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Spiderman 05-09-2017 08:52 PM

Do you listen to the same music as your parents? Kids?
Two local radio stations are doing Mother's Day requests/dedications this weekend. Call in during the week & they'll play your request along with your dedication on Sunday. For this to work, the offspring needs to listen to the station regularly to know about it. For your mom to hear it, she'd need to listen to the station, possibly all day on Sunday as you probably won't know when/if they're going to play your dedication. Therefore, this only really works if you like the same music as your mom (or parents, assuming they do it for Father's Day). Or your children who are old enough to call in for you.

Do you?

Ambivalid 05-09-2017 08:57 PM

Fuck no. One of my dad's favorite artists is Roy Orbison. Roy Orbison. One of my mom's favorites is Michael Bolton. !? :eek: Suffice to say we have very different ideas of what constitutes good music.

Sunny Daze 05-09-2017 09:32 PM

I listen to the same music as my kids. My parents listen to Celtic Women and folk music from the 60s and 70s. If Lawrence Welk was still on, they would watch it.

OldGuy 05-09-2017 09:34 PM

More similar to my parents than my kids. My mom and dad was big into Jazz and Broadway show tunes, which I also like. They also both liked the Beatles and Simon and Garfunkel. They didn't like Elvis too much.

My son is more into heavy metal type stuff which I really don't like. He also likes classical more than I do. But then we both hate Disco :-)

kopek 05-09-2017 09:43 PM

Dad and I had very varied tastes in music but the only place we really overlapped was folk in general. Don't care what ethnic or regional area we're talking about, we both liked it all.

Asimovian 05-09-2017 09:50 PM

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Daddypants 05-09-2017 10:15 PM

I listen to more of my parent's music then they listened to mine.

My father was born in 1938, so the music of his youth was rock-a-billy and doo wop. He believed pop music died the minute the Beatles landed at JFK. His music was always on in the background when I was a kid, so I've grown up appreciating a lot of it.

Mom was much more rounded in her musical tastes. She even liked some of the stuff my brothers and I listened to in the 80s. Now, I'm more of a hard rock guy, and she doesn't listen to any of that.

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The Tooth 05-09-2017 11:05 PM

No. Not just no, but hell no. My dad was into rock and roll at one point, this is clear from his record collection. But by the time I came along it was all farm music, all the time.

I hate farm music. I've hated it since I learned to clap time. To me "country music" is an oxymoron. I hate the music, I hate the musicianship (there are exceptions that I acknowledge*, but I still won't listen to it), I hate the pseudofolksy image it paints, I hate how it's so, so dull.

I keep my ears open. I'll listen to Bjork or Keith Jarrett or Frank Zappa or Al DiMeola or Charles Mingus or Rush (especially Rush), but I've heard all the Dolly and Porter that's necessary, and should I ever happen to hear "Friends in Low Places" again it'll be too soon.

For reference, I'll be 45 in two hours.

*Leo Kottke and Roy Clark come to mind first.

Jophiel 05-09-2017 11:34 PM

My mom was never particularly big into music. Growing up, she owned maybe five albums including Bonnie Tyler's Faster Than the Speed of Night, Air Supply's Greatest Hits and Dan Fogelberg's The Innocent Age. I suppose I enjoy "Total Eclipse of the Heart" as much as anyone who was young in the 80s, can ironically smirk at "Making Love Out of Nothing At All" and still remember the lyrics to "Run for the Roses".

My son listens to EDM and other "weird stuff" but then tells me that he spent an afternoon listening to Elton John, Paul Simon or Billy Joel. He has various forms of choir throughout high school so maybe he has wider appreciation for accomplished singers. Or maybe I just broke his brain playing my dad music in the car.

He was also a kid/teen during the big boom of music games like Rock Band and Guitar Hero. I assume a lot of kids from those years are well acquainted with a lot of the hits from my youth in video game form.

