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Old 05-13-2019, 12:43 PM
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Originally Posted by DSeid View Post
You don't attack the values. You don't label people or groups as "toxic."

You identify the specific problematic behaviors and identify other behaviors to value as part of being good citizens and good human beings. You discuss systemic factors that are issues preventing fairness.
...But the specific problematic behaviors are often either directly valued and encouraged or follow directly from a mindset that is valued and encouraged. Nobody is labeling the people toxic, but it gets perceived as such regardless, because these ideas and behaviors are often core to someone's personality.