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Annie-Xmas 03-21-2019 12:17 PM

What's your worst trait that you are not going to change?
 
I have a co-worker who turns every little itty bitty tiny mistake anybody makes into a total disaster. She'll criticize you if you drop a pencil or accidentally bump into someone.

Someone asks me why she does that, and I replied "Because she's Tina."

So let's face it: We all have one bad trait that is part of our basic make up, and is not going to change. Confess it here!

I'm snarky. I can combine criticism with humor better than anyone you'll ever meet. And, yes, I have been told to knock it off, but that ain't gonna happen. It's me. Deal with it.

What's yours?

Beckdawrek 03-21-2019 12:26 PM

The cat gets my tongue in social situations. I know I seem chatty and talkative here on the Dope. But really I'm quiet. I can go days without talking to another human. It really bothers my kids. Mr.Wrekker doesn't mind. We have a sort of shorthand of communication. It's all in the eyes. ;).
I will not be changing at this late date.

manson1972 03-21-2019 12:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beckdawrek (Post 21549701)
The cat gets my tongue in social situations. I know I seem chatty and talkative here on the Dope. But really I'm quiet. I can go days without talking to another human. It really bothers my kids. Mr.Wrekker doesn't mind. We have a sort of shorthand of communication. It's all in the eyes. ;).
I will not be changing at this late date.

And here I thought you were going to say "Posting in every single thread on the Straight Dope" :)


On an unrelated note, mine is being sarcastically dickish in too many situations.

Dung Beetle 03-21-2019 12:59 PM

I tell lies and kill inconsequential people. Hey! I gotta be me.

Shoeless 03-21-2019 01:10 PM

I can be kind of a snarky smart-ass in real life. It often gets me in trouble, especially with the wife, but I can't help it.

Of course I'd rather be a smart-ass than a control freak like my SIL or just critical of everything like my MIL -- two more traits that are likely to never change. :(

aceplace57 03-21-2019 01:25 PM

I can be a bit impatient and short tempered. It's something that I've worked on to improve my entire life.

I'm much more patient in my middle aged years.

Beckdawrek 03-21-2019 01:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by manson1972 (Post 21549717)
And here I thought you were going to say "Posting in every single thread on the Straight Dope" :)


On an unrelated note, mine is being sarcastically dickish in too many situations.

I see how you are. ;)

( You'll be happy to know I may have found my voice right here, on our beloved Dope)

TriPolar 03-21-2019 01:38 PM

I'm just way too nice all the time.

AHunter3 03-21-2019 01:43 PM

Being self-immersed. Yep, narcissistic me. Not likely to change.

begbert2 03-21-2019 01:54 PM

I'll let you pick one - though both of these fall under "I'm not domestic at all and was raised to assume that I'd marry/enslave a wife to do it all for me, which ultimately didn't happen."


1) I don't cook. By which I mean I sometimes do some light microwaving, but don't go as far as boiling water, and literally have not turned on the oven or stove in my apartment in the thirteen years I've lived there. I subsist mostly on food that requires no more preparation than two minutes in the microwave. It's not ideal, but cooking sounds like a lot of work, a ton of time spent (or rather wasted, since nothing would be edible), and if I turned on the stove now the dust in it would probably ignite and burn down the apartment complex.


2) I don't care about various kinds of mess. As in, I don't care that the room is messy, and thus don't bother to clean it. I and the room achieve a homeostasis where the room is not bad enough to bother me and I have more time to do other, more entertaining things. Of course other people (crazy people) might disapprove of empty cardboard boxes stacked up waiting for me to decide they're in the way, or of dust and detrius accumulating into Dust Bunnies of Antioch around the edges of counters and hallway floors. Anything that actually matters is kept clear and clean and sanitary, but if its not in the way and I don't come into contact with it it's left free to develop sentience if it chooses.