ZipperJJ 05-09-2017 11:58 PM

My whole family can agree on classic rock. We listened to it a lot growing up. My dad and I always listened to oldies together while doing projects.

Now mom listens to the Christian rock station and dad listens to right wing radio and I listen to my iPhone or NPR, so there's no chance we'd all be listening to the same station these days.

But if we were all in the car together no one would complain about classic rock.

My nieces aren't old enough to have music tastes yet. My brother makes them listen to Rush and Zappa in the car.

Sahirrnee 05-10-2017 12:23 AM

I don't listen to the same stuff my mother listens to. She was never really into music anyway and if she is listening to the radio it will be something political or religious.

My son and I listen to a lot of the same stuff. The radio in the truck is almost always tuned to Ozzy's Boneyard, something we both like.

RealityChuck 05-10-2017 01:20 AM

As a kid, I loved show tunes, just like my parents, but that diverged by the time I was in high school. My music tastes diverged from everyone by college and my favorites were never massively popular.

My daughter tends to like music of the same era I grew up in -- and show tunes.

Les Espaces Du Sommeil 05-10-2017 03:38 AM

Both my parents and I listen mainly to classical music, but this is misleading. We actually listen to very different repertoires.

Basically, they are into big Classico-Romantic orchestral works. Symphonies and concertos written between 1750-1900. That's it, more or less. I'm always stunned by the number of minor piano concertos they have on their shelves for instance. They'd much rather listen to a lesser work by a minor Romantic composer than dip their toes in Baroque music or, God forbid, contemporary classical.

As far as I'm concerned, my musical "centre of gravity" is more 1800-1950 but also a bit of Baroque (Bach, Purcell, Vivaldi, Rameau) as well as some contemporary composers (Ligeti, Dutilleux, Lutoslawski, Dusapin). Plus, while I do listen to symphonies and concertos regularly, solo piano and chamber music are perhaps more essential to me (they don't care much for these genres). I also listen to vocal music occasionally (they hate it).

There is no doubt that their listening habits informed mine, but I explored very different directions.

My daughters are into horribly vapid pop. As they should at their age :D.

Gus Gusterson 05-10-2017 04:09 AM

I won't choose their music when I'm listening by myself but I don't mind listening to the music my kids like (Twenty One Pilots, Panic at the Disco, pop music). My son listens to some of the music I listened to when I was around his age (teens), like the Beastie Boys and AC/DC. He doesn't like when I play music that I listened to in college or later, though I expect as he gets older he'll start to appreciate it more. We all like pop so we can just put on a Top 40 station in the car to avoid arguments about what music we should listen to.

Nava 05-10-2017 04:33 AM

Some of it I do.

Back when I was in charge of the tapes in the car (each person could choose the same amount to go into The Box, we took turns choosing one), Dad almost jumped out of his seat the first time I selected one of the tapes he had put into The Box. I pointed out, "hey, I liked Irma Vila when I was little, and I'm not as little but I still like her; I just also like other stuff". In general, my tastes do include the stuff my parents listened to but as a small amount of the total track list.

And one day when it was his turn, Dad did ask for Queen. Allrighty!

GrumpyBunny 05-10-2017 05:39 AM

My parents and I live a thousand miles apart, so there's no chance we'd be listening to the same radio station anyway. Streaming music options aren't really a thing for them, though my mom does stream WGBH or WBUR Boston NPR stations occasionally.

My dad thinks all good music was fifties and early sixties, pre-Beatles. And country. Old country. So, no.

My stepmother listens to generic inoffensive very very very light pop. It's so inoffensive that it drives me crazy.

My mom and I have a tiny bit of overlap. I'm not a classical music fan, but we both enjoy jazz. She listens to both a Jimmy Buffet and a Steely Dan CD that I accidentally left there, and she bought a Grateful Dead CD after hearing mine (when she was in her 60s).

I listen to a lot of old New Wave/Punk/Goth, plus alternative rock generally.

