guys, because I love receiving just as much as giving and if a man got me right up to the edge, took his mouth off of me, and diddled me with his finger to finish me off I would feel a little let down. ;)I was talking about swallowing, not oral sex to completion. You can perform oral sex to completion without swallowing.

FilmGeek
06-11-2006, 01:03 PM
I don't like to swallow because it makes my throat hurt. Plus, it's not a pleasant taste, to me.

DianaG
06-11-2006, 01:07 PM
I can understand why you might not want someone to come in your mouth, but once it's there, you might as well swallow. If you find it unpleasant tasting, why keep it in there until you get to the bathroom, or grab a big enough wad of tissue to spit it out?

Alice The Goon
06-11-2006, 01:13 PM
I don't swallow simply because I'm a gagger, and I'm a super-taster. I don't like the taste of it, and I know that I'd start gagging the second it hit my mouth. I know I would. Not a control issue at all; simply a desire to not upchuck during an intimate moment.

Susie Derkins
06-11-2006, 01:25 PM
I was talking about swallowing, not oral sex to completion. You can perform oral sex to completion without swallowing.

Sorry, do you mean spitting it out? To me that's just all of the flavor with twice the insult.

Least Original User Name Ever
06-11-2006, 01:49 PM
Um. Susie Derkins, stop replying. The more you send replies into the sex threads, the more crushes you're going to develop.



My sperm count is so high....

How high is it??

It's so high, my girlfriend has to chew before swallowing!


(rimshot)

Seren
06-11-2006, 02:04 PM
Well, there are a couple choices for me, assuming oral to completion:

1. Swallow and gag, complete with eyes tearing up or
2. Spit quietly and in another room where the guy can't hear

Personally, the second one seems way less offensive and so that's what I do.

I've just never been able to swallow without choking, hacking, gagging, eyes turning red and tearing up, nose running, etc. Oh, and I shudder, like I've had a strong drink or really disgusting cough syrup. Semen just has such an awful texture.

Indygrrl
06-11-2006, 02:09 PM
I don't spit or swallow. He can either shoot it across the room or not get a blow job at all. If it gets in my mouth, I'll throw up. It's really that simple. I'd rather keep him hard and have him get off during actual sex.

Tons of women will say they love doing blow jobs, but I'm not one of them. Maybe on his birthday and Xmas or something, but not as a part of my daily repetoire.

DiosaBellissima
06-11-2006, 02:16 PM
I have a lot of friends that say that they'd rather spit because it "tastes icky." That boggles my mind.

Much like DianaG said, it makes no sense to spit it out-- it gets all over your mouth. As I see it, if you're doing it right, the cum is going to be in the back of your throat, so just swallow. If I spit it out, then I'm spitting it back into my mouth and THEN I can taste it. Ick.

Avarie537
06-11-2006, 02:20 PM
I'm a spitter. It doesn't taste good. Frankly, I'm going to be at the sink momentarily anyway (to get hubby a warm washcloth for clean-up) or we're in the shower to begin with, so I just spit while the water's running. And he won't kiss me after a blow job until I've at least gargled with Listerine - he doesn't like the taste either, so it doesn't seem to bother him at all.

Anastasaeon
06-11-2006, 02:35 PM
I love giving blow jobs, but I'm only a sometime swallower. I've volunteered, and sometimes it is welcome, but sometimes guys like to do different things; be it quick insertion to finish, or an aim-and-fire (I don't care where it goes, but do NOT get it on my face or hair. I may be known around here for my love of "porn style" sex, but the love and respect must be part of it, and that kind of shit will never go over well with me.)
Anyway. My first ex had really, really disgusting tasting semen. I tried, oh lord, I tried. But it was really skunky. My last ex had very little flavour at all, and was easy to do. My husband's is kind of sweet. I don't know what makes one taste different than another, but it makes all the difference in whether I'll swallow or not.
It's not hard to "finish" a blow job without swallowing at all, once you get to learn your partner's responses better. There's no cookie-cutter way to go about it. My philosophy has always been: "I'll try anything twice." The first time or two may be rough around the edges, but as you get used to each other, you learn what you can do that ends with both people happy - swallowing or not.

