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Old 06-03-2004, 01:30 AM
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How long do virgin (guys) last during sex?

If you are a guy, how long did your "first time" last.

If you are a girl, how long do virgins last in bed. And does this disappoint you?
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Old 06-03-2004, 02:17 AM
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I'm a guy. Not too goddamned long. Somewhere between one and five minutes. If you want me to be more exact, I'd guess around two and a half. The second time, approximately double that, and by the third or so I got it under control.
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Old 06-03-2004, 03:05 AM
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Forever. I didn't come my first time.
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Old 06-03-2004, 05:27 AM
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I've slept with 2 virgins. There was a big difference in the amount of time they lasted.
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Old 06-03-2004, 06:03 AM
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Forever. I didn't come my first time.
Thank you for that, thought I was the only one. Was your lady as impressed as mine?
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Old 06-03-2004, 06:05 AM
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My first time was pretty good time-wise, heck, it was pretty good, period. I came twice, once after 10 minutes, the second time after another 10 (probably a 5 minutes break in-between). I was ready to go for a third time, but we stopped then. I think the nightly masturbating had much to do with the control. Frankly I don't think I've ever been able to come in under 5 minutes, even if I was trying to go for a serious quicky.

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Old 06-03-2004, 06:06 AM
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Thank you for that, thought I was the only one. Was your lady as impressed as mine?
No, she wasn't. And that's all I have to say about that.
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Old 06-03-2004, 06:31 AM
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My first time was pretty damned fast, like within a minute, but I remained ready for further action for quite a while as we continued for the duration.
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Old 06-03-2004, 07:00 AM
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Forever. I didn't come my first time.
Thank you for that, thought I was the only one. Was your lady as impressed as mine?
I wasn't even able to get it up my first time - too nervous! Luckily, she was forgiving - she said she'd seen it happen before. When I finally psyched myself up, we were at it for a couple of minutes, then a knock on the front door interrupted us. It was her ride home!

I still haven't had the chance to redeem myself (with her or anyone else).

A few days later, I (drunkenly) confessed the whole thing to one of my friends. He told me that during his first time, he and his lady were at it like rabbits for two whole days - and he didn't come once.
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Old 06-03-2004, 07:34 AM
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Forever. I didn't come my first time.


Thank you for that, thought I was the only one. Was your lady as impressed as mine?
Same here. My lady friend was very impressed and grateful. The next few times, too. But then she got concerned and thought that it was her fault I wasn't completing. That's a bad rap to put on anyone, and I wasn't happy about that. Fortunately, with patience and repeated trials we were able to overcome my anxieties. Caring partners are what you need.


I have to point out that, in one long session, both of us sustained friction burns on our tender areas. Sometimes longer is not better.
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Old 06-03-2004, 07:37 AM
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Didn't actually come until my third time doing it. And yes, my partner was pretty impressed.
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Old 06-03-2004, 07:45 AM
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I didn't until time #2. My girl was kinda impressed, I guess, but it was her first time, too. And to be fair, the reason I didn't do it the first time was the medication I was on. The second time I was on different meds and I'd say I went for about 15 or so.
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Old 06-03-2004, 08:49 AM
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Uhm.. well.. let's say it would sound better measured in seconds..
But the upside was that at that age, it didn't take long to get back into action.
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Old 06-03-2004, 09:21 AM
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Forever. I didn't come my first time.
What he said.

*bamf*
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Old 06-03-2004, 12:25 PM
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I lost my virginity to a virgin. Maybe we just exchanged virginities. Anyway, the foreplay stage lasted about six months; the act itself lasted nowhere near long enough---I would guess between three and five minutes. Now it takes me that long just to remember what it is I'm supposed to be doing.
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Old 06-03-2004, 12:40 PM
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Uhm.. well.. let's say it would sound better measured in seconds..
But the upside was that at that age, it didn't take long to get back into action.

Mine wouldn't even sound good measured in seconds. It was a few seconds. She was understanding, for the most part.

But it gets better.
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Old 06-03-2004, 12:52 PM
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I lost my virginity to a virgin also - we were both about 14 and it only lasted a couple minutes. But I didn't care, it was fine. Last year, I devirginized a strapping young lad who was 24, and it took him well over an hour. He was pretty nervous, I think. But it was fun - for both of us.
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Old 06-03-2004, 01:05 PM
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I was way too self-conscious to come the first time. I think it lasted about 20 minutes, but don't extrapolate from that that it was "good".
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Old 06-03-2004, 07:15 PM
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That's in milli-seconds though.



I did somewhat better on turns 2 through 5. It didn't seem to matter to her one way or another, best I can remember. It was 1965 or so.


I do remember that it wasn't her first time. It may not have been her first time that day. Thought it was free.
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Old 06-03-2004, 07:16 PM
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Oops, should have been, "Though it was free."
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Old 06-03-2004, 07:39 PM
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Didn't come my first three times having sex. Still waiting on try number four.

