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Old 02-12-2020, 05:08 PM
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If you only ride with her when she's going anyway, then I don't see how you're imposing any burden on her. You could still take MATA on any days when she wouldn't go otherwise, or even Lyft if there's not enough warning to arrange for MATA as long as that doesn't happen often.

Is there any equivalent thing you can do for her? Does she hate, or even just dislike, doing some chore you can do and are good at? Does she have pets, and sometimes go out of town and need someone to feed them; or even houseplants that need watering?

If the relationship really would be entirely one-sided, I'd explain to her that you're uncomfortable with that, and would really be much happier if you can at least pay for some of the gas/parking/vehicle maintenance/whatever.