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Old 02-12-2020, 09:49 AM
Esprise Me is offline
Join Date: Apr 2019
Posts: 400
OP, I'm glad to hear you're receptive to our concerns about these "systems." If I recall correctly, you've written before about having trouble making friends and interacting with people. If you're looking for some non-sexist guidance in that area, which will probably help you get dates as much as it helps you make friends, I've heard a lot of praise for the book Conversationally Speaking by Alan Garner. I read a snippet and was impressed with how he broke down a particular conversational skill: listening and asking follow-up questions instead of moving on to the next question you rehearsed, and why that makes for a better conversation. It seemed like a really good analytical perspective on something that comes so naturally to many neurotypical folks that it's hard to explain, but for which some folks really need an explanation and a step-by-step guide.