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Old 05-23-2019, 11:09 AM
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Attending any weddings this summer?


This weekend is the first of 4 weddings we will be attending between now and the week after Labor Day. Looking forward to a fun summer - tho it DOES kinda dictate our vacation schedule/budget!

All 4 are my nieces and nephews - kids of my 3 sisters. Among the 4 of us, we had 14 kids in a relatively few years (I think they range in age from approx 25-37, and 12 of them are between 27-33). For a while, it seemed someone was graduating from somewhere every year. Now, it seems to be weddings.

My sisters and their hubbies will be at all 4, so it will be fun to get together for 4 big party weekends. Whatever I might say negatively about any of my sisters - they know how to throw a good party!

The 14 nieces and nephews are spread across the country. I think 15 or so of them (including SOs) showed up for my kid's wedding last Nov. So it will be fun to see the changing cast of whichever of them make it to each wedding.

2 are in the Chicago area - where I live. One is in St. Paul Minn, and another is in Austin Texas.

Howzabout youse guys?
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Old 05-23-2019, 11:12 AM
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None this summer. About 3 years ago, we had 5 weddings over one summer.
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Old 05-23-2019, 11:13 AM
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No, but I'm going to a funeral.
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Old 05-23-2019, 11:21 AM
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I will be attending my own wedding on August 17th.
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Old 05-23-2019, 11:22 AM
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Only one this year.

Our son's (died 5 years ago) fiance is getting married. She and our son had 2 kids together. So this wedding will be bittersweet. I'm happy that she found an amazing guy who loves our grandkids, but so sad at the same time.
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Old 05-23-2019, 11:25 AM
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Dear Jebus, no. That's one of the benefits of being of an age where practically everyone you know is either already married or isn't likely to get married.

Although, I do have a co-worker who is getting married early enough in September that it technically counts as summer. Not planning to go at this point, as it's my weekend to work.
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Old 05-23-2019, 12:09 PM
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Nope. Everyone I know who was ever going to get married already is, and of those who were going to have kids has already gone a couple of rounds of that, too.

Still waiting around for the first divorce...
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I will be attending my own wedding on August 17th.
And congratulations! Enjoy and good luck with everything!
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Old 05-23-2019, 12:12 PM
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Ugh. Yes.

My niece is getting married next month. She's the most spoiled, entitled brat I've ever met. She's expecting this massive, huge fairy tale wedding but most of the basics -- like her cake and dress -- haven't been finalized yet. Its 5 weeks away and invitations haven't been sent out yet. She waited too long to reserve a venue so they had to settle for the "ballroom" at a local casino. Laff.

All of this is because she doesn't understand that other people have lives and cant be at her beck and call 24/7. If something can't happen the way she wants it on her schedule then everyone else is in the wrong and deliberately trying to sabotage her. So, for instance, if the baker isn't available for a consult at 9pm on a Tuesday night or the tailor / seamstress has only one day available for a consut but that day happens to be the day niece decides to go on a last-minute day trip to the coast, then those people are total assholes who are just trying to make her life hell for their own jollies. My wife foolishly agreed to take pictures so the niece promptly supplied her with a list of about 14,000 different moments she wants captured on film ("Wedding party when they see me in my dress for the first time." "Dad when he sees me in my dress for the first time." "Fiance when he sees me in my dress for the first time." "No less than ten shots of me getting my hair done." "No less than five shots each of maid of honor and each bridesmaid getting her hair done." You get the idea. Gag me).

She wanted to take engagement photos at my parent's property. They live out in the county on a long stretch of the Umpqua river and it really is a beautiful place. But my mom is going through chemo right now and she cant really handle guests at the house so my wife and I nixed that idea. So now I'm Satan himself, apparently.

Her fiance is actually a pretty decent guy. I feel sorry for him but they've been together for a year and a half so hopefully he knows what he's getting into.

It'll either be a total shit show or it'll actually go smoother than everyone is expecting it to. My money is clearly on the former.

Both my wife and I have to take a day off from work to go to it, which I'm not happy about either. But oh well.

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None for me. I figure the next family gathering of any sort is likely to be a funeral for either my mom or (more likely) my inlaws.
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Congrats, Dave B.

