Tell us about the time you were most frightened

This topic came up the other day when I was visiting with family, and my mom told this story:

When she was about twenty years old, she was staying alone at her parents’ house while they were out of town, and she decided to mow their lawn before they got back. She did so, and then pushed the mower back into the open garage, shut the garage door and went into the house. A few moments later, she heard a crash in the garage. Thinking something had fallen over and meaning to investigate, she went towards the door which connected the house and garage. As she touched the doorknob, it turned in her hand!

She fled the house in terror and ran to the neighbors, who called the police. When the police came, they found that whoever had been in the house had gotten out without doing any harm. Mom still vividly remembers that moment of pants-wetting fear.

So…have you ever been really scared?

I was stuck in traffic in Hillah, a city south of Baghdad in 2003. It was just me and a colleague. In an empty lot there was an obviously deranged man screaming in Arabic, walking in circles and brandishing an AK47. He got fixated on the two white guys (us) and was standing next to our car just screaming at us. He was literally frothing at the mouth and brandishing his gun. We kept it together and very calmly drove up on the sidewalk and got out of dodge.

I’ve had other scrapes but that one sticks.

I was dropping my wife off at work one time. It was a Pub but the bar hadn’t opened yet. We had our then new born baby (about nine months actually) in the car with us.

This particular time my wife needed me to run over to the grocery store right across the street, pick up a few items, then bring them back to her at work. Right before I was about to leave my wife asked me if I wanted to: “leave the baby with her at the bar? or take him with me to the store?” To which I responded with “Nah, I’ll take the little guy with me.”

So I get to the store go in and do my shopping (A good twenty minutes or so) Then suddenly realized “I LEFT BABY IN THE CAR!!!” I immediately dropped everything and ran out to my car.

It should be known, that as I was running to my car; I clearly remember NOT locking the doors. Which I Just knew, at the time, some one was going to steal my baby" I get to my car and sure enough; baby wasn’t there!!

At this point tears are rolling down my face. I jump in the car and race back over to my wife’s work.

When I got there, baby (thank god!) was safe and sound.

Apparently and thankfully due to my wife’s short attention span; she took the baby with her even tho’ I told her to leave him with me.

whew…

This was more scary to me than the time I had a sawed off shot gun stuck in my belly by some crazy dude freaked out on crack cocaine. But I wont go into that.

Assuming that we don’t count my one bad claustrophobia attack:

that time in Ireland when I was 15 and my “host family” left me behind in a club (which I hadn’t known it was illegal for me to attend) with a guy I didn’t know. The guy was my “father’s” boss and apparently they were trying to pimp me out, from the conversation the following morning… there were some cops there, but the neighbor we’d gone with was a cop so I didn’t dare ask them for help. I asked this guy to take me home, he insisted in taking me to his home, I said no to the one where I was staying, he didn’t want to, I started just walking in that direction (which would take me in front of the cops but like I said I didn’t intend to ask them for help), he took my arm and said ok ok he’d take me. When we got there, “my” house was black but the cop neighbor’s lights were on (the babysitter). He claimed a kiss, which I granted under the light of two glaring lights and trembling like a leaf. He laughed at my closed-lipped kiss, then finally realized how scared I was and said “oh my God that wasn’t your first kiss was it!” I nodded. He left, looking stumped.

I’ve been in lots of situations that were as bad or worse, but never so scared.

I was 19, and I was staying the night at a female friend’s house in Texarkana, Arkansas. We’d planned to go to a bar in Louisiana (legal drinking age was still 18 there at the time) with her older brother and his friend. Her (single) dad decided he wanted to go, too. OK, he wasn’t planning to hang around us, so, whatever.

We go, have a good time playing pool and dancing, and when it’s time to leave, her dad is driving. We stop at McDonald’s for a late night snack, and I wonder why her dad is being so goofy and loud, but I just put it down to being in a good mood. When we’re driving home, I wonder why he’s driving like an idiot, tailgating people in his big truck, and so on. It still didn’t dawn on me what was going on until we’re taking this back road, and he’s flying around the curves and I realize the man is completely drunk.

I’d never known what it was like to be truly afraid I was going to die until that day. We actually flew around a bend and into a yard at one point, barely missing a tree as he tried to regain control. He wrecked his truck a little bit, but no one was hurt.

And you want to know what made me so pissed that to this day I wish I’d kicked him in the nuts? The first thing he said when we pulled into an empty church lot to inspect the truck was how he was glad the truck wasn’t in any worse shape. Nothing about how he almost killed his own kids and their friends, and he never once apologized to me for putting my life in danger.

I was way too much of a scared kid to know how to handle that situation at the time.

