Do women at bachelorette parties and strip clubs really give blowjobs and such?

[Quintas]

At a bachelorette party or ladies night out is it really common to see women taking turns sucking off the make stripper or are all those pics just staged porn shoots? Seriously.

[astro]

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If your wife or SO told she had fellated a male stripper is that a deal breaker?

[EmAnJ]

I've never seen this done at any of the bachelorette parties I have been to or at the two ladies nights I have been to.

I have, however, heard of guys getting oral or sex from the stripper at a bachelor party (from my husband).

[Dahu]

Originally Posted by EmAnJ

I have, however, heard of guys getting oral or sex from the stripper at a bachelor party (from my husband).

Umm, did anyone else do a double take when reading that the first time?

[ovalseven]

Originally Posted by EmAnJ

I have, however, heard of guys getting oral or sex from the stripper at a bachelor party (from my husband).

Yes.

That probably wasn't the best place for the parentheses.

[Leo Bloom]

Originally Posted by Dahu

Umm, did anyone else do a double take when reading that the first time?

Yes, I did too. How that penis got in my pajamas I'll never know.

[naita]

If it's a zombie bachelorette party you really have to be careful!

[Qadgop the Mercotan]

My wife and I went with another couple to a strip joint years ago. The place featured female strippers downstairs, and male strippers upstairs. Our wives wanted to spend some time upstairs, looking at the boy toys, and dragged us guys along with them.

There was a bachelorette party going on, taking up the front row around the performers, and Oh My God were they rowdy! Jumping onto the stage, getting pushed back by the bouncer, daring each other to push the boundaries, reaching out to stroke the performers, including their penises, and one gal did definitely try to wrap her mouth around one dancer's manhood but got interrupted by the bouncer before she succeeded.

Contrast that behavior to the silent, fixed stares of the male audience downstairs as they watched the ladies gyrate around.

My mind boggled. But the bartender upstairs said that was typical; the gals got really, really rowdy when they were there in a group with a few drinks in them, and generally engaged in behavior that would get a guy arrested if he tried it on the female performers downstairs.

Anecdotal, to be sure. But not what I expected at all, watching a bunch of gals interacting with the beefcake.

[Bryan Ekers]

Originally Posted by Qadgop the Mercotan

Contrast that behavior to the silent, fixed stares of the male audience downstairs as they watched the ladies gyrate around.

That only proves what I've always known: men got class, women don't.

[F. U. Shakespeare]

Not common.

Not unheard of.

Less likely in public venues than private parties.

Sometimes, women react strongly to the "shoe's on the other foot" aspect of ogling naked men. The protected nature of a group setting seems to increase this by reducing a woman's fears of 'sending the wrong message' to an aroused male.

[Zsofia]

Originally Posted by Bryan Ekers

That only proves what I've always known: men got class, women don't.

More like "women haven't had decades of experience in this venue and don't understand the etiquette and overreact." Kind of like when you take Jethro to the white tie ball - he ain't had the home training.

[ThelmaLou]

Originally Posted by Zsofia

More like "women haven't had decades of experience in this venue and don't understand the etiquette and overreact." Kind of like when you take Jethro to the white tie ball - he ain't had the home training.

Ummm... I'd describe this more as the male-viewing-female-stripper as a grim and shame-based activity and the female-viewing-male-stripper as just plain FUN!

[Freudian Slit]

Originally Posted by Bryan Ekers

That only proves what I've always known: men got class, women don't.

Yeah, because men never assault or attack women when they're outside of strip clubs. Let's face facts--there are people of both genders who are classy and who aren't.

I'm still shocked that there are women paying for the privilege of sucking dick. Really? REALLY?

[StusBlues]

Originally Posted by Freudian Slit

Yeah, because men never assault or attack women when they're outside of strip clubs.

