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Old 01-12-2019, 03:05 PM
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If you have a very attractive sibling, do you recognize that they're attractive?

A while back I was was watching a show (Korean of course! ) and a top KPop singer (Sunmi) videophoned (is that a word?) her brothers. The first thing her younger brother asked her was "Why are you wearing to much makeup?" and her older brother said that his girlfriend was prettier than her.

I know these are typical brother things to say, but do people really think their siblings aren't attractive? I'm not talking in a creepy sexual way, but if your sister or brother is acknowledged as attractive by a large number of people, can you really be oblivious to that fact?

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Old 01-12-2019, 03:25 PM
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When we were younger, and my sister got into her late teens (I was in my early 20s at that point), yes, I was able to objectively recognize that she was gorgeous. She had a number of boyfriends, and she and one of her friends would regularly be invited backstage by musicians at the concerts that they'd attend.

My sister has a lot of our mom's looks (and our mother was drop-dead beautiful as a younger woman), and a lot of my female relatives on mom's side of the family were pretty-to-gorgeous.

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Old 01-12-2019, 04:18 PM
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My baby brother was an adorable baby and toddler. He was photogenic and never went through an awkward stage. He was chased around in highschool and college by many girls. He's still the best looking of all of us. So, yes siblings know when their brother or sister is attractive.
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Dunno; you’ll have to ask my siblings.
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Old 01-12-2019, 04:29 PM
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Oh yeah my brother was smoking hot in high school. Everyone knew. He was the best looking guy in school and he only improved with age. Even in his 50s he's incredibly handsome and well-groomed and works hard to stay in shape.

I don't know why it would be any different from talking about how smart or talented a sibling is.

Now talking ugly, I can't imagine my brother being mean and saying I'm ugly. I'm not an attractive woman. At BEST I'm handsome. I've actually been called that before. My brother has never said a bad thing about me in my presence though about appearance or intelligence. He's always, since we were even kids, reminded me of Andy Griffith. Not a mean bone in his body.
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In a theoretical sense, I know my sister is a hottie, but even writing that seems odd. I guess it's a case of being too close to the tree to see the forest, so to speak...
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Old 01-12-2019, 06:43 PM
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I had a cousin who was extremely beautiful. When she walked into a room, everyone stopped whatever they were doing to look at her. She was once on the cover of Teen magazine.

The extended family adults were obsessed with her looks and carried on about her endlessly. She was the oldest of her generation, and the younger relatives were very aware of her beauty but didn't really care that much. She was not close to her siblings or cousins, possibly because her time was full putting on makeup and fighting off the endless stream of males following her around.

She married a wealthy man who cheated on her and treated her like a possession. She died in her 30s during cosmetic surgery.

I learned from her that beauty is not necessarily a blessing.
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Old 01-12-2019, 07:04 PM
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Oh, the fugly sister KNOWS.

My baby sister is petite, gorgeous, graceful.

I'm the clumsy ox, the antithesis.

But I'm the smart one.

It's just something that is THERE. My parents never compared us. But we KNEW.


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Old 01-12-2019, 07:38 PM
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I had a cousin who was extremely beautiful. When she walked into a room, everyone stopped whatever they were doing to look at her. She was once on the cover of Teen magazine.

The extended family adults were obsessed with her looks and carried on about her endlessly. She was the oldest of her generation, and the younger relatives were very aware of her beauty but didn't really care that much. She was not close to her siblings or cousins, possibly because her time was full putting on makeup and fighting off the endless stream of males following her around.

She married a wealthy man who cheated on her and treated her like a possession. She died in her 30s during cosmetic surgery.

I learned from her that beauty is not necessarily a blessing.
I've mentioned this in another thread, but I've long accepted one of my biological cousins is my ideal type since I was 6 years old (she's almost 20 years older than I am) and I'm always subconsciously looking for here traits, both physical and personality in an ideal mate.

However, there's a degree of separation there. I wonder if I would see her beauty if she was my sister whom I grew up with.
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Old 01-13-2019, 02:23 AM
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I have 3 kids. One of whom is particularly beautiful. The other 2 aren't ugly at all. But this one shines above them. The 2 don't seem to be jealous or even really aware of it.
Me and Mr.Wrekker have talked about it and determined not to overtly praise and discuss this child's beauty, in their presence. But, I assure you they know they're beautiful.
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Old 01-13-2019, 09:41 AM
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When I was 14 or 15, and my sister 16 or 17, someone “much older” (probably ~25) at the tennis club referred to her as “Your sister, the one who looks like a movie star.” I was totally confused. I had never regarded her as anything out of the ordinary looks-wise.

