I challenge you to read that and not feel disgust for the guy who wrote it, and apparently expected his wife to sign and abide by it. That was before he tried to kidnap her or was arrested for child porn.
It almost makes me ashamed to be male. Almost, because as recognizeable as some of his desires are, the complete lack of interest in his wifes desires and needs is what makes it sick, not just the fact that he likes her near totally shaven (to a rather OCD degree of course)
It’s indefensible, but I think in order to understand why the hell he would think he could get away with this, you need to consider that he probably thought he was in a consensual ‘dominant – submissive’ relationship.
As long as it’s voluntary, what’s wrong with shaving?
Like I said, nothing in and of itself. Many men like it, and many women either like doing something they know men enjoy, or even like the effect themselves (though at a significant price of hassle and skin irritation, that’s understandably rarer).
This guy though, stipulates exact schedule and measurements of the remaining patch of pubic hair. I understand that some couples enjoy controlling play, but generally that’s just play: it’s not written into their marriage contracts and laid out in obsessive detail. Given his other apparent predelictions and violence…
Yes, this MUST be a 24/7 BDSM relationship, in which case this contract would actually be great! It would be nice to have the rules spelled out in advance.
Sorry, but I don’t have a problem with it assuming it to have been a mutually accepted D/s relationship. Their business.
I’d just like to note that I forwarded this to my wife, and even though I included a smiley or two, you should send out the Mounties if you haven’t heard from me in a couple of days.
Disgust? No. Amusement is more like it. If – and that’s a big if – his wife just regarded it as the stupidity it is. He seems to me like nothing so much as a petulant and “clever” child.
I see no reason that it MUST be anything…especially given that (from the other link,) "“When Ruth Frey tied the knot with her husband, she told police she did not expect to be tied to a bed, sexually assaulted and asked to sign a sick contract that conferred weird sexual obligations on her…”
Seriously, any would-be Masters or Doms out there, this is exactly what you should beware of; if your slave/sub/whatever decides she’s tired of the arrangement, you’re up shit creek.
Really need to know if the couple involved were in a serious consensual BDSM arrangement, or if this is something the husband tried to force uppon his wife. If the former, then it was of very bad taste for the wife to release that document, as it is clearly part os an SMDB role play situation even if it is 24/7. If the latter than the man is a fool and a blight to those who understand that consensuality is the most imprtant thind in BDSM and know that the Submissive always has the greatest real power in any relationship.
Even if she utterly went along with it, wouldn’t that type of behavior make him bored as hell after a little while? I mean, he takes all these things which are supposed to be fun and exciting, and makes them out to be like a list of chores for his wife to do.
I think for most normal, functional individuals, it is the concept of limitations, respect, and comprimise that makes interpersonal relationships fun. Getting what you want 24/7 like that sounds like it would get boring really quick- everything that is done doesn’t really have any value to it.
Of course they would both get bored pretty soon, and then go on to some other aspect of role play. They could still remember the time they made up a contract, and ocasionally bring it up the way any lovers bring up old stories and ideas. This is why we need more information than just the article. If the guy seriously thought this was an enforcable document that he would use to control his wife without her continued consent then he is IMHO a psycho who is a danger to women. If he thought the contract was a good sexual game that may last a few days or even weeks then he is just a fairly normal person with somewhat perverted lifestyle.
Put it this way, if Kate Bush wanted me to sign a similar contract to be her sex slave for a few weeks, I might seriously consider it
I don’t see what the big deal is. He gives her Good Behavior Time (GBT) credits, so what more could you ask for?
This is probably what group sex with a college tenure committee would be like (except there’s no talk of cultural diversity or community building). Or it could be like sex with a Fortune 500 except there’s no mention of outsourcing the Anal Sex Requirements to India.
I agree that in light of his other personal predilictions, the contract is kinda creepy. But it does seem pretty par for the course as bdsm “lifestyle” kind of contracts go. The only thing that seems missing, that most of the others I’ve seen tend to have, are contractual agreements for his behaviour as well. But some people write up separate “his’n’hers” contracts too, so no major warning flags there.
To me, the problem is not the contract. It’s the person writing the contract.
Ya know–I joined here and expanded my horizons and all that.
BUT.
This is my limit, right here. OK, I hear you all saying that in the bdsm community, this is small potatoes and not too spicy. I also hear the terms role playing for 24/7 bandied about. Sorry, that is not for me, can’t wrap my head around someone who would give up themselves to play a game or role all day and noc, all for sexual satisfaction.
So, thank you all for helping me delineate my limits.
And this sick man needs to be put away, IMO. I pity his kids.
