Most Romantic Thing

[Monster104]

Just a small survey...what's the most romantic thing you've done for someone or that someone has done for you?

[¦:•)]

I got sent a computer picture of what I would look like as a cat. It sounds dumb, but I know what drawing program hes was using and it took a lot of time and effort. It's in a frame on my desk.

[henbin]

My husband suggested my girls make a Shrinky-Dink by tracing my wallet photo with colored pencils and baking the plastic in the oven. It shrank into a charm. Not movie-lover romance, maybe, but family romance.

[Geek Mecha]

Several months ago, I went to a Bach concert with a guy with whom I'd had a long and complicated history- complicated enough that I assumed it wasn't a date. (You can see where this is heading.) When he picked me up, he was ready with a big bouquet of flowers. It was the first time a guy had given me flowers. Later, after the concert and dinner, he confessed he'd asked me out because he wanted us to start over. I knew it was coming, but it didn't make saying I wasn't interested in doing that any easier. We had a long talk, at the end of which we had a long hug. In the middle of the hug, he told me that I gave the best hugs. Funny how the most romantic night I had was the night the romance ended. ::sigh::


Myrr21's birthday thread for me was definitely something special. The longevity of it, the openness of it... it still makes me smile when I think about it.

[Monster104]

¦:•) - It doesn't sound dumb to me. When someone goes to that kind of effort, it's very special. I know how hard it is to do that kind of thing, especially on older graphics programs.

Henbin - I've done that kind of thing, only I was shrinking potato chip bags and Dorito bags. I would usually make key chains out of them.

AudreyK - Romance is very confusing, and I know that all too well. Are you two still friends?

Well, I don't know what things I've done would be considered all that romantic, but I definitely know what the most romantic thing that someone did for me was. I was meeting a close friend of mine to hang out. We saw each other and started walking to give each other a hug, and when we hugged she gave me a small bouquet of flowers and asked me to be her boyfriend. I had asked her before, but she didn't feel ready then. She apologized for that, and we had a big long hug. That was one of the most special things that has happened to me...I still have the bouquet, dried out and sitting on my computer monitor as a momento.

[voguevixen]

This is going to sound really hokey, but my husband once took all my MIDI files from my computer and took them to work and put them all on CD for me! I can't imagine how long that must've taken to transfer everything. (It filled 2 74 minute CDs.) He really surprises me sometimes.

[Scotticher]

VV-what a sweet and darling thing to do!~

you are a lucky lady

[TroubleAgain]

Gee, guys, don't know what to tell you the most romantic thing my hubby has done is. He tells me he loves me 100 times a day. He tells everyone he knows--sometimes perfect strangers--how much he loves me and what a wonderful wife I am. Whenever he introduces me to someone, I usually hear something like "so this is that wonderful wife you were telling us about." He leaves me love-notes on the white-board in the kitchen. He sends me flowers. He tells me his life didn't begin until I entered it. When I sing, he gets tears in his eyes and tells me how beautiful my voice is. He puts up with my pets. (Believe me, that's a big thing!)

What have I done for him? I've put love-notes in his lunch box. I brag on him. I buy him fishing equipment for birthday/Christmas/anniversary (he thinks that's romantic.) I fix him his favorite meals. I give him foot massages. I put up with the expense of owning a boat.

I just can't name one "most romantic thing" in 7 years together.

[Geek Mecha]

Originally posted by Monster104
AudreyK - Romance is very confusing, and I know that all too well. Are you two still friends?
Yeah, kind of. I've only seen him a few of times since, but he always seems happy to see me. There is a slight distance that wasn't there before, though, and that makes me sad. I don't regret telling him no, but I hate what it's done to the underlying friendship.

BTW, Monster, I liked that you kept the bouquet she gave you. There's something sweet and sentimental about that. I kept a couple flowers from the bouquet he gave me that night and dried them. They're in a photo album now.

TroubleAgain, that is so sweet! It's relationships like yours that really restore my faith in love and romance.

[Kiki]

I've done lots of stupid things that were semi-romantic. One of the sillest things I ever did was this: I took a raw egg, poked two small holes in either end and blew the insides of the egg out so the egg was hollow and then painted the egg and wrote I Love You on it and gave it to my boyfriend. This was when I was about 18-19 years old. Seemed kind of dumb but he enjoyed it.

[Crunchy Frog]

I bought about 15 roses, and placed them throughout the apartment, one on the couch, one on the bed, in the fridge, in the bathroom, wherever I thought she may run into it. Each rose had its own card attached to it. Some of the messages on the card were "This is because I love your laugh" "This is for cleaning the apartment last week" "This is for when you smile at me" "This is just because"

She saved all the cards. I'm still trying to think of a way to top that one.

