Yes, that is normal for a 13 yr old boy. All the more reason for the parent of an 11 yr old girl to be very wary and watchful of such a situation. 2 yrs is a big gap at that age.
My own daughter is almost 11, and there is a 13 yr old boy in our apartment complex whom I will not allow her to have unsupervised contact with for exactly this reason. Not only his age, but his reputation and some previous sexually suggestive behavior with her and other young girls I know of.
I am aware that many kids her age talk about “dating” one another and are caught up in the whole boy/girl thing…normal sexual development on the one hand but perverse, premature sexualization on the other, imo.
I mean, the shows and music which are popular with this crowd are mostly teenage or adult plot-lines and lyrics. (even the “clean” ones like Hannah Montana…aimed at prepubesant girls but featuring teenagers, dating, crushes, clothes, etc…) They are being pushed into being concerned with dating, sex, clothes, makeup, being “cool”, having the latest gizmo, etc…WAY before we were in my day. It’s marketing, pure and simple.
At this point, I am leaning towards sticking with the rules I grew up with; no dating until 15 or 16. Period. And then, only after meeting the date and his family and with tight curfews/rules.
An 11 yr old who has someone, even a 13 yr old, telling her her ass looked nice or he liked the way her thighs felt on his neck…HIGHLY inappropriate, imo. That IS “sex talk”. And she is in no way mature, physically or mentally, to deal with it. She shouldn’t have to…her parents should intervene and put a stop to it. Hey kid, come back in 5 yrs or so.
Jesus, am I the only one who realizes that 11 is a CHILD? or 13, ftm? (not directed at anyone here, just in general…seems so many parents see nothing wrong with allowing their kids of such an age to “date” or wear make-up and clothes that make them look like young prostitutes).
It’s not, imo, “cute” or a case of “oh well, they grow up so fast…kids nowadays mature much faster than we did!”. No, they don’t. They are just exposed to much more than most of us were, even children of the 70’s like me. They need our guidance and protection as much or more during their tween/teen yrs as they did when they were toddlers. (brain development is very similar during these periods…one reason so many teens sleep so much…and the rational, consequence recognizing part of the brain is not fully developed until 25 or so…not saying no-one should date until 25, but they certainly shouldn’t be dating or otherwise in unsupervised, risky situations as tweens, imo).
Lest you think I’m some prudish, very conservative individual, I’m not, far from it. This is just my take on the situation as a parent, former child (I’m glad my mother and grandmother set such rules…unlike several of my peers, I didn’t end up pregnant, raped, dead or on drugs by 16) and Interested Observer.