OK, I made the noon walk-in. I feel a thousand times better. I like this therapist much better than the last one I saw. We’ve got another appointment this Friday, and she said she’d look into referring me to another therapist- I only get 10 sessions per year at the counseling center, and if we do them weekly (or more often, which she thinks will be better) we’ll run out quickly. She said there are some programs that will offer an extremely discounted rate to students referred there by the university, and in the meantime, I can see her. I’ve also got an appointment scheduled with my psychiatrist.
I’m not dropping everything this semester. We’ll see about taking time off next semester (hell, I haven’t had a semester off in 2 years) when that time comes. I’ll talk to my professors about making up what I’ve missed. She gave me some advice on how that email should sound to get the best results, without going into too much detail about my problems. If they say I can’t make it up, oh well, I’ll finish off the semester and hope for Cs. If I can, then hopefully I can get a B or two.
The problem with dropping everything right now is that it feels like giving up. I’m saying, yes, this is too hard for me, I’m outta here. She commended me on finishing my AA degree without any psychological or psychiatric help at all- it shows determination and resilience, I believe she said. I said it felt more like beating my head into a brick wall, but your way sounds better.
I’m stubborn. Ridiculously, shouldn’t-be-allowed stubborn. But I have to be. Cleaning the apartment is a task that sometimes seems too daunting for me to even attempt when I’m in one of my moods. But that’s my luck, I got dealt a shitty hand. I can lay on the couch and whine all I want, but if I want to actually do anything with my life I have to, well, do something. When given the choice between doing something or not doing something, even something as small as doing the dishes, I feel better doing something. Honestly, just doing the dishes when I’m so depressed makes me feel a lot better.
So yes, dropping all my classes right now, and spending a couple of semesters off will remove the stress of school from my life. But it will add the stress of thinking, “I gave up.” I don’t want that.
Here’s another anecdote from one of the other dozen times this has happened to me. I had a paper due in a week. I had procrastinated because I was depressed, and that made me more depressed. I spent several days in bed only leaving to use the bathroom. I didn’t eat until I got some killer heartburn, and then only enough to make the heartburn go away. A friend of mine who also struggles with depression was trying to encourage me to get my paper done, but I was too miserable. He got frustrated and left. Well, I laid in bed for a while more, thinking about what he had said. And I realized that if I just lay down and die whenever I feel like this, I’ll never get anywhere. I had to try, even if I didn’t succeed (it was a pretty big paper and I had very few days to work on it). So I went over to his place (first time I’d left the apartment in days) and just said, “If I’m going down, I’m going down swinging.”
Got the paper done on time. Got an A on it, and an A in the class too.
Yes, taking next semester off will be helpful. I can work more, I can get things straightened out in my head, and I can decide if I really want to drop my minor or not. I can see if I’d like to cut down on my classes when I do go back, so this doesn’t happen again.
But kissing those 14 credit hours goodbye, when I am still capable of finishing them? No way.
As bullheaded as it might seem, I’m going down swinging.