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"She is a psychologist who believes she can judge whether or not he is a changed man by listening to his explanation, looking for regret, and examining his behavior when confronted with the situation."
Psychologists in general way way way overestimate their ability to do these kinds of things. I would think I had the hang of who was fibbing and who wasnt when I worked in family violence, and regularly find out I knew squat. Even worse I would then repeat that same process every 6 months or so, thinking that _this_ time I really had figured out how to do it. Otara |
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You're not his psychopomp, nor the guy who has to weigh his heart against a feather, nor his minister - you're his employer. Everything beyond "does he reliably do a good job, yes/no ?" is you being on a power trip. I wouldn't leave credit card receipts lying around in plain view around his workspace to tempt his Imp of the Perverse (cheers, Neil !), nor conspicuous bottles of booze for that matter, but beyond that: his life, his shit, his concern. Furthermore, I can guarantee you you've worked and are working, you've known and are probably even friend with people who've done and are still doing worse than him. They just never got caught at it, is all. |
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22 years is a very long time for anyone but the difference between 17 and 39 is even further. I was completely screwed up by my own history of child abuse at 17 and I did all sorts of really bad shit (though I didn't molest anyone). Through some miracle the cops and I didn't run into one another then and I recently passed both a Police Check and a Working With Children check so I can volunteer with troubled teens. I worked on me along the way and the two versions of me have virtually nothing in common. If this guy has been on the register that long and regularly rolled by the cops (as his list suggests) you can bet they were looking closely for any kiddy fiddling. The fact none appears is a good sign I think.
Plenty of molesters are never caught/charged/convicted, the next guy you hire may be a shit worker and a serial rapist without a record. I would give him work in your child free situation and I spent a lot of time in dark places from my own history, however, you don't have to hire anyone that worries you and this seems to worry you. The question is not really about him but about your comfort level. |
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Seriously. If even Rand Rover isn't willing to show any compassion, then... well, that's actually baseline, but the point is!
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![]() That is untrue. I have several juveniles on my Megan's Law list. They did horrific things as juveniles. They have to register as sex offenders. But they were not tried and convicted as adults. It may be different in each state but in mine they are all required to report where they are working. If he didn't then he is in violation. So by all means call. |
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I can make this simple.
You hired him to do work. So far he has fulfilled his obligations on time, on budget, and even exceeded expectations by helping out with another project while he was at it. You did not hire him to hang out with you, or babysit your kids. His crime was over two decades ago and we don't know the particulars. After that nearly all of his run ins with the law have been procedural or regarding being drunk. If he isn't drunk on the job then that doesn't matter. You hired the man to work. He shows up on time, sober, and does his job well. You have nothing to worry about. Keep the info to yourself and keep an eye on him. If you have the slightest suspicion about inappropriate behaviour, then pay him and let him go. |
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If we're not going to go with "he's done his time, he's been punished, it's over (until / unless he does something again)", we might as well make sex offenses capital crimes. Not to increase punishment but to put them out of their misery so they don't have to wander the earth reviled and hated and scorned all the days of their life. Hmm, I suppose making a rapist do precisely that has a certain appeal, sure enough, but there is that practical consideration. The guy's not going to be able to find honest work. We're creating a situation where we're going to make him a desperate person who will steal or engage in illegal activities in order to survive. We reduce his interests in trying to be a good citizen. But we leave him in our midst to do as he will. Seems like a bad recipe to me. |
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Agree with this also. Our legal system is based on the idea that you're responsible for your actions. If people are not capable of managing their own affairs, they need a guardianship and perhaps, if dangerous, incarceration, as fully incompetent people. The rest of us get to act, get to have our intentionalities and not our "brain wiring" or our socialization or whatever regarded as the reason we acted as we did, and we can be held responsible for our acts.
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I laugh at the thought that a skilled worker convicted for raping a child who continues to break laws then makes cracks about his transgressions deserves the benefit of the doubt or needs a helping hand.
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Just curious about how many people here didn't do something at age 17 that they wouldn't want to be held responsible for today and for the rest of their lives.
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In the science of morality and compassion there is a point as low as you can go. Its officially called the Rand Rover Point. The actual laws of physics say you cannot get any lower.
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I got drunk and threw up in my bed. I did not rape a child.
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Neither did this guy.
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Right, he might've "just" fingered her. And given her a popsicle afterward.
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If criminal recidivism is a concern, that has to be addressed at the legal/legislative level, not on an individual. You gotta trust the system or change it. Nothing wrong with being wary, however, but don't penalize the guy when he's not done anything wrong. Last edited by The Great Sun Jester; 07-30-2012 at 09:31 AM. |
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When I was 17, my girlfriend was 16. I guess I'm lucky I didn't go to jail.
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Sorry didn't know you knew this guy.
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-To me this shows the weakness in the American theory of Criminal Justice. Say a man is safe enough to enter the society, but also say he is too dangerous that anybody can look him up online and find out he rapes children.
