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My cousin's husband has colon cancer so he's undergoing chemo and radiation, and is facing more surgeries. They have 3 little kids (oldest is 6). He's constantly sick and tired and has been ready to just give up at times.
People from their church take it in turns to drive him to his doctor appointments, watch the kids so my cousin can get stuff done or just have some time to herself, bring over meals so she doesn't have to worry about cooking, and clean the house. |
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Take it to another arena for a second. Suppose someone posts a thread about a major political figure and some legislation they support. If all that happens is that the people who align with that person's party say "this is great news!" and everyone who aligns with the opposite party says "this is horrible news!" then nothing good comes out of it and there will continue to be an impass. If instead, those who support it can enumerate why they support it and those who oppose it make a real effort to understand why those people think those reasons are good, they may not agree with eachother, but at least they can disagree with eachother from informed positions. Even though I am a theist myself, I fully recongize that religion isn't all peaches and cream, I see there are plenty of people who have abused it over time or use it to numb their minds rather than open them. I also see many of the draws of atheism or simply not really caring one way or the other. But I personally think it's counterproductive to approach those I disagree with and just reitterate over and over that I disagree with them and insulting them rather than trying to understand where and why we disagree. I have no desire to convert anyone at all, I just want people to try to understand eachother and have productive conversation. |
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My father had a stroke back in February, and the people from his church have been amazingly supportive and helpful to both him and my mother. |
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But if poster A says, "Such and such is something position that comes from religion" and you disallow poster B from saying, "Well, I don't believe that such and such is really that positive at all" then you aren't having a meaningful conversation at all-you're having a "Yea for Religion!" thread.
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Certainly, there are some people who claim they are pursuing knowledge and enlightenment and, under closer inspection, really aren't. But that's not so much a condemnation of religion or non-religion, as it is of humanity in general. |
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Oh, good point. We've gotten tons of help - from simply visiting my wife in the hospital, to meals and lawn mowing since she's been home. On the other hand, any sort of community, religious or not, can provide this.
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What I think the OP was against was people just comining in and just straight up listing a bunch of bad stuff. For instance, if someone were to go "Look, religious people are the main ones against SSM." or some of the early snark comments like "good comedy fodder" I'd think that's what the OP was against. |
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well there was this really good pancake breakfast i went to once.
some religions do good charity work not part of a missions effort. these aren't without flaws but can be overall good. many hospitals were started by religious institutions to provide quality health care at a more affordable price. some religions have good disaster aid efforts. some religions have food and clothing banks and reuse shops. |
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My brother in law, not a church member, is dying of cancer. And his close friends and family have been really helpful. But his larger communities, fandom, renfair, and folk musicians, are not organized for "who is bringing the hot dish over and who is mowing the lawn" the way churches often are. My congregation has a care committee for organizing just this sort of thing. On a related front, my husband is an atheist. He is also a church member (yeah, UUs are a strange religion). Despite not being a person of faith, being able to talk to a minister has been comforting and helpful. It's an awkward time for us, venting to family and friends is only adding stress to those already stressed...we can commiserate, but we are all in states if misery and there is an amount of brave face being put on by everyone. His work environment has been supportive, but he wants to remain professional. Here is a ready made third person, trained and experienced in this particular issue, who requires no caregiving and not involved, ready to listen and, if wanted, advise. There really isn't another source for this for him, maybe a therapist, but a therapist is similar, not the same. And he is the first to admit that even fifteen years ago he never thought he'd have a minster, and as recently as three years ago, never really thought he would ever need one (he's been humoring me). |
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I'm not sure how to respond to this. Are you saying that because all religions claim to offer enlightenment, that none of them do? That would be a pretty ignorant statement, if so.
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As long as people civilly state their problems with the "good in religion," I don't see why it can't be lightly debated. However, we do have a debate forum, and if people want to go at it for reals, we'll have to move the thread there.
So, disputing a "good" with a counterargument is OK. Statements which boil down to "religion is stupid and so are you" are not. |
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Agreed with Dangerosa about how churches are a little more equipped to deal with it. And this is in the south, where church is probably the strongest community you'll find. But yes, my father also got help from friends, his fellow flotilla members, golf buddies, and many others. It took him having a stroke to realize how many people love him.