Chronos 05-10-2017 06:00 AM

I have very similar tastes to my mom: We both like folk, especially Irish folk. I probably listen to more classical than she does, and she probably listens to more hippie music than I do, but neither dislikes the other.

I don't have any kids, but I do have a couple of nieces and a nephew. I'm not sure what they listen to. At least some of it is pop country, which I despise, which they get from their parents, and some is current pop singers, which I'm ambivalent to.

WordMan 05-10-2017 06:10 AM


Originally Posted by Ambivalid (Post 20195846)
Fuck no. One of my dad's favorite artists is Roy Orbison. Roy Orbison. One of my mom's favorites is Michael Bolton. !? :eek: Suffice to say we have very different ideas of what constitutes good music.

Roy Orbison is fucking brilliant. You are welcome to not like him, but putting him next to Michael Bolton with equal derision makes no sense at all.

I have significant overlaps with my parents. They don't like rock, but we all love American Songbook, small combo jazz, swing jazz, zydeco, folk and the blues. Lots of stuff.

I introduced my kids to music and the concept of listening with open ears to all music. I introduced each of them to their favorite artists: TV on the Radio for him; Etta James for her. The level of overlap is 80%+ with each of them.

MrDibble 05-10-2017 06:59 AM

Parents: Hell no. My parents are into - I don't even know, probably mostly Soul-type stuff - Motown and Stax, that kind of thing. Carrying over, for my Mom, into 80s stuff like Lionel Ritchie and early solo Michael Jackson. Not really my scene, I can appreciate that it's good without liking it at all.
Kids: there's a very slight overlap, I like Taylor Swift and so does my Elder daughter, but that's about as far as it goes. I have no interest in Bruno Mars or One Direction or any of the other crap she listens to. She has so far refused to listen to a whole Swans song all the way through.

jtur88 05-10-2017 08:38 AM

In the 50s, when I was a kid, Yes.

In the 80s, when I was raising kids, Yes.

DrFidelius 05-10-2017 08:50 AM

I have no idea what my mother listens to.

My daughters have introduced me to some very interesting music, including but not limited to electro-swing and gypsy punk.

If left to my own devices I tend towards show tunes and crooner standards.

Count Blucher 05-10-2017 08:57 AM

I can handle 8-10 heavy metal songs my kid likes before I need a radio station change. Then he puts on his earbuds.
Generation to generation: different music, same issues.

Sattua 05-10-2017 09:25 AM

Yes. My parents were in college in the late 60s. I grew up listening to the Beatles, CCR, and Moody Blues in my dad's car, and I still listen to it. My mom favored Billy Joel and Paul Simon, and I still listen to them, too.

I've moved beyond that into my own stuff, too, of course.

My daughter is 6. So far, she likes a lot of what I play in the car. Her favorite song right now is a tossup between Brass Monkey and Gangnam Style, though she'll patiently sit through Norman Bates or Leo Kottke or Enya or Tom Waits or Fleet Foxes or whatever else I'm into that week.

JohnGalt 05-10-2017 10:04 AM

My parents are gone, but long ago if they had their druthers it'd be Lawrence Welk or early country (Conway Twitty and Loretta Lynne). Oh, and polkas.

My kids are in their 20's. I like pop music more than they do, but we'll agree on classic rock. My daughter had to explain to me who LCD Soundsystem was when they were on SNl last week.

Prof. Pepperwinkle 05-10-2017 11:05 AM

I'm 63. I've always enjoyed the music of the 20s and 30s (my father's generation). I like a number of artists of the 90s (my daughter's generation). But I do prefer music circa 1967-1973 the most (talkin' 'bout my g-g-generation).

panache45 05-10-2017 11:51 AM

When I was growing up in the 50s, my mother always had the radio on, playing the old standards (Great American Songbook) from the 30s-50s. My father listened to classical and show tunes. My musical taste includes everything they listened to, plus a shitload more. They never got into rock, jazz, opera or operetta.

