Just caught my 14yo son smooch'n with his girlfriend. (Need answer fastish)

[Chimera]

Time for a talk maybe, otherwise not a big deal. Your kid is growing up.

[Nunzio Tavulari]

At fourteen, I would hope that they've already progressed beyond kissing, otherwise they're behind the curve in social and sexual maturity. Intercourse may or may not be right for them at this point but 3rd base is expected.

[Rick]

Originally Posted by VunderBob

The only thing to do is high five your son.

Exactly!

[ScarletNumber]

Originally Posted by dngnb8

JMHO, if I am allowing my DD to be at your house, I have expectations that youre parenting. I have 3 girls, and if my DD15 came home with an event, I would be an unhappy, angry, aggressive father banging on your door.

And if you came to my door in such a manner, rest assured that the police would be called.

[Icerigger]

Originally Posted by apollonia

Why would you think your daughter would be upset about kissing her boyfriend? From what I remember of being 14, that's all girls want to do.

Not to frighten worried parents but there is this old thread.


http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/...hter+oral+home

[RTFirefly]

Originally Posted by Icerigger

Not to frighten worried parents but there is this old thread.


http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/...hter+oral+home

Yeah, 14 year olds smooching is no big deal.

[ekedolphin]

Originally Posted by Nunzio Tavulari

At fourteen, I would hope that they've already progressed beyond kissing, otherwise they're behind the curve in social and sexual maturity. Intercourse may or may not be right for them at this point but 3rd base is expected.

I dunno. If I had a 14-year-old son, and heard about him having sex, I'd kick his ass. Condoms or no condoms. 16, less so. 18, he's a grown man, but I'd still advise him to wait until marriage.

[RickJay]

Originally Posted by Nunzio Tavulari

At fourteen, I would hope that they've already progressed beyond kissing, otherwise they're behind the curve in social and sexual maturity.

Oh, nonsense. Some kids that age have progressed beyond kissing, some have not, some haven't even been kissed yet, and there's nothing whatsoever about just getting to kissing at 14 that is in the slightest bit worrisome.

[the apples fell]

I wouldn't call the parents over kissing, but you can figure that they have progressed well beyond just kissing and that now may be a good time to give him "the talk".

[Taomist]

Originally Posted by the apples fell

I wouldn't call the parents over kissing, but you can figure that they have progressed well beyond just kissing and that now may be a good time to give him "the talk".

Yeah, which is why it wouldn't be a bad idea to clue the girl's parents in as well, in case SHE hasn't had The Talk. Some parents think The Talk comes when the girl's period does, and ends there. They need a little more than that.

[ScarletNumber]

Originally Posted by RickJay

Oh, nonsense. Some kids that age have progressed beyond kissing, some have not, some haven't even been kissed yet, and there's nothing whatsoever about just getting to kissing at 14 that is in the slightest bit worrisome.

How are things in 1955? Did you find a date for the Enchantment Under the Sea dance?

[listedmia]

Originally Posted by Even seven

How are things in 1955? Did you find a date for the Enchantment Under the Sea dance?

Things were pretty much this way when I was 14, in 2003. Some of us were out losing our virginity in the back of older boys' cars, but the vast majority of the eighth grade/freshman class had not progressed beyond kissing, if that.

[ScarletNumber]

Originally Posted by listedmia

Things were pretty much this way when I was 14, in 2003. Some of us were out losing our virginity in the back of older boys' cars, but the vast majority of the eighth grade/freshman class had not progressed beyond kissing, if that.

The trick is to find a boy with a basement apartment. When you are still in school, it makes you cool, not a loser.

[RickJay]

Originally Posted by Even seven

How are things in 1955? Did you find a date for the Enchantment Under the Sea dance?

I hope you aren't trusting self-reporting surveys about teen sexual activity where they ask kids if they're getting' any, because the only thing teenagers do more than jerk off is lie about how they're getting the real thing.

Are 14-year olds having sex? Sure. Are most of them? Don't believe it for a second.