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Old 09-07-2019, 05:00 PM
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Screw you, okcupid web site designers


A minor thing to bitch about, but I'm pissed. I've been using the okcupid dating site for a couple of years. They have a rather frustrating messaging system where you basically have just one chance to send a message to someone. After you send them a message, you cannot send them another unless they reply to you. You can't even see their profile any more until they reply to you.

They also have a terrible UI feature where pressing ENTER while typing a message would send the message. I discovered this when I started a message with a salutation and then pressed ENTER to move to the next line. Boom, the message consisting solely of "Hi Ann" was sent. Needless to say, I did not make a great first impression on Ann and never heard from her. EVERY okcupid user I've talked to about this has said they've been bitten by it.

Then I discovered that there's a setting to disable send-on-enter. Great, problem solved. Then some time later, the same thing happened again -- I inadvertently sent a single line message by pressing ENTER. WTF? I checked the setting and somehow it had reverted to send-on-enter. By then I had discovered that shift-ENTER adds a newline without sending (completely intuitive, right?), so I just started using that.

So a couple of days ago I found a profile of a woman who looked very interesting to me. Shared interests, seemingly compatible personality, etc. I spent some time preparing and then today started writing a message to her. I wrote "Hi Amy" and carefully pressed shift-ENTER. No problem. Then I noticed a button at the bottom of the message window that said "Add intro". Hm, I never noticed that before. I wonder what it does. Adds an introduction to my message? That doesn't really make sense. So just to see what would happen, I clicked it. Yep, boom, single-line message sent, and I don't expect I'll ever hear from Amy. Apparently okcupid has changed their website so that the button that was previously labeled "Send" is now labeled "Add intro". WTFFF? What was wrong with "Send", which tells you what it will actually do, while "Send intro" is ambiguous at best? BTW, "intro" is not even a word, you morons! And if you make a change like this, maybe tell us about it?
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Old 09-07-2019, 05:12 PM
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I just opened up OKCupid for the first time in a while and it's nearly unusable now. I tested your message thing and it works just as you described. (Sorry, Heather). It used to be a way more fun site.

It turns out that three women wrote to me during my hiatus. Go me!
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Old 09-07-2019, 05:17 PM
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Old 09-07-2019, 05:42 PM
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Old 09-07-2019, 05:48 PM
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Fortunately it’s not the only online dating platform.

I met my wife on eHarmony. Our 6 year anniversary is this month.
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Old 09-07-2019, 06:09 PM
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I just opened up OKCupid for the first time in a while and it's nearly unusable now.
Seconded - OKC is completely useless now. They've made it into a stupid game.

Also, I don't at all believe the site anymore. I keep getting "likes" and notifications that someone has sent me a message. Either it's impossible to find out for sure, or they're just trolling people.

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Old 09-07-2019, 06:45 PM
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Fortunately itís not the only online dating platform.

I met my wife on eHarmony. Our 6 year anniversary is this month.
Sure there are others. We know that. OKCupid was great six years ago. Itís also free.
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Old 09-07-2019, 06:59 PM
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Sure there are others. We know that. OKCupid was great six years ago. It’s also free.
OKCupid was more than merely great. There is no other. And it's gone, long gone. Utterly useless.

What broke it for me was when they made it so that you were not allowed to read messages from someone who had written messages to you unless you had first gone onto that fucking DoubleTake screen where you pretend it's Tinder and swipe left and swipe right; and you have to have swiped in an affirmative direction on this person's picture.

They'd tell you via email "you got a message from somebody" then you'd go onto OKCupid and it would not display the message until you played the DoubleTake game.

I'd like to find the people who bought them out and ruined it, and break their feet bones, slowly.

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Old 09-07-2019, 07:33 PM
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Sure there are others. We know that. OKCupid was great six years ago. Itís also free.
Free is nice. eHarmony certainly wasnít free.
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Old 09-07-2019, 07:41 PM
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Free is nice. eHarmony certainly wasnít free.
You get what you pay for.


Give it a minute...
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Old 09-07-2019, 08:00 PM
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You get what you pay for.
I'd happily pay considerably more than Match.com or eHarmony charge to have classic OKCupid back. I wouldn't give you a dime for a year's worth of access to any of the others.

I want the 10,000 questions and the algorithm that matches people based on them. Not 16 shallow questions and freaking photo.
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Old 09-07-2019, 08:02 PM
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Free is nice. eHarmony certainly wasnít free.
It was not only free but much better than eHarmony for where I lived and the matches that I would get. My needs are met now through Tinder and Bumble.