But once, about 15 years ago, when my mother was living with me, I came home late one night, and she was raving about this group on TV. She had never heard of them, but she really loved their music. It was the Mamas and the Papas.

Really Not All That Bright 05-10-2017 11:53 AM

My mother mostly listens to Hindi music and enjoys but doesn't buy 60s-70s Top 40 stuff. My dad likes classic rock, particularly some progressive stuff (Pink Floyd, Genesis). I have a tiny area of overlap with Dad (basically just Pink Floyd) and none at all with my mother, except I Just Called to Say I Love You.

kenobi 65 05-10-2017 12:08 PM

When I was young (in the late 60s and early 70s), I thought that my parents had horrible taste in music, because they'd listen to the "beautiful music" radio station when we were in the car -- Frank Sinatra, Perry Como, Mantovani, Percy Faith, etc.

Later, I realized that, at that time, there were really very few music formats available on the radio (particularly on AM): Top 40 pop, country, or that beautiful music station. And, they listened to the latter because they had no use for the other two formats.

I discovered that my parents (particular my mom) were folkies in the early 1960s, and they really enjoyed Peter, Paul & Mary, The Kingston Trio, Trini Lopez, etc., as well as Herb Alpert. My mom is also a Nina Simone fan. While none of those performers are ones that I listen to frequently, I enjoy them, and I do have a sampling of folk music on my iTunes playlist.

My parents don't generally listen to any of the music that I prefer (mostly rock from the 1970s), though my mother has, on occasion, heard me listening to certain songs (for example, ELO's "Shangri-La"), and noted that she liked it.

Crotalus 05-10-2017 12:25 PM

My parents were born in 1924 and 1926, and I was born in 1954. We were thus on opposite sides of what I think of as The Beatles Divide. They grew up on big bands and band singers, and when I was a kid they listened to radio stations that played current stuff from Sinatra, Crosby, Como, Cole and the like. They tolerated but did not like my sister's obsession with folk and then Motown, and the British invasion stuff that impelled me to pick up a guitar was noise to them.

I was in the car with my father in late 1963 when I first heard I Want To Hold Your Hand. He was a semi-pro singer, he later told me that about a quarter of our family's income came from his singing gigs. When I was so clearly blown away by what I heard from the Beatles, he went all analytical on me, something like "They're singing in unison and then one guy takes the melody high and the other guy sings a low harmony, what's the big deal? Your mother and I sing better than that." Not to my ears, Dad.

I should add that the same station that played I Want To Hold Your Hand also played stuff like Nat King Cole's Those Lazy-Hazy-Crazy Days of Summer. There wasn't yet a rock station that I was aware of, but I was nine.

stillownedbysetters 05-10-2017 04:18 PM

My parents listened to classical music and jazz, exclusively. While I learned to appreciate and love some of the pieces they liked, I rarely listen to either now that they are gone. They were very tolerant of my music when I was growing up, even inquiring about it occasionally, but they would have never sought it out on the radio.

My sons and I share an affinity for Motown, Led Zeppelin, and the bulk of the alt rock catalog from the '90s and early aughts. But they are heavily into rap and hip hop which I cannot abide, while I am still heavily into current alt rock, which they find 'meh'.

Happily, though, we can usually find a radio station to agree on if we are all in the same car, f'rinstance.

And, happiest of all, number one son is starting to get into the blues recently, my greatest love. Educating him on artists and pieces has been a great, unhoped for pleasure,

DrCube 05-10-2017 04:55 PM

My parents basically just listen to classic rock and blues, with some pop, folk and alternative thrown in on my mom's side. I listen to all of that and more. My ten year old goes back and forth. Sometimes he likes my music, sometimes he tells me it's boring old people music. Probably the same contrariness that made him become a Cubs fan after 9 years raising him to be a Cardinals fan.