But apparently she was. She appeared many adverts, and by the time she finished high school was getting offers to be the Administrative Assistant for many senior executives. Even though she could not type or take shorthand. This was Pakistan in the 1980s, where having a good looking secretary, who spoke English well was a big status symbol.

I could not see it myself, until quite a bit later. We didn’t get along as kids and actually well into our twenties. Maybe that had something to do with it.

Talking to her about it now (we are in our 50s) she’s been quite aware all along of her “gift” and the advantages and disadvantages that accrued.
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My Little Sister.
She is blonde, good-looking & has many admirers.

I understood it, but could never see it.
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Funny thing, Mr.Wrekker and his 2 sibs all look similar. Same build and facial features. They would vehemently disagree if you told them so.
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My two sisters - both almost a decade older than me - were each quite attractive in their younger years.

But they don't really look much like each other. (One looks like my father's side of the family, the other like my mother's.) To me, the more interesting question is whether they recognize that both of them are attractive, in somewhat different ways.
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My two sisters - both almost a decade older than me - were each quite attractive in their younger years.

But they don't really look much like each other. (One looks like my father's side of the family, the other like my mother's.) To me, the more interesting question is whether they recognize that both of them are attractive, in somewhat different ways.
I have 3 sisters. When strangers see us all together we're always told: "I can tell you are sisters". This flabbergasts all of us, because we all look totally different. We have different eyes, noses, face shapes, coloring, hair, etc. We are all attractive in different ways and have been told that. Three of us are in our 50's now and the youngest is mid 40's. But we have aged well, take care of ourselves and always put effort into how we present ourselves. One of my sisters has very low self-esteem for some reason. She continually puts herself down. We all went to a state park this last summer and took a bunch of pictures of all of us. The one sister looked at every one of them and made a comment about how "ugly" she was and how the rest of us look like models The rest of us thought all 4 of us looked great!

People see different things and pick out different things to focus on.
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In a theoretical sense, I know my sister is a hottie, but even writing that seems odd. I guess it's a case of being too close to the tree to see the forest, so to speak...
I don't have a sister, only a brother, and he is not unusually attractive. I would imagine that having a sibling of your preferred sex who is incredibly attractive is rather like viewing a stranger not of your preferred sex who is incredibly attractive: You can acknowledge they look good without feeling the slightest bit of wanting to jump their bones.
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I have two sisters. One is fairly close in age with me, and I've always known that she is very pretty. She received a lot of attention from guys in her teens, and that confirmed it.

My other sister is quite a bit younger than me. She's pretty too, but I didn't grow up with her since I had already been out of the house for several years when she hit her teens.
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Old 01-15-2019, 09:12 AM
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My older sister is very pretty. She is also very photogenic, which is not always the same thing. Nobody in the family ever treated her differently because of it, any more than treating my brother differently because he is the tallest.
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...her older brother said that his girlfriend was prettier than her.

I know these are typical brother things to say...
I guess it doesn't occur to me to make the comparison.
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The first thing her younger brother asked her was "Why are you wearing to much makeup?"
I also wouldn't notice how much make-up my sister was wearing, or have an opinion on how much was too much.

All of us are now in our 60s, but I don't know if that makes any difference. I don't recall talking to any of my siblings about their appearance.

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Something tangentially related: My younger sister puts very little effort into her appearance. I don't think she's attractive, but I also think that if you could put me inside her body I could get her to look attractive: improve her personal hygiene, get her in more figure-flattering clothes, tweeze her eyebrows, get some highlights in her hair, put on a bit of makeup, work out and build up some muscle tone. Makes me wonder what she thinks about me. Maybe in her eyes, she's a natural beauty and I'm too high maintenance to be attractive!
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My sister and I look very alike, and I know that it looks much better on her than it does on me.
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This is a very interesting question. I don't have a factual answer, but I do have a strange anecdote that I think may show that there is a dissonance in opinions.

I come from a very large family from one set of parents (double digits number of siblings equally split). When the siblings assign "look-alike" siblings compared to when the in-laws do, the comparisons are wholly different. And when I ask my partner more specifically about ranking attractiveness, there is also a hugely different ranking between the two of us.
I think we are all quite healthy and athletic and decent looking, but I would say my parents when younger were more attractive than any of us children.

My hypothesis is that siblings have spent significant amount of time and experience with one another and that clouds/alters/combines to focus on other factors. Now that I've been apart from them for decades, I am amused to see how Nebraskan looking one sister is and how Wisconsin my brother is, and the list goes on.

So no, I don't think that siblings can look at each other with the same attractiveness measure as they do to the general public.
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My half-sister is cute as a button. She has the same nose that I do, inherited from our father's line, but she wears it much better than I do.
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