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Old 08-10-2019, 03:08 PM
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Originally Posted by engineer_comp_geek View Post
If you are hosting a party, it's absolutely your responsibility.

If someone says something offensive at a party and no one does anything about it, it's your responsibility as a host to tell them that this sort of thing isn't appropriate at your party, they are making the other guests uncomfortable, and to please stop it.

If someone says something offensive at a party and everyone around him says "dude, not cool", then perhaps the appropriate response for the host is just to acknowledge the situation so that everyone knows the host at least knows that the guy did something wrong, and to keep an eye on the situation to see if the guy got the message from his peers. Or perhaps not. That's exactly why we are having this discussion here.
Meanwhile, one or more women feel really uncomfortable with the dude and the lack of any meaningful response to him and leave the party.