Would you kiss someone not of your preferred gender under the mistletoe?

[Mangetout]

I'm a bloke, I'm heterosexual, so there are certain times when it might be considered acceptable (by myself and others) to kiss women of the female persuasion whilst standing under the mistletoe. Women other than my wife (although I have not tested this, but others do, I know), perhaps, women toward whom I bear no particular feelings of attraction - it's just a kind of social custom.

Does it not therefore stand to reason that someone prepared to engage in the above activity, with members of their preferred opposite sex, to whom they are not really attracted at all, should also be prepared to extend the same social courtesy to homosexual persons of their own gender (assuming of course, those people wish it to happen)?

I can't really see why not... What say you?

[Chessic Sense]

Not a chance. I'd kiss a woman I wasn't attracted to. I wouldn't kiss a woman I was negatively attracted to (i.e. repulsed by). Men are of the latter group. It's like asking if I'd kiss my dog. Eww eww eww.

[Mangetout]

You're repulsed by men? <shrug> OK.

[FaerieBeth]

Sure! I'd kiss a girl under the mistletoe!

[descamisado]

Gay man here. Wouldn't have a problem kissing a woman at all, on the cheek or, depending on how well we knew each other or how well we liked each other, on the lips. This goes for whether she's attractive or not.

If I didn't like the person, male or female, that would factor into whether I would kiss them, as I think of mistletoe-kissing as a festive, collegial, holiday-warmth kind of thing to do. Would avoid it if I could with those I don't like, and I think I could.

[Cluricaun]

Look, a mistletoe kiss is either a peck on the cheek or a peck on the lips. No big deal really either way. It's not an open invitation for a game of tonsil hockey so what's the problem?

Though I think I'd prefer the peck on the cheek if it had to be a dude.

[Bridget Burke]

I'd have no problem kissing another woman on the cheek.

No tongue action--unless a flaming homophobe was watching & the lady was in on the joke!

[WhyNot]

No problem. Mistletoe kisses, with a few exceptions for actual affection or humor, are pecks, not open mouthed kisses. Barring open sores, I don't have a problem with that.

If I really didn't like the person, I might "not notice" the mistletoe with all my might, but if called on it, I'll be a sport and offer a cheek.

[WormTheRed]

I wouldn't have any problems with kissing a male friend on the cheek or a peck on the lips. It's all in good fun and it might upset someone :)

I guy I don't know, nope, no chance.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Fuck no. Men are disgusting.

As a disclaimer, I probably wouldn't kiss any female but my wife or daughters either.

[appleciders]

If it's someone I know or I'm less than sober, sure. No harm done, and I haven't had much in the way of personal boundaries in years. ;)

[gravitycrash]

I have no problem with gay people at all, but the idea of kissing a man is really repulsive to me. I would rather kiss a very ugly woman than Brad Pitt. So the answer for me is just say no under the mistletoe if it is a dude.

[twickster]

As several people have said, a mistletoe kiss is generally a peck on the cheek, and I wouldn't have a problem giving another woman a friendly peck on the cheek.

[DrDeth]

Well, why not? It'd either be a hug and a french "air kiss to the cheeks"* or I could mug it up even more. But I would not play it serious, so as to not give him the wrong impression. I have not a shred of homophobia.

* and oddly, this is exactly what I did when a Gay-co-worker did the Mistletoe thing with me for laughs.

[seodoa]

I'd give a lady a mistletoe kiss, no hesitation! Cheeks or lips. No tongue, thank you.

[levdrakon]

I've always thought a mistletoe kiss was reserved for that person you've been flirting with all night and are probably going to end up kissing anyway. Or, it's a joke-kiss between friends that gets a laugh.

I'd never feel obligated to kiss anyone who made me feel trapped. It's times like that you need to carry a puppy with you so you can say "okay baby, close your eyes and pucker up," lift up your puppy and let it lick them across the lips.

Anyhoo, if we're friends and it's joking, I'll give either gender a peck on the lips.

[Buckler of Swashing]

I would give anyone of any gender or orientation (provided I do not personally dislike them for some reason) a friendly kiss under the mistletoe because I feel that friendly pecks etc is all most people are expecting and I see no harm in that. I reserve anything more intimate than that for a boyfriend.

[Silver Tyger]

Well, I wouldn't kiss just any guy under the mistletoe, but I'd give a friend of either gender a peck.

I believe this is the appropriate time to link to these (http://hellsing.comicgenesis.com/d/20031211.html) two (http://hellsing.comicgenesis.com/d/20031230.html) strips from And Shine Heaven Now. When you put up mistletoe, remember that you put it up. :D

[pravnik]

I might kiss a guy under the mistletoe if it's hanging in the doorway.

I probably wouldn't kiss a guy under the mistletoe if it's hanging on his belt buckle.

