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Old 04-12-2017, 02:12 PM
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I understand the point you're making, but acknowledging that people around you have formed an opinion about you without knowing anything about you and just dealing with it is, literally, submitting to prejudice. Don't get me wrong, I can understand why he doesn't want to ruffle any feathers and possibly make things even worse for himself, but it is what he's doing.
The man in question is not doing anything different. He is continuing to freely walk down the street. The only thing he is not doing is becoming offended when women avoid him. What is the alternative? Should he walk around bristling with rage and yelling nasty comments at people?
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Old 04-12-2017, 02:13 PM
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Cool story. I see nothing in it about a baby. Just absentmindedly forgetting stuff that is demonstrably NOT an infant baby.
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Old 04-12-2017, 03:25 PM
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Cool story. I see nothing in it about a baby. Just absentmindedly forgetting stuff that is demonstrably NOT an infant baby.
Let me help you, apparently you skipped this paragraph when you read the article several times:
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“Some people think, ‘Okay, I can see forgetting a child for two minutes, but not eight hours.’ What they don’t understand is that the parent in his or her mind has dropped off the baby at day care and thinks the baby is happy and well taken care of. Once that’s in your brain, there is no reason to worry or check on the baby for the rest of the day.”
Those people are not manson1972, however, who checks on his children every three seconds whether they are being cared for or not. So they are negligent.
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Old 04-12-2017, 03:30 PM
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sorry, I meant the new story posted today. I forgot to quote it and another post snuck in before mine.

Please reread and then re-comment.
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Old 04-12-2017, 03:38 PM
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And since you went through the trouble of posting:

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Let me help you, apparently you skipped this paragraph when you read the article several times:
“Some people think, ‘Okay, I can see forgetting a child for two minutes, but not eight hours.’ What they don’t understand is that the parent in his or her mind has dropped off the baby at day care and thinks the baby is happy and well taken care of. Once that’s in your brain, there is no reason to worry or check on the baby for the rest of the day.”

Yes, and those parents are stupid. "There is no reason to worry or check on the baby FOR THE REST OF THE DAY!"

Really? When your baby is in daycare, NOBODY thinks "Hmmm, wonder what junior is doing right now? Hope he is not crying too much."?? You just put your baby out of your mind for 8 hours? Not a single thought?

Guess those parents getting nanny cams are just over-worrying parents. I mean, worrying or checking in on their baby while the nanny is watching them? That's just preposterous! Those are hours that the parents could NOT be worrying or checking in on their baby!

Stupid, just plain stupid parents.
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Old 04-13-2017, 09:38 AM
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And since you went through the trouble of posting:



“Some people think, ‘Okay, I can see forgetting a child for two minutes, but not eight hours.’ What they don’t understand is that the parent in his or her mind has dropped off the baby at day care and thinks the baby is happy and well taken care of. Once that’s in your brain, there is no reason to worry or check on the baby for the rest of the day.”

Yes, and those parents are stupid. "There is no reason to worry or check on the baby FOR THE REST OF THE DAY!"

Really? When your baby is in daycare, NOBODY thinks "Hmmm, wonder what junior is doing right now? Hope he is not crying too much."?? You just put your baby out of your mind for 8 hours? Not a single thought?

Guess those parents getting nanny cams are just over-worrying parents. I mean, worrying or checking in on their baby while the nanny is watching them? That's just preposterous! Those are hours that the parents could NOT be worrying or checking in on their baby!

Stupid, just plain stupid parents.
Okay, so you haven't actually read the article, and now I doubt that you're actually a parent. Yes, when you truly believe that, for example, the other parent has taken care of Junior, you relax. Otherwise, what sort of manic distrustful marriage do you have?

If every parent called every daycare every hour, caregivers wouldn't have any time to watch the kids. I pity the daycare that would have to look after your fictional children.

