View Full Version : virginity and pregnancy poll, for women
05-27-2001, 11:34 PM
After losing my virginity, I became absolutely, 100% completely convinced that I was pregnant. No question in my mind whatsoever. Without a doubt. I was on birth control, we used a condom, but that didn't matter. I was pregnant! Then I got my period, and realized how stupid I was being. But I was also thankfully, mind-numbingly relived.
My closest female friend said the same thing happened to her (but with more reasonability, because her form of birth control was the withdrawal method).
So I'm just curious--Is this a common occurence among woman? Did you feel stupid as hell afterwards, too?
05-27-2001, 11:39 PM
Don't think you're silly because the first time I had sex [he didn't even get inside me very much and we used a condom] even I was panicking that I was pregnant. I can't explain it, women just panic.
05-28-2001, 12:42 AM
I didn't actually think that I was pregnant after I lost my virginity, but I was rather afraid that I was. It didn't help that the guy had mentioned how difficult condoms are to put on. Also, I bled for a full week afterwards, and I've heard of "implantation bleeding" at the beginning of pregnancy.
I was to afraid to actually believe that I was pregnant, but I was very relieved when I got my period. The funny thing is, even then I wasn't completely convinced even then that I wasn't pregnant, and it wasn't until a few months, and normal menstrual cycles, later that I was finally certain that I wasn't pregnant.
I guess there's just so much propaganda out there that sex leads to babies, and that no birth control is 100% effective, that it influences our perceptions. The faint possibility of pregnancy gets exaggerated.
05-28-2001, 12:49 AM
I had lingering paranoia that I might get pregnant after losing my virginity.
Which is hilarious in context, I know.
05-28-2001, 04:08 AM
The first time I had sex, we didn't use a condom. I didn't sleep for a good 3 weeks. I was convinced I was pregnant.
Back in January, I had sex with my best friend. We used a condom. I should've been due like 3 days later, and I was late. I did a home test, came back negative. Waited a week, still not there, did another one. Also negative. By the time 3 weeks came around, I'd taken 4 tests,including one from a health clinic, and decided I had to be pregnant, despite the fact that they were all negative. Me and my boy were panicing. I live in Massachusetts, he lives in Florida. We were practically picking out names. I was a month late before my period finally came, and I've never been so relieved. Looking back, I realize how stupid I was...at the time, I was scared shitless :)
05-28-2001, 04:51 AM
This must be a girl thing..
Me too-even though we used a condom,I sweated for 3 weeks until my period came,right on time.
Maybe it's a residual guilt issue...
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05-28-2001, 06:17 AM
Same thing happened to me, Pammipoo!
My exfiance and I lost our virginity to each other. We used a condom. Then I was 3 weeks late. We were both Seniors in college (I wanted to make sure I lost it to someone I cared about), and I was involved in an organization where you were kicked out if you became pregnant. Needless to say, we were scared completely shitless.
The same thing happened between my current fiance and myself. I eventually ended up going to the Gyno, and he said that I have something wrong with me that is just going to make me irregular for the rest of my life (I'm one of those lucky people who can't take the Pill). If only I had known that 7 years ago!
05-28-2001, 09:31 AM
I used a condom, and yes, I was convinced I was pregnant. What didn't help was that my mom still had her periods for the first few months of pregnancy with me, so even getting my period didn't reassure me. After time passed, and no bulge in my tummy, I calmed down.
05-28-2001, 11:44 AM
Oh yeah, i'm forever paranoid that I'm pregnant. I think it's because us edumacated ladies are told time and time again "Sex = pregnancy" and that no form of birth control is 100% accurate. It's undoubtedly a very, very good thing we know this, but it does lead to paranoia. Shamefully, i don't remember how i felt when i lost my virginity, but when i started losing weight and exercising, my periods became very irregular and once i was 4 weeks late. By the end of those 4 weeks i had taken 4 pregnancy tests (I don't care if they're negative - i must be pregnant!) and was conviced that there was a fault in the condom (it only takes a hole the size on a pin prick - those sperm are tiny f*ckers).
On the plus side, i had been desperately wanting babies for quite a while, and to be hit with the sudden thought that i might actually be pregnant made me change my mind pretty damn quickly.
05-28-2001, 11:54 AM
The first time and every single time I have sex, I'm scared for the next couple of weeks that I'm pregnant. It doesn't help that I have very irregular menstral cycles, so I don't really have any clues. I just have to wait a lil while and see if there are any other "signs".
And I've been going through this for three years. We're so paranoid about getting pregnant that even with protection we only have intercourse once a month or so.
05-28-2001, 12:13 PM
I do the pregnancy paranoia thing every time I have sex, but, for some reason, I didn't get the paranoia when I lost it. Maybe it was because I got my period a week later and that I'm on the pill and use condoms that made me less nervous the first time. At least I don't get really panicky about it anymore.
05-28-2001, 12:52 PM
I think the paranoia is a pretty common thing.
But in my case, I WAS pregnant.
I lost the baby when I was 2 months along. I can't say much more.
05-28-2001, 03:07 PM
No, I didn't get the pregnancy paranoia when I lost my virginity. He used a condom, and used it propely. I had faith in the stats.
I get it from time to time now, even though I never ever miss a pill, which makes the failure rate something like 0.15%.
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