Ok. This is hard for me, because I am pretty new. I have been lurking for 2 years, and I have posted only once…(in the Las Vegas thread…to give a shout out to the Luxor, my favorite hotel.)
I am a bit nervous, because after lurking for years, I admit that I feel out of my league here. But I have been wanting to ask the dopers, a group that has won my respect, something that I have been mulling over for years. I want the answer bad enough to overcome my insecurities about my lack of formal education.
Is it possible that we should be giving ghetto folks a break? Should we actually expect them to get their shit together in the same way immigrants have been able to? I mean, Asians and Jewish people, or others who tend to do well once they get here; shouldn’t we give blacks in America more slack than them? I know it sounds silly at first blush, but hear me out.
I was born and raised in the ghetto. My mom was poor, my dad was poor, as were my grandparents. All the way back to at least Jim Crow, if not back to slavery.
It is not the lack of education alone that holds us back. I think it is more to do with the mental chains that clamp down in our psyches. We have a very hard time teaching our children that they can be doctors and lawyers and scientists, because we don’t believe it. And we don’t believe it cause our parents didn’t believe it. All the way back to our probably very smart and proud ancestors who were broken and forced to begin a legacy of a certain form of self hate.
Because I know I sure as heck suffered from it. Growing up, I had white, blue eyed blond baby dolls. In my neighborhood, (lower class black neighborhood, upstate NY) we prized our black relatives and friends who were lighter skinned, whose hair was not as kinky, etc.
Luckily, I met a guy who taught me to love myself. He taught me I was smart and he opened my mind to so much culture and art and literature. But had he not come along, would I have abandoned my gifts for a sea of self hate? Then ended up with a drug dealer, having too many babies, not doing well in school, dropping out, ending up on welfare, etc.
But I am the exception. And I am not the only exception. There are many, many other black Americans that over come the odds. Pull themselves up by their boot straps, rise to the top.
But we all can’t rise to the top, right? Every pot must have its cream. Everything else is just the average joe, trying to survive.
So I ask again. Should we be giving an extra boost to blacks in America? Should we be making sure Affirmative Action is available to them? Should we be making fun of them when they name their children “Dashanda” or some other ‘made up’ name. I mean, for goodness sake! Our original language is lost to us! Can we be blamed for making up a name?
I know this is disjointed and messy, but I assure you I will work harder to make cohesive posts. By the time my guest month is up, I hope to be tight and right!
In the mean time…anyone that can glean meaning from my post; could you share your opinion? Do we owe Blacks an extra hand up?
P.S. I know there are tons and tons of Blacks that do very well. I am very proud of them. My overall point is that we should could some extra slack to the average ghetto black person, struggling in the ghetto.