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Old 09-13-2017, 12:17 PM
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Laundry Disaster, aka how to get over mourning something childish?

Warning: long, rambling, bloggy post and immaturity below.

I don't know how to write this in a way that doesn't make me sound crazy, which makes sense since I know I am. So I guess I'll just state upfront that I know this is trivial and unimportant to everyone in the world but me.

As I've documented elsewhere, I have cluttering/hoarding issues that were in... well, I don't know if "remission" is the right word, since it's not a disease, but I've controlled them and maintained a decent level of cleanliness in my home. That control broke apart starting this year, which has been one of the worst in my life after losing my brother-in-law.

Anyway I hired a cleaning company again to help me get rid of shit and deep clean the place, and while it was stressful (as it was the first time), they did a wonderful job. Along with the mess, though, there was a matter of (sorry to gross you out) a moth infestation. Part of the company's job was to take any clothing/bedding and freeze them, which would destroy any leftovers bugs and clean them.

I also have a collection of stuffed animals--not huge, about a dozen, but among these are four that are very nostalgic and important for me. They were given to me by my parents almost a half-century ago, and playing with them was a major part of my childhood. I was a sad kid and the animals, especially one stuffed bear I (very originally) called Pooh, were my partners in imaginary adventures that helped me through lonely times.

The cleaners strongly recommended that the animals needed freezing and to be cleaned as well. I was reluctant because of the age of the "Big Four," as I call the main ones I had since childhood (the others are just trinkets/gifts I've picked up over the years).

But the head cleaner assured me and reassured me that they'd be treated gently, and that they needed the service. This wasn't costing me any more money, btw, so it's not like they were pushing me to pay extra. I was also under the impression that the materials would all be frozen, not washed as well. (I thought washing was my job once I got the bags back.)

Anyway I agreed, because I thought they might be harboring icky stuff and it could be harming them. The guys took all of the animals and put 'em in a separate plastic bag, like the rest of the laundry.

Over and over again for the rest of the day I had doubts, and I asked/re-asked the head cleaner to please, please make sure that he marked the bag of stuffed animals as needing very gentle handling. He was very compassionate and promised to do so. I felt confident. (First warning sign. I never feel confident.)

The apartment looks fantastic and I felt amazing for the first few days. It was like getting a whole new place to live. It wasn't until the laundry got back that I discovered that, after having worked hard to throw away tons of crap I didn't want, I'd accidentally lost stuff I did.

This Monday, I got all four bags/125 lbs(!) of laundry back. Everything looked great. When I took out the bag of stuffed animals, however, precisely four items were missing: the Big Four.

My heart sunk and I called the laundry service that was listed on the ticket. This was an outsourced job, apparently--the clutter cleaners send laundry to other folks. When I asked about the missing items, the woman said glibly, "Oh, one of the toys broke, so I threw it out."

Shocked/horrified, I asked about the other three, and she insisted no, it was just one, she'd done it herself. I said isn't it possible they were put in a different laundry bundle by accident? She said not likely but she'd check. By now I was getting some of my anger out from under the shock and said, rather lamely, "For future reference, if something like this happens, you shouldn't just throw out someone else's property." She said okay and she'd check and hung up.

Now more shocked/horrified plus angry as well, I called my cleaning company directly. Speaking to a manager, I related the story, explained that I'd said many times that these items should be treated delicately and had been reassured about that. I also said that this laundry woman wasn't telling the truth because there was more than one animal missing.

BTW I was not hysterical or anything, I was pretty much just conversational in tone. (My sister, who was listening to me, was frustrated that I wasn't showing more anger. I just didn't think showing rage to this manager would be helpful, it wasn't her fault. Also I didn't want to come across as any crazier than I already probably did for caring about some stuffed animals.)

To the credit of the manager, she took my complaint seriously and after learning what the laundry person had said, was a bit indignant. "No, that's just wrong. She shouldn't destroy your property, why didn't she at least put it in a bag for you? This is your stuff, she should also be talking reimbursement." I was grateful for her commiseration and reiterated that the laundry was also claiming it was just one item, and I knew there were three more missing. She said "I'll call her."

