I’m disappointed with most of the people in this thread. (this is aimed at the ones who were assuming she would change her views when the child was a certain age, not those asking questions / debating her views on Disney)
Yes, lee may be overreacting to a well-meant comment, but I’m not touching that part at all.
What I can’t believe is the presumption and patronising that is going on in this thread. Yes, lee has certain ideals. Yes, you may not agree with them. Yes, they may not last and her parenting ideals may all get blown away before her child is 2. But how do you expect her to react (how did you react when people did it to you?) when some of you are dismissing her parenting intentions, not because of their merits, but because you had ideals and they didn’t last.
How fucking rude and arrogant to assume that her experience will be the same as yours. Some of you sound like the person everyone can’t stand who has been-there, done-that, knows everything, etc… IOW, a presumptive, arrogant bore. Seriously, just because (for whatever reason) you failed to continue in your ideals (or you changed them, after new information) doesn’t mean lee automatically will.
How about you all agree to lay off her, agree that she should try and raise her child in the best way she sees fit, and if it’s really bugging you and you have to be all-knowing and right, start a thread in a few years, linking to this one and ask her how it’s going. At least give her the chance to follow through on her views before you tell her she’ll fail.
It sounds an awful lot like the people who condescendingly tell me I’ll change my mind about some things I hold as an integral part of myself. We’ll see when I’m 40 who was right, the same as you can see when lee’s child is two or three if you were right. It’s just amazingly arrogant to tell someone else how their future will be, not to mention extremely irritating.
Lee, I have no opinion on the whole Disney thing, but I hope you do meet your ideals when it comes to raising your much-wanted child. You know that just because 99 out of 100 people do ‘X’, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be the one who does ‘Y’. I like you a lot, lee, you aren’t one of the sheeple. All the best.