[hypergirl]

Well, the most romantic thing that I have done is something I did the other day. My boyfriend left today (a little less than an hour ago) to go to israel. I spent all week at school writing him notes. One for the airplane and one for every day that he will be gone (two months).

I don't think anyone has done anything particularly romantic for me. I mean, it's no one thing that makes you get that warm and fuzzy feeling. Sometimes it's just everything put together.

[Giraffe]

Originally posted by BratMan007
I bought about 15 roses, and placed them throughout the apartment, one on the couch, one on the bed, in the fridge, in the bathroom, wherever I thought she may run into it. Each rose had its own card attached to it. Some of the messages on the card were "This is because I love your laugh" "This is for cleaning the apartment last week" "This is for when you smile at me" "This is just because"

She saved all the cards. I'm still trying to think of a way to top that one.

This is really weird. I did the exact same thing!! My girlfriend was out of town for a weekend, and I had keys to her apartment, so I just filled the apartment with notes and roses and waited for the phone call...

However, I think the most romantic thing I ever did was on her birthday right after we'd started dating. She'd once mentioned she loves napoleons (a french pastry). We were going to a big swing dance in a ballroom in Chicago as part of her present, and I called dozens of bakeries until I found one that made napoleons and would save me some. She was completely surprised and delighted.

[Cervaise]

Whenever my wife and I take a trip, I always call ahead and have flowers waiting in the room. She likes this a lot.

[Fairy Princess Kitty]

Rachelle, I did something like that for my friends for easter, except after I hollowed out the eggs I put easter pictures on them and covered them oin glue til they were smooth and shiny, my friends loved them, I'm syre that at least one of them still has the egg, intact in her room.

I think one of the more romantic things that anyone has done for me was the gift my boyfriend gave me for our six month anniversary. I was realy surprised when I saw the big box the present was in, I had been joking with him earlier that I would be perfectly happy with an Eeyore stuffed animals, but those things are really expensive I would've felt a little bad if he had bought it for me. Instead I got the whole warm fuzzy I love you feelings from what he did get for me. He got me a gift for every month we had been together with a little note for why it was so special. It amazed me that he remembered all of that and could keep it straight. If I was a really emotional type of person I would've cried it was just so sweet. And for the sixth month he gave me a beanie buddy, I know it doesn't reall sound very impressive but it was what really made me fall in love with him all over again.
You see a day before we had been going out for one month I was furious at him, I can't even remember why, and my best friend and I were walking through the student store like we always do at lunch and as usual my best friend and I stopped to look at and coo over the beanie babies and beanie buddies. I feel in love with a reddish purplish tie dyed lizard and he bought it for me just spur of the moment random kindness. About a month before our 6 month anniversary my mother lost that lizard, that's why it was so special that he bought me another one.
It might not seem like much but I love him for it. Although things don't seem to be going all that great for us right now :(

Kitty

[Spider Woman]

When I was starting to get to know my first husband, he drove the bus I took to work every morning. I used to sit and talk to him until the bus arrived at my work. One day he forgot his lunch, so I told him to watch the bus stop sign during the morning. During my morning break I bought him a package of potato chips and taped them to the bus stop sign. After that we left notes and presents to each other, taped to the bus stop sign.

[dragonlady]

I dated a man who sent my mother a thank you note on my birthday.
She still asks about him.
(And I'm still in touch!)

[Monster104]

We're getting a pretty good turnout here...surprisingly, there weren't any posts about a candlelit dinner or something like that...

Keep 'em coming, folks!

[dpr]

*sigh*

A few years back I fell in love with a simply wonderful Danish girl who was backpacking around Australia. We hit it off and seized the day but time proved to be an unsurmountable enemy so with three weeks left on her visa we said goodbye so she could see those last places she wanted to. At the time I couldn't get out of work because of a recent promotion, and I insisted she go so as not to be denied the last few weeks of sights just for me.

A very painful week-and-a-half pass. She calls, she writes, we miss each other. With eleven days left in the country she calls from Sydney (I'm at work on Sunday) and we chat. We catch up on everything and she tells me how, almost broke, she's trying to get a lift to Melbourne (about 1000kms) for her flight. I look at the clock to see it reads 10.30pm. Something clicks. I tell her to be outside the Imax theatre in Darling Harbour in Sydney at 1pm tomorrow. Screw work - some things are far more important. I finish work, make two phone calls (one to a friend in Sydney and one to my boss to tell him I'll be back in twelve days), grab a few hours sleep and then jump into the car to drive the 1000kms to Sydney so I can pick up the girl I love and drive another 1000kms to put her on a plane to take her 18,500kms away.