[Rhiannon8404]

Sure, I'd give just about anyone I associate with a friendly smack on the cheek or even quick peck on the lips under the mistletoe.

[Cisco]

No, I would not. The thought of kissing a guy repulses me. In my head, all guys have sandpaper for facial skin and breath worse than a homeless person who brushes his teeth with shitpaste. The only way I'd do it is if I thought for some reason it'd get a huge laugh (for instance if the guy was a huge prude, and incapable of kicking my ass, and I was really drunk, and someone double-dog dared me. What are the chances?)

[eldowan]

I'm a hetero male, and I've no problem kissing another guy. Hell, I've done it before with another hetero male.

No, I wasn't attracted to him in any way; I wasn't under any intoxicating stimulus.
So yes, I probably would if I did the whole kiss under mistletoe thing.

[Neidhart]

Do transgender persons count? If so I'd kiss a feminine MTF; otherwise, no way.

[Sigmagirl]

If I liked her as a friend, I guess. I have elderly sorority sisters who kiss me, though I don't initiate it. If it were somebody I couldn't stand, mistletoe or not, she can pound sand.

[tim314]

No, but honestly I don't think I'd be comfortable kissing someone of either gender other than my wife.

[jali]

(jail singing) "I'd kiss a girl and I'd like it." As long as she wore that cherry chapstick as advertised.


I think I would. I've never kissed a chick, but if I'm under the mistletoe, I'd do it.

[Leaffan]

I have no problem with gay people at all, but the idea of kissing a man is really repulsive to me. I would rather kiss a very ugly woman than Brad Pitt. So the answer for me is just say no under the mistletoe if it is a dude.

This.

[Ferret Herder]

Female here, and I would. I married into a family that kisses/air-kisses each other on the cheek, regardless of gender, so I've gotten used to kissing both men and women in this fashion.

[John Carter of Mars]

I have no problem with gay people at all, but the idea of kissing a man is really repulsive to me. I would rather kiss a very ugly woman than Brad Pitt. So the answer for me is just say no under the mistletoe if it is a dude.

I'm on board with this one.

[What Exit?]

Sorry, I don't think I'll ever be that progressive and open minded. It is an instant ick reaction.

[Scarlett67]

I have kissed both a lesbian friend and various grandmother types on the lips. Just little pecks, and it was always their idea, not mine. But it didn't offend me ever.

So, yes, a peck on the cheek or the lips would be fine with me.

Anyhoo, if we're friends and it's joking, I'll give either gender a peck on the lips.

Exactly.

It's like asking if I'd kiss my dog. Eww eww eww.

I do kiss my dog. Just a press of my closed lips to the top of her head, though; we don't make out or anything. (But we call our other dog "the French springer spaniel" because she loves to try to slip us the tongue, and succeeds more often than we would like. Once when she was a puppy, she stuck her entire snout in my mouth when I was yawning with my eyes closed. Now there's an "Eww eww eww" moment for you. And a rather rude awakening so early in the morning.)

[Leaffan]

My dog licks my lips every day. It's her way of greeting me after a taxing day of hunting and gathering for the family. It's OK though; she's a girl.

[HazelNutCoffee]

Sure. As others have said, it's just a quick kiss.

[Oakminster]

Nope. I don't kiss dudes. They don't kiss me. That's the rule.

[Freudian_Slip]

Gay male here. Not been much for mistletoe kissing in general, but ...

Kissing a woman (of whatever orientation) on the cheek, sure.
Kissing a gay male friend, cheek or lips.
Kissing a gay male stranger, cheek (but probably would not if I could avoid it).
Kissing a straight male? Only if he instigated, and only on the cheek. Also would probably prefer to avoid it.

[clairobscur]

I've done that many times, regardless of my or their sexual persuasions.

[Nars Glinley]

I have no problem with gay people at all, but the idea of kissing a man is really repulsive to me. I would rather kiss a very ugly woman than Brad Pitt. So the answer for me is just say no under the mistletoe if it is a dude.

Straight male. I'd kiss Brad if Angelina was next in line. Otherwise, no.

[Kiwi Fruit]

Does no one do the continental 2 or 3 kiss side-to-side, cheek kiss? Those who are totally icked out, how do you think you'd cope with that?

[Vox Imperatoris]

I wouldn't kiss anyone under a mistletoe that I wouldn't be kissing in the first place.

Valete,
Vox Imperatoris

[racer72]

I have no problem with gay people at all, but the idea of kissing a man is really repulsive to me. I would rather kiss a very ugly woman than Brad Pitt. So the answer for me is just say no under the mistletoe if it is a dude.

Put me in this group too.

[CAT=^..^=]

Sure...I would kiss another woman under the mistletoe. I would also kiss a man, a child, and probably even a well groomed pet. No lips kisses for the last one.