Lynne_kilii
06-11-2006, 05:18 PM
Out of my friends who I've discussed this with, only one says she won't do it, because oral sex grosses her out. The rest of us think she's dumb. Actual reflexes and vomiting aside, ewww factor just seems rude. Anyway, I enjoy the feeling, and the taste (most of the time).

Dunderman
06-11-2006, 05:24 PM
I can understand why you might not want someone to come in your mouth, but once it's there, you might as well swallow. If you find it unpleasant tasting, why keep it in there until you get to the bathroom, or grab a big enough wad of tissue to spit it out?Sorry, do you mean spitting it out? To me that's just all of the flavor with twice the insult.You're both preaching to the converted (although I'm entirely unclear on what you mean by "insult", Susie); I also think you might as well swallow. But if a partner of mine does blowjobs to completion but doesn't swallow, it's no skin off my nose. I don't care, and what I've been trying to say in this thread is that I don't understand why it seems to be such a big deal to so many guys.

samclem
06-11-2006, 05:46 PM
... and what I've been trying to say in this thread is that I don't understand why it seems to be such a big deal to so many guys.

Hey! They're guys. :)

Misnomer
06-11-2006, 06:07 PM
As I see it, if you're doing it right, the cum is going to be in the back of your throat, so just swallow.Amen!

Man With a Cat
06-11-2006, 06:20 PM
Well, a couple new secret Doper crushes out of this thread, that's for sure..... ;)

mrald
06-11-2006, 07:10 PM
Swallow it honey, didn't you mother teach you to clean up after yourself....

Least Original User Name Ever
06-11-2006, 07:21 PM
Well, a couple new secret Doper crushes out of this thread, that's for sure..... ;)


Amen, brother.

AAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamen.

(or A-wom-en)

A.R. Cane
06-11-2006, 07:38 PM
The love of my life was an expert fellatrix and she loved her work. Not infrequently she would climax immediately after me, she was that turned on by the act. She had an incredible libido and she wasn't afraid to use it. Swallow? She wouldn't think of letting it go to waste. What a woman, I've never experienced another who could begin to compare w/ her, in bed or out.

QuickSilver
06-11-2006, 08:37 PM
I've always been a swallower, so I have no insight into why a woman might refuse. I've heard that semen is very high in calories, so maybe stop dating supermodels? :D

I don't mind suggestions about my technique, in fact I usually solicit them. Different guys like different things, and I definitely want to make sure I'm doing what works for the dick that's in my mouth. Plus, the sooner he gets off the better it is for my jaw. ;)

How you d.....

...nope... better not.

:p :D

Misnomer
06-11-2006, 10:21 PM
...nope... better not. You know you don't want to go there. ;)

boytyperanma
06-11-2006, 10:33 PM
I like to swallow. I will not do so if I'm just hooking up no cumming in my mouth is allowed in those enconters. Snowballing is ok with me too.

John Carter of Mars
06-11-2006, 10:43 PM
I definitely want to make sure I'm doing what works for the dick that's in my mouth.

Best. Sig line. EVAH!

Mirror Image egamI rorriM
06-12-2006, 02:17 AM
I have not ever actually given a blowjob to the end. It seems to go: handjob->blowjob->handjob->sex. If the blowjob is not part of foreplay, then it's a sort of handjob/blowjob, and I don't mind semen on my skin and hair. Condoms for handjob/blowjobs make it less fun. Safer, though.

Dubious Weasle
06-12-2006, 03:59 AM
. I don't care, and what I've been trying to say in this thread is that I don't understand why it seems to be such a big deal to so many guys.

Probably because the alternatives often carry with them an implication of "you're icky." It can be a bit of a mood killer just as if a guy made faces or rushed to the bathroom for mouthwash afterwards.

Some people wouldn't be bothered by it but it's not surprising that many would feel it as a rejection.

irishgirl
06-12-2006, 04:09 AM
Always swallowed. To be honest the idea of spitting is more repulsive to me, and a cup of coffee or a glass of juice will usually sort out any lingering taste issues.

