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Czarcasm 07-11-2017 12:41 PM

For those that have been married for 30 years or more
Today My Beloved(Rahne McCloud) and I celebrate our 30th Anniversary! We spent the weekend at The Benson Hotel, which is where we spent our honeymoon. The wonderful people there upgraded our room to a massive executive suite, and there were humongous chocolate covered strawberries and a chilled bottle of champagne there on the table when we walked in after dinner at El Gaucho Saturday night. If you and your Beloved are lucky enough to have been together 30 years or more, please tell how your 30th went.

iiandyiiii 07-11-2017 12:50 PM

Congrats! I've only been married 9 years, so I can't contribute, but best wishes and good feelings!

Helena330 07-11-2017 01:40 PM

Fifteen years here, but I wanted to wish you both a Happy Anniversary!

Shodan 07-11-2017 01:42 PM

Congratulations and best wishes to both of you.

For our 30th, we went back to the same hotel where we spent our wedding night. We couldn't get the same room, but we ordered lamb chops from room service, because at our wedding we spent so much time getting our pictures taken that when we got to the reception, the food was gone and all we got was cake. So on our wedding night we splurged and got room service.

Then we went to bed, and cuddled and drank champagne. And on our 30th I got the exact same feeling I did on our wedding night - this is right. This is where I want to be. This is The One.

Shodan, 35 years and counting

BubbaDog 07-11-2017 01:53 PM

33 years
on our 30th I took my wife here.

We couldn't get away for too long so we took a 3 day trip to Branson, MO. On the way there we tried to stop at Lambert's Cafe which is known for fried chicken (and a strange custom of throwing rolls around the room) but some tour buses arrived just before we did so we drove on to Branson and ate a late dinner at our hotel.

The Mrs. still had fried chicken on her mind so the next day we stopped at the restaurant shown in the picture. Actually had a very delicious fried chicken dinner.

Now we're not rich people but we could very easily have taken a week long cruise and eaten at some very fine restaurants but this tourist trap was one fine experience.

Doctor Jackson 07-11-2017 02:10 PM

We just celebrated our 29th, but I'm going to keep checking in here for good ideas! Congrats, Czarcasm!

ElvisL1ves 07-11-2017 02:19 PM

Don't remember but it wasn't a big production. Probably just dinner out.

Czarcasm 07-11-2017 02:19 PM

We ate here. We started with the crab cakes, which were excellent according to My Beloved(an expert on all things crab and/or cake). She had the Diver Sea Scallops and Grilled Prawn Linguine, and I had the chicken with mushroom and corn ragout. We shared a massively large Russet potato which the prepared at the table, cutting it into haves, fluffing it and adding all the condiments. It was expensive, but well worth it.

Clothahump 07-11-2017 02:33 PM

Conga-rats! SWMBO and I are coming up on 25.

CalMeacham 07-11-2017 02:41 PM

Pepper Mill and I have been married 24 years as of last month. We spent it at her photography club's annual end-of-season party. In the middle, a mysterious large package appeared on her chair. She unwrapped it to find another package within. Inside that was another package. Inside that...

...when she finally got to the tootsie roll center she found a tiny jewel box with a necklace with a charm in the shape of a rhodium-plated bohdran:

The 24th anniversary, you see, the Gods Of Modern Wedding Anniversaries have decided, requires the Gift of Musical Instruments. Pepper already has a real, life-sized bodhran, so I got her jewelry.

ElvisL1ves 07-11-2017 02:51 PM


Originally Posted by ElvisL1ves (Post 20337732)
Don't remember but it wasn't a big production. Probably just dinner out.

Upon further reflection, we had originally planned to spend the occasion in Florida, then decided to save the money and use it on moving there instead.

Sunny Daze 07-11-2017 02:53 PM

Congratulations! 5 years to go on our end...

IvoryTowerDenizen 07-11-2017 02:53 PM

Mazel Tov!

Best to you all. We're at 23 years and my folks made it to 66 years!

cmkeller 07-11-2017 02:56 PM

22 and counting, but I'll chime in with my congratulations!

Bill Door 07-11-2017 03:49 PM

It was a while ago, but I think we went to Florence, then Venice, then took an eastern Mediterranean cruise.

FairyChatMom 07-11-2017 03:55 PM

December will mark 34 years for us. And honestly, except for our 6th, when we did a reaffirmation of vows in front of family and friends (since we eloped and all) we never do much of anything on our anniversaries. My family was aghast that we mostly ignored our 25th, and I honestly don't know that we did anything on our 30th, unless it fell during that brief span of years where we went to the Japanese Steak House on or around our anniversary.

It's just never been a big deal for us.

Patx2 07-11-2017 05:47 PM

Congratulations to you both! My husband and are are at 21 and counting.

Dinsdale 07-11-2017 06:15 PM

Congrats. I know we went to Alaska for our 25th, but damned if I can recall doing anything special for 30. Not sure how I can ask her without stepping in it big time. Pretty sure next month is 32.

simster 07-11-2017 06:56 PM

Congratulations -

26 here - we spend our anniverseries the same way we spent our wedding day - Beef and Cheddar combos at Arbies for lunch and a drive around town before heading home.