-This seems illogical to me. He thought it was a good idea to do this once, why would he not again? For example, I rob a bank. I am not MORE likely to rape my neighbors kids. -If his crime, makes him a danger to society he SHOULD NOT BE IN IT! If it doesn't make him a danger to socety than why WARN PEOPLE and ruind the rest of his life in 'freedom?' -Anyone else see a logical fallacy here? Help please. |
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Yeah. Because everybody else who's willing to lay linoleum for a living (instead of tax lawyerin') is probably a moral fucking paragon.
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Whatever the "sexual contact" (per the law) consisted of, we know it was something the court thought was worth two years. Reprehensible no matter what, of course, but he was not given a life sentence, nor is there a solid basis to believe he's incurably dangerous today.
To the OP, I'd have say "Go with your gut". If you feel he's safe today, then take him for what else you know he is - a really good worker. |
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I figured I'd look into data to see if I could establish the same link that's present for other crime statistics. Namely, that states and countries with capital punishment actually have higher incidences of crime than others (not to mention more recidivism). Unfortunately, it's very difficult to find reliable data on rape, since countries have different definitions and reporting protocol for rape. For instance, I think Saudi Arabia and Yemen preserve the death penalty for rape, but their age of consent is under 12. In Bangladesh, four witnesses are required to demonstrate that one was raped rather than merely committing adultery. I think that may be the case in the previous two countries as well actually. |
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As I posted earlier, the OP can just contact the guy's parole officer and find out exactly what the incident with the 6-year-old entailed.
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ETA: Also, while not an authority on employment law, there's a difference between being assessed child support and having one's wages garnished. I don't think we know enough about the situation to know if any of the potential non-support parties here are required to pay on their own, or if the courts have required garnishment. Garnishment is not automatic in all cases, it does require a court procedure. Last edited by Broomstick; 07-30-2012 at 12:11 PM. |
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It was a Class B felony, which is worth 5-15 years today. However, the sentencing statute has been amended twice since 1990 so there's no telling what it was back then. Missouri statute annotations don't include deleted text.
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Pedophiles have been known to groom a parent, even establish a relationship with one - even MARRY one - to gain access to the child. I have personal knowledge of such a situation (a friend.... her now-ex-husband will be in jail for a very long time). Other than that: let the guy finish his job. The tricky thing will be if he wants to use you as a reference: how do you handle a phone call from another prospective client: "Yeah - did great work on the flooring but, um, if you got any kids don't hire him". |
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Depending on the laws in your jurisdiction, if you and the lady did some fun stuff together, and her parents were displeased, they could have ruined your life. We've heard of things like this including one recent local situation, mentioned by a professional who was involved with the family (no confidentiality violated, no names or other identifying info, just "mad mother, ruined boyfriend"). IIRC in that situation, the girl was 17 and the boy was 18. |
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So, under certain circumstances underaged kids could have PIV sex but blowjobs are straight out? What a well thought out law.
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Don't have a heart attack, Rand Rover, but for once I'm incomplete agreement with you. I MIGHT see letting him finish the job at the very least, if it were a small, one-day only thing, but that's it. I'd probably give some bullshit about finding a relative who could do something cheaper or something. (And you know what a "liberal douche" I am!)
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Did it state specifically that this case was a class B? Because reading the statute it states it could be either A or B depending on circumstances.
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I am sitting here with two kids of my own who currently has a contractor working on her home. He shows up on time, is good at his job and does it for a reasonable rate.
He's also a one-man show and seems to be pretty available. So, I put myself in the OP's shoes by thinking what I would do if I found out he had committed this heinous crime 22 years ago. My knee-jerk reaction was to just say, 'who gives a fuck?' I thought that was a bit too fast a reaction so I thought about it some more. I am pretty sure that: 1. I would ask him about the particulars especially if he was on parole so I could talk to his parole officer. 2. I would certainly let him complete the two jobs in my home he was working on. 3. I would hire him for future projects. 22 years is a long time. 17 is a young age. Aside: the whole thread has me wondering if 6 was really a typo for 16 on the report. |
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I used to work in construction. Ex-cons are not uncommon. Some of them were still very bad boys. Some of them really did seem to have mended their ways. The general contractor I worked for had a couple guys he'd hire for really unpleasant and/or hazardous work that he simply would not put on the same crew he had women on, or in situations where they might be alone with women or children. Other guys weren't a problem, their problems were in the past and they could be relied on to behave. (He also had a client where, despite the guy having no criminal history at all, he wouldn't send either one of his woman workers or a young man under 21 to the guy's home to do work unless there was at least one other person along, usually himself. As someone else noted, not all the bad guys have been caught or have an official record.) |
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For example, this case, where a guy from Indianapolis was convicted of child exploitation and child pornography for taking nude pictures of a seventeen-year-old girl. Indiana's age of consent is 16, so the guy could legally have had sex with the girl, but taking photos of her naked landed him a felony conviction. In another case, which we discussed on this board, a 16-year-old girl was charged with child porn for taking pictures of two other girls, one of whom was 16 and the other 19. As i said in the thread, the age of consent in Rhode Island is also 16, so it would have been legal for these girls to indulge in a three-way carpet-munching dildo-fest, but it was illegal for them to take nude pictures of one another. |
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Where would you have him work? Are sex offenders not entitled to make a living? Would you rather support them with the taxpayer dollar so they can sit at home instead of contributing to society?
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