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I'd like to find the people who bought them out and ruined it, and break their feet bones, slowly.
The match.com group bought them. The also own plentyoffish, Tinder, Hinge and, apparently over 40 other dating companies.

eHarmony is a parent company that owns a few other sites as well.

Facebook has just started rolling out a dating function that is going to attempt to take them all down.
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Old 09-07-2019, 08:55 PM
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I joined ok cupid a couple of months ago. I got quite a few very aggressive responses and it freaked me out so much that I just kind of abandoned the site.

I feel bad about all the folks I'm not responding to, but man, it's just too much for me. It's very difficult to tell who is real.
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Old 09-07-2019, 08:59 PM
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You get what you pay for.
Hah!
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Old 09-07-2019, 09:27 PM
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What broke it for me was when they made it so that you were not allowed to read messages from someone who had written messages to you unless you had first gone onto that fucking DoubleTake screen where you pretend it's Tinder and swipe left and swipe right; and you have to have swiped in an affirmative direction on this person's picture.

They'd tell you via email "you got a message from somebody" then you'd go onto OKCupid and it would not display the message until you played the DoubleTake game.
Oh god, +1000 on this. I so hate this process.

"You got a message."
"Great, show it to me."
"Oh, you can't see it yet. Try to find it."
"How?"
"Oh just look around. You'll probably find the person who sent it, sooner or later."

Jesus fucking Chrsit. What is the point of this? She sent me a message. I want to read that message. LET ME SEE IT.
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Old 09-15-2019, 11:12 PM
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I just opened up OKCupid for the first time in a while and it's nearly unusable now. I tested your message thing and it works just as you described. (Sorry, Heather).
Haha. Heather just wrote me back even though my message just said ďhiĒ. Itís on, baby! Now look what you guys just got me into.
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Old 09-16-2019, 12:02 AM
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Haha. Heather just wrote me back even though my message just said ďhiĒ. Itís on, baby! Now look what you guys just got me into.
You get a reply without even trying? I must be doing something wrong.
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Old 09-16-2019, 05:32 AM
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I'm not on any dating site these days, but I'm starting to get "hit on" on twitter. I have a very attractive "doctor" who I decided to reply to, just for fun because I was pretty certain he was not really who he was pretending to be.

He moved to how much money I have within minutes. My last reply to his question of how I support myself was "LOL". He's still tweeting me even though I have stopped responding to him.
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Old 09-16-2019, 10:32 AM
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He moved to how much money I have within minutes. My last reply to his question of how I support myself was "LOL".
Aww, c'mon answer him - 'A cup, a witty cardboard sign*, & a busy corner'





* Need $ for booze, Need first class airfare home, etc.
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Old 09-16-2019, 10:41 AM
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* Need $ for booze, Need first class airfare home, etc.
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Old 09-16-2019, 11:36 AM
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I mean, that does sound like a stupid interface, but maybe you should stop trying to put greetings on separate lines in OKCupid messages.
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Old 09-16-2019, 01:35 PM
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I mean, that does sound like a stupid interface, but maybe you should stop trying to put greetings on separate lines in OKCupid messages.
Dearest Mildred,

I find your profile daguerreotype utterly enthralling. It is my fondest desire that you also find me similarly dashing; perhaps we could indulge in an exchange of saucy ankle pictures? Kindly post them by Pony Express at your nearest convenience, that I may receive them in the coming weeks.

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Old 09-16-2019, 03:04 PM
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I use it purely for validation but unless it's changed very recently I was able to read some messages not that long (within the past year for sure) ago.
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Old 09-16-2019, 03:04 PM
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Actually, more guys out there in the dating world should be sending saucy ankle pictures.
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Old 09-16-2019, 03:37 PM
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Joke's on you - you can't see my ankle when it's covered in sauce!
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Old 09-16-2019, 05:19 PM
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The Saucy Ankle had the worst buffalo wings I’ve ever tasted.
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I'd happily pay considerably more than Match.com or eHarmony charge to have classic OKCupid back. I wouldn't give you a dime for a year's worth of access to any of the others.

I want the 10,000 questions and the algorithm that matches people based on them. Not 16 shallow questions and freaking photo.
The questions are still there, just harder to find if you know to look for them, aaaand I pay for okcupid and the bajillion match questions aren't really that great either, if this is what you get for paying for it, if I go to match.com or eharmony, man those likes or looks or whatever it is, those messages better be delivered on gold gilded linen paper by divine doves from on high with trumpets and ruffles and flourishes.


Really, sometimes less is more and I gotta say, you got some very saucy ankles
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*bites lip* This stupid site won't let me show you everything I want to. Why don't you sign up at www.incrediblyobviouscamgirlscam.com and I can show you the whole lower leg? The first week is free if you use my code #saucysockarea.
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