And yeah, I'm aware that thanks to all this there is no way in the seventeen hells that any woman would put up with me, but I've made my peace with it since even if I was domestic I have lots of other attributes that would still drive any potential love interests away, so six of one, a half-dozen of another.

manson1972 03-21-2019 02:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beckdawrek (Post 21549863)
I see how you are. ;)

( You'll be happy to know I may have found my voice right here, on our beloved Dope)


Good job! *thumbs up!

(not sarcastically dickish) :)

kopek 03-21-2019 02:03 PM

I'm not good at being serious; in other words I tend to joke at odd times. Hospitals, funerals, and the like. I am very good about not saying anything inappropriate to anyone inappropriate but I'm just odd at seeing the silly side of everything.

kayaker 03-21-2019 02:09 PM

I do not fake interest in an attempt to be polite. If someone starts going on about something that I have no interest in, I wander away. I realize it's rude, but hey, I'm happier than I was back when I'd smile and nod.

Gatopescado 03-21-2019 02:10 PM

Can't pick just one. All my traits are equally egregious.

Jasmine 03-21-2019 02:13 PM

I'm self-centered and spare no expense or effort in pampering myself. I'm single, uncommitted, and unapologetic. There are very few things I want because I've gone out and gotten them already. I love socializing in groups as much as being treated on a date but, if they want, they're welcome to wine and dine me, at least until they become frustrated and aggravated with me. LOL

BrotherCadfael 03-21-2019 02:13 PM

Being an incurable smart-ass. It is incurable, after all.

RTFirefly 03-21-2019 08:02 PM

Practically everything reminds me of a song. Which I will immediately sing a line or two of. And my singing voice is bad enough that, when I start singing, even my wife and son tell me to shut up.

I've been doing this for decades. Why should I stop now? :D

Alpha Twit 03-21-2019 08:15 PM

Being unfairly and unreasonably harsh in my judgements regarding the motivations of people. IMHO, "people" are evil. As a species, we are gleefully deceptive and destructive for any reason at all including their own short term giddies. The only thing that limits overt demonstrations of worldwide malice is our inherent laziness. At best, we sometime pay homage to an implied social contract that says "You don't burn my stuff down and I probably won't burn yours down even though we both know you deserve it."

Yes I fully include myself in the grouping of "people".

Enola Gay 03-21-2019 08:48 PM

I don't turn the other cheek, I seek revenge. And damn is it sweet.

as_u_wish 03-21-2019 09:01 PM

I'm loud. Always have been. I work on it, but when I get excited about a topic my volume goes up. I'm 68, probably not going to find my indoor voice any time soon.

Kent Clark 03-21-2019 09:05 PM

I am always right.

You don't think so? Too bad. You're wrong.

wolfpup 03-22-2019 01:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beckdawrek (Post 21549863)
( You'll be happy to know I may have found my voice right here, on our beloved Dope)

After a slightly bumpy start, I think you've found your groove here, and we're happy to have you. I enjoy your posts -- keep 'em coming, and ignore the snark from the snarkers. It's just what they do -- no one knows why. :)

Beckdawrek 03-22-2019 03:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wolfpup (Post 21550937)
After a slightly bumpy start, I think you've found your groove here, and we're happy to have you. I enjoy your posts -- keep 'em coming, and ignore the snark from the snarkers. It's just what they do -- no one knows why. :)

I expect teasing and ribbing. And I don't mind it at all. I feel more welcome here, of late. Thank you for forgiving my early transgressions.:)

( are you sure my many posts didn't just wear you down?)

Sangahyando 03-22-2019 03:54 AM

I'm probably one of the laziest individuals on the planet.

Quote:

Originally Posted by begbert2 (Post 21549896)
2) I don't care about various kinds of mess. As in, I don't care that the room is messy, and thus don't bother to clean it. I and the room achieve a homeostasis where the room is not bad enough to bother me and I have more time to do other, more entertaining things. Of course other people (crazy people) might disapprove of empty cardboard boxes stacked up waiting for me to decide they're in the way, or of dust and detrius accumulating into Dust Bunnies of Antioch around the edges of counters and hallway floors. Anything that actually matters is kept clear and clean and sanitary, but if its not in the way and I don't come into contact with it it's left free to develop sentience if it chooses.