I did go a solid twenty minutes each time, and was more than willing to keep trying, but they had other customers waiting.
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Old 06-03-2004, 08:31 PM
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Forgive me, but being a virgin I don't quite understand why the men here haven't been able to 'cum'. I imagine myself being a little over excited to get in there and 'cum'.
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Old 06-03-2004, 09:07 PM
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Forgive me, but being a virgin I don't quite understand why the men here haven't been able to 'cum'. I imagine myself being a little over excited to get in there and 'cum'.
Anxiety. Fear that something will happen. Fear that something won't happen. Fear of STD. Fear that, despite any and all precautions, you will get your partner pregnant.
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Old 06-03-2004, 09:30 PM
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I know I came my first time; though I don't remember how long it took. What I remember most about my first time was worrying that my mom would come home from work early and thinking to myself, "Holy shit, I actually have my dick in a girl."
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Old 06-03-2004, 11:37 PM
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My first time wasn't so hot. I'd been going with my lady friend about six months as we slowly went from 'just friends' to 'good friends' to 'very good friends.' Then on my birthday, a Friday, she made it quite clear that she had a more personal gift in mind. She was no virgin. In fact, one of the reasons we were six months leading up to that night was because her last lover was a complete jerk and she was happy to be in a non-sexual relationship for a while.

Anyway, we were about forty-five minutes kissing, petting and undressing each other and, although I was getting tingly all over, nothing downstairs was coming to attention. When she offered herself, no amount of poking or rubbing led to anything actually getting in. Frustrated, I said, "It's just not working." She said that it was okay and not to worry about it (Ha!). I laid down with my thigh between her legs and got her off that way and manually. We slept spooned and that felt pretty marvelous, actually.

Next morning, everything was fine. Since we were already nude, we played with each other for only about ten minutes before she said, in effect "Gimme!" I was kneeling, trying to watch everything at once and marveling at how good it felt for perhaps three minutes before it was over, much too quick for her and not that earth-shattering for me either. We peed, rinsed off, and got into bed again, where I apologized. She said it was okay, she'd gotten plenty last night and got a kick out of watching my elation. Then she said that the Jerk would have sulked or gotten angry and somehow contrive to blame her. Instead I'd done what I could to pleasure her and she really appreciated that.

With that we got all kissy face and within a few minutes we were at it again, with her on top. That lasted a good fifteen minutes and we both got a climax that time; pretty good ones, too.

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Old 06-04-2004, 01:49 AM
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Forgive me, but being a virgin I don't quite understand why the men here haven't been able to 'cum'. I imagine myself being a little over excited to get in there and 'cum'.
One common reason, if you're losing your virginity a significant time after puberty (I was 28) is that years of masturbation have conditioned your dick to respond to a certain kind of stimulation, which, believe me, feels nothing like the real thing. From what I've read, it sometimes takes a certain amount of re-training to get used to the new sensations. It feels great, and I was hard as a rock all three times, but apparently it just wasn't what my fireman was used to.

In my particular case (I was in Amsterdam at the time) I was also A) sick (caught a cold on the plane over ) B) having sex with a woman I'd just met five minutes earlier, and C) rrrrreeeally high on pot. All of which can have a negative effect on sexual function by themselves, but put together, I didn't have a chance in hell of getting off.

Either that, or I'm gay.
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Old 06-04-2004, 07:04 AM
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If the girl is a virgin and/or you haven't warmed things up properly, anything is going to be too long for her. Be nice to her and make her happy or you'll hurt her.
Teenage boys usually forget about foreplay, to a greater or lesser extent.

Presumably they're so shocked you've agreed to sleep with them, they want to get started before you can change your mind.

For the guys who can't finish, make sure she's satisfied, and then suggest an alternative ending. Personally, I'd much prefer a pearl necklace to being bored, tired and uncomfortable while the guy thrusts for hours.
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Old 06-04-2004, 07:23 AM
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90 mnutes the first time.

.09 seconds the second time.
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Old 06-04-2004, 09:30 AM
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Well, let me say this -- my foreplay was terrific. I lasted a long time and she loved it.

But, if you just count the time between penetration and climax... a mere few seconds. It felt a whole lot better and was a lot more exciting than I had expected. I thought all those years of masturbation would've numbed me a bit. Nope.
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Old 06-04-2004, 11:14 AM
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Well, after two failed attempts to even get it up to do the deed, I finally got it up long enough to get it in. I came about seven second later. She thought I'd just lost it again.

Bless her heart, she gave me plenty of chances to redeem myself over the next sixteen-odd months.
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Old 06-04-2004, 07:05 PM
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Kinda depends on what your first experience involves. My first was a BJ after a lot of intertwining and I was surprised that it took what seemed like forever. A side note, young men have the capacity of distance so take this into consideration with your partner or you're gonna gag her.