You're actually closer to the truth here than you think. The reason men are relatively reserved at the strip club while women go apeshit is that aggressive male sexuality is threatening to women. A stripper I know has told me several times that she's afraid of getting jumped coming out of the club as it is. The idea of dozens of men grasping and pawing at women would scare the death out of the dancers. Women who gang rush the Chippendales, on the other hand, aren't seen as threatening--most men are pretty sure they aren't going to be assaulted. (Yes, I realize it happens, but there aren't stories of woman-on-man rape in the paper every day.) Aggressive man in the strip club = dangerous. Aggressive woman in the strip club = isn't that what you were going for?

[kayaker]

Originally Posted by Freudian Slit

I'm still shocked that there are women paying for the privilege of sucking dick. Really? REALLY?

I don't get it either. Every time I suggest a "donation" after the fact, I get strange looks. I'll have to send my gf a link to this thread.

[Freudian Slit]

Originally Posted by kayaker

I don't get it either. Every time I suggest a "donation" after the fact, I get strange looks. I'll have to send my gf a link to this thread.

I mean, speaking as a woman, I know that if I got a hankering to blow someone, it wouldn't be all that hard. Or, er, it would be hard. You know what I mean. I certainly wouldn't approach the opportunity with, "Let me throw wads of cash at you and then you can blow your wad on me!" Let's preface the evening with the blowee buying me a few drinks at first.

[Ambivalid]

Originally Posted by kayaker

I don't get it either. Every time I suggest a "donation" after the fact, I get strange looks. I'll have to send my gf a link to this thread.

[bread1975]

Originally Posted by Freudian Slit

Yeah, because men never assault or attack women when they're outside of strip clubs. Let's face facts--there are people of both genders who are classy and who aren't.

I'm still shocked that there are women paying for the privilege of sucking dick. Really? REALLY?

No, the women "are paying for the privilege of sucking dick" of guys who they see as very attractive, average looking & ugly guys have to pay the women to get a chance to get their dicks sick LOL

[MPB in Salt Lake]

Originally Posted by Qadgop the Mercotan

My wife and I went with another couple to a strip joint years ago. The place featured female strippers downstairs, and male strippers upstairs. Our wives wanted to spend some time upstairs, looking at the boy toys, and dragged us guys along with them.

There was a bachelorette party going on, taking up the front row around the performers, and Oh My God were they rowdy! Jumping onto the stage, getting pushed back by the bouncer, daring each other to push the boundaries, reaching out to stroke the performers, including their penises, and one gal did definitely try to wrap her mouth around one dancer's manhood but got interrupted by the bouncer before she succeeded.

Contrast that behavior to the silent, fixed stares of the male audience downstairs as they watched the ladies gyrate around.

My mind boggled. But the bartender upstairs said that was typical; the gals got really, really rowdy when they were there in a group with a few drinks in them, and generally engaged in behavior that would get a guy arrested if he tried it on the female performers downstairs.

Anecdotal, to be sure. But not what I expected at all, watching a bunch of gals interacting with the beefcake.

I once heard a stand up comic do a routine on this very phenomenon---It was one of the funniest, yet totally accurate (from my limited observations) bits I have ever heard...........

I wish I had some idea who the comic was, but this was several years back, and I dont recall where I saw it at.

[KneadToKnow]

Originally Posted by MPB in Salt Lake

I wish I had some idea who the comic was, but this was several years back, and I dont recall where I saw it at.

Ron White has a bit about a bachelorette party going on during one of his shows. I don't know if that's the same bit you're remembering. It doesn't involve a stripper, but it does involve a 12-inch chocolate penis.

[hotflungwok]

Originally Posted by MPB in Salt Lake

I once heard a stand up comic do a routine on this very phenomenon---It was one of the funniest, yet totally accurate (from my limited observations) bits I have ever heard...........

I wish I had some idea who the comic was, but this was several years back, and I dont recall where I saw it at.

Larry Miller.

Ever watch men at a strip show? Ever see lions staring at a gazelle?

[MPB in Salt Lake]

Originally Posted by hotflungwok

Larry Miller.

Ever watch men at a strip show? Ever see lions staring at a gazelle?

That's the one---I remember the line about lions and gazelles!!!
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Larry Miller, does he do a lot of sit-com cameos?