One thing I can tell you from my own upbringing: I have been forgotten, somewhere, by each and every member of my own family. My own mother, who drove me to and from school every day, drove all the way home one day while I was waiting for her to pick me up. Thirty minutes, and it never occurred to her that I wasn't with her, the way I always was. She had to drive another 30 minutes back to get me, and another 30 home. So I know it happens, and not out of malice or extreme inattention. She had been out of her routine for a few days, and the first day back, she just plain forgot. It happens. Especially when all of your safeguards against forgetting happen to fail on the same day, like they did for Lyn Balfour.

Read the damn story. Read it again and again until you can rewrite it in your own words. And then pray it never happens to anyone you know.
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Old 04-13-2017, 12:10 PM
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Okay, so you haven't actually read the article, and now I doubt that you're actually a parent. Yes, when you truly believe that, for example, the other parent has taken care of Junior, you relax.

If every parent called every daycare every hour, caregivers wouldn't have any time to watch the kids. I pity the daycare that would have to look after your fictional children.
Yes, I have read the article, and yes I am a parent. The quote I posted did NOT say call every hour. It said that parents should not even worry or think about their infant children for 8 straight hours. You HONESTLY believe that there is a parent that doesn't think or worry about their infant child for 8 hours (assuming they are not asleep)?? You must, since you seem to believe that leaving an infant child in a car to die is something that could happen to anyone. Maybe it only happens to people who have the ability to not worry or think about their infant children for long stretches of time.

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One thing I can tell you from my own upbringing: I have been forgotten, somewhere, by each and every member of my own family. My own mother, who drove me to and from school every day, drove all the way home one day while I was waiting for her to pick me up. Thirty minutes, and it never occurred to her that I wasn't with her, the way I always was. She had to drive another 30 minutes back to get me, and another 30 home. So I know it happens, and not out of malice or extreme inattention. She had been out of her routine for a few days, and the first day back, she just plain forgot. It happens. Especially when all of your safeguards against forgetting happen to fail on the same day, like they did for Lyn Balfour.
Wow! You went to school when you were an infant? Did they have a car seat in the school bus? If not, then I don't see what your cool story about your forgetful mother has to do with leaving an infant child in a hot car to die.
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Old 04-13-2017, 01:18 PM
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I'm just going to address every point with a quote from the Washington Post article from here on out.

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Yes, I have read the article, and yes I am a parent. The quote I posted did NOT say call every hour. It said that parents should not even worry or think about their infant children for 8 straight hours. You HONESTLY believe that there is a parent that doesn't think or worry about their infant child for 8 hours (assuming they are not asleep)??
"Several people -- including Mary Parks of Blacksburg -- have driven from their workplace to the day-care center to pick up the child they’d thought they’d dropped off, never noticing the corpse in the back seat."

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You must, since you seem to believe that leaving an infant child in a car to die is something that could happen to anyone.
"What kind of person forgets a baby?

The wealthy do, it turns out. And the poor, and the middle class. Parents of all ages and ethnicities do it. Mothers are just as likely to do it as fathers. It happens to the chronically absent-minded and to the fanatically organized, to the college-educated and to the marginally literate. In the last 10 years, it has happened to a dentist. A postal clerk. A social worker. A police officer. An accountant. A soldier. A paralegal. An electrician. A Protestant clergyman. A rabbinical student. A nurse. A construction worker. An assistant principal. It happened to a mental health counselor, a college professor and a pizza chef. It happened to a pediatrician. It happened to a rocket scientist."

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Maybe it only happens to people who have the ability to not worry or think about their infant children for long stretches of time.
"“Memory is a machine,” [David Diamond] says, “and it is not flawless. Our conscious mind prioritizes things by importance, but on a cellular level, our memory does not. If you’re capable of forgetting your cellphone, you are potentially capable of forgetting your child.”"

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Wow! You went to school when you were an infant? Did they have a car seat in the school bus? If not, then I don't see what your cool story about your forgetful mother has to do with leaving an infant child in a hot car to die.
"It was “a big doggone accident,” [James Schlothauer, foreman of the jury that acquitted Lyn Balfour] says, that might have happened to anyone.

To anyone?

Schlothauer hesitates.