I arrived early as scheduled and met with the friends I called and set up. She arrives but, as planned doesn't notice us set-up. My friend and I start playing our song (Throw Your Arms Around Me FYI) and I start singing. Lunchtime rush in the very busy Darling Harbour. I see a light, almost wistful smile dance on her lips as she recognises the song but she still hasn't seen us. Then she frowns lightly and I think she recognised the voice at this stage and turns. For the rest of my days I'll always remember those next few seconds as her face lit up.

Of course then she got a little embarrassed by the attention we were grabbing but she brushed that aside quickly enough. No insecurities probs for this girl.

Anyway I'm rambling on so I'll simply summarise. What followed was a wonderful wander down to and through Melbourne. A fantastic day on the coast looking at the Twelve Apostles. Even an Aussie Rules football game.
And finally the inevitable farewell. I hadn't cried like that in years and hope to never have to again.

Is that romantic? I don't know. Some of my friends used the adjectives stupid and masochistic. But the words love and/or romance always bring to mind her smiling face on a busy Sydney lunchtime rush.

It's a memory I'll cherish - pain and all - forever.

[Geek Mecha]

dpr, thank you for posting that. Your story took my breath away, and I mean that, seriously. Is that the relationship you've alluded to before?

[Wonko The Sane]

Originally posted by Monster104


Henbin - I've done that kind of thing, only I was shrinking potato chip bags and Dorito bags. I would usually make key chains out of them.



How do you do that?

[xizor]

Originally posted by TroubleAgain
I buy him fishing equipment for birthday/Christmas/anniversary

This is the kind of woman I need to meet!

Hey, I just realized why I have no one. I cannot think of one extraordinarily romantic thing I've ever done in my life. Boy has this thread opened my eyes. I gotta get cracking...

[Dolores Reborn]

After our first date, my (now) husband sent 2 dozen yellow roses to me at work. I had never received flowers from a man before (even though I was 30). The card said "Thanks for a wonderful evening". Been married 12 years now, and I still keep the card and look at it now and then. He is a very special man. And still romantic!

[TracyMarie]

I dated a boy once who, for my birthday, made a tape with all of my favorite songs. He recorded his voice on the tape too, playing DJ and saying sweet things. Very, very sweet. Alas, we were not right for each other.

The man I'm with now, I met last summer on the Internet. We basically began a friendly email conversation, and last year while I was studying in Scotland, our emails began to get very romantic. He called me all the time while I was there. He must have spent hundreds of dollars. There was never a day where I didn't get an email, a phone call, or he didn't meet me for an IM conversation.

I moved back to the states this past June. We finally met and it was wonderful. He brought me pictures of where he lives (Illinois), a book that will describe to me who he is on the inside (I already know this, but I'm enjoying the book), a book that I once mentioned I'd never read, but would like to (A Tree Grows in Brooklyn), rocks from the Berlin Wall, a picture of his pets. It was all so damn romantic. The visit was wonderful.

He's coming again in October. And he wants me to move to Illinois. Sigh.

Me? Well, I once threw a boyfriend a surprise party. I've sent flowers and balloons for no reason.

Peace,
Tracy

[Crunchy Frog]

Originally posted by TracyMarie
He's coming again in October.

Sorry, I can't resist. I know I'm taking this coment waayyy out of context and blantantly disrupting this thread but:

I'm no longer a young man who can go at it 4-5 times a night, but it doesn't take me months to get ready for a second go-round!

[TracyMarie]

Originally posted by BratMan007

Sorry, I can't resist. I know I'm taking this coment waayyy out of context and blantantly disrupting this thread but:

I'm no longer a young man who can go at it 4-5 times a night, but it doesn't take me months to get ready for a second go-round!

LOL! You know, as soon as I read, "Sorry, I can't resist," I KNEW what I was about to read! I should have written, "He's coming to visit again in October."

I live in Louisiana. I miss him terribly, but the thought of moving . . . wow, that makes me nervous. But I'm hijacking this thread, so I'll shut up now.

Peace,
Tracy

[magdalene]

During a long period of geographic separation, a significant other once went down to Good Vibrations and picked out a bunch of sex toys for me and sent them to me in the mail. I know it doesn't seem all that *romantic* compared to the other stories here, but the day I received them had been really, really, really bad, but I've never laughed so hard as I did when I opened the box.

