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Old 04-13-2009, 06:36 AM
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Inserting Objects into the Vagina

Dear Cecil,
I read the post about inserting objects into the vagina.

I was wondering if this behaviour has a name, or is listed as a mental illness under a name. I have been surfing elsewhere and discovered that 'fisting,' is an activity associated with inserting objects into the vagina also, but I know very little about this subject and don't want to go to a porn site to learn more.

My sister blurted out one day that our mother, who is an extremely conservative lady who won't wear trousers or drink alcohol had inserted objects inside herself.
She told me that our mother had had tea cup(s) and orange(s) inside herself. Either my mother is not all she seems or else there is another explanation.

I didn't know whether to take my sister seriously or embarrass our mother by challenging her to explain.

Is it physically possible for a woman to insert a ceramic cup inside herself or an orange? How?

Is it more likely that someone else would have inserted such a cumbersome object
due to the tiny width of the female opening? Surely the pain would be prohibitive?

I have a few concerns because our father who died when my sisters and I were children sexually obused my older sisters and it has never been discussed in a transparent way. Besides, my mother went through a period of mental illness in her late thirties and early forties not long before my father passed away.

I am wondering if my father put objects inside my mother or if she did it herself?

I realize these are questions only for my family to answer but the problem is that they are secretive about the past. Praise God in time the whole truth will be known.

What I want to address here at Straight Dope are the questions about whether a person can insert such large objects into the female opening without causing much pain and damage?How?

Also, If my mother carried children in the womb whilst fragments of sharp objects were lodged there, could this have caused damage to a developing foetus if it came in contact with a sharp edge for example?

My mother had a lot of difficulty giving birth, and nearly died on two occassions. She had three sections and one natural birth. If she were carrying large foreign objects inside would this have affected her during labour and delivery?

It is documented that my mother attended doctor's at some point in her adult life after my father's death and was cleaned out. She says that they were really shocked and disgusted at what had been inside her. Up until recently, I never really wondered what she meant by these comments as she didn't elaborate at the time. But now I can see that she may have been referring to the teacup and orange.

My family is a little tender and I have one sister who is long term mentally ill. I would appreciate any helpful links or advise about any of these issues.

Thanks,Alis.
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Old 04-13-2009, 06:38 AM
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Dear Cecil,
I read the post about inserting objects into the vagina.

I was wondering if this behaviour has a name, or is listed as a mental illness under a name. I have been surfing elsewhere and discovered that 'fisting,' is an activity associated with inserting objects into the vagina also, but I know very little about this subject and don't want to go to a porn site to learn more.

My sister blurted out one day that our mother, who is an extremely conservative lady who won't wear trousers or drink alcohol had inserted objects inside herself.
She told me that our mother had had tea cup(s) and orange(s) inside herself. Either my mother is not all she seems or else there is another explanation.

I didn't know whether to take my sister seriously or embarrass our mother by challenging her to explain.

Is it physically possible for a woman to insert a ceramic cup inside herself or an orange? How?

Is it more likely that someone else would have inserted such a cumbersome object
due to the tiny width of the female opening? Surely the pain would be prohibitive?

I have a few concerns because our father who died when my sisters and I were children sexually obused my older sisters and it has never been discussed in a transparent way. Besides, my mother went through a period of mental illness in her late thirties and early forties not long before my father passed away.

I am wondering if my father put objects inside my mother or if she did it herself?

I realize these are questions only for my family to answer but the problem is that they are secretive about the past. Praise God in time the whole truth will be known.

What I want to address here at Straight Dope are the questions about whether a person can insert such large objects into the female opening without causing much pain and damage?How?

Also, If my mother carried children in the womb whilst fragments of sharp objects were lodged there, could this have caused damage to a developing foetus if it came in contact with a sharp edge for example?

My mother had a lot of difficulty giving birth, and nearly died on two occassions. She had three sections and one natural birth. If she were carrying large foreign objects inside would this have affected her during labour and delivery?

It is documented that my mother attended doctor's at some point in her adult life after my father's death and was cleaned out. She says that they were really shocked and disgusted at what had been inside her. Up until recently, I never really wondered what she meant by these comments as she didn't elaborate at the time. But now I can see that she may have been referring to the teacup and orange.

My family is a little tender and I have one sister who is long term mentally ill. I would appreciate any helpful links or advise about any of these issues.

Thanks,Alis.
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Old 04-13-2009, 07:46 AM
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Old 04-13-2009, 08:28 AM
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hm, there seems to be an echo ...

Fisting is specifically inserting a hand or portion of a hand ... using a general dildo isnt called fisting, by the way.

