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Old 04-24-2017, 12:10 AM
panache45 panache45 is offline
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It's important to remember that if you could change the things you don't like about your partner, you'd run the risk of changing the things you love him for. We all have characteristics and qualities that are constantly interrelated and inter-reinforcing. If you could stop him from leaving a mess everywhere, it may result in his being less spontaneous and expressive in general. And if you stop picking up and cleaning up after him, it may diminish your ability to be supportive and nurturing. Is that what you really want?