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Old 05-24-2019, 03:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Darren Garrison View Post
Choosing to change your base temperament is about as likely to have success as really, really trying for your eyes to be a different color.
I disagree. Martin Seligman's book Learned Optimism was a game changer for me.

I'm not saying that I'm the type of relentless optimist that the OP mentions, but I have absolutely changed the way my mind works. I was just thinking about this the other day. There was a change in our work situation, and everyone was grumbling about how the sky was falling, and I was pointing out the potential positive results. I wasn't even trying to counter their attitudes; I was just genuinely looking at the positive side. After a lifetime of anxiety and seeing disaster around every corner, it really is new mindset for me.