The most frightening moment I’ve ever had happened when I was about sixteen and was staying home alone while my parents were out of town. It was late at night, and I was in bed, trying to sleep through a terrific thunderstorm. Suddenly, the burglar alarm went off. I raced over to the panel to check to see which door had been opened, and horror washed through me. Four zones were flashing, indicating that at least four people were in my house!

I slipped grandparents’ bedroom and fished beneath the bed for the shotgun my grandfather keeps there. I loaded it with shaking hands, but then thought that the shotgun only has two rounds . . . I put down the shotgun and went over to his gun cabinet, grabbing an SKS and a bannana clip. I even locked the bayonet in place. I was loaded for bear, I tell you!

I locked the bedroom door behind me and cautiously slipped down the stairs. At the bottom, I let out a little shriek: there was a human figure before me! My finger went to the trigger, but luckily, my grandfather had trained me well with weapons. I stopped to be certain of my target before firing. It saved my grandmother’s mirror.

I swept the whole house, locking every door behind me (so the criminals would be trapped in a smaller area), expecting the police to show up at any minute. I didn’t find any intruders, so I went over to the downstairs alarm panel and turned off the blaring siren. My heart was hammering almost as loud as the horn’s wail. Where were the police? It had been at least ten minutes and I knew from a couple of false alarms that they always arrived within five.

I called the alarm company to see if they’d been dispatched and discovered that they hadn’t even recieved an alarm call at our residence. He told me to check the circuit box. The mystery was then solved: the violence of the storm had torn away some of our shingles and had let water in. It was dripping down onto the circuit box and caused a short. While I was talking to the guy, the alarm went off a few more times. Frustrated and suffering from the after-affects of a bad scare, I impatiently reached in and ripped out the board, silencing the alarm.

I went back to bed, putting the SKS beside the shotgun under my bed. I figured I’d take my chances with no alarm if someone tried to break in.

Nothing will scare the shit out of you like a lost kid, that’s for sure.

This one happened to a friend of mine. Glad it didn’t happen to me, or I think I would have lost it.

“Mr and Mrs. Smith” were taking a carload of kids from her local church to an amusement park a few hours’ drive away in one of the huge church vans. At one point, they all stopped at a roadside rest. It took more time than Mrs. Smith had intended, and she was a bit irritable trying to herd them all back into the van.

As they drove away, the kids were teasing her: “Ooops! You left Michael behind! Oh, no! Bill’s not in here!” She decided to ignore them. A few minutes later, one of them spoke up. “Uhh Mrs. Smith? Rusty’s not here.”

“Yeah, okay,” she said, rolling her eyes. Rusty is her own son, and he was about six at the time.

“No,* really*. He’s not here.”

“Good! I never liked him anyway!” Mr. and Mrs. Smith exchanged a chuckle.

“Seriously! He’s not in here!”

Mrs. Smith thought the joke had gone on long enough. “Rusty! Where are you?”

“He’s not in here! Honestly!”

Mrs. Smith was getting mad. She stopped the van, got out and went to look, figuring she’d find him on the floor under someone’s jacket, giggling his ass off. She made everyone get out and searched the van, panic dawning as she realized this was no joke. Her son really was missing.

She herded everyone back into the van and burned rubber as she swung the van around, breaking every conceievable traffic law on the way back to the rest stop. When they got there, they all fanned out to search for him, but no one had seen a little boy with bright red hair. She broke down in hysterics, certain he’d been kidnapped. Mr. Smith tried to calm her, got everyone back into the van and decided to head to the nearest State Trooper station.

When they arrived, they were told that the Troopers had Rusty. A kind stranger had seen him, running in the median. Poor kid was trying to run to catch up with the van! She had coaxed him into his car and drove him to the Trooper station.

Later, Mrs. Smith told me that she regretted the first words that came out of her mouth, but she was so panicked that she wasn’t thinking clearly: “I TOLD you never to get into a car with a stranger!”

On a side note, she told me she could never stomach the movie “Home Alone” and not just because it’s a crappy movie. Brought back too many bad memories.

I was 9 months pregnant with my daughter and went to the school to pick up my 10 year old son from after school care. He was not there.
I asked if he had signed in and yes, he had but they had no idea where he went. I ran around the school yelling to call 911 frantically looking all over for him. For one hour we searched every part of the school and lot until another parent brought him back. She said my son said it would be “fine” for her to take them to mcdonalds for a snack and bring him back. I don’t know who was more stupid, the day care people who allowed a child to be lead away without noticing or a stupid parent that thought it was okay to take a child without telling anyone.

That was the worst hour of my life. I have never been so frightened.