If I'm not in the mood to swallow, we'll finish with sex, or we'll do something else instead (I've found that my husband quite likes the visual effect of a "pearl necklace").

It's something he likes, and I love him, so I do what I can to make him happy. I don't have a strong gag reflex, and the taste is never that bad, so I don't see why I shouldn't.

Plus...nothing makes me feel quite as powerful as giving him oral...

dnooman
06-12-2006, 04:45 AM
The first time I got head, she spit. I felt like I made her sick, and I felt really bad. Not a great post-orgasm feeling (still not her fault though).

The next time she swallowed (with vigor I might add), and I almost went blind. If she had asked me or a kidney 2 minutes after, I'd have offered the second one as a tip. Women that stop giving BJs fter marriage are like dog owners that drop the leash and just shout at their dogs to come home.

The meek shall inherit the Earth, but the women that suck out every last drop, shall own all of the property tax-free. They deserve it too.

Least Original User Name Ever
06-12-2006, 11:43 AM
I like to swallow. I will not do so if I'm just hooking up no cumming in my mouth is allowed in those enconters. Snowballing is ok with me too.


Okay, I've gotta say it..

How you doin?

JohnBckWLD
06-12-2006, 01:44 PM
I have not ever actually given a blowjob to the end...By strict interpretation, that's techically not a blowjob. Seeing that the receiver isn't blowing anything from the object that's being orally stimulated -and- the giver most likely isn't using air to inflate a him; your technique would likely be more accurately defined as oral sex, followed by other forms of stimulation.

Rebecca DiMwitter
06-12-2006, 02:52 PM
LOVE giving head! ALWAYS swallow. Does the trick for me too, at least as far as being a huge turn-on damn near to the point of orgasm. I just get off on the control, the ability to give something so intimate to someone I love, the immense satisfaction I see and hear from my b/f while blowing him...outside penetration, fellatio's the perfect sex act from my standpoint. Wouldn't want to miss a thing about it, especially the taste.

--Beck

Omegaman
06-12-2006, 06:28 PM
Straight male here. I have no opinion for or against, as long as she is not trying to decide while it's coming out.

Least Original User Name Ever
06-12-2006, 06:33 PM
LOVE giving head! ALWAYS swallow. Does the trick for me too, at least as far as being a huge turn-on damn near to the point of orgasm. I just get off on the control, the ability to give something so intimate to someone I love, the immense satisfaction I see and hear from my b/f while blowing him...outside penetration, fellatio's the perfect sex act from my standpoint. Wouldn't want to miss a thing about it, especially the taste.

--Beck



Um. I love you?

Telperien
06-12-2006, 06:56 PM
Anyone besides Least Original User Name Ever feeling the need to keep coming back to this thread for cheap thrills?




:D

Least Original User Name Ever
06-12-2006, 07:31 PM
Well, when it gets bumped back to the top of the thread stack, I can't NOT click on it. If I've responded to a thread once and someone pushes it back up to the top, I invariably click on it again.

It's the siren's call!








(besides, I've only had 3..okay, now 4 responses in a threat about swallowing cum that's garnered 44 responses. I'm only 1/11th of the responses! okay, so I'm not exactly DISproving your point...sheesh...)

Telperien
06-12-2006, 07:38 PM
Well, when it gets bumped back to the top of the thread stack, I can't NOT click on it. If I've responded to a thread once and someone pushes it back up to the top, I invariably click on it again.

It's the siren's call!








(besides, I've only had 3..okay, now 4 responses in a threat about swallowing cum that's garnered 44 responses. I'm only 1/11th of the responses! okay, so I'm not exactly DISproving your point...sheesh...)

You could just subscribe, though.

jjimm
06-12-2006, 07:38 PM
In my entire life and 20-something sexual partners, I've had but one girlfriend who swallowed. And what a difference that made. It's not a dominance thing, it just feels incredible. All the others have faded in my memory, but Gina is still there. She gave me the best oral sex I ever had.

Sigh.