Very long story short: I haven't heard back. And I know the other stuffed animals were obviously destroyed too, so there's really nothing that can be done. But for the past two days I've been unreasonably low and depressed and angry. I have the following issues:

1. I'm furious with myself for being so careless with items that mattered to me so dearly. I know they are childish and I'm 51 and I shouldn't care about stuffed animals. But they mattered. I'm an overly nostalgic person anyway who can anthropromphize a matchbook if I happen to find something cute about it, and I find it difficult to throw stuff out in the best of times (obviously or I wouldn't have cluttering relapses). So why in God's name did I trust the most nostalgic items I have with this cleaning company??? Just because of some possible moths? I should've had them cleaned by a specialist if that was my wish. I should've followed my instincts when I was uneasy about their not being treated delicately. I'm so fucking mad at myself I could spit.

2. I'm angry at the laundry woman, who IMHO made several errors in judgment/professionalism:

a) She lied and claimed only one animal was destroyed. Unless the other three animals decided to run away to save themselves, Toy Story-like, those guys were absolutely lost by this laundry.

b) She destroyed a delicate stuffed toy that should have been treated delicately since its age was obvious. If you're a professional laundry worker, I'm guessing you can estimate what'll survive a laundry cycle and what won't. Ideally she should've put the pieces aside and contacted me to make sure this was what I wanted.

c) She threw the animal(s) out. Not leaving them in a separate bag so that maybe I could have them fixed. Just tossed someone else's possessions into the trash.

d) She didn't even include a note about these missing items in the laundry receipt. Now admittedly I don't send my laundry out to be cleaned very often, but is this normal? Does a cleaner just ignore clothing that was ruined and pretend it never existed, in some hopes that the client won't notice?!

e) Not once did she even say she was sorry. I guess she felt that would have been admitting wrongdoing and would make me, I dunno, sue her? It may seem petty to care that she never apologized for any of the above issues, but it just compounds the grievance to me, somehow. I lost some very nostalgic items. Attention must be paid.

3) I'm very sad. I've lost a lot of real people I loved in my life; there's been more tragedy than is our fair share. This year has been particularly stressful. My widowed sister is still broken after the sudden loss, and I'm trying to support her as best I can, which is difficult considering I suffer from depression and am feeling pretty worthless at the best of times. I also just miss my parents very much right now, and am in the middle of writing a book that's very autobiographical involving a family tragedy just before I was born and my mom's reaction to it--and this is bringing up a lot of sorrow too. Frankly, the election didn't help either. So, in short, I really didn't fucking need this shit on top of everything else. I'm in a very low, scary place.

Whew. I'm just venting. I know there's nothing to be done. The cleaning company hasn't gotten back to me, as mentioned, so I'm assuming they got in touch with the laundry and were told "no, we don't know what happened to your crazy client's toys, who gives a fuck" and thus had nothing to tell me.

So I don't know what to do. Should I call the cleaners again to see if they checked with the laundry after all? Should I write a bad Yelp review for the laundry? I don't know.

I guess there's nothing to do. These animals had no value except to me, and to a slightly lesser extent my sisters. I can't imagine asking for reimbursement, especially because putting a price to these four stuffed animals seems ridiculous (even though to me they were so precious).

And yet I'm left with this incredible sadness. I understand they weren't alive and they couldn't feel pain. But I have this horrible guilt, as if they thought I didn't care about them and just tossed them away. (Yes, I know how cuckoo this sounds. I KNOW THEY WERE NOT SENTIENT.) As I said at the beginning, I'm so angry with myself for not following my instincts and being so careless. I can't escape the responsibility of having sent these things to their deaths.

I just can't believe this part of my childhood is gone. When I was a kid I slept with Pooh hugged close to me until I was 13, then he'd just sit on my bed but was still a fixture there. I didn't take him to college, but he was still home and a fond sight for me, especially after my mom got sick and died when I was 19. I never thought I'd lose him, and most especially I never ever thought I'd be the one to recklessly, unthinkingly, hand him over to be destroyed.

It's not entirely possible that part of my mourning is leftover grief from losing my brother-in-law/friend a year ago; or even residual grief for my parents.

I guess all this writing devoted to what most will call a dumb toy is ridiculous. But I'm feeling impotent and angry and sad and I needed to express it. I'm tired of loss.

Sorry. Snark away. It's my fault and I'm to blame, and no 51-year-old loser should care about stuffed animals. I know it.