“Well, it happened to me.”

The results were not catastrophic, Schlothauer says, but the underlying malfunction was similar: Busy and stressed, he and his wife once got their responsibilities confused, and neither stopped at day care for their daughter at the end of the day.

“We both got home, and it was, ‘Wait, where’s Lily?’ ‘I thought you got her!’ ‘I thought you got her!’ “

What if that mix-up had happened at the beginning of the day?

“To anyone,” Schlothauer says."
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Old 04-13-2017, 02:01 PM
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I'm just going to address every point with a quote from the Washington Post article from here on out.
I'll just address a couple points:


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"Several people -- including Mary Parks of Blacksburg -- have driven from their workplace to the day-care center to pick up the child they’d thought they’d dropped off, never noticing the corpse in the back seat."
Several. SEVERAL! Several people have not noticed the corpse of their baby in the back seat. SEVERAL PEOPLE! As opposed to the millions upon millions of people who did NOT do that. But somehow, instead of there being something wrong with those SEVERAL people, millions upon millions of other people must be capable of doing the same thing those SEVERAL stupid people did??

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"It was “a big doggone accident,” [James Schlothauer, foreman of the jury that acquitted Lyn Balfour] says, that might have happened to anyone.

“To anyone,” Schlothauer says."
Well, I guess that since one foreman of a jury and A GUY WHO FORGOT HIS KID AT DAYCARE say it could happen to anyone, then they must be right! A guy who forgot his kid at daycare couldn't POSSIBLY be biased on who is capable of forgetting their kid at daycare.
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Old 04-13-2017, 03:14 PM
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Yes, I have read the article, and yes I am a parent. The quote I posted did NOT say call every hour. It said that parents should not even worry or think about their infant children for 8 straight hours. You HONESTLY believe that there is a parent that doesn't think or worry about their infant child for 8 hours (assuming they are not asleep)?? You must, since you seem to believe that leaving an infant child in a car to die is something that could happen to anyone. Maybe it only happens to people who have the ability to not worry or think about their infant children for long stretches of time.
I have two kids. Both went to daycare and preschool. sure I probably thought about them multiple times each day. What does that have to do with this situation? Does anyone pick up the phone and call to check on their child everytime they think about them? I probably reached out to contact the school or daycare center to check up on my kids a couple of times a year, not a couple of times a day. Because unless I thought they might be getting sick or have some other unusual situation, I trusted my day care provider. Otherwise, my kids would not be there in the first place.
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Old 04-13-2017, 03:39 PM
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I'll just address a couple points:




Several. SEVERAL! Several people have not noticed the corpse of their baby in the back seat. SEVERAL PEOPLE! As opposed to the millions upon millions of people who did NOT do that. But somehow, instead of there being something wrong with those SEVERAL people, millions upon millions of other people must be capable of doing the same thing those SEVERAL stupid people did??



Well, I guess that since one foreman of a jury and A GUY WHO FORGOT HIS KID AT DAYCARE say it could happen to anyone, then they must be right! A guy who forgot his kid at daycare couldn't POSSIBLY be biased on who is capable of forgetting their kid at daycare.
"In 2000, Chris Edwards, Terry Mack and Edward Modlin began to work on just such a product after one of their colleagues, Kevin Shelton, accidentally left his 9-month-old son to die in the parking lot of NASA Langley Research Center in Hampton, Va. The inventors patented a device with weight sensors and a keychain alarm. Based on aerospace technology, it was easy to use; it was relatively cheap, and it worked.

Janette Fennell had high hopes for this product: The dramatic narrative behind it, she felt, and the fact that it came from NASA, created a likelihood of widespread publicity and public acceptance.

That was five years ago. The device still isn’t on the shelves. The inventors could not find a commercial partner willing to manufacture it. One big problem was liability. If you made it, you could face enormous lawsuits if it malfunctioned and a child died. But another big problem was psychological: Marketing studies suggested it wouldn’t sell well.