I think he has been a guest on "King Of Queens" a couple of times, if he is who I am thinking of................

Thanks for the help, Matthew

[plumalive]

As an individual with former experience in this regard, I can tell you pretty much exactly how it works. It's both real and fake. You sell the fake by cultivating the real. How does that work? The male stripper business is real. The business acumen of these guys is fairly high, too (so keep that in mind). They know exactly what they are doing. They know how to sell an “experience,” and that’s important because women indulge in stripper entertainment for the “experience” and not purely for the exhibition of visual splendor, as most men do. Don’t get me wrong: being a “beefcake” as a dancer is part of the deal. It’s also part of the selling strategy because it amplifies the value of the “experience.”

The experience, or rather the show, is purposefully designed to titillate and to exaggerate specific emotions in women. Keep in mind that women typically need to be coaxed a little into a sense of wild carnality. They don’t tend to simple arrive at the “f**k me now” mood because an 8 inch penis walked by. You have to play to their emotional arousal, and that takes some cunning thought and strategy. Quite honestly, the strategy almost always begins with cocktails. As women congregate in an environment they know is risqué and shall we say “forbidden,” they tend to become rather giddy. They socialize. They laugh. They talk dirty. They’re both nervous and excited. They’re anxious, curious, and usually a bit intimated. As they socialize, they do in fact tend to become more and more emboldened. Add to the mix the ripening agent of alcohol and you’ve just poured fuel onto the burgeoning fire of lust and desire, so to speak.

I’ve been there. I know exactly how this works. For it to really work, you’ve got to build the emotion until it is just about to the “f**k me now” pedestal. Here’s where the fake part comes in. Women come in a congregation. Parties are assembled. But, there is usually a plant or two in the crowd. The dancers know who the plants are. The plants provide a subtle aspect to the show that generally gets overlooked (i.e. louder screams, deliberate provocation, etc.) because most of the remainder of the women are floating in a cocktail of adrenaline, alcohol buzz, and the underlying desire to be seen as a participator. At that point, the “experience” is completely real. The dancers perform. To some degree, a little fondling here and there, as well as a little sexual innuendo gets tolerated. Anything purely erotic tends to happen with the plants. But even still, there are moments when the “experience” elevates, though those circumstances are not generally tolerated much. You don’t want your dancers getting every babe who’s lost all inhibition pregnant, for example. You don’t want someone coming back and suing the business because some doey eyed girl feels here left eye is now deformed from a squirt of semen. Catch my drift. So, if you’ve been watching some of these porn sites that seem to be showing women just utterly wild and out of control hungry for male genitalia in their mouth; think about it. That’s more likely a plot to sell a theme that will either infuriate or frustrate men than a depiction of reality. Have these kinds of parties happened ever occurred? Yah – but it is far more likely to happen as a spontaneous, drunken, fraternity orgy at the U than via a legally organized business with financial goals to achieve. There’s no doubt about it. Alcohol is labeled LPR for a reason (liquid panty remover). Women in a group with alcohol will almost always lead to some pretty wild moments. Quite honestly, I regret every aspect of it that I ever participated in. I was 20 something, angry at the world, angry at my parents, damn smart, narcissistic, arrogant, and full of a desire to be reveled. A bad mixture that I’m glad 2 decades separates me from now.

[Calder]

Originally Posted by MPB in Salt Lake

I once heard a stand up comic do a routine on this very phenomenon---It was one of the funniest, yet totally accurate (from my limited observations) bits I have ever heard...........

I wish I had some idea who the comic was, but this was several years back, and I dont recall where I saw it at.

Larry Miller. Probably one of his better bits. I also really like his bit with the Q-Tips.

[DrDeth]

Originally Posted by Qadgop the Mercotan

There was a bachelorette party going on, taking up the front row around the performers, and Oh My God were they rowdy! Jumping onto the stage, getting pushed back by the bouncer, daring each other to push the boundaries, reaching out to stroke the performers, including their penises, and one gal did definitely try to wrap her mouth around one dancer's manhood but got interrupted by the bouncer before she succeeded. .

