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Old 09-08-2019, 06:20 PM
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A lot of what you describe just sounds like a brilliant mind to me. There is such a thing as too brilliant. Genius is useful up to a certain point and then it becomes a syndrome.

The human mind is largely wired for finding patterns and identifying faces. So all of the images you posted are perfect examples of what happens when that tendency is brought to a very high level. Intelligence is the ability to find abstract connections between things and ideas. Those connections are obvious to the brilliant, not at all clear to the merely smart. This is why brilliance looks like insanity to even very smart people.

It is also true that brilliant people tend to pick up a lot of trauma in childhood. The ability to understand and remember what is happening between adults, on TV shows, in books and movies, etc. comes looonnng before the emotional capacity to filter and remove oneself from it. Genius kids remember all that stuff that parents feel free to say in front of the baby, but would never say in front of the seven year-old. Genius kids aren't fooled when you spell things out, though they may also be smart enough to hide that from you. And there is a curiosity there that doesn't quit, so they tend to dig into stuff and then be badly hurt by things they just aren't ready to know.

The result of that can often be avoidance of social interaction. When one expects folks to either misunderstand or laugh at your thoughts, one avoids speaking, and avoids eye contact when driven to it. It's not neurological, so much as a sheer emotional defense. That's true of Autism too though. Autistic folks don't lack empathy, they tend to feel it more strongly than most people, so much so that it becomes overwhelming. Emotions in general are far stronger for autistic people than for neurotypicals. So what you are seeing in those cases too is not inability to empathize, but avoidance of it.

What is very late to bloom for most autistic children is "theory of mind." The ability to step into someone else's shoes and predict how they might react given the information available to them. If the autistic person has the information needed to make the correct choice, there is an assumption that everyone else has it too.

Flat affect can be symptomatic of quite a few things, most common of which is depression. Has she always been this way? Might it be bothering you now because it has gotten worse? If so, put some thought into other symptoms, might she be in need of help?

Here's an interesting site that might help you nail down what you are seeing and how to help. Just go in as if you were her teacher trying to help her and answer the questions. At the end of each series is a list of targeted references that might prove useful.