My coworker, ranted about in the thread above, has slipped into a very deep depression. Creditors are calling her at work. Her boyfriend (not her husband) isn’t dating her anymore as far as I can tell, but she’s still leaning on him for support. I don’t like her, and I don’t consider her a friend, but she needs to get help, and now. I don’t like watching her suffer.
She said yesterday after working out a payment plan with one creditor or another, “if he (her husband) doesn’t get a job I’m going to kill myself”. She didn’t sound like she was kidding. He’s been out of work for going on two years and has stopped looking for jobs at all.
She spends her days sighing or with tears in her eyes. She writes long painful letters/diary entries about her boyfriend/lover/“friend”. If she didn’t leave these on the desk where I have to move them to get to the register, I wouldn’t know about them other than her constant sadness and sighing.
I’m susceptible to other people’s moods. She’s starting to bring ME down. I won’t have it. We work in a place about the size of a large studio apartment. There is no getting away from her.
Today, an instructor came in and asked why we weren’t open yesterday. We’re closed on Fridays, but apparently coworker had said she’d be here for a few hours so the people in a class that only meets this one weekend could get their books. Our boss used to do these special days (there’s only usually one a semester or so), but he retired last week. Not only did she not show, she sent the books back to the publisher on Thursday.
There were no notes on the computer desk (there are plenty about other stuff… this way we can both remind each other when events are coming up). I never heard a word about this thing or I would’ve reminded her.
I see this as a symptom of a much larger problem. I would just go to our boss, but we haven’t got one as he retired last week. The new guy doesn’t start until next week. I plan on sitting down with him and having a conversation after he’s settled, letting him know that I’m over here for him to call upon if he needs info. As most other people at the main branch seem to think I’m a non-entity. I might go to one of her equals who I know has a good relationship with her and is an all-around caring type guy and ask him what I should do. I’m concerned for her health, her job performance and my job security, because I wouldn’t put it past her to blame me for mistakes made in our branch to save her own butt.
I like this job. I’d love to have her job, which is my job with benefits and a much better salary as well as more experience for my future plans.
I know what it’s like to be depressed, hopeless and feeling like nothing’s going your way. I want to get across to her that she needs to change something, (get a fucking divorce for one) or both of us are going to get sucked into this spiral.
Just how do I do this?
Have any of you been in this situation?