One thing my wife and I - and my sisters, have observed, is that expectations have changed since we all got married 30-40 years ago. Back in the 70s-80s, there seemed to be "rulebooks" covering everything from hw the invites were to be worded, to how long you had to send thank you notes. (Yes, I realize many people chose their own path back then as well.) Now, things seem to be much more up for grabs.

At times it can cause a little dysjunction. Like if a bride asks a parent for help with a shower or something, the parents have realized that they were thinking of how things were done 30 years ago, as opposed to how they are done now. Hell - I LOVE being reminded that I am increasingly obsolete!
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Old 05-23-2019, 01:04 PM
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Only one wedding this summer: the daughter of a longtime friend (and fellow gamer). His daughter, and her fiance, are gamers, as well, so I imagine there'll be a fair amount of nerdism at the reception. The wedding is local, so no travel involved.

Some friends of mine have two kids, both of whom are getting married next month (and only a couple of weeks apart) -- their daughter is getting married here in suburban Chicago, but then their son is getting married in the Twin Cities (where his fiancee grew up); they have a seriously busy June.
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And congratulations! Enjoy and good luck with everything!
Thank you!
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Old 05-23-2019, 01:23 PM
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I sure hope not. My son got married a few months back and my daughter hasn't yet set a date. My nephews are all either married already or seriously opposed to the concept. When I threw out all my suits and ties it made a dent in my gf's interest in attending any weddings with me, so there's that.
Unless I'm the officiant or the father of the bride/groom, I'd rather do something/anything else.
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Old 05-23-2019, 01:24 PM
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Congrats, Dave B.

One thing my wife and I - and my sisters, have observed, is that expectations have changed since we all got married 30-40 years ago.
Thanks. Second time round for both of us (her in 1994, me in 2001), and neither of us are willing to satisfy anyone but ourselves this time. We're paying for everything, and doing it our way. Luckily we seem to have either wanted exactly the same thing, or have been willing to compromise.
The biggest compromise was the honeymoon. I don't like beaches or high temperatures, she doesn't like hiking in the wilderness.
We settled on a cruise up to Norway to see the Northern Lights (hopefully).
From Southampton.
Up through the North Sea.
In November.

Should be interesting.
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Attending a wedding in early August, a cousin of my fiancee. On a farm at the edge of metropolitan Chicago, where we live. But we're staying in a hotel near the venue, as much for the pre-wedding festivities (her family golfs, a lot!) as to not have to drive home after the reception.

My own wedding will be an early summer wedding (last Sunday in June), with the ceremony on the first tee of a golf course, but next year.
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None this summer, although two friends are getting married (to each other) it'll just be a private small ceremony.

My big wedding summer topped out at 3. Between wedding 1 and 2 I got punched in the chin while sparring bare-handed and ended up with a silver-dollar-sized purple bruise. I did an excellent cover-up job!
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Between wedding 1 and 2 I got punched in the chin while sparring bare-handed and ended up with a silver-dollar-sized purple bruise. I did an excellent cover-up job!
Around the time my sister was getting married, some years back, a friend of mine was trying to get me to take up cycling, after not riding since I was in school. I was walking my sister down the aisle, and she told me that if I broke a leg cycling before the wedding (afterwards being my own business), she would break the other.
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A few days before my sister got married 25-ish years ago, one of the groomsmen decided to have elective surgery on his nose. He's quite the sight in the photos with the big white bandage in the middle of his face. I'm pretty sure that friendship fizzled shortly thereafter.

Which is a hijack to my own thread. What'cha gonna do?

And as I think back, I may have gone to the wedding of a friend's step-son because she didn't want to have to deal with her husband's ex without moral support. I honestly don't recall anything else about it.
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Old 05-23-2019, 04:15 PM
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And I didn't hijack my thread. I plead lack of sleep...
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I've got two this summer one the weekend before we close on a new house that is one of my good buddies from my partying days based on the guest list my wife anand I booked a full day to recover before traveling home. The second is a kid in a family that is close to my wife's family it'll be the third wedding in this family I've been two. This is the unruly child so hopefully there will some fun to be had at this wedding generally they've been just terrible.
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Old 05-23-2019, 09:13 PM
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I have one, which is one too many in my book.