All of the above, I would reckon not a bad trait; but virtue.

PookahMacPhellimey 03-22-2019 06:01 AM

Hating exercise.

I'll do the minimum required not to be completely unhealthy (well sometimes), but this "find a sport you enjoy" stuff just won't ever work for me. I *enjoy* being on the sofa with a book and possibly biscuits.

DrFidelius 03-22-2019 07:04 AM

I am a drinker. But I like to think I'm more Elwood P. Dowd than The Lost Weekend.

kayaker 03-22-2019 07:38 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DrFidelius (Post 21551094)
I am a drinker.

That's your worst trait!? :(

panache45 03-22-2019 07:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by begbert2 (Post 21549896)
2) I don't care about various kinds of mess. As in, I don't care that the room is messy, and thus don't bother to clean it. I and the room achieve a homeostasis where the room is not bad enough to bother me and I have more time to do other, more entertaining things. Of course other people (crazy people) might disapprove of empty cardboard boxes stacked up waiting for me to decide they're in the way, or of dust and detrius accumulating into Dust Bunnies of Antioch around the edges of counters and hallway floors. Anything that actually matters is kept clear and clean and sanitary, but if its not in the way and I don't come into contact with it it's left free to develop sentience if it chooses.

This, x1000. It's not that I don't care, it's that cleaning the mess doesn't seem worth the effort. I have piles of papers I haven't gone through in decades, and boxes of stuff from my last move in 1995! I have no idea what's in them, but I'm sure it's something I need.

And then there's the cat hair.

DrFidelius 03-22-2019 07:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kayaker (Post 21551146)
That's your worst trait!? :(

Well, I'm also pompous, pretentious, condescending, aloof and unapproachable, but that ties in with my intellectual arrogance.

Beckdawrek 03-22-2019 07:52 AM

^^cat hair is a fashion statement!

Hermitian 03-22-2019 09:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Enola Gay (Post 21550707)
I don't turn the other cheek, I seek revenge. And damn is it sweet.

I have to say, this is a great username/post combo.

The wind of my soul 03-22-2019 09:50 AM

I'm a show-off. I do American Ninja Warrior-type workouts, and I have a bunch of videos of the stuff I do on my phone, and with the slightest provocation (particularly when I've been drinking), I will whip out my phone and show you half a dozen videos of myself. And post them online, too.

Hermitian 03-22-2019 09:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by PookahMacPhellimey (Post 21551028)
Hating exercise.

I'll do the minimum required not to be completely unhealthy (well sometimes), but this "find a sport you enjoy" stuff just won't ever work for me. I *enjoy* being on the sofa with a book and possibly biscuits.

This is me. Drives my wife crazy.

Hilarity N. Suze 03-22-2019 06:27 PM

I keep saying I'm gonna change and become a better person. But I'm not. Or I would've by now.

Newtosite 03-23-2019 04:37 AM

I'm stingy and cheap -- especially with myself. :(

Treppenwitz 03-23-2019 05:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Newtosite (Post 21552954)
I'm stingy and cheap -- especially with myself. :(

Yep, that's me. It is a trait that I'm not going to change, but it's not because I don't want to change it. I just have no natural generosity. When I am generous, you can be sure it's all finely calculated. How I was brought up. Sorry.

j

RTFirefly 03-23-2019 06:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DrFidelius (Post 21551094)
I am a drinker. But I like to think I'm more Elwood P. Dowd than The Lost Weekend.

As long as you aren't engaging in conversations with invisible animals, you should be fine. :)

ZonexandScout 03-23-2019 11:39 AM

Apathy. I really don't give a f*** about much. I'm not mad at the "other side," I don't think twice about other people who are idiots, and I make no effort to make much money (though I do, for some strange reason) or succeed in professional endeavors (though I have). People usually describe me as being "even-tempered," but it's really just apathy.