During another long distance relationship, when I'd been missing the guy and plans to see each other kept falling through, I got up at 5:00 a.m., hopped the bus to where he lived (4 hours away), and suprised him with some wake-up nookie.

When I left D.C. a month ago, this guy I'd been spending time with gave me a novel as a going away present, with a sweet note written on the flyleaf. He and I weren't really dating, and I'm not sure the gesture was meant to be all that romantic, but the gift showed that he really paid attention to who I was and what I would like. The funny thing is that I always used to get a trinket or a book for any friends who were leaving, so it was exactly the kind of thing I would do for someone else but not something that anyone ever did for me. It sort of bowled me over - He got sort of a drunken kiss out of the bargain, and we're still in touch. Dysfunctional Long Distance Relationship #3, anyone?

[robinh]

When I was in bed with a miserable cold he read Winnie The Pooh to me. With voices.

[Poysyn]

There was awhole group of us out golfing and most of us had deciede to call it quites after nine (I wasn't golfing anyway, just tooling around in the cart). My bf and my nrother in law wanted to play the back nine. After a while, I went to go and check on them.
My bf said, "I got you something. Hold on, he might get away."

He pulled out a beautiful, perfect little frog. He had chased it all over the green before catching it for me. He knew I'd want to release it into a water hazard, which I did. I just thought it was so sweet that he was willing to look like such a geek chasing this frog around for me.

[Monster104]

dpr, I never knew you were such a softy. That is possibly one of the sweetest things I've read.

[Montfort]

Without a doubt, so far in my life it's been this (http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=36589).

And, I'm sure whatever I've done for others up til now pales to what I have in mind for Anniz. :)

[Anniz]

Originally posted by Montfort
Without a doubt, so far in my life it's been this (http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=36589).

And, I'm sure whatever I've done for others up til now pales to what I have in mind for Anniz. :)
WOW, you mention me, thanks.:):):):)
And I'm sure you can do many things for me.:):):):)
I miss you here.

[tevya]

The first time I spent the night at my husband's house --before we were married :o I had mentioned to him how much I loved berries--strawberries, raspberries, blackberries, etc. The next morning, he woke up early, snuck out of bed, went to the grocery store and bought a pint of every kind of berry they had. He woke me up with a huge bowl of berries. It was so sweet I almost cried.

Also before we were married: One year he kept asking me what I wanted for Christmas. I would teasingly respond: "A Pony." On Christmas day I found a fish tank filled with oats, straw and a My Little Pony. (He did also get me other gifts).

My husband and I used to work at a library (in different departments--the library is very large). We both worked in the stacks. In this library books are sent down a dumbwaiter when requested by the librarian at the desk. Occasionally he would send flowers or other gifts to me on the lift.

I have many more...

One Valentines Day I told my husband to pack a change of clothes and hop in the car. I took the long route to a local ski "resort"(very puny--more of a giant snow cone than a mountain with snow) and took him skiing for the day. Quite a surprise for him.

There are more but I'll let others tell their stories.

[relic_11]

My fiancé sometimes will spontaneously think of a poem while we're on the phone. He's a beautiful poet and it always makes me cry that I'm the only one that will ever hear that poem, and I'll only hear it once.

After watching What Dreams May Come last saturday, he got on his knees and told me I was his soulmate and would go through Hell to be with me. All the more special because he's in the Navy and I'm in college, so we can't be together until he gets out in three years. Except weekends if we're lucky- until October 20th, when he goes to D.C. I'm gonna miss my Sailor Boy :(

He had a crush on his best friend since they were little kids. When we were just going out, he said the only girl I had to worry about was her. After he asked me to marry him, she decides NOW is the time to tell him she loves him, and try to sleep with him, too. (Bit-- I won't finish it.) He just tells her, "I'm already in love with the most amazing woman in the world, sorry." She kept tryin' and tryin, got engaged to another guy, then tried again. It broke his heart, but now he refuses to speak to her. To complicate things, his parents hated me at the time (mom still does) and wanted him to marry her. Actually, NONE of his family OR friends liked me and MOST of them wanted him to marry her. He told them all to fuck off, and lost a lot of them as a result, and his friends ment the world to him. He doesn't care about 'em now.

He almost couldn't see me on our first Valentine's Day together, but at the last minute, they let him come home. He called me to say he was sorry he couldn't see me, but he had a friend do him a favor, could I go look out on my porch? So I looked and there were two roses (still got 'em!), a teddy bear, and a card. I went back inside and started crying, then he said, now look on the porch again. So I looked, and there he was!

I've got a million of 'em, but I'll let everyone else have a turn.