The problem is this simple: People think this could never happen to them."
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Old 04-13-2017, 04:29 PM
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May as well give up. If there were a single instance of a baby waking up from its nap and crawling into the Amana, manson1972 would be claiming s/he defrosts the freezer every ten minutes. If one kid escaped from day care and crawled into the gondola of a hot-air balloon that later became untethered, manson1972's parental routine would have always included regular calls to the FAA.

God knows why, but you are not going to convince him/her that an event can be both rare and random. In an unfunny version of the old joke, s/he thinks it's the banana in her ear that keeps the tigers away.
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Old 04-14-2017, 08:49 AM
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May as well give up. If there were a single instance of a baby waking up from its nap and crawling into the Amana, manson1972 would be claiming s/he defrosts the freezer every ten minutes. If one kid escaped from day care and crawled into the gondola of a hot-air balloon that later became untethered, manson1972's parental routine would have always included regular calls to the FAA.
This is pretty funny

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God knows why, but you are not going to convince him/her that an event can be both rare and random
What? I agree that an event can be both rare and random.

What I don't agree with is parents, who were so inattentive/stupid to leave their infant child in a car, somehow have credibility when they say "Well, it could happen to anyone!" No, it cannot. It happens to stupid people who do stupid things in the course of paying more attention to things besides their infant children. And in your rush to feel sorry for stupid people who left their child to die, you somehow find it abnormal for parents to worry about their infant children throughout a day. And further, you ascribe situations that a very few stupid people have brought upon themselves as "something that could happen to anyone" and even go so far as to compare cell phones, glasses, and keys to a human infant. Good luck with that.
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Old 04-14-2017, 02:53 PM
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And further, you ascribe situations that a very few stupid people have brought upon themselves as "something that could happen to anyone" and even go so far as to compare cell phones, glasses, and keys to a human infant. Good luck with that.
Ah, so the neuroscientist says that on an unconscious, cellular level, our memory can't prioritize things by importance, but you know he's wrong.

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Several. SEVERAL! Several people have not noticed the corpse of their baby in the back seat. SEVERAL PEOPLE! As opposed to the millions upon millions of people who did NOT do that. But somehow, instead of there being something wrong with those SEVERAL people, millions upon millions of other people must be capable of doing the same thing those SEVERAL stupid people did??
I'm sure if you put those several people in an MRI, they'd have lazy brains that didn't love their children enough. It's just good science.
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Old 04-14-2017, 03:13 PM
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Ah, so the neuroscientist says that on an unconscious, cellular level, our memory can't prioritize things by importance, but you know he's wrong
I didn't say he was wrong. I just don't care what happens at an unconscious level, since I make a conscious decision to know where my infant child is located.

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I'm sure if you put those several people in an MRI, they'd have lazy brains that didn't love their children enough. It's just good science.
Who knows? Did they try it?

Do you honestly doubt that there are people in the world who are more absent-minded then the rest of the people? You don't think there are people who are more forgetful than others? I guess everyone on the planet is the exact same when it comes to priorities, attentiveness, awareness, or ability to pay attention.
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Old 04-15-2017, 08:57 PM
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I didn't say he was wrong. I just don't care what happens at an unconscious level, since I make a conscious decision to know where my infant child is located.
As the neuroscientist in the Washington Post article explains, under a combination of stress and routine activity, the conscious mind can be overwritten by the basal ganglia. You can't choose for this not to occur.

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Who knows? Did they try it?
I was mocking your attempt to moralize brain function, but mockery requires self-awareness from the subject to be effective. Oh well.

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Do you honestly doubt that there are people in the world who are more absent-minded then the rest of the people? You don't think there are people who are more forgetful than others? I guess everyone on the planet is the exact same when it comes to priorities, attentiveness, awareness, or ability to pay attention.
I know that people who've closely studied this particular phenomenon haven't found a correlation with general absent-mindedness. The correlating factors are "stress, emotion, lack of sleep and change in routine".
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Old 04-16-2017, 09:57 PM
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What? I agree that an event can be both rare and random.
No, you don't, and here's where your ability to judge yourself begins to collapse.