Least Original User Name Ever
06-12-2006, 08:08 PM
You could just subscribe, though.


Um....subscribe?

Telperien
06-12-2006, 08:17 PM
Um....subscribe?

To the thread, and then it'll be in your User Control panel when there are new posts.

catsix
06-12-2006, 08:31 PM
I always swallow.

It just doesn't seem like a job well done unless I see it all the way through to the last drop.

And I like the taste.

All guys should give blowjob direction. How else is one to know what they like best? Do they like to have their balls licked, sucked or rubbed? Deep throat or not? Some like to fuck the mouth, some like it when the girl gags, some just lay back and take it. They're all different. Never know what will really get a guy off until he says so.

The whole idea is to make it mind blowing for him, and that's what I set out to do.

dnooman
06-12-2006, 08:37 PM
I always swallow.

It just doesn't seem like a job well done unless I see it all the way through to the last drop.

And I like the taste.

All guys should give blowjob direction. How else is one to know what they like best? Do they like to have their balls licked, sucked or rubbed? Deep throat or not? Some like to fuck the mouth, some like it when the girl gags, some just lay back and take it. They're all different. Never know what will really get a guy off until he says so.

The whole idea is to make it mind blowing for him, and that's what I set out to do.
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Excalibre
06-12-2006, 08:58 PM
I always swallow.

It just doesn't seem like a job well done unless I see it all the way through to the last drop.

And I like the taste.

All guys should give blowjob direction. How else is one to know what they like best? Do they like to have their balls licked, sucked or rubbed? Deep throat or not? Some like to fuck the mouth, some like it when the girl gags, some just lay back and take it. They're all different. Never know what will really get a guy off until he says so.

The whole idea is to make it mind blowing for him, and that's what I set out to do.
Sweetie, I'm glad you're dedicated, but you're not obligated to gag yourself on his cock . . .

At any rate, having both given and received blowjobs, I have got to pity every straight boy out there with a girl who won't swallow. Pulling out just means your orgasm is going to suck (no pun intended.) Giving oral sex but not swallowing is like wrapping empty boxes at Christmas.

Ludy
06-12-2006, 08:58 PM
I have to say that I am not a swallower

I tried a few times but I was nauseous afterwards. It may have been a mental thing, but I am the type of person who thinks two percent milk is too thick.

I have a problem with saliva too. I gag whenever I see anybody spit, so sorry fella's I'll make you cum, I just won't eat it.

A.R. Cane
06-12-2006, 09:01 PM
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Perhaps an unfortunate choice of words. I think a simple, heartfelt. "thank you" would suffice.

Anastasaeon
06-12-2006, 09:15 PM
Damn. I must have been with some weird guys. They didn't all want me to swallow, which I will do willingly (even with skunk-guy - he wanted to see it happen, so there was no way out of the taste except to hurry on out of the room and get a drink/wash up). Sometimes they like it, my husband does, and hey, no problem, I love it. But I've had many, many more requests to either finish off in a... different way. My husband has only recently come to prefer it, claiming that no girl has ever gotten him off with a blowjob. Until he met me... *ego explodes* ;)

I'm with catsix, too. It's supposed to be what works for him. And it should be enjoyable - women wouldn't want to be gone down on and have her man act grossed out. I've had some terrible cunnilingists... however, as always, communication is the key. The guy did improve, eventually (he was quite stubborn and informed me that he read about it on the internet, and I was supposed to be enjoying it. Uh. Okay. So I guess his preference overruled... um.. mine.) It should go both ways. I've had the best results when listening to my partner, and learning what he liked best. Oddly, it wasn't always swallowing. Whatever works.

Misnomer
06-12-2006, 11:07 PM
Best. Sig line. EVAH!LOL!

