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Old 07-17-2017, 07:56 AM
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Only on 27 years here but so far, so good. My parents just passed the 57-year mark and my in-laws their 58th, so the precedent is good (both for marital stability and general longevity).
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Old 07-17-2017, 08:07 AM
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Not really. Some end in annulment.
To be pedantic, an annulled marriage officially never actually existed.

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In addition there have been cases where a missing spouse is declared dead but is later learned to have been alive at the time. The marriage is over with the declaration of death but no divorce or actual death.
But it doesn't resume with the revenance?

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A marriage can also be declared to be invalid. E.g., the two people shouldn't have gotten married due to incest, an existing valid marriage or some such.
See first response.

Isn't the Dope just grand?

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Anyway ... today is the big Four-Oh.
Well done!
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Old 07-17-2017, 09:32 AM
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But it doesn't resume with the revenance?
A. No.
B. If the person was revealed to have been alive at the time of the remarriage, etc., but that fact was found out only after they died, then there is no interference with the new marriage in any case. The marriage ended with the declaration of death.

To be clear, a timeline:
Person disappears.
Years pass and is declared dead.
Spouse remarries.
Person dies.
Person is then discovered to have been alive after the (valid) remarriage.
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Old 07-17-2017, 09:46 AM
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While we're quibbling for the fun of it ...

There's also the special case of "marriage ends with both dying effectively simultaneously in the same event." e.g. a mongo car crash.

The poignancy of the original "100% of marriages end in death or divorce" saying is that one or both of them will live through the end of their marriage and have to go through being a survivor of that nasty transition. My special case points out where neither get to live through (much of) the end of their marriage and there's no survivorship to speak of. Thereby defeating much of the poignancy of the saying.

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Old 07-17-2017, 10:02 AM
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Anyway ... today is the big Four-Oh.
Congratulations!
So...any plans?
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Old 07-17-2017, 05:54 PM
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There's also the special case of "marriage ends with both dying effectively simultaneously in the same event." e.g. a mongo car crash.
Which could be a murder/suicide.
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Old 07-17-2017, 06:37 PM
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Funny about how one's occupation shapes one's thinking. In my line of work a group death is usually an accident with heavy machinery. In your line of work a group death is usually murder(s) plus maybe a suicide finale.

Though no doubt over the years you've seen plenty of car crashes, bus plunges, house fires, etc. as well as the homicides.

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Old 07-18-2017, 04:04 PM
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If I could remember back 24 years, I could give specifics.

But I am certain that a good time was had by both of us, and no doubt we dressed up all fancy for dinner in an upscale restaurant, where the food was good and the wine excellent. Then probably made our way back home and so forth.

I got lucky to be with my wife starting at age 21. Lots of water under the bridge, but no floods and the creek has never dried up.
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Old 07-18-2017, 04:07 PM
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We just celebrated our 29th, but I'm going to keep checking in here for good ideas! Congrats, Czarcasm!
Same here. Our 29th is in a few months - great tips all. Our honeymoon was passing out in our new, empty house after a very, very long day. She's going to be impressed with anything.

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Old 07-18-2017, 07:49 PM
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December will mark 34 years for us. And honestly, except for our 6th, when we did a reaffirmation of vows in front of family and friends (since we eloped and all) we never do much of anything on our anniversaries. My family was aghast that we mostly ignored our 25th, and I honestly don't know that we did anything on our 30th, unless it fell during that brief span of years where we went to the Japanese Steak House on or around our anniversary.

It's just never been a big deal for us.
December will be 34 years for us as well. For our honeymoon, we took the kids home and had pizza.
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