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Old 04-17-2019, 04:56 PM
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I don't think Broomstick was ever rude. And personally after a second time of waking me up I would have no problem being rude myself. It sounds like she remained more polite through continued interactions than I would have remained.

I in no way defend the neighbor's behaviors as appropriate; they clearly are not. I read the op at least as the woman being a well intentioned idiot doing an idiotic thing. I just read it as a thing that was maybe sigh or eye-roll worthy but did not get why it, the initial op description, was grit your teeth annoying as fuck Pit-worthy.

Obviously others' MM and do V but the extreme reaction in response to that POV struck me as very wacky. And I think we are beating a dead horse here ... I hope no one is allergic to horses!
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Old 04-18-2019, 09:57 AM
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I don't think Broomstick was ever rude. And personally after a second time of waking me up I would have no problem being rude myself. It sounds like she remained more polite through continued interactions than I would have remained.
Problem is, that completely contradicts what you said before. You said that you would just accept the gift graciously and throw it away later. It was "bizarre" that anyone would get angry about this situation. It takes energy to get angry, and you're just a cool cucumber who doesn't waste time doing that.

Now you claim you would get angry enough to be rude to her. No more nonsense about accepting the gift with a smile. Instead of Broomstick being too angry, you think she's being more patient than you would be.

If you'd started with this second position instead of the first, I (and I suspect everyone else) would not have gotten upset at you.
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Old 04-18-2019, 05:36 PM
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I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this Broomstick

If it were me, sometime after the second time, I'd be asking if she was willing to take me to the hospital and pay my medical bills. Or, write "neighbor is a pushy bitch" on my arm with her offering and shove it in her face.

Ok, probably not, I just tend to fantasize about how to deal with assholes.
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Old 04-18-2019, 11:53 PM
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Maybe partly gendered as a thing but I don't think completely. My guess though is also that it has something to do with what sets off or does not set off buttons of hurt based on other past experiences
That's pretty much what SmartAleq said, except you're ignoring the part about women getting their boundaries ignored more often than men: that bit is the gendered part, with everything else being the non-gendered part. The past experiences bit is "boundaries being ignored" (again); in the case of Broomstick, specifically, "boundaries about food which can get me killed". Why anybody would be sensitive about behavior which might kill them and which has happened many times is apparently incomprehensible to you.
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Old 04-19-2019, 04:13 PM
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If the new neighbors had told you they were allergic/alcoholic, would you have come back the next day with more brownies and wine? Broomstick wasn't rude the first X times her neighbor offered her food.
And if they'd mentioned they work until midnight, I bet you wouldn't be pounding on their door at 6 am so that you can watch them wash down the allergic-to triple chocolate brownies with a big mouthful of dollar-store merlot.
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Old 04-25-2019, 03:16 PM
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To end on a happier note (even if this is the BBQ Pit)...

The Passover Seder was marvelous. The host was very conscientious, and was even careful to reserve some homemade soup to the side before she added tomato to it and made sure I knew which items had tomato and which didn't. No problems, no fuss, wonderful time had by all.
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Old 04-26-2019, 11:49 AM
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We're mostly vegetarian in my household. <snip> mom had made the most fucking enormous meatloaf I've ever encountered.<snip>Fast forward to the middle of the night when we're all awakened by super loud vomiting noises. <snip> It was probably a virus rather than allergy since she had a fever. But it did get us out of ever having to eat loaves of meat again.
I have zero food allergies or intolerances and I normally eat a lot of meat, but I have definitely had the problem where after long periods with not much meat, a meat-heavy meal (particularly a high-fat meat-heavy meal), my stomach just rebels. It goes away again within a couple meals. I think that when you're eating mostly veggies, your body just produces less of the meat and fat digesting enzymes and then freaks out when overloaded.
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Old 06-10-2019, 04:55 PM
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She's baaaaaack......

The Downstairs Neighbor was back today, trying to foist a container of food on me. I told her I appreciated the thought but really, please don't do this. I have too many food allergies.

Oh, she said, I have problems with MSG, I understand.

No, I said, I really can't. Please don't do this anymore. Too many allergies...

It's just chicken and vegetables she says. No tomatoes.

It's not just tomatoes I say, it's a lot of things. Please don't do this anymore. No tomatoes, lentils, peas -

It doesn't have any of that. Take it! Take it!

No, really, stop doing this. I do appreciate the thought, but no more food. Please stop doing this.

Eventually she went away. She did look offended, but at this point I don't care. I am tired of this game. I really can NOT risk getting sick, or worse. I am tired of the containers of Mystery Food. I don't trust her in this regard. I am not going to take it and throw it out and lie, I shouldn't have to do that to salve her ego.
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Old 06-10-2019, 05:12 PM
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Sounds like you handled it well (or as well as she was letting you...). A little "being miffed" now is better than either of you exploding in anger later.

Ah, but will there BE a later? Or has Nutritionally Narcissistic Neighbor learned her lesson?
Feel free to let us in on any little interaction you have with her.
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Old 06-10-2019, 05:50 PM
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Broomie, ever read David Sedaris' book When you are engulfed in flames? In there, he describes a crazy neighbor (Helen) who insists on foisting food on people, him in particular. I think you'd appreciate that particular vignette, along with the rest of the book.
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And if he's every in your area doing a talk and a reading, make the effort to see him. Well worth putting up with other people to see him live.
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