If you were to read up on the subject you will get all sorts of answers. Found an old copy of "The Naked Ape" and they say that men take 2-5 minutes and women take 10-20 minutes. IMO it's all BS because orgasm is largely a mental function. You can get anyone really worked up and make them explode with a single touch. If you've spent 2 hours kissing and hugging and you are flush red from head to tow then orgasm will surely be measured in seconds. If you apply a lubricant and "have at it" then it will take much longer.

There are techniques that will speed up or slow the process down. One delaying trick for men is to flex the same muscle(s) used for ejaculation just prior to each insertion. It causes something of a short circuit.
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Old 03-31-2013, 12:19 AM
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You Guys Are All Liars

Ask any woman how long a "virgin" has last on their first time. 99.9% of all women will tell you about the same thing

1) He came upon penetration

OR for the real Stallions amongst us ~

2) She got "two or three good pumps, a couple big grunts and a 10 second quiver"
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Old 03-31-2013, 12:29 AM
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Ahh yes, but the real question is how long can a virgin last who has died and been resurrected as a zombie to have sex? Would he bang til it fell off?
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Old 03-31-2013, 12:32 AM
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Well, maybe they were all liars some nine years ago...

But, in solidarity to some of the posters from so long ago, I also didn't orgasm my first time during sex. Actually, the first couple times I didn't and then we ditched the condoms since she had gone on the pill. After that it was all systems go and later on she was off the pills, we were back to condoms and everything still worked just fine.

In retrospect we probably should have experimented with other types/sizes/materials of condoms before just calling it quits on them but, you know... kids these days.
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Old 03-31-2013, 12:34 AM
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... Nine years of foreplay, apparently

ETA: Damn, too slow (that's not what she said)

Last edited by StrangeBird; 03-31-2013 at 12:36 AM.. Reason: Ninja'd by Jophiel and Ambivalid
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Old 03-31-2013, 11:31 AM
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Holy shit what an old thread. I haven't been a Virgin for years but only stopped being an idiot a little while ago.
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Old 03-31-2013, 11:40 AM
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I lost my virginity to a virgin. Maybe we just exchanged virginities. Anyway, the foreplay stage lasted about six months; the act itself lasted nowhere near long enough---I would guess between three and five minutes. Now it takes me that long just to remember what it is I'm supposed to be doing.
Hysterical!
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Old 03-31-2013, 05:09 PM
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45 minutes.
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Old 03-31-2013, 07:27 PM
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Damn near a whole minute.

Did better at the encore the next day.
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Old 03-31-2013, 08:16 PM
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How long do virgin (guys) last during sex?

If you supply the virgins, I'm willing to do the research.
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Old 03-31-2013, 08:25 PM
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If you supply the virgins, I'm willing to do the research.
You cool with 'born-again' versions?
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Old 03-31-2013, 08:37 PM
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You cool with 'born-again' versions?
Sorry, anyone but the truly pure might skew my oh-so-scientific data.
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Old 03-31-2013, 09:50 PM
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If you supply the virgins, I'm willing to do the research.
Well you've come to the right place!
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Old 04-01-2013, 07:39 AM
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Forever. I didn't come my first time.
same here. we went for hours and I didn't come. supposedly a person who is accustomed to Porn and masturbation can have trouble adjusting to a real person.
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Old 04-01-2013, 08:28 AM
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I lasted only about 8-to-10 minutes. She wasn't impressed.
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Old 04-01-2013, 08:50 AM
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First time was in high school with a girl who hopped into my friend's car when we were out driving around one night. Never even learned her name. She blew the two of them and she and I had sex, although I didn't cum. It probably had something to do with the fact that (i) I was used to masturbating, and while she felt great, she didn't feel 'right'; (ii) we were laying across the backseat of a car; (iii) which was being driven at the time; and (iv) my friends were in the front seat, giggling.

My second time, I erupted about two minutes after sliding in. Conditions were optimal- in college, just the two of us in her apartment, after months of flirting, and she was hot. Third time was with the same girl a few minutes later, and I lasted long enough for her to cum a couple times. The next morning was more of the same.
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Old 04-01-2013, 04:15 PM
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Oh c'mon it has to be said. A zombie virgin isn't really lasting that long; it's just rigor mortis.

It wasn't that he got off too soon, it's that it fell off first.

The girl did complain of crotch rot some though ...
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Old 04-01-2013, 06:50 PM
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Oh c'mon it has to be said. A zombie virgin isn't really lasting that long; it's just rigor mortis..
Like I said, 45 minutes...
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Old 04-01-2013, 08:26 PM
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Forever. I didn't come my first time.
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Thank you for that, thought I was the only one. Was your lady as impressed as mine?
I didn't come my first or second time, both with the same girl. Between my stamina and my oral skills she later broke up with me on the grounds that I'd lied to her about being a virgin.
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Old 04-02-2013, 02:53 AM
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A very long time, enough for Mrs. Robinson to brag how she went one night with a virgin. Thank goodness I never encountered another woman like that again (but thankful that I knew her so.)
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