Now I really miss him... *sniffle*

[dpr]

Originally posted by AudreyK
dpr, thank you for posting that. Your story took my breath away, and I mean that, seriously. Is that the relationship you've alluded to before?

Sorry I stole your breath. I'm not normally like that, honest. ;)

You're welcome - strangely it was nice to put it down on 'paper' (though the dreams I has that night... *sigh*).

And yes.


Monster: SSSHHHHH!!! I'm trying to keep the softy thing a secret!!! Don't you know it's the bastards that get the girls?

[Geek Mecha]

Too late, dpr. Your secret's out. But it's all good- us girls dig the softies, too. :)

[Helen's Eidolon]

Softies, definitely. => That was among the sweeter stories I have ever heard...

I don't know... there are a lot of things my boyfriend has done that I think are terribly sweet. Then again, that might just be the result of me being a naive, love-struck youth. =>

Like keeping the candy-wrappers we had on the bus when we went to a leadership conference thing a year ago, having a running joke with his co-workers: "How's your girlfriend?" they'll ask. "She's CUTE!" he'll reply.

Our first date was so amusingly stereotypical, movie, milkshake, making out on the porch...

But yeah. *blushes* I'm done.

[dpr]

*sigh*

My facade's blown: my secret identity exposed.

I may have to flee the boards... ;)

[Geek Mecha]

:eek: Yeah, and give us girls one less reason to keep coming by here!

[JavaMaven1]

In an other lifetime, I had a long-distance relationship with a man in Bristol, England (I live in L.A.). A few days before Valentine's Day, I decide to fly over for a 3-day weekend visit (Valentine's landed on a Saturday). Wednesday, I call up British Air, get a roundtrip ticket, for the red-eye on Thursday night. I get a few days off from work, and I call Tim at LAX, just before I get on the plane, and tell him to meet me at Heathrow. I'll never forget how he sounded on the phone--or the look on his face when he picked me up the next day.

[*~Amber-Skye~*]

Originally posted by Monster104
Just a small survey...what's the most romantic thing you've done for someone or that someone has done for you?


Well I believe the most romantic gifts are those that are created and not bought. My boyfriend recently made a sweatshirt for me that says: "I love you Amber now and forever Love, Chris. That gift has more meaning then any piece of jewelry:) I love you too Chris:)

[racinchikki]

Pales in comparison to some of the stuff on here, but here goes:

Last year I started going out with a boy I'd met in my World History class, Steve. He was the first guy I ever went on a real date with -- my previous boyfriend had actually just been more like a guy friend, with kissing. We dated for a few months starting in late August. That Halloween, a race car driver I'd had a crush on since I was 13 was killed in a crash, and I was devastated. First off, it sucks to lose somebody you had a teenybopper crush on -- you oughta know hwat teenybopper crushes are like. Second of all, it was my first brush with death. What made it REALLY suck for me was that I couldn't deal with my first brush with death openly, because after all I hadn't really KNOWN Greg Moore. He was just some racer somewhere. I felt guilty for feeling so bad, and the only person I told was my best friend. I ran into Steve in Wal-Mart the next day while running errands for my mom. I guess he saw my emotions in my face (I'd been having a hard time not crying all day), and he asked me what was wrong. I told him nothing just to avoid having to talk about it, and crying right there in the school supplies aisle at Wallyworld. Well, apparently Steve asked my best friend about it the next day at school, and on Wednesday, he brought me a bouquet of flowers at work. The card read "I know you lost someone you really cared about, and I just want you to know I'm thinking of you." That was the sweetest thing anyone had ever done for me, because of the emotions behind it. I still have the card. I'm looking at it right now. I know it was only a year ago, but the way I lose things the fact that I still have it is a miracle...

[racinchikki]

Oh... unfortuneately, despite all that, Steve and I didn't work out, and we broke up before Christmas. Since then I've dated two guys (one in the spring and one over the summer), neither of whom did anything all that romantic (well, Spring-boy gave me a half dozen roses on our fourth date, but I don't like roses and I'd already decided not to go on a fifth date with him, anyway, because he was Not My Type. A great guy for another girl, but Not My Type. When he finds a girl whose type he IS, she'll be one of the luckiest chicks in the state.)

Oh oh, do you have to be going out with the person for them to do something romantic? Because the boy who sits in front of me in Creative Writing wrote me a poem last week.

[*Michael Hunt*]

[/B][/QUOTE]
...That gift has more meaning then any piece of jewelry:) I love you too Chris:) [/B][/QUOTE]

Amber, does that mean I won't need to get that engagement ring? *g*

~JK~

I am glad you liked the sweatshirt:) I had fun making it, too:)

-Chris