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Old 08-08-2019, 07:35 PM
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How far away from where you grew up do you live now?


Im currently ~1200 miles from home to attend the funeral of my grandmother. She spent about half her life living in a town of about 180 people, 35 miles from the next nearest town big enough for a gas station and a grocery store. Life was hard and it it gave a whole new meaning to the phrase "be prepared."

At the funeral the family was divided into, essentially, two groups: those that stayed in the rural community and those that fled for better job or... anything, really, to escape the life of a farmer / farm wife. My mom was an escapee: she went to nursing school and got a job 1200 miles away.

I, however, did not escape from where I grew up. My kids go the same school my wife did--she didn't leave either. I work for the college I got my first undergrad degree in. Last week I had dinner with a woman I have known since we both were toddlers. Basically, I never saw a reason to leave. Grass isn't necessarily greener over yonder.

Now I'm giving serious consideration to moving here: a rural farming community a half-hour's drive from the nearest grocery store. Why? Because both my wife and I can likely find good employment (we're both teachers) and 3 bed / 3 bath houses sell for $90K (they'd be 4 times that back home).

Anyway, all of this has made me curious: how far from home (that is, the place you grew up) do you live? And further, is there a good reason for you to have made the choice to stay or leave? Are there significant benefits (monetary or personal) to the decision you made?

I've lived in the same community for 38 years. The thought of leaving for good is both terrifying and exciting.
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Old 08-08-2019, 07:42 PM
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20 miles. And though I've driven through town, it's been years since I got out of the car there. Leaving was not my choice - we moved the day after I graduated from high school to take care of my great grandmother the next state over and didn't return when we moved back to New Hampshire.
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Old 08-08-2019, 07:50 PM
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A little under 400 miles. Both the house where I grew up and the house where I live now are within a few miles of Virginia, though.
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Old 08-08-2019, 07:53 PM
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2100 miles, the distance from Johnstown, PA to Tucson, AZ. The economy wasn't great, Johnstown was a dying town, and my mom grew up in Tucson. Tucson is a great town, home to a major university, lots of good medical facilities, and a booming aerospace industry. Employment is good, Arizona has an $11 per hour minimum wage going up to $12 in 2020. The weather is great, if a bit hot in the summer. We're not suffering from the extreme weather going on in the rest of the country.
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Old 08-08-2019, 07:54 PM
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416 miles according to Google maps distance tool (San Diego to San Jose)
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Old 08-08-2019, 07:59 PM
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540 miles. I grew up in a suburb of a reasonably sized city and now live in a college town where I college. But I am a stick in the mud. One school from K through 12 (private school in the same building even). One university from SB through PhD. Two full time jobs at two different universities for 7 and 37 years. We owned one home in each place plus one first year of renting in each place. With my parents I live in two homes, one through age 6, the other until marriage (excluding college).
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Old 08-08-2019, 08:02 PM
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14.60 miles as the crow flies, which is the furthest away from my childhood home I've lived in my 55 years.
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Old 08-08-2019, 08:10 PM
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Let's see...

2289km, according to Google's reckoning. That's about 1422 miles.

It's a long way, but there's no land between me and home, really. It's all a sea. And aside from touring various parts of Australia, I haven't really travelled much else. Not even been outside my hemisphere.
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Old 08-08-2019, 08:12 PM
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Not sure of the mileage, but I grew up in sorta central Northwestside Chicago, near Fullerton and Cicero. I now live on the upper border Northside of Chicago, just a smidge from Evanston where I was born.
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Old 08-08-2019, 08:16 PM
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2.2 miles from where I was born and raised. I have never lived more than about 5 miles out. I have never driven more than 5 miles to work. Retired now I will soon be moving about 80 miles away.
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Old 08-08-2019, 08:19 PM
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I live 364 miles from where I grew up.
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Old 08-08-2019, 08:31 PM
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3 miles.
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Old 08-08-2019, 08:39 PM
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100 miles. Stayed in the same state but moved to the large city
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Old 08-08-2019, 09:17 PM
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320 miles as the crow flies, 400 or 450 as the car drives. Left a small town in western New York for a small town in southern Maine.
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Old 08-08-2019, 09:28 PM
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356.2 miles; I just drove from there with the trip odometer going. Or 28 miles; but the years at that location I would not consider growing up much.
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Old 08-08-2019, 09:41 PM
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Not sure of the mileage, but I grew up in sorta central Northwestside Chicago, near Fullerton and Cicero. I now live on the upper border Northside of Chicago, just a smidge from Evanston where I was born.
Ha - small world. Belmont and Central for me. Now about a 15 mile drive south and west in DuPage County.
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Old 08-08-2019, 10:06 PM
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I live in the same city and neighborhood I lived in when I was born.
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Not sure of the mileage, but I grew up in sorta central Northwestside Chicago, near Fullerton and Cicero. I now live on the upper border Northside of Chicago, just a smidge from Evanston where I was born.
Rogers Park! I live three blocks from Evanston.