Originally Posted by Ambivalid (Post 20195846)
Fuck no. One of my dad's favorite artists is Roy Orbison. Roy Orbison. One of my mom's favorites is Michael Bolton. !? :eek: Suffice to say we have very different ideas of what constitutes good music.

You might be the only person I've heard of who dislikes Roy Orbison. He was Elvis's favorite singer. Even the glue-sniffing kids from Gummo liked Roy Orbison.

Backwater Under_Duck 05-10-2017 08:01 PM

I still have my card (sadly now expired, Mom's gone) for The International Al Jolson Society. So, yeah.

Derleth 05-10-2017 08:21 PM

I grew up listening to what my parents played on the radio, which was mostly Oldies (from the birth of Rock'n'Roll in the 1950s up through the early British Invasion of the early 1960s) to what Classic Rock was in the 1990s (psychedelic later 1960s up through the non-punk non-prog rock of the 1970s), which I still appreciate and enjoy, even though I've branched out a lot since then.

My parents are bit narrower, but my mom, at least, will listen to just about anything once except opera and the more esoteric forms of jazz, both of which I like. Now that she has Sirius XM in her car, she listens to a lot of 40s Junction, which is big band, traditional pop, and jazz from the 1920s through the 1940s. My dad doesn't listen to nearly as much variety, focusing more on the 1970s music of his youth and early adulthood.

Rhiannon8404 05-10-2017 09:35 PM

I listen primarily to classic rock, hard rock and heavy metal. So does my son (18 yo). Most of our music overlaps. There is a lot of music that's 90's and older (not categorized as classic rock) that he doesn't appreciate and quite a bit of today's music that is not my style, but when it comes down to it, I would say, Yes, we mostly listen to the same.

astorian 05-10-2017 11:21 PM

My parents listened to a lot of Irish music, a lot of Broadway soundtracks and a lot of early Sixties folk music. I still have a lot of affection for those genres.

My son loves hardcore rap. I'll never have any affection for that.

MrDibble 05-11-2017 06:06 AM


Originally Posted by DrCube (Post 20197933)
You might be the only person I've heard of who dislikes Roy Orbison.

Now you've heard of two. I fucking hate Roy Orbison.

Crafter_Man 05-11-2017 06:15 AM

Our 14 year old son plays flute, piano, and electric bass.

Last year I introduced him to Jethro Tull. It is now his favorite band. He plays that stuff 24/7!

When I was growing up I loved Black Sabbath. Still do. And now our son has taking a liking to it. We try to follow Geezer's bass lines. :)

RTFirefly 05-11-2017 01:59 PM


Originally Posted by Crotalus (Post 20197262)
My parents were born in 1924 and 1926, and I was born in 1954. We were thus on opposite sides of what I think of as The Beatles Divide. They grew up on big bands and band singers, and when I was a kid they listened to radio stations that played current stuff from Sinatra, Crosby, Como, Cole and the like.

Substitute 1925 for 1924, and that's my family. My parents tolerated my sisters' and my love of rock n' roll when I was growing up, but that was the extent of it.

OTOH, the Firebug and I listen to a lot of the same stuff. (He turns 10 this year. I became a parent kind of on the late side, I know. :)) I've got a playlist of recent stuff we play a lot in the car that includes groups like Cage the Elephant and Florence + The Machine, and he loves most of the stuff on it.

The Tooth 05-11-2017 11:36 PM


Originally Posted by MrDibble (Post 20198809)
Now you've heard of two. I fucking hate Roy Orbison.


Derleth 05-12-2017 12:21 AM

A candy-colored clown they call the Sandman tip-toes to your rooms every night... and shits on all y'all's pillows, for hating on Roy Orbison.

I mean, what other songs would you play at a creepy nightclub?

Just Asking Questions 05-12-2017 02:40 PM

Not when I was younger, but as I aged my tastes have enlarged. I bought a Nat King Cole collection (my dad's favorite) but my wife won't let me buy any Andy Williams (my mom's). Maybe that one is for the best after all. I've also taken a liking to classic country, which my mom listened to until she died (literally). I think I can hear my bother's eyes rolling from here.