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Several. SEVERAL! Several people have not noticed the corpse of their baby in the back seat. SEVERAL PEOPLE! As opposed to the millions upon millions of people who did NOT do that. But somehow, instead of there being something wrong with those SEVERAL people, millions upon millions of other people must be capable of doing the same thing those SEVERAL stupid people did??
There's you, claiming rarity is evidence of negligence, i.e., not random. But you said you could grasp that concept! It's almost as if your brain doesn't always behave the way you think it does.

Relax. It is very unlikely that your hypothetical children will be harmed by being left in a car...because it is very unlikely that any child, even the child of the worst parents you can imagine, even worse than you, will be harmed in that way. If you don't manage to kill your kids that way, in other words, it ain't because you are in any way special.

You are, however, arrogantly self-regarding to the extent that no reasonable person would believe your mind is on your hypothetical child even a small fraction of the time.
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Old 04-17-2017, 08:35 AM
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No, you don't, and here's where your ability to judge yourself begins to collapse.

There's you, claiming rarity is evidence of negligence, i.e., not random. But you said you could grasp that concept! It's almost as if your brain doesn't always behave the way you think it does.
Perhaps you don't know how to read? I said I agree that AN event can be rare and random. I didn't say that the event you quoted was one of them.

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I am relaxed. Knowing that I didn't leave my infant child in a car to die. Perhaps you should relax? Maybe you left your kid in your car and are now trying to say that ANYONE can do it, instead of taking responsibility for the fact that you are stupid?
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Old 04-19-2017, 12:24 PM
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When I wake up in the morning, I don't think "Hmmm...wonder where my wallet is?" or "Hey, I'll make a mental note to go to the grocery store" But I damn sure think to myself "Where is my child, and is he safe?"

And if I'm in the car with them, I constantly think "Hmmm....check my rear-view mirror. check my side mirrors. Check my child. Check my speed. Check my child"

And If I'm in the store its "Get the cereal. check my child. Grab some eggs. Check my child"

And If I'm on the phone with my boss yelling at me its "Man, this is brutal. check my child. "ok, i'll be right in" Check my child"
I think you’re misunderstanding how the blip works.

It isn’t "Hmmm....check my rear-view mirror. Check my child. Check my side mirrors. *blip* Completely forget about baby’s existence. Check my speed. Go into work leaving my forgotten-about child to die."

It’s "Hmmm....check my rear-view mirror. Check my child. Check my side mirrors. *blip* Think about child who is safe at daycare. Check my speed. Go into work while child is safe at daycare."

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When your baby is in daycare, NOBODY thinks "Hmmm, wonder what junior is doing right now? Hope he is not crying too much."?? You just put your baby out of your mind for 8 hours? Not a single thought?
That’s the part you aren’t getting. Nobody is saying that the parents didn’t think about their child for 8 hours. The baby isn’t forgotten, that isn’t the point at all. What has happened is, the parent believes the child is at daycare and goes about thinking of them just as they, and you, would while they actually are at daycare. Do you go check your car every 20 minutes while at work to make sure the baby is really at daycare? That confidence you have when your baby is elsewhere is the same confidence these parents had that their baby was elsewhere.
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Old 04-19-2017, 02:23 PM
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IThat confidence you have when your baby is elsewhere is the same confidence these parents had that their baby was elsewhere.
Yes, and those parents were stupid. So what? Trying to shift blame by saying "could happen to anyone" instead of just saying those particular parents were stupid is appalling to me.
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Old 04-20-2017, 09:46 AM
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Old 04-20-2017, 01:36 PM
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What I don't agree with is parents, who were so inattentive/stupid to leave their infant child in a car, somehow have credibility when they say "Well, it could happen to anyone!" No, it cannot. It happens to stupid people who do stupid things in the course of paying more attention to things besides their infant children.
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Do you honestly doubt that there are people in the world who are more absent-minded then the rest of the people? You don't think there are people who are more forgetful than others? I guess everyone on the planet is the exact same when it comes to priorities, attentiveness, awareness, or ability to pay attention.
Some people just have a tolerance for sloppiness. Other people do not.

