[MeanOldLady]

Originally Posted by kittenblue

Sorry. But I don't think it was meant in a mean-spirited manner.

I don't think it was meant in a mean way either, but I still took offense. It was similar to one of the "compliments" I frequently receive, "You're not like other girls; you're rational," or a good driver, or good at math, or whatever the ass-backwards compliment it. Yes, I know you didn't mean that as an insult, but I'm a bit miffed by your perception of womenfolk.

I would have laughed.

I laughed, but I can't remember exactly what I said. I think it was something like, "Um, okay."

Originally Posted by Rumor_Watkins

jt's a bar. get this?

So?

people don't go bars to host an impromptu session of High School Debate Club: Dramshop Edition.

Except for all those people who do.

They go to meet people and attempt to hook up.

When's the last time you've been to a bar, again?

pop quiz, hot shot: is MeanOldLady at an establishment more like:

a) a sleepy watering hole where patrons come to imbibe in the company of other regulars
b) a "bar" that serves as a social hot spot, where there is an expectation of generalized debauchery.

The answer is a). It's a fairly low-key bar that draws in a mix of regulars, and the downtown after-work crowd. It's casual, low music, certainly not the "local hot spot," or anything regarded as a hook up bar. The friends I was with were all regulars. I was wearing a grey tee shirt and jeans. This wasn't White Lotus (or whatever the newest, hippest club in LA is now... haven't lived there in years).

Originally Posted by Stealth Potato

Coming at the end of a debate like that, I'd have a hard time not interpreting those comments as patronizing. I guess it would depend a lot on how it was said.

See, that's what burns my toast about it. Had two random guys come up to me and said something like that, I don't even think I would have remembered two minutes later. That fact that we had that big, long discussion, and it was concluded with, "In summation, nice tits" bothered me.