I never saw actual oral sex, but I have seen a LOT of women get their hands inside the jockstrap, and also kiss the guys backside, etc.

They get away with a hell of a lot more than men do, no doubt.

[DocCathode]

This all raises the question- How do I get invited to more bachelorette parties?

[Turek]

Originally Posted by DocCathode

This all raises the question- How do I get invited to more bachelorette parties?

I'd advise spending hours at the gym, getting some rhythm, a jam box, and some baby oil, and posting an ad in the back of your local weekly rag or craigslist.

[billfish678]

Originally Posted by DrDeth

I never saw actual oral sex, but I have seen a LOT of women get their hands inside the jockstrap, and also kiss the guys backside, etc.

They get away with a hell of a lot more than men do, no doubt.

Its easier to reach when it is not on a pedestal

[toadspittle]

Originally Posted by Qadgop the Mercotan

My wife and I went with another couple to a strip joint years ago. The place featured female strippers downstairs, and male strippers upstairs. Our wives wanted to spend some time upstairs, looking at the boy toys, and dragged us guys along with them.

...

Was this in Vegas? A friend of mine told me the exact same story--he was going to meet his wife and her friends at a club, where the men's area was downstairs and the women's upstairs. He said that the male patrons downstairs behaved like they were at a funeral, and the female patrons upstairs were completely out of control, nearly molesting the male performers.

[Asimovian]

Originally Posted by toadspittle

Was this in Vegas? A friend of mine told me the exact same story--he was going to meet his wife and her friends at a club, where the men's area was downstairs and the women's upstairs. He said that the male patrons downstairs behaved like they were at a funeral, and the female patrons upstairs were completely out of control, nearly molesting the male performers.

I assume you're referring to Olympic Gardens?

[Qadgop the Mercotan]

Originally Posted by toadspittle

Was this in Vegas?

Lake Geneva, Wisconsin, actually.

[Chronos]

Personally, I suspect that the biggest factor is what Qadgop said: "Behaviour that would get men arrested". I imagine that there are a lot of men who'd like to act that way with female strippers, too, but don't because they know they'd get arrested for it. Since the women can get away with it without getting arrested, they do so (or at least, some of them do).

[fandango]

Usually (at least in Oregon) men strip down to a speedo or G-string, whereas women go "the full monty". Since the "dancers" are not fully naked, its legal (?) to grope the men, but when the women reach inside the speedo, the bouncers pull them off. The men also dance through the crowd of women to get their tips. However, I have seen several times were women have had a few too much and attempt to do things mentioned in this thread.

Why do I have so much experience with male strip shows? Back in college and before I was married, I batted clean up at these events. I have yet to find an easier (free) way to hook up with a (decent looking) woman in less than 15 minutes then to hang out after the "Show". They're all turned on and ready to go.

[Boyo Jim]

Originally Posted by fandango

... Back in college and before I was married, I batted clean up at these events. I have yet to find an easier (free) way to hook up with a (decent looking) woman in less than 15 minutes then to hang out after the "Show". They're all turned on and ready to go.

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[jjimm]

Originally Posted by fandango

when the women reach inside the speedo, the bouncers pull them off.

Now that's what I call service!

[Anomie]

I've seen it.

I have a cousin in the DJ/Party Hire business. Back when I was just out of school, he had broken his arm and another employee was off-sick, so I helped him deliver and pickup jukeboxes one weekend.

Because of some scheduling SNAFU we had a pick-up at 2:00AM on Sunday morning... but it turned out to be somewhat later. We had to wait for the bride-to-be (veiled) and half-a-dozen of her friends, to finish taking turns blowing the stripper.

As we were leaving, the bride was asking for someone to find her some soda-water to get the cum out of her veil--because she needed that next week.

My cousin found my dropped-jaw shock hilarious. Whenever I bump into him at Christmas parties he's always got another story for me. He says it's the sole reason he's still a DJ at 40+.