Mama Zappa 07-11-2017 08:52 PM

You blushing newlyweds!!

Just celebrated our 34th... on a driving trip with the adult kids. Not exactly romantic.

I actually don't remember what we did for our 30th. For our 25th we had a big outdoor picnic. For our 31st, we went to (where else?) Baskin Robbins. For our 33 1/3rd we went to Disney World without the kids.

TreacherousCretin 07-11-2017 09:27 PM

Just observed our 47th a couple of weeks ago. Our 30th almost certainly was like all the others before and since- we're homebodies, don't enjoy going out to eat, and our usual celebration is to look at each other and say "___ years?! Gawd DAMN!!" Then we hug, and feel warm and fuzzy the rest of the evening. It helps that we're still each other's best friend.

diggerwam 07-11-2017 09:39 PM

I'll tell you in a few years, we have 25 on August 1st. congrats

Shoeless 07-11-2017 09:42 PM

Congrats! We're up to 25 and took a trip to Hawaii last October to celebrate. Not sure what we'll do for 30, but I have a few years to figure it out.

Bayard 07-11-2017 09:51 PM


We're youngsters at just 15 years, as of last month. We went to a nice restaurant and drank too much, neither of which we do much anymore. It was nice.

Hari Seldon 07-11-2017 11:00 PM

53 and counting. So our 30th was in 1994 and our first grandchild was on the way. The last thing it would have occurred to us was to go to the motel in the rathole of a town where she partly grew up and where we were married. I don't know what we did for the 30th, although we generally go out for a fancy meal, mostly at our favorite Syrian restaurant called Alep. For our 50th, our kids got together and arranged a glorious week in Myrtle Beach and we have wonderful photos of the 14 of us (two of us, three children, three spouses, and 6 grandchildren, on the beach).

Nava 07-12-2017 03:53 AM

Congratulations! :)

My parents celebrated it... I was going to say "like any other July 7th, lunch out", but no: that was the year I finished college, meaning my Defense had taken place just a few days before and in Barcelona; on the weekend between both dates all five of us had lunch at Can Soteras, the same restaurant where they celebrated the wedding banquet.

They also did special stuff for the 25th anniversary of the day they met (a week in Paris, including New Year's at the Moulin Rouge; they'd met on January 2nd) and for their 25th wedding anniversary (big lunch with friends and closest relatives).

koeeoaddi 07-12-2017 09:29 AM

Congrats, Czarcasms!

43 years, here. How did our 30th go? Pleasant, presumably, but honestly it was so long ago I don't remember. :D

shunpiker 07-12-2017 09:50 AM

Congratulations, sir!

I'm but 0.64 years into it but I'll try to (remember to) post back in ~29 years.

Mean Mr. Mustard 07-12-2017 11:20 AM

Congrats! 34 years here.

I recall we were thrown a nice surprise party for 25, but don't remember doing anything extraordinary for 30.

We had always hoped to visit Alaska for our 25th; finally made it there last year.


Fir na tine 07-12-2017 11:28 AM

Congrats you young whipper snappers. We celebrated our 47th back in January. Haven't the foggiest idea what we did 17 1/2 years ago!

BobArrgh 07-12-2017 12:05 PM

Congrats, Czarcasm and Rahne McCloud ... very nice! My wife and I will be "celebrating" #34 this weekend. (The quotes are around that word because we are both going to be at a family graduation party this weekend, and then I am coming home and she will be staying with her mother for a few days for her annual summer visit. Thus, we will not be together on our actual anniversary.)

We didn't do anything really special for our 30th. Just two weeks before that anniversary, we had gone on a mission trip to Guatemala and worked for a week at a children's home. As a result, we didn't have a lot of disposable cash, nor time off to go anywhere. Also, that was when my wife's knees really started hurting (get your minds out of the gutter!), and we were in the throes of scheduling her knee replacements, which happened later that year.

We probably went out to a "nice" dinner (Red Lobster or Outback Steakhouse). She's always been a cheap date, which is one reason why I love her so much! :D

Whenever people ask us for the secret of the longevity of our marriage, we are quick to reply, "Early on, we decided to make two people miserable instead of four!"

Yes, we get on each other's nerves every now and then, and neither of us looks near as good as we did 34 years ago, but I can't think of anyone else with whom I would rather spend the rest of my life.

BobArrgh 07-12-2017 12:06 PM


Originally Posted by Fir na tine (Post 20339855)
Congrats you young whipper snappers. We celebrated our 47th back in January. Haven't the foggiest idea what we did 17 1/2 years ago!

Comhghairdeas, mo chara!

Miss Woodhouse 07-12-2017 03:01 PM

Congratulation! May you have at least 30 more.

We have a few years before we get to 30. We'll celebrate 23 this weekend.

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Chefguy 07-12-2017 04:36 PM

We stayed at the Benson some ten years ago or so when on a business trip to Portland, but didn't have dinner there. The concierge got us tickets to the sold-out Yo-Yo Ma concert.