The next time she swallowed (with vigor I might add), and I almost went blind.And what a difference that made. It's not a dominance thing, it just feels incredible.I never realized that the orgasm could feel so different depending on whether the girl swallows ... cool!

he was quite stubborn and informed me that he read about it on the internet, and I was supposed to be enjoying itThat immediately made me think of the song "Read About Love (http://lyrics.rare-lyrics.com/R/Richard-Thompson/Read-About-Love.html)" by Richard Thompson -- the chorus goes:

So I read about love-read it in a magazine
Read about love-Cosmo and Seventeen
Read about love-In the back of a Hustler, Hustler, Hustler
So I-know what makes girls sigh
And I-know why girls cry
So don't tell me I don't understand
What makes a woman and what makes a man
I've never been to heaven but at lest
I've read about loveI had to fire up iTunes and listen to it -- it's playing right now. :)

Excalibre
06-12-2006, 11:48 PM
I never realized that the orgasm could feel so different depending on whether the girl swallows ... cool!
The difference, for me, is that you want stimulation to continue during the orgasm (though of course people's milage may vary on that point.) If the dick comes out of the mouth, it's a big letdown.

mhendo
06-13-2006, 02:29 AM
You're both preaching to the converted (although I'm entirely unclear on what you mean by "insult", Susie); I also think you might as well swallow. But if a partner of mine does blowjobs to completion but doesn't swallow, it's no skin off my nose. I don't care, and what I've been trying to say in this thread is that I don't understand why it seems to be such a big deal to so many guys.I don't get it either.

I particularly don't get the "It feels like rejection" argument about spitting. If a woman has just given me a blow job to orgasm, i'm not exactly overcome with feelings of rejection.

I can sort of understand...The difference, for me, is that you want stimulation to continue during the orgasm (though of course people's milage may vary on that point.) If the dick comes out of the mouth, it's a big letdown....but that's never really been an issue for me. Also, if she knows what she's doing, continued manipulation with the hand can be just as good as the mouth.

dnooman
06-13-2006, 03:19 AM
I don't get it either.

I particularly don't get the "It feels like rejection" argument about spitting. If a woman has just given me a blow job to orgasm, i'm not exactly overcome with feelings of rejection.

I can sort of understand......but that's never really been an issue for me. Also, if she knows what she's doing, continued manipulation with the hand can be just as good as the mouth.
So, have you experienced both a spiting and swallowing BJ? If not, you're not qualified to answer.

marshmallow
06-13-2006, 03:29 AM
A mouth is warm and wet and fun...better than a hand. If you can cum in her mouth and continue to receive stimulation throughout and past the orgasm then it feels 100x better. It's pretty simple and I'm surprised so many females don't understand this.

This is also why pulling out during lovemaking is very difficult for most men...

Taber
06-13-2006, 04:08 AM
That immediately made me think of the song "Read About Love (http://lyrics.rare-lyrics.com/R/Richard-Thompson/Read-About-Love.html)" by Richard Thompson -- the chorus goes:

I had to fire up iTunes and listen to it -- it's playing right now. :)


Funny, it reminded me of Genesis's Counting out time (http://www.lyricsdomain.com/7/genesis/counting_out_time.html)

sample lyrics:

Found a girl I wanted to date,
Thought I'd better get it straight.
Went to buy a book before it's too late.
Don't leave nothing to fate.
And I have studied every line, every page in the book,
And now I've got the real thing here, I'm gonna take a look, take a look.

This is Rael!

I'm counting out time, hoping it goes like I planned it,
'cos I understand it. Look! I've found the hotspots, Figs 1-9.
-still counting out time, got my finger on the button,
"Don't say nuttin-just lie there still
And I'll get you turned on just fine."
Erongenous zones I love you.
Without you, what would a poor boy do?

....

I'm counting out time, reaction none to happy,
Please don't slap me,
I'm a red blooded male and the book said I could not fail.
I'm counting out time, I got unexpected distress from my mistress,
I'll get my money back from the bookstore right away.

catsix
06-13-2006, 07:05 AM
Excalibre said:
Sweetie, I'm glad you're dedicated, but you're not obligated to gag yourself on his cock . . .