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Old 09-13-2017, 12:24 PM
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Correction:

"It's not entirely possible that part of my mourning is leftover grief from losing my brother-in-law/friend a year ago; or even residual grief for my parents."

Should have been:

"It IS entirely possible that part of my mourning is leftover grief from losing my brother-in-law/friend a year ago; or even residual grief for my parents."
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Old 09-13-2017, 12:46 PM
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I'm so sorry, choie. I don't think that's silly at all.

My mom always used to say things like, "how do you think Mr. Bear feels with the covers over his face so he can't breathe?" and stuff like that that would make me feel guilty even though I knew Mr. Bear didn't need oxygen.
Once, in a toy store, she had told me I could pick out anything I wanted and I had my eye on a certain toy. But she picked up a stuffed dog and made it talk to me, "Oh please take me home, don't leave me here on the shelf" sort of thing, and of course then I had to take that dog or I'd have felt terrible about it. And I was plenty old enough to know better!

So I'm not laughing at you. I have a stuffed rabbit, 40-some years old, and I would be devastated if something happened to him.

I still have hopes that your animals may turn up...
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Old 09-13-2017, 02:33 PM
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Don't feel bad. We're all weird and quirky in our own way, every one of us, whether we admit it or not. And anyway, you're really only reacting the way most of us would when a sentimental heirloom or memento was carelessly lost or destroyed.
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Old 09-13-2017, 02:45 PM
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I'm 49 and still have a baby blanket I had as a baby/ toddler. ( make all the Linus jokes ya want) It's been in the closet for 45 years.

I would be beyond upset if it was lost or tossed by a clueless functionary.

I can't tell you how to get by this, but I can say,YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO YOUR FEELINGS.

I'm sorry I can't help, but your aren't out of line here.

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Old 09-13-2017, 03:26 PM
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Oh, no! I am so sorry this happened. I would be devastated if I lost my Teddy Anne that way, or any way really. I have had her for 48 years. I think it's completely understandable that your are mourning this loss.
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Old 09-13-2017, 04:04 PM
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Totally sucks, choie. I have my Bear Bear who's 34 and still sleeps with me every night (inside a pillow case now but I know he's there!) He doesn't represent a special attachment to my parents, just to my childhood, and I would be devastated if I lost him in such a way. Absolutely even more so if he held special meaning with me regarding my deceased parents.

I don't think you wrecklessly handed your toys over to be destroyed. You were careless in letting them get that far but oh well. From what you wrote I would have absolutely trusted the cleaning service, too.

You're right that there's nothing really more to do if they are truly gone. And this is going to sound stupid but please don't beat yourself up about it, or let the anger of the situation overcome you. You don't have to LET IT GO ALREADY SHEESH! but you do need to kind of let it go. All of the anger and tears in the world is not going to bring them back.

Do you have access to any photos of the toys? If you do I would start making a scrapbook of their memory. Seriously. You don't have the toys but you'll always have your memories. And if you have PHOTOS of those memories even better! And if you don't have photos, draw them or something. Do something so that they don't completely slip away...

Good luck with your home, too. I'm sure there's a lot of other crazy emotions going on right now for you. ((hugs))
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Old 09-13-2017, 04:10 PM
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It's ok to grieve for them. Allow yourself to feel your sadness, and to say goodbye.
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Old 09-13-2017, 04:25 PM
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I don't know anything about your situation, but the one thing I'd like you to keep in mind is that it wasn't a mistake to get your potentially dangerous keepsakes from leaving the house. Don't let this be a lesson to not keep your place clean.

It is sad and unfortunate that somebody did not do their job properly and it's okay to be sad about losing something that held real importance to you. That said, it is NOT a larger lesson that you cannot trust anyone or that you should never let your things be organized and clean.
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Old 09-13-2017, 04:30 PM
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Not only do I think your feelings on this aren't stupid, but I would actually go to the media on this if it's not resolved. You are even legally entitled to compensation, but I'd just feel satisfied in making sure everyone knows not to ever let this laundry service handle anything remotely important to them.

You probably do have additional grief from other situations. But you are entirely justified in being upset about this. It is not your fault at all, since they gave a verbal guarantee that this wouldn't happen.

Not that I disagree with what other people are saying about scrapbooking and such. Or even that you should do what I would do. I just wanted to let you know that you are entirely justified in how you are feeling. And not just in the "accept your feelings" sense. As in, these people legitimately wronged you.
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Old 09-13-2017, 06:13 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I am 50 and have my baby blanket from the day I was born. I am keeping my fingers crossed that somehow they are found.