Fortunately it's on a Friday and I will be working during the actual ceremony. I'll take my time getting to the reception.


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I have one friend who is getting married, but I'm not attending. I would have loved to have gone, but it's an out of town wedding and due to the nature of my work this time of year, I can't get the time off.
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My bro-in-law is getting married to his boyfriend this summer. There will be about 80-100 people on "his" side of the family (including his folks, flying in from the old country... and staying with them for the whole summer), and maybe 6-10 people on "our" side. It will be an interesting day.

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A few days before my sister got married 25-ish years ago, one of the groomsmen decided to have elective surgery on his nose. He's quite the sight in the photos with the big white bandage in the middle of his face. I'm pretty sure that friendship fizzled shortly thereafter.
I was sitting in the church waiting for the wedding to begin. The woman I was dating was the maid of honor. She came running over to get me. Turns out the best man had just recieved a phone call that his newborn son, who was in the neonatal ICU since his birth two weeks prior, had died.

I filled in as best man. I thought I did an admirable job, given that I didn't know a single person there other than the maid of honor. The mother of the bride was stressed out and kept screaming at me to do things I had no idea were my responsibility.

The marriage lasted a few months. The bride never stopped "seeing" her "other boyfriend" and her husband found out.
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I've got two coming up. One is supposedly going to be a Jewish wedding, but they're having it on a Saturday with an early-afternoon start time, so I'm a little worried we'll be expected to hang around without food or drink for hours until the ceremony can start after sundown. (Incidentally, the other wedding will also incorporate some elements of the groom's Jewish heritage and will be on a Saturday, but it's low-key, being officiated by an uncle, and I know the couple and they would never force their guests to spend hours being hungry and sober.)

The first wedding is actually an out-of-town 3-day event of which we're only attending one day; we're not interested in spending our limited vacation time on the other events. It's also a child-free wedding, which primarily affects my husband's brother and his wife, who will therefore also only attend one day. I don't fault the bride and groom for having additional celebrations for the folks who can make it or having the wedding their way, though I will be annoyed if there ends up being any blowback for our choice.

The second wedding is one I actually would take time off for, but I don't have to. I'm sort of an unofficial bridesmaid in that one. There's no wedding party, but they've designated a few "guests of honor" to do readings or toasts; we can wear whatever we want and don't have to show up to a rehearsal. Chillest bridal couple ever.
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Daughter getting married in a forest (almost on a mountain*). A long weekend of NO cell phone signals, NO Wi-fi.

A hundred Millennials unable to share their experiences. Ha!


*... actually an active volcano. Due to erupt the day after the wedding, as I keep telling the bride.
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I'm safely out of Utah so I won’t be attending Mormon receptions in the cultural hall (basketball gym with a stage) with a minimum amount of crepe paper and white balloons, red bunch and sheet cake. With 30 plus cousins, some of their kids will be getting married on any given Saturday. Never Sunday. The weddings are in the member-only temple so off limits to us rebels. Very limited number of seats, so I’d not likely be invited for the wedding anyway in that the families are too large to invite cousins.

My wife’s friends are generally already married with elementary school kids. Second marriages are not unheard of, but thankfully not made into huge events. Out kids are still in elementary school as well, so we have plenty of time before that rolls around.
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Maybe. One of my closest friends turned 40 yesterday and her boyfriend proposed! I’m so happy for her, her fiancé is wonderful and will make her very happy. I’m certainly going to the wedding, I haven’t asked for the details yet so don’t know when it is.
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I haven't been to a wedding in decades.

If someone is close enough to me to invite me, I politely tell them to invite me to their 10 year anniversary instead.
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Got back from a hot Texas afternoon outdoors wedding yesterday. These things shouldn't be done outdoors from May-August.

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Just attended one of my cousin's yesterday. And in four weeks, my oldest daughter.
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Got back from a hot Texas afternoon outdoors wedding yesterday. These things shouldn't be done outdoors from May-August.
One of the 4 I'm attending will be outdoors in Austin, July 6th!
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