And maybe the guys have some input for me on this one too, I don’t exactly know.
Here’s the straight dope-
I had a friend, her name was Kim. We had a good relationship, and that progressed into more intimate terms later on. I’ve known her almost 3 years now. One day, she just dropped out of society it seemed. She was running from her feelings, no doubt, but I’ve never gotten a confirmation on that.
The next time I got into contact with her was when my father passed away. I was torn up and I needed a shoulder to cry on. She said, and I quote “I’m so sorry, I don’t know what I’d ever do if my dad died”. That was all(I never bought up the fact that I was there for her when her best friend died and her dad attempted suicide).
I spoke to her maybe 3 times after that, about 6-8 months apart. I never saw her, and she dodged the messages I left her.
Fast-forward to 3 weeks ago. She starts IM’ing me on AIM, out of the blue again. I told her I was pissed, she quelled my anger and we move on to other things. It was smooth. She made me laugh, made me feel warm, just like always. She calms my nerves down. It progressed to the “baby” phase(the phase when you call each other the above). THen it was the “I miss you phase”. Just like that.
She’d moved to Texas, and was homesick, understandable. She said she was going to visit home in 2 weeks. Great! I thought. So the day she arrives comes and passes…then a week passes…then it’s almost 2 weeks.
So I compose an E-mail(which had begun in my head the friday she arrived). It spanned the friendship, romance, and absolute rejection I’ve felt over the duration of our relationship, start to finish. It was kinda biting, I’m sure for her to read it.
So, I receive an IM from her and she’s still lovey-dovey, so I know something’s wrong. She hasn’t read the fricking letter!<DoH> So I know what’s coming, and I know it’s coming soon. I left my desk to think about it for a minute, and came back to an angry IM saying how I was a jerk because her grandmother died.
So I’m sad her grandma died, but I’m not sad I sent the letter. In fact, a queer-typa(not sexual orientation) smile came across my face and I felt So totally relieved that I hjad gotten all the crap off of my chest.
Am I wrong to feel this way? She has me trying to believe that I should feel badly and that I was asking for justification in my little rant to her(I never asked anything, I just stated it the way I felt it). I apologized to her for the situation(with gramma dying), but I didn’t apologize for the letter.
So even though I jumped the gun on sending the letter, and I’ve no doubt lost a friend I truly loved at one time, was I wrong? And am I correct in feeling that a firend should have contacted another to let them know what was going on? I didn’t even know if she made it allright or not. And this is what led me to believe that I was, once again, being rejected by her.
THank you for your patience, sorry about the length of the post.
-Sam