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Old 08-13-2017, 05:39 AM
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Zoe has left the building

My wife of 31 years, known here as Zoe, died Tuesday August 8 2017 at Alive Hospice in Nashville ( https://www.alivehospice.org/ ) after a long battle with lung cancer.

Funeral plans are still being finalized, but the key points are:

<<<< Kip Rush will be conducting the memorial service for Peggy on Saturday, August 19 at 4:00 pm. It will be at Brenthaven Church, 516 Franklin Road, in Brentwood. >>>>

Published notices that I have been able to locate online are:

https://www.afterlife.co/us/obituary...ushing-4857734
http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/nam...00000186323771
http://www.legacy.com/guestbook/Dign...&pid=186323771
http://tnobit.tributes.com/obituary/...hing-105073077
http://woodlawn-roesch-patton.tribut...hing-105073077
http://obits.dignitymemorial.com/dig...8-a672096dfb2d
http://obits.dignitymemorial.com/dig...d&locale=en_US

Her SDMB friends (and the like) are welcome to attend the memorial service.

If/when more pertinent details become available, I will update this thread.

Dave Rushing (Zeldar)
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Old 08-13-2017, 05:46 AM
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Oh no! My heartfelt condolences Dave.
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...my condolences Zeldar.
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Old 08-13-2017, 05:52 AM
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Old 08-13-2017, 06:52 AM
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I'm sorry to hear this, Zeldar. My sympathies for your loss. Indeed, Zoe's death is a loss for the entire SDMB.
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Oh no. My heartfelt condolences, Zeldar.
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Old 08-13-2017, 07:07 AM
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Zeldar I am so sorry for your loss. Zoe, you, and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 08-13-2017, 07:10 AM
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I'm sorry, Zeldar
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Old 08-13-2017, 07:21 AM
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Old 08-13-2017, 07:57 AM
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I'm so sorry, Zeldar. We'll all miss her. Hugs to you.
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Old 08-13-2017, 08:30 AM
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Old 08-13-2017, 08:52 AM
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Condolences, Zeldar.
Another good one gone.
RIP, Zoe.
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Old 08-13-2017, 08:55 AM
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I'm very sorry to hear about Zoe.

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Words are never enough, Zeldar; condolences.
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Old 08-13-2017, 09:02 AM
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Old 08-13-2017, 09:30 AM
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Zoe was an interesting lady. The posters that knew her understand she could be controversial sometimes. I imagine that she was the same way in real life. When I think of Zoe, I imagine a person with a big, theatrical personality--one that was maybe a little extra in certain situations, but also well-appreciated in others.

But also when I think of Zoe, I think of the time I was coming to terms with my personality and suffering from it. One day I shared that angst with the board, and Zoe, a woman I didn't know from Eve, leapt to the rescue with assurances and advice. She even sent me two self-help books so that I could reprogram the negative thoughts I had about myself and become empowered. That was 10 years ago, and I am a totally different person now. The transformation did not happen because of those books, mind you. But I do think Zoe reaching out to me with encouragement and love helped me get through the sadness I was going through at that time so that I could be here now.

She was a proud teacher. She probably took her teaching legacy a little too seriously, but I am certain that she was excellent at helping kids reach their full potential. I hope some of her former students are able to come to her funeral and maybe share their stories about her.

Zeldar, I did not even know that the two of you were married. In ancient email exchanges, Zoe mentioned how helpful you were as she struggled with health issues. I can tell she loved you very much.

Thanks for letting us know about Zoe so that I could share my story.
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Old 08-13-2017, 09:37 AM
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My sympathies, Zeldar. Zoe was an iconic name around here. May her memeory be a blaessing.
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I am so sorry for your loss, Zeldar. Zoe was a lovely lady

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Old 08-13-2017, 09:55 AM
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Old 08-13-2017, 10:25 AM
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Old 08-13-2017, 10:48 AM
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Old 08-13-2017, 10:53 AM
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So very sorry to hear this, Zeldar. I really liked Zoe. Condolences.
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Old 08-13-2017, 10:58 AM
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Old 08-13-2017, 11:00 AM
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(((Zeldar))) I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Old 08-13-2017, 11:40 AM
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Losing someone you've loved for so long...I have no words except I'm so, so sorry Zeldar.
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Old 08-13-2017, 12:42 PM
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Old 08-13-2017, 12:47 PM
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My condolences, Zeldar.

RIP Zoe.
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Old 08-13-2017, 01:47 PM
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Old 08-13-2017, 02:05 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear this. She was a sweet and caring person and a good friend to me here on the boards. I've thought of her often and wondered about her absence. I would say I'll miss her but I have been already. My condolences for her loss, Zeldar.
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Old 08-13-2017, 02:15 PM
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I tried leaving this in your PM, but you need to do some clearing there:

Thanks for the words on Peg. So true and perceptive.

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And that goes for all of you who have shown how much she has meant to this board! It's reassuring that her absence will be felt by so many.
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Old 08-13-2017, 02:15 PM
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Old 08-13-2017, 02:30 PM
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Thanks for the heads up on my PM situation, Zeldar. It looks like housecleaning is indeed in order. Thanks for thinking of me, I appreciate your efforts to let me know. And you're very welcome for my words on Peg. She was a fine lady.
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Old 08-13-2017, 02:35 PM
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My condolences on your loss. Peg sounds like a wonderful person.
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Old 08-13-2017, 03:07 PM
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Old 08-13-2017, 03:09 PM
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Damn it. I was thinking about her last week. I used to have a lot of problems and she always stood up for me. This sucks.
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Old 08-13-2017, 03:33 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss. I remember her posts and how passionately she stood up for her beliefs.
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Old 08-13-2017, 03:54 PM
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What's really striking me in this outpouring of remembrances is how old (in terms of membership here) these posts are proving to be. Some relative newcomers, but most of us are old enough to remember when SDMB was "cutting edge" chat space. The glimmer may have faded some by comparison with newer toys and trinkets. But we old-timers (if I may dub myself one of you -- 2003) can remember when we had to do manually what there are apps to do now. It's heartening to be flooded with all these comments from the Old Guard!

Bless you all!
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Old 08-13-2017, 04:10 PM
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I'm sorry that I can't say I remember interacting with Zoe, but any Doper's loss is bad. I'm so sorry for your loss Zeldar. Is there anything we can do besides condolences?
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May your good memories be of some comfort to you in your time of grief.
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Old 08-13-2017, 05:20 PM
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I'm so sorry that Zoe is gone. My condolences to you.
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Old 08-13-2017, 05:33 PM
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Zeldar, you have my sympathies. May your memories bring you comfort and may Zoe rest in peace.
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