Please know that you aren't silly or foolish and if I could give you a big hug, I would!


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Old 09-13-2017, 08:13 PM
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I am an anti-hoarder and even I am angry for you. If what happened to you happened to me, I would be livid. Especially with her just chucking them out?? I mean wtf? Fingers crossed that there has been some sort of miscommunication and your things will be returned to you.
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Old 09-13-2017, 09:42 PM
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You're not a loser. I would be so pissed if that happened to me. That woman had no right to throw out your things, no matter what they were or how old they were. I'd follow up with the cleaning company, but I'd be writing reviews, too.

It's probably not the animals so much as what (childhood?) or who they represent. I have a 53-year-old well-loved lump of former plush that used to be a bunny. it was given to me when I was born by an uncle who died in his twenties when I was two years old. It's gross and is in a box in the attic, but I can't throw it away. I also have a large teddy in the closet given to me by an aunt shortly before she died in 1997. I slept with it for a year after she died so now it's worn out and I can't give it away, but I can't throw it away, either.

Also, they seem alive. I can't kill a spider, so how can I throw away something even bigger with eyes and an expression??
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Old 09-14-2017, 02:37 AM
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I am so sorry this happened. I have things that I would be devastated to lose too, I don't think your feelings are unreasonable at all. I definitely think you should leave them terrible reviews. Their lack of respect and accountability is reprehensible.
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Old 09-14-2017, 04:10 AM
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Holy Crap!

So, so, very not dumb, or trivial, or meaningless ... that was your childhood that cleaner threw out, not "just stuff" - no wonder you're furious and sad. Anybody would be furious and sad (I'm furious and sad FOR you and I'm twenty-thousand miles away!!)

I won't try to advise you on what to do next, because that would be very dependent on what you think is the sort of thing which would make you feel better. But it is TOTALLY NORMAL for you to grieve over the loss of connections to your childhood and people who are important to you. The cleaners did a wrong and bad thing, and they should feel bad about it.
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Old 09-14-2017, 04:58 AM
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Like others, I don't feel you're the least bit silly or childish. Many people have keepsakes, items of little real value, that still represent an emotional tie to a person, place, or time. I have several nick-nacks left over from my Mom's place that I don't necessarily need or want to keep, yet cannot throw away, or even box up and put away. If they were suddenly just gone, I'd be a wreck for a least a little bit over their loss.
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Old 09-14-2017, 08:45 AM
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So I guess I'll just state upfront that I know this is trivial and unimportant to everyone in the world but me.
But it IS important to you. And many of us also get "overly" emotional about "silly" things that have deep personal meaning to us.

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As I've documented elsewhere, I have cluttering/hoarding issues that were in... well, I don't know if "remission" is the right word, since it's not a disease, but I've controlled them and maintained a decent level of cleanliness in my home. That control broke apart starting this year, which has been one of the worst in my life after losing my brother-in-law.
Hello, my name is Broomstick and I have hoarding tendencies.

::: chorus "Hello Broomstick":::

Choie, hoarding/cluttering/hanging onto stuff to the point it causes you a problem IS a type of mental illness. It's not like, say, crushing depression or schizophrenia but it IS a real problem. Like all such problems, it's on a spectrum. Good on you for working on solving the problem in your own way.

That said - as already pointed out, some of your childhood was thrown out. It was inexcusable behavior. I'm somewhat acquainted with the backrooms of professional laundries/cleaners and while such people SHOULD be professionals and SHOULD inform a customer in the event of damage not all people are ethical or competent. I'm deeply sorry on your behalf that this has happened. I know how gutted I feel when one of my keepsakes is destroyed, four of them at once is heartbreaking.

And yes, of course this is tied up to other losses you've recently had.

I'm older than you and I still have my first teddy bear. It's the only stuffed animal I've hung onto, and I hope to keep it the rest of my life. Silly? Yes. But after having lost most of the rest of my family I'm reluctant to let go of this one.

You are not silly, you are not immature, you are hurting. Unfortunately, there's not much I can do for you other than give you a virtual hug.