We've entered our 25th year. Last year we celebrated with hot dogs slathered with peanut butter and sriracha; potato salad on the side. Yeah, we're big party animals.

Fir na tine 07-12-2017 08:06 PM


Originally Posted by BobArrgh (Post 20339977)
Comhghairdeas, mo chara!

Go raibh maith agat, a chara.

DrFidelius 07-12-2017 09:02 PM

Can't participate because 30th in in October.

Daylate 07-12-2017 09:12 PM

In 2019 we will celebrate out 60th. Will probably go to either Denny's or IHOP for dinner. Wifey has always been a pretty inexpensive date.

Topologist 07-12-2017 09:40 PM

32 years at the end of this month. For our 30th we drove up to Quebec City, one of our favorite places to visit, where we hadn't been for many years. (Since our oldest was conceived, we think.) This time, instead of staying in an inexpensive B&B, we stayed at the Château Frontenac.

LSLGuy 07-12-2017 09:44 PM

We've got 9 months to go to the big three-oh. I'm not sure what we'll do, but it oughta be special. It probably won't include returning to the scene of the wedding or the honeymoon; that was long, long ago in a galaxy far, far away from our current lives.

Congrats to all of us proving long term happiness can be had. Keep the ideas coming. :)

Mean Mr. Mustard 07-13-2017 04:56 AM


Originally Posted by DrFidelius (Post 20341242)
Can't participate because 30th in in October.

...he said, participating :)

(jk, happy 30th in advance)


pkbites 07-15-2017 02:32 AM

37 years as of last January. For our 30th I took her to Virginia Beach, one of the places we had honeymooned. Having been to everywhere else in America it was a bit of an anti-climax.

Speaking of climax, our boink activity is still alive and well after all these years. Why am I telling you this? I'M TELLING EVERYBODY! ;):cool:

LSLGuy 07-15-2017 06:16 AM

Why does the rooster crow in the morning? Because he can.

Keep it up ;) old buddy.

Hometownboy 07-15-2017 01:14 PM

Thirty the hard way
Hmmm . Lost my first wife after just over 24 years, way too soon. Luckily, I was able steal fire from Heaven twice and remarried coming up on 19 years. So, while I've been married for soon to be 43 years, never did a 30th. Hoping for a 25th and a 30th this time around

Hometownboy 07-15-2017 01:16 PM

Sorry - that was too much about me. I did want to congratulate Czarcasm and his bride, having had the opportunity to meet him IRL at a Portland Dopefest a couple of years back. Keep up the good work.

Emiliana 07-15-2017 03:35 PM

32 years for us. We just went out for dinner for the 30th.

Spud 07-15-2017 05:38 PM

First, congrats to Czarcasm. Just had mine in June. My kids are grown and in college or out on their own, but this year we had our first "family" vacation in ages with everyone together again. We went to Hilton Head Island which we have been going to since the kids were little. We all had a blast. The actual dinner was at a great restaurant we first went to when it first opened 15 years ago.

One of our favorite places to go on the island is The Salty Dog. Everybody who has ever gone to the island has a Salty Dog t-shirt. We were thrilled to see that they were also celebrating their 30th anniversary so they had special shirts, can coozies, etc that all say "30 Years." We bought several and it was a fun way to remember the trip.

Again congrats on 30 years, and as my shirt says "that's 210 in dog years."

kaylasdad99 07-17-2017 12:57 AM

What with weeks having seven days, and leap year cycles having four years, my sense of cycle completion demanded that I arrange a special anniversary celebration on our 28th. In our wedding keepsake album we still have the little cardboard folder that contained the room key from our wedding night (with the room number written inside). Although the hotel had changed hands (and its name), it was still there, and had not only A room available, it had OUR room available. So we spent the night in the same room, and enjoyed the same Sunday brunch the following morning.

The staff were very kind, and sent up a plate of truffles and a bottle of champagne.

I'm somewhat embarrassed to admit that I have no clear recollection of what we did on our 30th anniversary. Our 34th will be coming up on Thanksgiving weekend this year.

Buttercup Smith 07-17-2017 04:47 AM

Nearly 34 for us and since our anniversary is New Years Eve we never do anything special except this past one we were at our grandson's wedding. I don't recall anything special for the 30th. It is rare now days for couples to stay married so long I think.

ElvisL1ves 07-17-2017 06:43 AM

Yes, 100 percent of marriages end in either divorce or death. A sobering thought.

ftg 07-17-2017 07:31 AM


Originally Posted by ElvisL1ves (Post 20350502)
Yes, 100 percent of marriages end in either divorce or death. A sobering thought.

Not really. Some end in annulment. In addition there have been cases where a missing spouse is declared dead but is later learned to have been alive at the time. The marriage is over with the declaration of death but no divorce or actual death.

A marriage can also be declared to be invalid. E.g., the two people shouldn't have gotten married due to incest, an existing valid marriage or some such.

You can say "almost all" but you can't say "100 percent".

Anyway ... today is the big Four-Oh.

Remember the line from The Heartbreak Kid (and also used in the remake): "... for the next forty or fifty years"? Been there, done that.

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