I went into labor the next day.

I was seventeen and on a two-week hiking trip in the moutains of New Mexico. About halfway through the trip, we were camped on top of a mountain. It was a miserable day hiking up there, windy and raining all afternoon, even a few bursts of lighting (nothing like being on a mountain with tall trees around in a lightning storm.) We finally got to the summit, ate a cold dinner. (It was a dry camp, and we didn’t want to carry up several gallon of water to cook our freeze dried dinner, we had our dinner at lunch, where we had access to a stream, and ate the lunch, which needed no cooking, for dinner.) So not having a nice hot meal before going to bed on such a crappy day really just makes one crappier. We all turned in early, because even though it had rained every afternoon for the past week we were there, there was still a no fire order in the park for the dry summer.

Sometime in the middle of the night, I was awakened by a sharp pain in my ankle. My girlish yelping and movement woke up my tent-mate, who as ked what the problem was. I looked down towards my feet and noticed that part of the tent had collpassed a little bit. I figured the wind must have knocked a small tree branch into the corner of the tent. It was about this time that we heard some rustling outside. The rustling got louder and closer, and we realized an animal was brushing up aginst the tent wall. A large animal. The grunts then confirmed what we were both thinking but not saying to each other…it was a large, bearish, animal.

“I think there’ s a bear outside the tent,” I said.
“Gee, you think?” being his response.

When we arrived a week ago, they told us that if we should see a bear or if one was near us, the best course of action was to yell and make noise to scare it off. So we did that. We screamed a little bit and it seemed to walk away…that is, until I noticed my friend’s head suddnely whipping towards me with four large gash marks on it, with a fair amount of blood coming out.

I grabbed his shirt and wadded it up and put it to his face. The cuts weren’t deep, but being on the face, bleed like a son of a bitch. We then made more noise, screaming and waking up everyone else in the camp, letting them know there was a bear in the vicinity. Our adult leader woke up, and after a few minutes of everyone screaming, decided they would go out of their tent to make sure it was gone. It was, and so finally we were able to get out of our tent that had a collapsed pole in one corner, and a shredded right side.

We broke the no fire rule and made a fire, and we all huddled around it to get warm and to have some lgiht to inspect my friend’s wounds. Eventually, we went back to sleep, each of us in another tent (tents made for two are very cramped with three,) and the next morning, while we were breaking down the campsite, the bear came back to another friend’s tent while he was off helping someone else and shredded his tent and his sleeping mat. It looked like somone just took four razor blades and ran them down the length of his mat. Had he been in the tent at the time, he would not have been as lucky as my friend.

Tough call, but the time that’s sticking in my head right now was two weeks ago. My cellphone rings, it’s a coworker of my son’s, telling me he’s been hit by a car and to get there right away.

Man…

Two months before my 5th birthday the apartment building my family was living in caught on fire in the middle of the night. Lots of lights, sirens, the noise of the fire – plus seeing fear on my parents’ faces and hearing it in their voices. My second-earliest memory is of the fire. (My family’s picture even made it in to the local paper.)

The most frightened I’ve ever been was when my wife went in for her most recent abdominal surgery. Over the past 4 years she had been through over 20 surgeries and wound debridements as a result of a dehisced c-section that got infected. I was used to giving her a kiss and telling her that I’d see her soon and then waiting down in the family waiting area.
This time was another attempt to repair the hernia and they said it would only take two hours. Well, two hours passed and no one came by with info. Two and a half, three hours and still nothing. I went to the nurse’s desk and asked for a status. They said they would get someone to give me an update.
Three and half, four hours and no one came out. I was sure that there had been a complication and they were either trying to revive my wife or she was dead. I was so scared, sure that she was gone.
After four and half hours they called my name and told me to go into one of the conference rooms. By this point I was positive the doctor was going to tell me, “We tried our best…” Instead he told me everything had gone fine but took a little longer because the first mesh they accidentally dropped the mesh on the floor and had to wait for new mesh to be brought up to surgery! I asked how come no one had come by with a status and he said that a major car accident with 20 victims had occurred nearby and, since we were the closest trauma hospital, they diverted a lot of staff to handle it.
I was so relieved that I started sobbing. I never told my wife how scared I was. I’ll never tell her because she already feels guilty every time she has to go into the hospital.

You see, I can handle anything happening to me. I’m just terrified if it happens to my family.

  1. Chased down a hallway in Philadelphia by a Knife-Wielding Fiend. (I ducked into a janitor’s closet and held the door closed till the cops showed up)

  2. Waking up at 3:30 a.m. in my friend David’s apartment and seeing a cat burglar at the foot of my bed, making off with my handbag.