{{{{hug}}}}


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Whew. I'm just venting. I know there's nothing to be done. The cleaning company hasn't gotten back to me, as mentioned, so I'm assuming they got in touch with the laundry and were told "no, we don't know what happened to your crazy client's toys, who gives a fuck" and thus had nothing to tell me.
People get a LOT of sentimental and nostalgic stuff cleaned. Baby blankets. Toys. Etc. Most people understand that people/customers get attached to stuff and it's important to the customer. That doesn't make you "crazy". Given how calm and collected you were it's doubtful they consider you "crazy". I assure you, there are FAR worse customers displaying far more "crazy" behavior than you have.

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So I don't know what to do. Should I call the cleaners again to see if they checked with the laundry after all?
Yes, call the cleaners again.

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Should I write a bad Yelp review for the laundry? I don't know.
Give the laundry ample opportunity to resolve this before you go to social media.

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I guess there's nothing to do. These animals had no value except to me, and to a slightly lesser extent my sisters. I can't imagine asking for reimbursement, especially because putting a price to these four stuffed animals seems ridiculous (even though to me they were so precious).
You could potentially take them to small claims court over this, but wining might be difficult. That would be a last resort.

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And yet I'm left with this incredible sadness.
Of course you do. You have suffered yet another loss. You are grieving. It's OK.

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It's not entirely possible that part of my mourning is leftover grief from losing my brother-in-law/friend a year ago; or even residual grief for my parents.
Possible? It's certain. These losses are all touching each other.

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Sorry. Snark away. It's my fault and I'm to blame, and no 51-year-old loser should care about stuffed animals. I know it.
Nonsense. You are hurting. You are to IMMEDIATELY stop calling yourself "crazy" and a "loser". Stop it.

You are going through some awful emotional stuff involved with losing family members to death. Of course this spills over into other stuff, sort of straw that breaks the camel's back. I don't want to derail this thread but I could go on for pages about the silly, inconsequential stuff that can start my bawling since my husband died last April. It's part of the normal grieving process. This is just one more loss scraping a raw wound. It's OK to be angry, sad, and frustrated.

Vent away.
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Old 09-14-2017, 09:51 AM
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I would feel the same way you do if something happened to my important animals. It indeed would be mourning. I had quite the collection and wanted to pare down but felt tremendous guilt because I just knew they would know I was getting rid of them. I finally told myself and them, "thank you for bringing me joy but it's time you moved to a new house and helped other people." I told the remaining guys that some were moving to Florida.

If you have a therapist you might want to discuss this with him/her. Not because your feelings are wrong, but to validate that it's o.k. to be very sad.

P.S. I'm 60, and still have my Teddy T. that was given to me when I was 6 months.....
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Old 09-14-2017, 04:47 PM
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I am an anti-hoarder and even I am angry for you. If what happened to you happened to me, I would be livid. Especially with her just chucking them out?? I mean wtf? Fingers crossed that there has been some sort of miscommunication and your things will be returned to you.

Same. I love throwing stuff out. I have zero emotional attachment to any object, and i still feel bad for you.

I hope you get your stuffed animals back.
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Old 09-14-2017, 05:00 PM
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Oh my. Count me in as another one who would be devastated if that happened to me. I have a baby blanket and a handful of stuffed animals/dolls that I've had since before I remember, I can't imagine how wrecked I'd've been if someone casually destroyed them.

I don't have any answers for you, just wanted to chime in and say that you are not acting childishly or nuts over this one. It flat out just sucks.
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Old 09-14-2017, 07:47 PM
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I am in Florida and had to "bug out" to my Mom and Daddy's during Irma***. I am 38 and a half years old. In the event that our trailer was destroyed, I dang for sure was taking my Chippy with me. I have had him since I was three years old.

At the very LEAST you deserve an apology. I am sorry for all you have been through. *HUGS*

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Old 09-15-2017, 04:28 PM
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I'm very sorry this happened. My daughter (a teenager) has a menagerie of stuffed animals and they all have names and specific personalities.
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Old 09-17-2017, 11:39 AM
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Oh God, thank you all so much for being so understanding and open with stories about your own treasured things! I can't tell you what it means not to be judged for caring about these little animals for so long, and for mourning their loss. They represented tons of memories of the stories my sister and I created when we were kids that involved these animals (and dozens more) in their own land, rather originally called Poohcity.

