First of all–and let’s be absolutely clear on this–nobody really knows what so-called “dark matter”, or more appropriately, “missing dark matter” (MDM), is. Technically speaking, most matter is “dark”, including yourself, your house, the planet you live on, et cetera; that is to say, it’s dark in the sense that it doesn’t radiate electromagnetic energy (other than what it absorbs from other sources, like the Sun) and can only be detected by gravitation or the afformentioned absoption and reradiation. The problem is that there is an enormous amount of mass–the majority of it, in fact–that appears to be missing in order for the mechanics of Newtonian and relativistic physics to work on large (galactic and larger) scales.
One set of proposals for this is that MDM is some kind of weakly interacting interstitial matter that flows not just around us but through us, exerting an immeasurably small local gravitational force but comprising such a vast bulk mass that its effects are apparent on large scale structures. There are, in fact, particles like this, called neutrinos which are leptons (elementry particles that don’t experience strong nuclear interactions) which lack a charge, so that they also don’t experience electromagnetic forces. The Sun vomits an enormous quantity of these as waste products from fusion such that trillions of them are pouring through you every second, but it takes a large and very sophisticated detector to see one even occasionally. However, missing dark matter is most likely not comprised of neutrinos, because while they fit the bill from a non-reactive point of view, the individual particles have a vanishingly small mass and the reactions that produce them send them flying at speeds which proclude them from gathering in structures as small as a mere galaxy, and also we detect no sign of the massive amount of neutrinos we should detect if it were the case that they were around and just moving a lot slower.
There’s a significantly more massive complementary family of supersymmetry particles called neutralinos which fit the bill much better; the problem with these is not only that we haven’t detected them but they actually are predicted by a hypothesis (supersymmetric extensions to the Standard Model of particle physics) which haven’t and can’t (with existing technology) be tested. The math works out pleasently enough, but the theory is a chimera, and doesn’t get us any closer to validating neutralinos or other exotic matter as comprising MDM.
It’s also possible that some of the MDM is ordinary matter that is just less visible than we think it ought be. It can’t be dust, because we should be able to detect thick clouds by their absoption, but at least some of it could be brown dwarfs, supermassive free planetary bodies, non-radiating singularities (black holes), et cetera, though it seems unlikely to astronomers and cosmologists that this could make up more than a small fraction of MDM. It could even be something more exotic like cosmic strings, or some form of concentrated gravitational energy we don’t know about. Or it could be that there is no MDM and that the gravitational force acts differently over large distances than we expect, or that General Relativity is incomplete, or that there are one or more additional forces that we can’t detect on everyday scales. (The latter is seriously unlikely, or would at least require a huge revision in our understanding of relativity and mass particle exchanges, but it’s not entirely out of the question.)
In any case, nobody thinks that MDM, if it exists, is “segregated” from regular matter; merely that we can’t see it or observe it in any way except for mass interactions, and that it’s gravitational effects on local scales are too small to be detected. If this seems suspiciously like the “luminiferous aether” explaination for the propogation of light from the 19th Century in terms of how vague and insubstantial it is, then perhaps you’re right; it’s a seriously incomplete hypothesis for a phenomena we still don’t really understand, and any physicst or cosmologist worth his diploma will admit such a thing up front.
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