And anything smaller than the pelvic arch can be inserted, perhaps not comfortably or safely, but I have seen porn pictures with various objects being used ranging from a standard dildo, a fist shaped and sized dildo to a dildo sculpted to be roughly the size and shape of a horse penis.

Different strokes for different folks.
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Old 04-13-2009, 09:22 AM
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... Also, If my mother carried children in the womb whilst fragments of sharp objects were lodged there, could this have caused damage to a developing foetus if it came in contact with a sharp edge for example? ...
As you can see in the "a few sticking points" part of Cecil's column, there would not have been any sharp objects sharing the womb with a fetus. If there were a sharp object in the vagina during pregnancy, the fetus would not have met it until the time of birth.

You have asked some other questions that we cannot answer about your mother's medical history and about your other family members. Some might be answered by having frank, clear conversations with your family and your own doctor.

Maybe the best way would be a woman-to-woman talk with your mother herself. She may open up and tell you things she could not tell you when you were a child. You are concerned that "Either my mother is not all she seems or else there is another explanation." In most families, there are many things the kids never learn about their parents.

Many parents are embarrassed to talk frankly to the kids about sex. Many of those kids can't imagine their parents even having sex, let alone doing it in wild, passionate, playful ways. But they do, Alis, they do. Even conservative ladies who won't wear pants or drink alcohol have joyous, passionate sex.
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Old 04-13-2009, 10:25 AM
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I have been surfing elsewhere and discovered that 'fisting,' is an activity associated with inserting objects into the vagina also, but I know very little about this subject and don't want to go to a porn site to learn more.
As the name suggests, "fisting" is the act of inserting the whole hand into the vagina (or anus) (either your own, or someone else's) and then squeezing into a fist. The intent is to apply pressure to the internal surfaces for sexual stimulation. Of course, one must work up to the whole fist, usually starting with a finger or two and working up.

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Is it physically possible for a woman to insert a ceramic cup inside herself or an orange? How?
Slowly over time working from small to larger objects stretches the opening and allows it to prepare. Plus, after childbirth, things may not be as tight as they were before.

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Is it more likely that someone else would have inserted such a cumbersome object
due to the tiny width of the female opening? Surely the pain would be prohibitive?
Hard to say whether she derived pleasure from it, or whether your father derived pleasure from doing it to her. Those questions are for your mother to answer. But I think you understimate the adaptability of soft tissue.

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Also, If my mother carried children in the womb whilst fragments of sharp objects were lodged there, could this have caused damage to a developing foetus if it came in contact with a sharp edge for example?
Any sharp objects would be in the vagina, the baby in the uterus. The sharp objects would have had to cut through the cervix or other tissue to get to the baby. She would have been at greater risk than the baby.

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My mother had a lot of difficulty giving birth, and nearly died on two occassions. She had three sections and one natural birth. If she were carrying large foreign objects inside would this have affected her during labour and delivery?
I would think that the doctor or midwife would have noticed if there were foreign objects in the way.
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Old 04-14-2009, 06:49 AM
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I have never seen an orange or a teacup as big as a normal sized baby. The opening to the vagina and the vagina itself can be very flexible. When a woman is having a gynogological exam, she will have a spectrum holding her open so that the doctor can easily reach a hand inside of her. This is not something to be troubled about.

As for what your sister has told you, she may have betrayed your mother's confidence in telling you. Adults can do some weird things sometimes without their being actually crazy. Your mother and father may both have been perfectly normal adults. But their sex lives are really not your business.

Sometimes women have tissues left over from miscarriages or other menstrual probems and need to be cleaned out. That is called a D and C procedure, I think. That might help you to find information on the internet.

But, if you are still troubled by all of this and feel close enough to you mom to ask, I guess she is the person to go to. Just try to be open to what she tells you.
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Old 04-14-2009, 10:32 AM
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Sometimes women have tissues left over from miscarriages or other menstrual probems and need to be cleaned out. That is called a D and C procedure, I think. That might help you to find information on the internet.
D&C is indeed a common abbreviation for the procedure, which is more formally called a Dilation & Curettage. The cervix is dilated and the walls of the uterus are scrapped with an instrument like one of these. It is a procedure that has multiple uses including, I guess I should say, early-term pregnacy abortions. I mention this mostly because googling this procedure sometimes turns up abortion or anti-abortion related sites.
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Old 04-19-2009, 05:31 AM
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At what age did she do these things? Any chance she was self treating a uterine prolapse?
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Old 04-19-2009, 02:45 PM
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Incoming TMI.

As far as the article on the G-spot itself, I've done some, well, self-experimentation and I've found that I'm the most sensitive near the urethra, and can stimulate myself to the point of wetness without inserting anything.

Porn helps, too.
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