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Old 04-17-2019, 04:56 PM
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I don't think Broomstick was ever rude. And personally after a second time of waking me up I would have no problem being rude myself. It sounds like she remained more polite through continued interactions than I would have remained.

I in no way defend the neighbor's behaviors as appropriate; they clearly are not. I read the op at least as the woman being a well intentioned idiot doing an idiotic thing. I just read it as a thing that was maybe sigh or eye-roll worthy but did not get why it, the initial op description, was grit your teeth annoying as fuck Pit-worthy.

Obviously others' MM and do V but the extreme reaction in response to that POV struck me as very wacky. And I think we are beating a dead horse here ... I hope no one is allergic to horses!
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Old 04-18-2019, 09:57 AM
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I don't think Broomstick was ever rude. And personally after a second time of waking me up I would have no problem being rude myself. It sounds like she remained more polite through continued interactions than I would have remained.
Problem is, that completely contradicts what you said before. You said that you would just accept the gift graciously and throw it away later. It was "bizarre" that anyone would get angry about this situation. It takes energy to get angry, and you're just a cool cucumber who doesn't waste time doing that.

Now you claim you would get angry enough to be rude to her. No more nonsense about accepting the gift with a smile. Instead of Broomstick being too angry, you think she's being more patient than you would be.

If you'd started with this second position instead of the first, I (and I suspect everyone else) would not have gotten upset at you.
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Old 04-18-2019, 05:36 PM
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I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this Broomstick

If it were me, sometime after the second time, I'd be asking if she was willing to take me to the hospital and pay my medical bills. Or, write "neighbor is a pushy bitch" on my arm with her offering and shove it in her face.

Ok, probably not, I just tend to fantasize about how to deal with assholes.
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Old 04-18-2019, 11:53 PM
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Maybe partly gendered as a thing but I don't think completely. My guess though is also that it has something to do with what sets off or does not set off buttons of hurt based on other past experiences
That's pretty much what SmartAleq said, except you're ignoring the part about women getting their boundaries ignored more often than men: that bit is the gendered part, with everything else being the non-gendered part. The past experiences bit is "boundaries being ignored" (again); in the case of Broomstick, specifically, "boundaries about food which can get me killed". Why anybody would be sensitive about behavior which might kill them and which has happened many times is apparently incomprehensible to you.
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Old 04-19-2019, 04:13 PM
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If the new neighbors had told you they were allergic/alcoholic, would you have come back the next day with more brownies and wine? Broomstick wasn't rude the first X times her neighbor offered her food.
And if they'd mentioned they work until midnight, I bet you wouldn't be pounding on their door at 6 am so that you can watch them wash down the allergic-to triple chocolate brownies with a big mouthful of dollar-store merlot.
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