I also encountered the bride again some months later (she had been far to drunk to remember me). When we were dealing with my grandmother's will, she was the lawyer.

[Son of a Rich]

Originally Posted by Anomie

As we were leaving, the bride was asking for someone to find her some soda-water to get the cum out of her veil--because she needed that next week.

Is it common for the bride- to- be to wear her bridal costume to the bachelorette party?

[even sven]

Originally Posted by Son of a Rich

Is it common for the bride- to- be to wear her bridal costume to the bachelorette party?

Often the bride-to-be will wear something to show her status (and get some positive attention) during the festivities- this may be a tiara, a sash, or sometimes her veil.

[MrDibble]

To answer the OP's other question - yes, those are staged. Just like Captain Stabbin/The Teacher one/ etc.

[Zsofia]

Originally Posted by MrDibble

To answer the OP's other question - yes, those are staged. Just like Captain Stabbin/The Teacher one/ etc.

You mean there aren't a bunch of guys on a boat who pick up extremely large-breasted women, take them on the boat, have anal sex with them, and then throw them off the boat? And nobody ever calls the cops because they got tossed into shark infested waters? Goddamn it - there go my vacation plans.

[chowder]

Originally Posted by Quintas

At a bachelorette party or ladies night out is it really common to see women taking turns sucking off the make stripper or are all those pics just staged porn shoots? Seriously.

Aha, been surfing youporn or redtube have you?

[Little Nemo]

Why do I have so much experience with male strip shows? Back in college and before I was married, I batted clean up at these events. I have yet to find an easier (free) way to hook up with a (decent looking) woman in less than 15 minutes then to hang out after the "Show". They're all turned on and ready to go.

A friend of mine used to work part time as a stretch limo driver. He said that when he was picking up bachelorette parties from stripclubs he used to get some unbelievable offers.

[alice_in_wonderland]

For my 25th B-day party I went to a 'Lady's' night at a local club.

The grand finale was when the 'ugliest' (subjectively) girl in the audience was pulled up on stage for the pleasure/opportunity of going under the towel one of the dancers had on with her teeth and removing his g-string while her friends cheered her on.

She totally went for it so while I can't say for sure she was sucking the guy off she had her mouth really, really close to his junkal region under the cover of a towel.

[PatriotGrrrl]

I think some of you are forgetting that not all women are beautiful, young, slim and thus able to get any man for free. Guys, I guarantee you I could find some pictures online of women you wouldn't accept a blowjob from.

[Boyo Jim]

Originally Posted by PatriotGrrrl

I think some of you are forgetting that not all women are beautiful, young, slim and thus able to get any man for free. Guys, I guarantee you I could find some pictures online of women you wouldn't accept a blowjob from.

Stay away from the Google Image results for "fat women eating". You have been warned.

[Hung Mung]

Originally Posted by PatriotGrrrl

I think some of you are forgetting that not all women are beautiful, young, slim and thus able to get any man for free. Guys, I guarantee you I could find some pictures online of women you wouldn't accept a blowjob from.

One of my life rules: There is no such thing as a fat, ugly blowjob.

[bread1975]

Originally Posted by Hung Mung

One of my life rules: There is no such thing as a fat, ugly blowjob.

I with you Hung, a fat chick will do when my pipe need to be cleaned out.

[Morgenstern]

Originally Posted by PatriotGrrrl

I think some of you are forgetting that not all women are beautiful, young, slim and thus able to get any man for free. Guys, I guarantee you I could find some pictures online of women you wouldn't accept a blowjob from.

Is it after 2AM, and is the bar empty...?

[gonzomax]

Yes some private parties have guys getting their horns honked. I have been at a couple but that is generally one that hired hookers as opposed to dancers.

[Little Nemo]

I think some of you are forgetting that not all women are beautiful, young, slim and thus able to get any man for free. Guys, I guarantee you I could find some pictures online of women you wouldn't accept a blowjob from.

I think you underestimate the male libido. Would we prefer to get a blowjob from Jessica Alba? Definitely. Would we accept a blowjob from Roseanne Barr? Yeah, probably.