View Single Post
Old 01-23-2017, 05:07 PM
John Mace John Mace is offline
Join Date: Dec 2002
Location: South Bay
Posts: 82,713
Originally Posted by Dangerosa View Post
They are for the living, but for them to be comforting to the living, they also have to be about the dead. Its stressful to the living to not know what your wishes would have been - at a stressful time. So, if you can leave some instructions - simple ones - "cremation, wake, someone reads "Crossing the Bar," crank up some Pink Floyd and drink" it can make it a hella less stressful.

(Someone who had to do the funeral arrangements for someone who didn't leave clear instructions - and then had the family arguing about what needed to be done - with lots of stress and recriminations and "that isn't what he would have wanted" and "but that isn't what I want" - and then three months later - we found the instructions )

Start off with Gimme Shelter by the Stones, then blend into Let the Sunshine In by The Fifth Dimension, and segue into Into the West by Annie Lennox.