I miss my folks...

Intergalactic Gladiator 05-12-2017 02:50 PM

My parents listened to awful music that was made 20 years before I was born whereas I listen to cool music that was made 20 years before my kids were born.

We generally listen to one radio station so the kids listen to pretty much the same stuff that my wife and I listen to. My daughter isn't really "into" music but my son loves Green Day. I'm not a huge fan of them, but I like them enough.

C. Montgomery Burns 05-12-2017 08:22 PM

I am 35, and I grew up on oldies stations and still love music from the 50s, 60s, and 70s. I also love country music from the same era. It must run in my family, because my mom loves big band and swing music that she got from my grandpa, and so I also heard a lot of it and developed a love of it as well. I like a lot of newer music, but really most of my favorites are from my parents era and earlier. But I guess I'm strange.

seal_cleaner 05-12-2017 08:40 PM

My dad (born in 1930) was into the Beatles before most Americans - he bought the "She Loves You" 45 on the Swan label when it first came out. He turned me on to rock, classical, country, most genres before I was 10. We shared eclectic musical tastes his whole life.

The Tooth 05-12-2017 08:45 PM


Originally Posted by Derleth (Post 20201452)
A candy-colored clown they call the Sandman tip-toes to your rooms every night... and shits on all y'all's pillows, for hating on Roy Orbison.

I mean, what other songs would you play at a creepy nightclub?

Ben makes everything suave. But Roy Orbison is for old people whose doctors recommend they don't let their pulse rise over, oh, 25 bpm or so.

MacLir 05-15-2017 09:31 AM

I was more in to my parents' music than they were into mine, and this has repeated with my daughter. Probably a factor of exposure.

On the other hand, she has made remarks about my "weird music". OK, I do like some odd ones - often because of their oddity. I mean, the bluegrass version of Queen's "Fat Bottomed Girls" is just SO appropriate. :p

Not to mention the Tom Smith and Leslie Fish stuff.

actualliberalnotoneofthose 05-15-2017 05:41 PM

There is overlap. Like my mom and dad listen to stuff like CSN(Y) and all kinds of classic rock. So do I. My mom got more into 80s music, funk, R&B. Me, too. My dad stayed in the 60s and 70s.

When I was a teen I mostly listened to hard rock and rap and later underground hip-hop. My teen son also listens to hard rock and rap, but he's more into nu metal (or whatever it is they play on current "mainstream rock") type stuff than I am, emo stuff, and he's more into commercial pop/rap than I was, which I find surprisingly raunchier (and more accepted) and ignorant than my day (partially I'm getting old and partially it sucks).

Bryan Ekers 05-15-2017 05:59 PM

My dad likes Sinatra.

I like Bach.

black rainbow 05-15-2017 06:07 PM

I avoid classic rock radio cause I heard it too much growing up. They still listen to that sort of thing still. I asked my mom if she gets tired of hearing the stuff over and over and she said no. They've been listening to the same bands since they were in their 20's (they are now in their 60's). I do listen to older bands like Pink Floyd, the Who, the Beatles and the Stones, but not on the radio. I hate mainstream radio.

Eliahna 05-15-2017 10:33 PM

My mum was into Barry Manillow, Olivia Newton John, Johnny Mathis, Petula Clark and generic pop music when I was a kid. Dad didn't often listen to music but he owned albums by Charlie Pride and a bunch of others I don't remember, and he had some County and Western compilation album that got played a lot so I assume Mum liked it too.

I'm a true teen of the early nineties and my musical taste runs to grunge, alt rock, heavy rock and some metal - gosh, what luck that I was born in time for their heyday.

So far, my kids are young enough that I'm still imposing my musical taste on them, but there are small breakouts of their own interests happening. Mackelmore, Katy Perry, Miley Cyrus. I live in hope my intense early brainwashing will triumph.

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