Sully couldn't leave a kid in a car. Chuck Yeager couldn't leave a kid in a car.

My oldest and best friend of nearly 50 years could not leave a kid in a car. Some people are just different. This guy (a former airline pilot) is so mentally disciplined and focused in this thought process, that, if he had kids, I can say with 100% surety he could not ever leave them in a car. Call it anal, obsessive, crazy or whatever, but it is a mental discipline that few people have.

Further, he wouldn't allow himself to get into a situation that would cause other, less disciplined or careless folks to let a kid die in a car.

So, I reject the notion "that it could happen to anybody".
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Old 04-20-2017, 01:41 PM
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But I also got to say, this guy is NO FUN to go boating with!
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Old 04-20-2017, 03:27 PM
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Some people just have a tolerance for sloppiness. Other people do not.

Sully couldn't leave a kid in a car. Chuck Yeager couldn't leave a kid in a car.

My oldest and best friend of nearly 50 years could not leave a kid in a car. Some people are just different. This guy (a former airline pilot) is so mentally disciplined and focused in this thought process, that, if he had kids, I can say with 100% surety he could not ever leave them in a car. Call it anal, obsessive, crazy or whatever, but it is a mental discipline that few people have.

Further, he wouldn't allow himself to get into a situation that would cause other, less disciplined or careless folks to let a kid die in a car.

So, I reject the notion "that it could happen to anybody".
"On the day Balfour forgot Bryce in the car, she had been up much of the night, first babysitting for a friend who had to take her dog to an emergency vet clinic, then caring for Bryce, who was cranky with a cold. Because the baby was also tired, he uncharacteristically dozed in the car, so he made no noise. Because Balfour was planning to bring Bryce’s usual car seat to the fire station to be professionally installed, Bryce was positioned in a different car seat that day, not behind the passenger but behind the driver, and was thus not visible in the rear-view mirror. Because the family’s second car was on loan to a relative, Balfour drove her husband to work that day, meaning the diaper bag was in the back, not on the passenger seat, as usual, where she could see it. Because of a phone conversation with a young relative in trouble, and another with her boss about a crisis at work, Balfour spent most of the trip on her cell, stressed, solving other people’s problems. Because the babysitter had a new phone, it didn’t yet contain Balfour’s office phone number, only her cell number, meaning that when the sitter phoned to wonder why Balfour hadn’t dropped Bryce off that morning, it rang unheard in Balfour’s pocketbook.

The holes, all of them, aligned."
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Old 04-20-2017, 04:33 PM
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Old 04-20-2017, 06:06 PM
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Because of a phone conversation with a young relative in trouble, and another with her boss about a crisis at work, Balfour spent most of the trip on her cell
I particularly like this part of that tragic narrative. She just HAD to be on her cell phone while driving around with her infant child in the car. Could happen to anyone!

They should pass some laws against driving while on a cell phone. Maybe this tragedy could be prevented. Or, we could just say it's not her fault because it could happen to ANYBODY!
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Old 04-21-2017, 06:22 AM
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Some people just have a tolerance for sloppiness. Other people do not.

Sully couldn't leave a kid in a car. Chuck Yeager couldn't leave a kid in a car.

My oldest and best friend of nearly 50 years could not leave a kid in a car. Some people are just different. This guy (a former airline pilot) is so mentally disciplined and focused in this thought process, that, if he had kids, I can say with 100% surety he could not ever leave them in a car. Call it anal, obsessive, crazy or whatever, but it is a mental discipline that few people have.

Further, he wouldn't allow himself to get into a situation that would cause other, less disciplined or careless folks to let a kid die in a car.

So, I reject the notion "that it could happen to anybody".
This is a joke, right?
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So, I reject the notion "that it could happen to anybody".
"It happens to the chronically absent-minded and to the fanatically organized, to the college-educated and to the marginally literate. "
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