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Old 08-08-2019, 10:10 PM
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75 miles.

I currently live in NJ just over the river from Manhattan. As for the reason I left the non-descript suburban town in Connecticut where I grew up, that's just what most people did. Unless you planned on staying in town or one of the nearby towns to be a schoolteacher, policeman, fireman or other municipal worker or local small business owner, there wasn't a whole lot of reasons to stay. So most people graduated high school, went off to college or joined the military and move to a big city (initially Boston or New York for many) and eventually further out until they settled in some other non-descript suburban town in some other state.
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Old 08-08-2019, 10:10 PM
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7686 miles! Northern Australia to the SF Bay Area.
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Old 08-08-2019, 10:11 PM
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Probably just under 1000miles. And even that feels too close.
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Old 08-08-2019, 10:15 PM
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Zero miles. I live in the same house I lived in from the ages of 13-18.

Not that I lived here all that time. I've lived in several places... Columbus, St. Louis, NYC, Long Island, then back to NYC. My husband and I moved back here to help take care of my parents. Now that they're gone, we're here to stay.
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Old 08-08-2019, 10:16 PM
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About 360 miles as the crow flies, 460 by car. Haven't been to my hometown since my Mom died 17 years ago, and given that I have no family or friends left there unlikely to ever return.
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Old 08-08-2019, 10:19 PM
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Ha - small world. Belmont and Central for me. .
Whoa. That's where my best friend grew up, and we spent many an hour in that area.

I still miss the Will Rogers theater. I met Son of Svengoolie there.
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Old 08-08-2019, 10:25 PM
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2435 miles by road (1542 by air) from Anchorage, AK.

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Old 08-08-2019, 10:46 PM
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About 2700 miles, Baltimore to Los Angeles.

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And further, is there a good reason for you to have made the choice to stay or leave? Are there significant benefits (monetary or personal) to the decision you made?
I moved to L.A. for work, this is where the entertainment industry is. Significant benefits? Hell yes, the weather for one. Also, while the east coast was a perfectly nice place to grow up, I love Southern California, and can't imagine living anywhere else.
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Old 08-08-2019, 11:11 PM
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2642 miles (per google maps) - Seattle to upstate Pennsylvania.
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Old 08-08-2019, 11:46 PM
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10214 miles, from the Cape Town, South Africa house I grew up in to the Bellevue, Washington house I live in now. So pretty far. I think I’m close to literally being on the other side of the world.
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Old 08-08-2019, 11:52 PM
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About 1700 feet from my childhood home, where my parents still live. Same neighborhood, just the opposite end. Right across the street from my high school. There's actually a handful of us who grew up in this neighborhood and bought houses here. The guy across the street grew up on the end of my old street maybe like 60 years ago and he, too, moved to "the other end of the neighborhood". Cool stuff.

I'm actively friends with people I've known since I was in pre-school, too. Some of us are still here, some left. It's nice to be one of the ones who are still here, we're kind of like a hub for the friend circles.

I never felt any sort of calling to leave. I never thought there was anything better for me elsewhere. I like making a happy life right here. Now I'm on city council so I got that goin' for me.
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Old 08-08-2019, 11:56 PM
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3,000 miles, from Upstate New York to San Francisco.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:10 AM
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We moved on my 10th birthday, from suburban Chicago to Green Bay, so I think of myself as having grown up in both places.

I currently live about 15 miles from my first childhood home, and about 200 miles from my second.

I wound up back in Chicago due to my career (there are very few job opportunities even remotely related to what I do, back in Green Bay). I miss the feel of being in a smaller city, and I wouldn't mind moving back there someday, but I don't think it's going to happen any time soon.

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Old 08-09-2019, 12:20 AM
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Not applicable. I grew up in no one place. I'm ~2,800 miles from where I was born( Ithaca, NY ), but I have no memories of the place - we moved when I was still a baby. I had lived in four different states + D.C. and eight different cities by the time I was 13.