Well when there's a stroke where it goes down wrong and just hits the back of the throat or the tonsils or something, there's usually a little bit of a reaction. It's not a big deal though, I mean not like I'd throw up or anything. Some dudes that like to get the hip action going could do damage if adjustments aren't made so that they can do that but you're not having your throat ripped apart because they have too forceful and deep of a stroke, so them I give some guidance to.

mhendo said:
I particularly don't get the "It feels like rejection" argument about spitting. If a woman has just given me a blow job to orgasm, i'm not exactly overcome with feelings of rejection.


I would be pissed off if a guy jumped up from giving me oral and went to the bathroom to go use some Listerine or a toothbrush or something. I might even wonder if something was wrong with me that would make him think that I was disgusting. It would be a big time insult, and I'm not willing to insult a guy that way.

Also I haven't met a guy yet who didn't like having the sucking continue through his entire orgasm, and some of them like the sucking to continue until they go soft.

Dunderman
06-13-2006, 08:22 AM
So, have you experienced both a spiting and swallowing BJ?I have. There is no difference in the sensations. How could there possibly be? The spitting or swallowing takes place after the act is over. It's like saying sex feels worse if you eat eggs for breakfast the next morning.

mhendo
06-13-2006, 09:47 AM
So, have you experienced both a spiting and swallowing BJ? If not, you're not qualified to answer.To the extent that your hostile, stupid response requires an answer, yes i have. I'd also be happy to describe it for you, so you know what one feels like.I would be pissed off if a guy jumped up from giving me oral and went to the bathroom to go use some Listerine or a toothbrush or something. I might even wonder if something was wrong with me that would make him think that I was disgusting. It would be a big time insult, and I'm not willing to insult a guy that way.Yeah, because the only alternative to swallowing is to jump up and run to the bathroom for Listerine.

I never said that i don't like the swallowing blowjob. I do. I'm just somewhat perplexed at the obsession some guys have with the whole swallowing thing. In my experience, a woman who knows what she's doing can make it feel just as great either way.

D_Odds
06-13-2006, 10:12 AM
*sigh*
How do I surreptitiously get this thread in front of Mrs. D_Odds?

Spit or swallow, I'm not picky. My ego is sufficiently huge that the little things like that don't matter.

Uncommon Sense
06-13-2006, 10:53 AM
In my entire life and 20-something sexual partners, I've had but one girlfriend who swallowed. And what a difference that made. It's not a dominance thing, it just feels incredible. All the others have faded in my memory, but Gina is still there. She gave me the best oral sex I ever had.

Sigh.
Now, if you weren't all the way over in England I'd have some serious questions about this Gina girl. Unless she's spent time in the Midwest....

Excalibre
06-13-2006, 10:54 AM
Also I haven't met a guy yet who didn't like having the sucking continue through his entire orgasm, and some of them like the sucking to continue until they go soft.
Exactly. If you want to jump out of bed and go brush your teeth right afterwards, it sorta wrecks the mood but it doesn't alter the sensation of the orgasm. But on the other hand, if you are willing to sit that long with semen in your mouth, I have to wonder what the point of spitting is.

Susie Derkins
06-13-2006, 10:55 AM
Every man is different. If you're not offended by having a woman spit out your semen as if were noxious, that's great. You're probably very open-minded and secure with yourself, and can accept it as her preference. Not all men are like that, though, including some that I have dated.

Another reason I swallow is that if I am blowing a guy and he comes in my mouth and I don't intend to swallow it, what do I do with it while I let him ride out his orgasm? Even though it is sometimes referred to as a "wad", I can't tuck it between my cheek and gum as I let the last delicious moments play out for him. I don't want my mouth to abandon him until I am 100% sure he's ready for it, but if it is full of something I want to get rid of, I pretty much have to. Cutting the good part short just isn't proper BJ etiquette.

Many people have already listed the benefits of swallowing for the guy, and there is a big one for me, too: If I have your load in my mouth, I'm tasting it and feeling it already and if I spit it out instead of just sucking it down it is a much less pleasant experience for me. Instead of hitting the back of my throat and going down the hatch, it gets to hit every taste bud on the way out. Sticks to my teeth, too (what is up with that?).

All of the above is just my POV, we are all different, I'm not saying my feelings are the only ones that are valid, etc.