Note: Please do not tell me I may be depressed. I have a great life, just without the drivers that some other people seem to have.

SpoilerVirgin 03-23-2019 11:47 AM

I follow the rules. I expect other people to follow the rules. And I generally can't understand why someone wouldn't follow the rules.

Yes, theoretically, there are circumstances under which the rules might be worth breaking, but nothing that I encounter in my daily life.

Tapiotar 03-23-2019 04:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DrFidelius (Post 21551167)
Well, I'm also pompous, pretentious, condescending, aloof and unapproachable, but that ties in with my intellectual arrogance.

That just killed the resemblance to Elwood P. Dowd.

DorkVader 03-23-2019 08:27 PM

Apathy. I was going to curse Zonex and his little dog too, for beating me to it but, meh...
As a companion for my apathy, I'm content, mostly, with my comfortable circumstances in life. I make enough to pay the bills, but thats about it. Just not worth the effort, ya know?

CairoCarol 03-23-2019 08:34 PM

No one has said "procrastinate" yet?

Ideally, I'd like to change that, and I do have specific areas where I don't procrastinate at all. I pay my bills the instant I get them, and I drop everything to immediately complete any freelance editing assignments I receive.

Other stuff? Meh. I think I'll just keep procrastinating.

Helena330 03-23-2019 09:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CairoCarol (Post 21553768)
No one has said "procrastinate" yet?

Ideally, I'd like to change that, and I do have specific areas where I don't procrastinate at all. I pay my bills the instant I get them, and I drop everything to immediately complete any freelance editing assignments I receive.

Other stuff? Meh. I think I'll just keep procrastinating.

Bolding mine. I was going to yesterday, but then figured I could do it today. I'm not kidding. :smack:

DrFidelius 03-23-2019 09:36 PM

The simple fact that I still get everything done despite my procrastination is the reason I procrastinate.

Beckdawrek 03-23-2019 10:16 PM

I procrastinate. It takes days for me to convince myself I need to do this or that. I've managed over the years to fix my world to work without much need of me to be present. The bills get auto-payed. My house is basically running itself. My pets put pressure on me but I can handle that. Mr.Wrekker and the kids know just when to leave me be. My volunteer work is just 'that' voluntary. So if I don't feel like it I don't do it. It's the way I want it. So I'm not changing.

nelliebly 03-23-2019 10:29 PM

How do you pick just one? I have a host of traits I dislike and have spent most of my life trying to change. Maybe that's the worst trait I'm not going to change: that I can't change my worst traits.

BrickBat 03-24-2019 12:18 AM

I never could dance in organized social situations. Comes a time I have to realize I never will. Things like wedding receptions etc really test my ability at tactfully resist other's attempts to force/shame me to the dance floor without becoming adamant to the point of nastiness.

ZonexandScout 03-24-2019 10:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by guestchaz (Post 21553760)
Apathy. I was going to curse Zonex and his little dog too, for beating me to it but, meh...
As a companion for my apathy, I'm content, mostly, with my comfortable circumstances in life. I make enough to pay the bills, but thats about it. Just not worth the effort, ya know?

Eggzactly...why bother? Why should I let other people live in my head rent-free by staying angry? Why work four or five times as hard for things I won't have the time to enjoy? Why waste time trying to change things that will go right back to where they were once you stop making the effort?

digs 03-24-2019 12:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CairoCarol (Post 21553768)
No one has said "procrastinate" yet?

I'm going to, really. Geez, you don't have to hound me...


But my more immediately annoying trait is the inability to hear a song without adding harmony, or even a counter-verse*. That's why I jump at any chance to run errands in the car by myself or stay home alone (hey, the dogs have never minded... though when I tried an alto descant to Living On A Prayer, they came to see what was wrong)


*as in Teach Your Children or Jackson Browne's Song From Silver Lake...

Ulfreida 03-24-2019 06:25 PM

I'm not going to change any of my bad traits or any of my good traits. As far as I can tell those are all immovable at this late date. If anything changes it will be by the hand of God, not me.


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