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Motivation for the thread was partly just to see if it could be done - in a crowd that is generally anti-religion, I was curious how well people could hold their noses and discuss the good in something they dislike. Partly it was just because it's an under-covered topic on these boards, where virtually every topic has been discussed. But mostly it was just out of sheer curiosity of what people would say. I'm certainly not out to change anyone's mind - as mentioned, I'm quite content with my own atheism, and have no interest in challenging anyone else's. Why ask that the thread only focus on the good elements of religion? Because the good, the bad, and the ugly of organized religion has been debated in countless other threads, and it's pretty predictable how that discussion would play out. I purposely did not put this in Great Debates. |
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I think he might be saying that since most all religions claim to offer enlightenment, saying that any particular religion is doing good by "enlightening" people doesn't really mean anything, especially since the term is so loosely defined.
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Sure, but then one has but to do a tiny amount of research to find out what's really going on. It's not like religions go to great lengths to hide what they're about.
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Mourning rituals, in religions that have them, give people motivation to get out of the house and be with other people, even when they've recently lost a loved one. Jewish mourning ritual in fact has a prayer for the dead that can only be said in a group of 10 adult Jews. This keeps mourners from being socially isolated. Isolating yourself can be a very natural thing to do in a time of mourning, but it's generally better to get out and have at least some social contact. The ritual of Kaddish makes people do this, even if they don't want to right now. A church or synagogue can be active in establishing cultural continuity- lessons in the language of your ethnic group, stuff like that. Synagogues provide opportunity and motivation for Jewish kids to learn Hebrew, and education programs for adults to learn about Jewish culture. The Greek Orthodox cathedral near me offers Greek school for kids. They also have an annual food festival where you can get some great Greek food. Pastoral counseling can provide help for people who might not be able or willing to seek out needed help through other routes. When I got married, a lot of the decisions about what to do at the wedding were made for me when I decided to have a Jewish wedding. Same goes for many other life-cycle events. Planning such events can be stressful (especially for less happy life-cycle events like deaths), and those kind of defaults can take away some of the stress. My religion gives me an excuse to not do any chores or errands from sunset on Friday to sunset on Saturday. I don't feel like I "really should" be cleaning the house instead of reading and relaxing, because my religion says it is OK to read and relax on Shabbat, and it is not OK to clean the house. There are Jewish groups that are involved with making genetic screening available to Jewish people of child-bearing age, at reduced or no cost to the people getting the screenings. Mr. Neville got a genetic screening through one of these programs. If you're a carrier for a genetic disease, it's generally better to know that than it is to not know. Tay-Sachs disease is a lot less common than it once was, and part of the credit should go to Jewish groups that encourage people to get screened for it. It also provides reassurance- I know my baby is extremely unlikely to have Tay-Sachs disease, because neither Mr. Neville nor I are a carrier for it. Insurance companies are more reluctant to screen people for genetic diseases, and they don't do outreach to encourage more people to get screened (at least none of the insurance companies we've been with ever did). They are really reluctant to do such screenings for people who aren't trying to conceive yet, even though early detection gives you the most options of how to deal with being a carrier. If you only screen people who are trying to conceive for Tay-Sachs, you aren't giving people the option to not try to have children because they and their spouse are both carriers, for example. |
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The campaigns to stop human sacrifice in Aztec Mexico and sati in India had religious motivations (possibly among other motivations). Some churches in the US were involved in ending slavery here in the nineteenth century. Churches were involved in the civil rights movement in the 50s and 60s in the US.
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My husband spent four years in a desert refugee camp. It was a VERY BAD PLACE, indeed. He was eventually accepted to come to the U.S. All of the associated costs (paperwork processing, airfare, place to stay once here, etc.) were provided by Catholic Charities. I asked him once, do they try to get you to become Catholic, or love Jesus, or anything like that? He said "Hell no, man! They drive you to the mosque if you want. (He is a Muslim, from a Muslim country.) They help you, whatever you need, whatever they can do, they just help you! They never tell you God and Jesus or whatever!" He was surprised by the question because it was so off base from his experience.
They do ask that in the future, if you are able, you pay back the airfare. It is pretty expensive, and they don't hound you for it, or send it to collection agencies. It helps them to be able to help other people, in other refugee camps, or other VERY BAD PLACES. Seems reasonable and fair to me. They do help a lot of people this way. Also, it was not just for people coming to the U.S., from what I understand, they do all of the paperwork for people trying to go to any country that might accept them. That alone is a huge task. I do not know if they actually handle any resettlement expenses in other countries, though. I'm not sure how anyone could find fault with Catholics for that bit of work. |
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I understand the spirit of your thread, Rodgers01, and I think those who can't resist snarking are making fools of themselves.