Vertigo :o

this coming from someone who is somewhat acrophobic. :eek:

Mine happened when I was about 16. I wear contact lenses, and am really nearsighted without them (“blind as a bat” would be a more apt description). Back then they didn’t have the kind you could sleep in yet, so I couldn’t see much after I took them out and went to bed.

Early one morning (probably around 4 a.m.) I awoke to the sound of my window rattling. I realized it had been rattling for quite awhile, just below the level of my conscious awareness. I sat up a little bit and squinted over toward it, just in time to see a white shape, which could only have been a hand, pulling the curtain aside!

What was weird was that as scared as I was, I didn’t panic. I was afraid to get up and run for the door (my parents were sleeping in the next room) because I had no idea if the person outside the window had a gun or a knife. So instead I leaned over, grabbed the baseball bat from under my bed, and sat up in bed, watching the blurry window and cradling the bat. If anybody came in, I was prepared to give them a good whack. Mind you, I was petrified. I could barely move. But if he came in, I was going to whack him.

He didn’t come in. He probably saw me sitting there with the bat and left looking for greener pastures. The next bit is fuzzy, but I think I just sat there in bed for the next hour or so with that bat, waiting for the sun to come up. Then I went to tell my parents. They called the police, who admonished me for waiting so long.

They eventually caught the guy–he was a mentally disabled teenager who’d taken to wandering around the area, breaking into people’s bedrooms, and watching them. I don’t think he ever got brave enough to do anything else.

Still, very scary.

Aside from that, my scariest moment was when my spouse talked me into riding one of those pendulum-type boat rides where the thing swings back and forth and eventually goes over the top–after pausing for about FIVE YEARS suspended there upside down. Come to think of it, that might well have been scarier than the guy trying to break into my room. I’m not kidding. I thought I was going to faint, puke, or have a heart attack the whole time I was on the ride. Maybe one right after the other. :eek:

On Christmas day, 2003, my youngest daughter, Chloe, at age 14 months, had a massive stroke, leaving half of her body paralyzed (complete left-side hemi paresis). That episode, coupled with the two weeks following—invasive tests and many specialist visits, yielding no definitive diagnosis-–was the third most frightening time of my life.

Finally, she was diagnosed with the rare congenital disease, Moyamoya—a progressive occlusive disease of the cerebral vasculature. The condition nearly always progresses to more severe strokes and eventually death, unless complicated brain operations are performed and succeed in revascularizing the brain. That diagnosis, coupled with the two months required to stabilize Chloe post-CVA before surgeons would risk operating (two months when another stroke was quite likely), was the second most freighting time of my life.

We chose a neurosurgeon from Boston Children’s Hospital—arguably the best pediatric Moyamoya surgeon in the world—to operate on my little girl. Chloe did not have another stroke in the two months leading up to her surgery; in fact she regained most of the function in her left upper extremity during that time. Remarkably she stood up and took a few steps when we stopped over at my brother’s house on the way up to Boston. The right side of her brain was operated on two days later (pial synangiosis). We knew in advance that the time period after the operation would be very critical. Hypertension could easily lead to hemorrhaging and stroking out. A serene post-anesthetic waking period was what we prayed for, but that was not in the cards. When Chloe regained consciousness, she endured back-arching pain and writhing panic for a very long time. Since she was loaded maximally with morphine, the medical and nursing staff could do nothing except offer empathy and take turns helping me to hold her down, lest she rip out her IV tubes, for much of the next 6 hours. I’m not a weak man, but I had difficulty overpowering my 16-month-old daughter. I fully expected her to stroke out and die in my arms. It was a hellish time. She had the exact same operation on the left side of her brain one week later…and the same post-operative course. That week was the **most ** freighting time of my life.

Her recovery to date, despite couple of harrowing episodes, has exceeded all of our expectations. She has regained nearly all motor function, except for a slight left foot-drop. If she takes her prescribed medication every day for the rest of her life and stays well hydrated, she is not expected to have another stroke. Needless to say, we are cautiously euphoric. Today is her birthday; she’s 4 years old. I’ll shamelessly post a link to a few photos of my very active, very smart (and very naughty) little girl. And, perhaps I’m jaded by looking through rose-colored daddy glasses, but I don’t think she looks like she got hit with an ugly stick :wink:

Little Monkey Girl

Wow- these stories are of real life situations involving danger. The most scared I’ve ever been only involved my overactive imagination and no danger at all.

I was out for my morning run before work, and it was autumn so my runs were getting progressively darker as the winter drew near. I run in the park near my home which is technically open from dawn to dusk. On this particular morning I made it out of the house at around 5:45 am and it was still really dark, so the place wasn’t open yet and none of the lights lining the park access road were on.