[FriarTed]

I kiss male relatives on the cheek, rarely male friends. Unless the circumstances were quite exceptional, probably not.

[Diogenes the Cynic]

Does no one do the continental 2 or 3 kiss side-to-side, cheek kiss?
In America that makes you gay.
Those who are totally icked out, how do you think you'd cope with that?
Poorly.

[Antinor01]

No problem. I've kissed girls before, hell I've made out with girls for the heck of it as well.

[gravitycrash]

No problem. I've kissed girls before, hell I've made out with girls for the heck of it as well.

Yeah but that is hot.;)

[black rabbit]

How many drinks?

If I were a bit lit, I wouldn't have problem kissing a gay male friend on the lips, provided there were a lady in the audience who thought it was hot and I wanted to get it on with.

[Stauderhorse]

Sure, if I knew her a little bit. Kissing a complete stranger would just be weird for me, but a quick festive peck under the mistletoe with a friend or acquaintance wouldn't be a big deal.

[Leaffan]

No problem. I've kissed girls before, hell I've made out with girls for the heck of it as well.

I don't believe you. I need to see photographic evidence.

[Influential Panda]

Yes. A big, sloppy, wet Bugs Bunny smooch on the cheek.

[Boozahol Squid, P.I.]

I'll kiss any woman under the mistletoe, whether it's Lauren Bacall c.1945 or Bea Arthur.

Men don't kiss men. I'd ignore any gestures towards aforementioned mistletoe by any guy, gay, straight or otherwise.

[Antinor01]

Yeah but that is hot.;)

I don't believe you. I need to see photographic evidence.

Straight guys are strange. What is so exciting about a gay guy kissing a girl? :D

[Leaffan]

Ha!

Umm..... Never mind! We just ahh, you know assumed..... :smack:

[elelle]

Yep, I'd kiss anyone under mistletoe. It's a symbol of peace, and, beyond that, to my horticultural mind, a tenacious parasitic organism that remains evergreen during the bleakest of times. Damn fine plant.

A smooch under those definitions is a fine smooch indeed. Kiss up, Y'all!

[faithfool]

Sure, I'd kiss a chick under the mistletoe. It might open a whole new world to me....

[MadPansy64]

Social kisses are all well and good, but mistletoe is all too often infested with Nargles.

Nargle infestations will lead to the downfall of society, mark my words!

;)

[elfkin477]

Nope. There are a great many men I wouldn't kiss either, though.

[matt_mcl]

I'd kiss a girl. Frequently have, too (minus the mistletoe).

[Jesse Leigh]

G'morning!

I wouldn't do the 'mistletoe thing' with anyone - d'you realize how that 'social custom' originated? :eek:

I *would,* however, and do lightly kiss my female friends on the cheek upon greeting or leaving them, just as I do my male friends to whom I'm not married.

I'm naturally more of a huggie person myself, but it's the accepted norm in the social circles in which I'm frequently obliged to travel. It isn't as much an expression of affection as it is a dictate of etiquette. When in Rome and all that.... - Jesse.

[Scumpup]

Yes. I'd not necessarily fondle the buttocks, though it depends more on the buttocks than on the gender.

[Jesse Leigh]

Yes. I'd not necessarily fondle the buttocks, though it depends more on the buttocks than on the gender.

Ooooh! Now there's a recipe for getting your face slapped if ever I saw one! :eek:

[corkboard]

I'd give a guy friend the same quick, meaningless peck on the cheek as I'd give a girl friend. But I'd kiss my wife, yaknowI'msayin'?

[Boyo Jim]

Mistletoe is about a kiss between a man and a woman. Only.

It's in the bible somewhere, probably near the anal sex advice.

[Anaamika]

Yeah, I'd kiss a girl. I've kissed girls before, not with tongue, but I've had friend's moms give me a light peck on the lips, right after they did the same with their own kids. I am not used to it, it doesn't happen often, but it wouldn't ick me out either.

[faithfool]

< runs through thread smooching everyone >

[eldowan]

Mistletoe is about a kiss between a man and a woman. Only.

It's in the bible somewhere, probably near the anal sex advice.

And they should be in love, and never kissed before too.



or was that something else??

[gravitycrash]

That is hot ladies. Two women going at it. Two men going at it? Who wants to see two hairy male asses going at it?

[jackdavinci]

I think other criteria would be far more important than the gender, like what the implied house rules for the mistletoe are, how comfortable I am with the person in general and how comfortable they are with me, what kind of kiss, and the silliness factor level of the event.

Which brings us to the related question of what you do if the bottle spins around and stops on someone of the non preferred gender...

[panache45]

Men don't kiss men.
Then what the hell have I been doing, the past 45 years?

Regarding the OP: I have exactly zero attraction to women, but I'd kiss anyone of any gender under the mistletoe, unless they were terminally repulsive.