(Although, now that I think of it, this was definitely a country, it had its own national anthem and language, and celebrated its own Olympics every four years... okay, clearly we didn't think the name issue through!)

I do still have those memories, and even some keepsakes remain. The Poohcity charter and official national anthem scroll are in a scrapbook, and I know I've got at least one old recording of me and my sister at 8 and 10 presenting/commentating the Olympics games for Poohcity radio station WNBT. Still, in the end, what was dearest to me and most meaningful was hugging Pooh tight when I went to sleep.

As far as my addressing this situation with the company/ies involved: I wrote to my contact at the clutter-cleaning company, explaining what happened. I reminded her that I'd gone to her company because the staff understood the psychological attachments hoarders/clutters have to their belongings. I felt she should know that a third-party laundry (to whom this company probably sent a lot of business to) had been this careless and glib with one of their clients and her belongings.

Haven't heard back, but I wrote it on Friday, and they're Orthodox Jews, so she might not have gotten to it. Or maybe it'll just be ignored. It's all I can do as far as that company's concerned.

I'll have to get my nerve up to speak to the laundry again. Part of me is tired of having my hopes dashed. On Friday I got buzzed from my doorman, telling me that a package had arrived; I wasn't expecting anything, and somehow a trace of stupid optimism--which I thought I'd stamped out of my soul long ago--burst out and let me think: OMG, maybe it's a bag from the laundry with Pooh et al. in it!

That was a nice five minutes, but of course it turned out to be something I'd ordered from Amazon weeks ago and forgot all about. And then I got sad all over again. Hope sucks.

But I do need to talk to the laundry one more time, just because I should give them a chance to apologize or say anything appropriate before I hit 'em hard on Yelp. Though I'll be honest in my review and say that the clothing was cleaned very well. (And honestly, the other animals were cleaned well too. I guess if you put stuffed animals in superhot water and suds and tumble them around for ages, they'll get clean. They might also get destroyed and destuffed.*)

Anyway thank you all again for your suggestions and your kind, warm words. I wish I could've responded with a surprise happy ending, but obviously that wasn't gonna happen. Still, while I have the same mild nausea when I think of having been so irresponsible with belongings I cared about, I'm trying not to think about it too much and move on. There's nothing else to do, really.

* Destuffed sounds like a title of a mock film noir murder mystery starring stuffed animals. Sort of a Roger Rabbit vibe.)
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Old 09-18-2017, 03:33 PM
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I'm late to the party, as usual, but I just wanted to chime in. I'm a middle-aged man and I have a grand total of three stuffed animals, which I would be quite upset to lose. They were given to me by dear friends in (relatively) recent years, and as such they have tremendous sentimental value.

One is a replica of the Velveteen Rabbit. Years ago, my partner (now ex, but still best friend) was astonished that I had never read the book as a child. He gave me a gift set that included the book and the aforementioned stuffed bunny. I display it proudly and prominently.

Another is a stuffed frog that my friends bought for me when we went to see "The Book of Mormon" on stage. You'd have to see the show to understand.

The third is a teddy bear that the same friends sent to me (along with balloons) in the hospital after my heart attack earlier this year.

I would be furious if some callous stranger destroyed them/threw them away and then lied about it.
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Old 09-19-2017, 08:43 AM
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So, so sorry to hear that happened to you, choie. Stuffed animals and childhood toys can have surprisingly strong emotional power over us, even many years later. I remember getting a little puddled up when I unexpectedly found one of my stuffed animals, Randy the Raccoon, decades after I'd last seen him.
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Old 09-19-2017, 04:27 PM
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I feel so sad for you. I don't have my childhood stuffed animals anymore, but I have pictures and other little items that would be heartbreaking to lose. (My father took one of my favorite photos out of its frame to scan it -- without asking! -- and I was thinking you are SO lucky nothing happened to it.)

More mundane but frustrating: I worked in facilities for a medical institution and we got a new company to do our lab coat laundering. Now, they were trying to get our business so you would think they would be careful. But they were used to supply the coats to their customers, not laundering coats turned in to them. But the rep knew this was what we were doing -- handing in our coats with paper labels I had attached to each one. Some of them were coats that docs had had presented to them with personalizations, etc. They got picked up and laundered, the labels washed away, and some of the non-vendor coats were simply lost. I felt sick about it but also just angry at the incompetence of a company trying to get their foot in the door.

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