I ran off of the road as I usually do, onto an asphalt path. After about 15 minutes, the darkness and silence, mixed with the cold air (which was making my eyes a bit watery) and my lack of glasses (they slip off the bridge of my nose when I sweat) combined to instantly freak me out a bit. Just as I was realizing that anyone could jump out from behind a tree or bush and club me to death, about 20’ up ahead I noticed a very unnatural movement. I froze, as my heart started beating out of my chest. I had to blink a couple times to clear the wateriness from my eyes, and even though I was afraid to get any closer, I inched forward. As my perspective changed a bit, I saw an unusually large, roundish creature looking back at me, also frozen still.

I blinked again and it turned and sort of waddled/flapped off to the right, as the cadence and sound of my heart increased about 10-fold. And then I noticed what it was.

A turkey. There was a turkey in the park.

I stood there for another 2 or 3 full minutes, willing myself to calm down. I had been scared nearly to death by a frickin’ bird. Eventually I was able to continue my run, and after another 15 minutes the sky began to lighten enough that I was much more comfortable.

The next day, I started bringing a flashlight along on my runs.

And now that I see **Dr. PoopiePants’ ** post, I feel even more ridiculous about my scary turkey story.

Oh- and Chloe’s adorable.

Wow, Dr PoopiePants, that’s a tough little beginning for a little girl! Chloe is beautiful, though, as is the rest of your family in those pictures.

I think the most frightened I’ve ever been was during one of my husband’s sleepwalking episodes (what is it called when he’s not walking, but acting out anyways?) I woke up one night, terrified, because he was sitting up in bed, screaming and hitting me, and trying to push me away/pin me down. I don’t know how I managed to push him off and wake him up, but in those few moments before that, all I knew was that someone was beating me up, and it could have been a stranger, and what had happened to my husband, etc? It was so scary. When he did wake up, he was all confused, and didn’t know he’d done anything to me at all. He remembered having a bad dream about a big monster, but no other details whatsoever.

I was a little bruised and it took a couple of weeks for my shoulder to stop hurting (I overused it trying to push him away). He still apologises for that night - he has never raised a hand against me, we rarely fight or yell at each other, this isn’t something either one of us could have predicted he’d do. Physical abuse (and even emotional abuse) is a dealbreaker for me, I wouldn’t stick around. But for that brief time that night, I knew what it was like to be beaten by someone who loved you. It is way scarier than I thought it could be! Something similar has happened a few times since, but that was the only time he was actively fighting whatever it was he was dreaming. Other times he’s just woken up screaming, maybe pushing on me a little, but not fighting. It’s happened maybe 4 or 5 times in our relationship. Doesn’t really help me deal with my insomnia - after that first episode, I don’t think I slept well for a week, I kept expecting to be attacked! He also has a tendancy to talk in his sleep, but at least that’s usually funny.

Dr PoopiePants post is a hard act to follow, but the most frightened I’ve been, I think was on our way to a camping trip. It was the first time that it was just a friend and me, we usually caravanned with a group of about 15. He’s 17 and very proud of his new truck, maybe a little too proud. He comes around one of the windey mountain unpaved corners a little too quick, and the two offside tires come off the road. I look down out the window and see nothing for a long way. “OK, Johnathon, You’re going to go out your side very quickly, cuz I’m going to be right on top of You!” We get out, and fortunately, the Pickup truck stays where it is. It wasn’t too long before a helpful soul came along and used a tow chain to yank us back onto the road, but I had visions of the truck teetering off the side, as soon as the driver’s weight was off the truck. All’s well that end’s well? The rest of the trip went very well, except for wasting all the propane, reheating a cup of coffee and spacing it. :smack

Nothing in particular sticks out, mostly because I was too dumb to know I was really in danger until it was too late. There was a time when my boyfriends truck slid backwards on the icy road, whipped around and ended up balancing on it’s nose over a ravine. We got out of the truck and after that was when I got scared.

Another time I was working for the power company, trying to find my way across a piece of property and I kept finding little pot stands. I’d go one way, run into weed, backtrack, go another way, more weed. Finally I made it to a long driveway where a mexican guy walked up to me with a knife. He began cleaning his fingernails while I explained who I was and what I was doing. It didn’t quite hit me at that moment that he was guarding the pot and I could have been in some serious danger.

The only other thing I can really think of at the moment is the two seconds between realizing my brother was calling with VERY BAD news and actually hearing that my half-brother was dead. The moment was like an eternity as a million possibilities ran through my mind.