Uncommon Sense
06-13-2006, 12:53 PM
No wonder Calvin always had that smirk on his face.

Indygrrl
06-13-2006, 01:11 PM
You gals are real givers. I am completely enlightened by this thread.

Maybe I'll throw him a bone tonight. :D *still not swallowing anything*

cardsfan1975
06-13-2006, 02:20 PM
You gals are real givers. I am completely enlightened by this thread.

Maybe I'll throw him a bone tonight. :D *still not swallowing anything*Wouldn't he be the one throwing you a bone? ;)

cf'75

alice_in_wonderland
06-13-2006, 03:25 PM
I love giving head - it's sort of a mixed bag when it comes to swallowing tho. I don't mind swallowing, but I really kind of get off on having the fella come on my, uh, chest. Ahem I've never had anyone complain.

Frank
06-13-2006, 06:10 PM
That immediately made me think of the song "Read About Love (http://lyrics.rare-lyrics.com/R/Richard-Thompson/Read-About-Love.html)" by Richard Thompson --
Damn post stealers are getting thick on the ground around here. :p

Misnomer
06-13-2006, 06:48 PM
Damn post stealers are getting thick on the ground around here. :pI didn't think anyone else knew that song! :cool:

Frank
06-13-2006, 10:46 PM
I didn't think anyone else knew that song! :cool:
Oh, I'm a big Richard Thompson fan. He's one of only two musicians I've gone to see in concert.

This is one helluva hijack, isn't it?

Misnomer
06-13-2006, 11:15 PM
Oh, I'm a big Richard Thompson fan. He's one of only two musicians I've gone to see in concert.Well now I feel bad for stealing your post: I only know that one song of his, and it's from a compilation CD issued by the old Musician magazine. The song came to my mind immediately, but I had to go look up the artist's name!

This is one helluva hijack, isn't it?Just think of it as this thread's refractory period. ;)

dre2xl
06-14-2006, 12:54 AM
I don't get the "it takes only a second to swallow"/"it's less fuss to swallow than to spit" people. Whatever your personal tastes regarding semen, the act of swallowing is very, very important psychologically. That's why virtually no one takes the masticate & spit approach to dieting.

SkeptiJess
06-14-2006, 07:57 AM
That's the school I'm in, though, dre2xl. Once it's in my mouth, swallowing is the quickest way to get it out of my mouth. It's not the greatest tasting stuff in the world, and it does burn my throat a bit -- but a sip of water takes care of that.

That's me, though. Everybody should do what they can do. If you can't stand having the stuff in your mouth (it's going to make you puke or gag), then finish the guy off with your hand; or hop on top real quick and ride him to the finish line. It may not be The Ultimate Experience for him, but surely any blowjob is better than no blowjob.

If having the stuff in your mouth doesn't bother you, but swallowing makes you gag, then finish him with your mouth and spit the stuff out discreetly. Obviously it's going to make a guy feel creepy if you run to the bathroom immediately, hunched over and retching, spit loudly into the basin, and start tossing the cupboards looking for Listerine. It would make most women feel bad, too, if I guy did that immediately after cunnilingus. Keep a box of Kleenex and a bottle of water by the bed so you don't have to make a big fuss about spitting. If a woman is careful, the guy won't even notice. Spit into the Kleenex, while making a wiping motion over your mouth, then take a sip of water and say, "Yum!" -- he may even think you've swallowed! It ain't rocket science.

Misnomer
06-27-2006, 01:58 PM
A UK company is offering hope for women who don't like the taste of cum: a pill, taken twice a day, that changes the taste of semen to "a refreshing apple-like flavour." :D The company is currently seeking sexually-active couples to test the pill.

Here's the (safe for work) press release (http://www.responsesource.com/releases/rel_display.php?relid=26040&hilite=).

DianaG
06-27-2006, 02:10 PM
What if you don't like apples?

Misnomer
06-27-2006, 03:06 PM
I dunno ... maybe they figure that you probably don't mind the taste of semen? ;)

Gfactor
06-27-2006, 03:13 PM
New apple flavor or original pickles and chlorox. :p