Like Acid Lamp, I like the art, music and the bible is interesting to read. (haven't read it in years, but used to read it all the time, and found it fascinating.) When I think of a child who learns they have inoperable cancer and will die very shortly, I just can't find a way to convince myself that it is harmful to comfort that child with ideas of a heavenly afterlife. I have always been conflicted about that. |
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Great art and music. That's about it.
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OldnCrinkly, did your husband ever pay them back?
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The "pay it forward" type of thought is often highlighted by many religious people I've talked with.
IOW, they may feel that since God did them an unrepayable good, they want to share something good with others. It exists outside of religious thought too, though. |
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tdn, yes, and gladly, when he was able to do so. But I also know people who didn't. One guy told me they used to send him a letter with a bill a couple times a year. I don't know if he ever paid it back. That particular guy was a jackass in various ways, so it didn't surprise me. He could afford it. I will say that even he never claimed to have been proseletyzed to. They were resettled in different parts of the country, so it was a whole separate group of people involved. But the help was the same. Yay Catholics!
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Tradition; the ceremonies, beliefs, and practices are handed down from generation to generation.
Fellowship; you should feel accepted and in sync with others in your religion. You don't feel alone in the world, you feel like there is a higher (and maybe parent-like?) power. Morals; the basis of a civilized society. Having said all that, I am not religious but I get it. |
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And some of them are fun, even. Lots of people have happy childhood memories of Christmas or Passover. Lots of people who aren't particularly religious still celebrate religious holidays in some way.
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I'm glad to hear that. It's too bad about the guy who didn't.
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Music, art and counseling. Yeah, priests do other things as well, but a lot of the services they provide to their community would be called counseling if it was anybody else doing it.
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Religion can mark people as worthy of damnation. However, it can also expand people's moral imaginations so that they can conceive of adversaries who are not enemies. Over time, in my humble opinion, the second trait is stronger.
The development of a Just War ethic, and conceptions of things like non-combatant immunity, is an example of what I'm talking about and owes a lot to religion. |
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But my main point was to point out how baseless the claim was that Eastern religions like Buddhism opened the mind while Western religions closed them. To put in perspective, if someone claimed that Buddhism closed minds and Christianity opened them, could you demonstrate that statement to be any more or less valid than the pro-Buddhism one? |
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The idea that anyone disagreeing with religion doing it from an uninformed position in most of our societies, let alone because they havent 'made a real effort' to understand the other perspective is one I find quite baffling. You generally have to actively resist being put in positions where you're being asked to sit down and 'give it a fair chance' on a regular basis, even as an adult. Otara |
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Well, there would be very few horror movies.
And if you like the violent films, Passion Of the Christ is considered THE MOST violent film in history. |
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Speaking of literacy, religious institutions have at times had policies that promoted literacy. Religious desires have also motivated individuals to learn to read so they could peruse sacred texts for themselves. |
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So does a prison cell. So does... pretty much every social institution in existence.
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Let me ask you this: Do you believe that enlightenment is possible? That's a simple yes or no question. And to answer your question about Buddhism closing minds an Christianity opening them, that couldn't have come at a better time. A close friend told her born-again sister about what I'm doing with my life. The sister accused me (not to my face) of being a Satan-worshipper. Coming from someone like that, I'm more assured that I'm on the right path. |
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You tell us what 'enlightenment' is, and we'll tell you if we think it's possible.
If you think it means, "coming to a new understanding", then yes, it is possible. That's not to say the understanding is correct, however. If you think it means, "coming to a more correct understanding", then yes, it is also possible. That's not to say that religion, eastern or western, leads to such an outcome, or even makes it more likely. |
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OK, my definition of enlightenment: Coming to a fuller understanding of yourself, finding sustainable happiness, and being at peace and stillness. Most religions have been seeking this for thousands of years. Is it your assertion that not even one of them has gotten even a single thing right about it? |
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Can you provide solid evidence that any one religion is more enlightening than the others? If not, your analogy is extremely faulty. |
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That's not a religious claim of fact, that's a common social rule. Obviously you don't, or you'd be sitting in a corner somewhere out of your mind on heroin or something similar. Your definition of "enlightened" sounds an awful lot like "high on opiates". |
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Carrot Top also claims to be a comedian, which is absurd, and should lead you to pay less attention to any other claim he puts forth.
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My analogy is quite apt. Der Trihs's claim is that when things contradict each other, then none can be true. That's clearly a false claim.
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