I did settle down a bit thereafter, bouncing around the SF Bay Area after 13 and I'm still here generally( I've lived in multiple cities in the area as well ). But given the big gap at the start I'm not really inclined to say "I grew up here."
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:31 AM
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According to Google maps I am approximately 2,833 miles. I was born and lived in San Francisco until i was 7. I moved to the east coast and now live near Washington DC.
I have visited California only 2 times since we moved in 1973.
Once was in March of this year when I went to Palm Springs and the second was when our whole family went back to San Francisco back in 1987.
I hear it has changed a lot since then.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:35 AM
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I bounce about.

My address of record is about 20 min from where I was born (22km), 1h 20 min from where I grew up (113km). But I'm currently 10h away (1000km); my next project will be some 200-250km (3h) away.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:37 AM
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About ten miles. I was born in Chicago, grew up in the suburbs, hopped around the country after college for various jobs, and eventually landed back in Chicago where the culture speaks to me (blues music, pizza, people I can grok). I'm here to stay.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:39 AM
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3493 miles.

That's just now that I'm in Hawaii. Almost 25 years in Thailand, and that was 8698 miles, give or take.
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:56 AM
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Another one who bounced about quite a bit*, but I'll count Champaign, Illinois as "where I grew up"
9618 miles, or 15,478 km, according to the Great Circle mapper site.

*Dad was US Air Force - I was born in Michigan, moved to Hawaii then Indiana, but moved to Illinois when I was...six, I think. Then I spent the next sixteen years there, and that's the location of my only childhood memories
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Old 08-09-2019, 12:58 AM
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Old 08-09-2019, 01:07 AM
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About 800 miles. For the 20+ years after university and now, China was about 5,700 miles and across the Pacific Ocean.
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I grew up in two different cities. From the age of 2 to the age of 9 I lived in Leeds, England, and from the age of 9 I lived in Newcastle, Australia. As an adult I've also lived in Sydney and in Columbus,. Ohio.

Where I live now is on the other side of the world from my earlier childhood home, but just a short walk from my later childhood home. I no longer have any contacts with people in Leeds, and most of my friends live in Newcastle.

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Old 08-09-2019, 02:22 AM
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A bit over 2500 miles. And it's been 20 something years.
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Old 08-09-2019, 02:51 AM
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2934.1 miles from Bayside, New York to Fremont California.
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Old 08-09-2019, 03:50 AM
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6 miles for me, less than 2 for my wife. Our kids go to the same schools she did.
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Old 08-09-2019, 04:16 AM
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well i bounced 2 different places most of my life one in Indiana and one in California and there 2200 miles apart i moved back to the ca location in 88 and i live 3 houses down from where i lived in 1990 .......
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Old 08-09-2019, 05:53 AM
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About 3 miles for me. It's a nice part of the country/world, close to a major regional city, we're near all our immediate family and most of our friends. I did go to university over 100 miles away, to experience a different part of the country, but met my now-wife just before I left, and stuck with it. As a result I kept in touch with school friends from back home rather than making new friends at uni, and since my wife stayed where she was for her studies, moving back to the area when I graduated was the obvious thing to do. No regrets whatsoever, I'm very lucky.
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Old 08-09-2019, 06:08 AM
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For me it's 7687.67 km (4776.90 mi) according to the "Measure distance" tool of Google Maps. I grew up in a moderate-sized city of about 160,000 inhabitants (now 215,000) on the Great Plains, and now live in Vienna.
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Old 08-09-2019, 07:08 AM
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450 miles. A good day's drive, although I haven't driven it since my mother died in 1991.
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Old 08-09-2019, 07:16 AM
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I live < 4 miles currently or just over 4 by car. I've lived over 3000 miles away in the past but mostly have lived within about 20 miles. My kids did end up going to the same High School as my wife. A much better school than the one I went to.
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Old 08-09-2019, 07:34 AM
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I grew up in Baltimore county, just a bit north of the city. I now live in St. Mary's county. I don't know how far it is at the crow flies, but according to Google maps, it's about 91 miles door to door.

The farthest I ever lived was 2650 miles when I was in Coronado, CA.
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Old 08-09-2019, 07:43 AM
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350 miles from here to Eastlake, Ohio, according to Google maps.

Google maps also tells me that if I go straight up I70 and I76, I can be there in 5 1/2 hours. I would have guessed it was a longer drive.
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